₦airaland Forum

Smartguyboy:
That the reason why guys cry or commit suicide after breakup, no one cry or commit suicide for love ❤️ they do because of the money they spent .

You are right cause i would never even want to take back anything i buy for someone. I dont know how.

So for my kind its better not to make the mistake of doing so you don't have regrets in this life that we only live once.

I think the fair game is the only woman you can give funds or buy stuffs for is the one carrying your child. At least you know you are doing it for the child.

However its always best to settle with a rich or independent woman. Very important.

Cloudflare:
A foolish guy asked me if it is right to take back gifts you gave to your ex. I said he is asking the wrong question. The right question is, should you give expensive gifts to a girl you are neither married or related to? No!!. Who appointed you as Santa Claus?

Prevention is better than cure. Don’t do it! There is nothing wrong in buying your wife even a diamond studded phone. But why be so stupid as to buy a girlfriend a phone? Phone that she will use to call her new boyfriend if she dumps you? And if you have the audacity to complain, she can even block you with the phone you bought. Dear guys, Be wise. Not nice!!!

Wont lie with all my red pill knowledge i almost bought a girl a phone out of pity. Not really love cause i know it doesnt exist. Just pity cause she was bored and needed it for her side business.

Our short relationship ended cause i caught her cheating and i did a rough estimation of everything i spent on her and e noe reach 6k.

Now imagine i got her a phone or did stupid stuffs for her like renting a place for her (I almost did due to lack of funds). I would have been a mess.

How i moved on easily from the relationship months now is what i still don't get

Thank God that period i wanted to do it i was very very broke. Apparently God was looking out for me.

4ward4:
They will just kill you and keep you stagnant for nothing. proper feeding of yourself and your wife a week ,cost nothing less than 10k. Imagine adding extra 4 grown up adults. Baby expenses is skyrocketing.
Saddly people never appreciate in the nearest future, you like house all of them. Tomorrow your brokenness will be discussed in the open.
Little wonder the Rich have nothing to do with the Poor, not even when it comes to marriage.

This last part. God bless you for Telling people the truth. Men are not even valued or respected if you dont have money.

A lot of People are ingrates! Only few really appreciate.

If you go broke inheriting responsibility that aint yours, na you go cry last last.

tensazangetsu20:
Bros it's even dangerous to live amongst Nigerians if you are somewhat doing well. They will think you are a thief or a ritualist

Never trust the average Nigerian. Keep your wins to yourself.

And you see poor people? not talking about broke people cause this hell hole is not easy to make money legally.

I mean poor people that know the way things are bad in this country, and haven't made anything for themselves but make poor choices and habits in life that keep them poor and still choose to bring in kids to inconvenience the people around them,

PLEASE RUN FROM THEM.

Best thing you can get from opposite sex is respect.

Men need to stop looking for love. It doesn't work with females. They are the real masters of Red Pill. I love women so much cause they know what they are doing

tensazangetsu20:
Rice is 700

I see a fool above talking about Tinubu. You see some Nigerians will never get sense.

I read somewhere that Nigerians have embraced Poverty so much that if you do good to a typical Nigerian these days, he/she will think you have sinister motives.

tensazangetsu20:
You can never lose betting against Nigeria

HAHAHA MY NIGGA

tensazangetsu20:
A cup of rice is 500 naira now. Maybe you haven't bought rice in a long time. Spaghetti is 250. Tomato is 150 naira per sachet.

Talking from the future.

SPAG IS NOW 500

Islandboi:
We are talking about emotions here. This one is talking about being broke. And yes she’s frustrated and being ridiculed. If you don’t get it, forget about it.

You wrote about she being a career woman. What's the end product of being a career woman? Financial freedom.

She has a lot of money, and as i noted earlier, she probably has more money and connection than your whole family lineage. Stop worrying about people that are in the limelight and focus on your life.

Then you said she's being ridiculed by Nigerians, haha. Nigerians??

The irony here is someone who is a Nigerian and the same Nigerians that the Government has ridiculed since you were born.

My friend, you better worry about your increased transport fare to work next week and leave Adeleke family.

Mumu.

Solsix:
You with your degree, if you have one, are you better than her??

Are you minding the dumb OP worrying about what is out of his jurisdiction.

He thinks Chioma is broke, stranded and frustrated.

Some Nigerians eh

Maysdevices:
This must be a joke.

They think kids are toys. Pack them and give to your mother who has suffered to bring you up and should be enjoying the dividends of their old age, you want them to raise the result of your gross irresponsibility because you can’t do away with raw sex. Foolish being.

African parents are really nurturing and loving. White people would throw you and all your kids out, they won’t even pick your calls. You will suffer and your kids will hate you for being senseless. Why do you want to bring shame to your parents? He’s even advising people to get up to six, six children in such an economy? He must be brain dead.

Please grow up and don’t advise people to cause severe pains to their parents who should be enjoying their old age. Do you think to raise a child is beans and bread?

Taylor89, you are extremely shameless. To think you’re a man. No mother prays to have an irresponsible son like this,

Even i who is very critical of women saw his comment as utter b.s

This is why Nigerians continue to breed poverty then blame the Government.

Breed Six kids then move them to your mom's to take care of

Africans sha. Stupid thinking

TheBillyonaire:
It is exciting times. The last few months have been interestingly amazing. I have no idea why people are lamenting about their existence, when all of their lives is a reflection of their actions and decisions.

Haha.

I know someone on this thread will have 4 kids without planning and still be moaning and crying about the Government

Government wey noe send anybody.

Xenry:
It can affect anyone, not only those in a relationship.

You do have a point but its mostly a relationship thing with opposite sex.

I have friends and i know my limit on what i can share with them.

This is worries for una wey dey do relationships

You don leave betting now na HIV Dey worry you mumu man

I cant blast you cause i was in a similar situation in the past. I even squatted the biyach in my apartment in Ajah. A girl that was seriously interested in me 100% and i was an alpha in her life.

As i tried to meet her needs and always make her happy, i suddenly slipped into a beta - She started to get overly demanding. I entered her frame. Started to please her and inconvenience myself. Long story short, She left when i became very broke.

I will never give humans any advice in this earth cause in the end they will do what they want to do.

All I will say is you have entered her frame. If you like stay there and burn thats your business.

Have you seen the American movie Get Out?

They are going to use you for something sinister.

wonder233:
Almost everyone is saying they don't check their partners phones because they want "peace of mind". It simply means that deep down, people know their partners/spouses are unfaithful.
Whether we admit it or not, monogamy is unworkable. Humans are just deceiving themselves by imposing an impossible condition on themselves.
Humans, just like other animals, are instinctively drawn to varieties. Mental acuity can't eradicate this, highest, it moderates it. But there must be variety

You are smart. I learnt this the hard way.

And in this Nigeria jungle of a country, it gets worse.

placeofallure:
Nasri?? No wonder! Your mouth like Nasri That betrayer that left us for City. Radarada!

Madam go to the kitchen and prepare dinner for your husband you are scamming with love tonight. Trophy wife.

placeofallure:
My thoughts:

Have you been good to her? Have you spoilt her silly when you had? Have you wetted the ground abundantly prior? If you have, good for you. This is payback time for the surplus enjoyment. But woe betide you if you haven't been nice to her. If you are the calculative type, Woe unto you!

A poor man should not have an erection! Go plug it on the wall!

See her mouth like wetted the ground and spoilt her silly

Nigerian girls will never stop to amaze me with entitlement.

Anyways that's the advantage of being a Nigerian woman cause we will always have simps that will think and take care of women.

Your Lucky jackpot being a woman.

CEO Of Fairmoney, Marouane Fellaini

omooba969:
Abeg pity yasef! So you wanna start giving lectures on the man's responsibilities and the woman's roles in a family right?

This is how the modern African man puts himself under unnecessary pressure, developing HBP unaware, as he hardly has the time to even have a medical check up.

The modern African man carries the whole world on his shoulder, no wonder they die off sooner than their beloved wives.

Dont mind him

While i understand Men have a lot of responsibility in raising a kid or kids, its funny Nigerian men (Don't say African cause its not the same in other countries) are yet to grasp the idea of Man & Woman working together to raise a family.

I think its more of an Ego issue with Nigerian men. They believe only Men must work and not Women so they can have respect in the home. This is why i always insist people travel and see how things are done abroad.

I already told a girl I am courting that before we start talking kids in my 30s, WE BOTH are going to set up a bank account where we donate huge chunk of money at intervals in it for welfare of her and the kid(s)

Poverty is a NONO!

Skyview01:
Thank you my brother!. I am on a social crusade to change our mentalities as a people. A greater part of our cultures and past ways of thinking must be changed for us to live meaningful lives.

Marriage is not your get rich ticket, you must plan for yourself and then marry a man who has panned for himself as well. No kids after 3-4 years after marriage so the new couple can save/ invest for the children's future.

There is a real life consequence for a lack of planning!

That's it. Planning!

People don't want to assume responsibility especially Nigerians. Always moaning and complaining.

Nigerian men must know the pressure is always on us. That's the curse of every man. You must work and provide for your family (Miss and kid/kids)

Women have a choice, Men don't.

So before you start bringing kids, you must be ready mentally and also financially and your other half must equally be ready.

Skyview01:
See them! They will go through life without learning a thing!.

Millions of them know nothing about God but will be first to bring God into simple basic conversations.

Don't develop yourself/ get a job, go and marry a lazy, poor man and come on Nairaland to create sob stories.

People like moneyissweet are the lots populating this hell hole nigeria with babies without plans to take care of them. Breeding like rats.

I dont blame them. We dont take child support seriously in this so called country called Nigeria.

E go better later mentality.

Dangote would loose everything and still be paying rent like the Op's Husband

Mumu person.

Agadinaagwuofe:
Mr man you are actually the one that needs to go back to school. You didn't read his posit very well and jump with ignorant submission. Yes a civil case can also be criminal in nature. If you had taken time to digest the write up you would have understood he never said failure to pay will lead him to jail and yes If he fails to honour the court summon that can possibly lead to bench warrant and prison term for contempt of court, before you castigate people publicly be sure you know what you are saying and also be sure you understand the person properly

Who the hell is this quoting me?

The person you are defending for free (At least get paid to do these things ) never explained clearly that failure to service Debt can never get you in prison unless there is fraudulent activity.

This simple message i just bolded above will be on this forum for years to come and will give info to people that didn't know this. I am happy i will help people for free for years to come.

Rather he kept on going on about Court unleashing venom like the court is out to get you and its a criminal offense.

Nairaland is a PUBLIC FORUM and a lot of people visit this forum to be informed. Don't confuse people when you can clearly explain in few words.

This is how to separate educated people from illiterates.

Nonsense!

Nice2023:
If he refuses to honour the court...be sure to see the guy in jail.

You should have stated he could be imprisoned for contempt of court. HE CAN NEVER BE IMPRISONED FOR OWING A LOAN APP MONEY. NEVER.

Creditors can sue you for an unpaid debt in civil court and that is it.

Court could even ask a defaulter to pay N10 every month till the loan is fully paid.

I would explore better means of debt recovery like GSI and others than go to court.

Nice2023:
Not when he has refused to pay without giving substantial reason.

If he is unlucky,same court can remand him.

U people just make the court system look like charity homes. He can be imprisoned if care is not taken.

Those money lending apps are licenced by the same court where he is being charged,so be careful not to preempt the court.

Same court can unleash its real venom on him.

Imprisoned?? AHAHAHA

You people just be acting like illiterates.

Go back to school nigga.

First, Let me ask you a question, is debt a civil or criminal offense in Nigeria?

dafeoroyo:
He may still play no big deal,Joe Bayton killed someone went to jail and still played for westbrom before he retired

Joey Barton? Or who is Joe Bayton?

And his brother killed someone and not him.

Stop spreading false information.

Very offending to even compare UK to a third world hell hole like Nigeria.

obembet:
It seems fair money, Branch doesn't embarrassed Thier customers if unlike palm credit

They still have high interests and will still threaten to report you to credit bureau.

Save yourself the stress from all these loan apps in Nigeria.

Nigerians should stop taking loans from loan apps.

I am also talking about financial institutions like Carbon, Fairmoney and MoneyInminutes

They are all loan sharks with high interests.

It’s better to take loans from only commercial banks in the country.

Be warned.

MichaelSokoto:
Better find way to pay back cos they have aaaaalllll ur contacts in their system now ready to blackmail and threaten them on ur behalf.
They will msg everybody in ur Facebook acct calling u a criminal, armed robber, HIV patients, kidnapper that u ran away with company funds.

They will tag ur parents as accomplice to the crime that they are the ones that sent u to borrow money and not pay pay back... That is what Lcredit is currently doing to all their debtors.

Find way to repay their money and never ever ever borrow 4rm this loan sharks again..

Try Fairmoney, Money in Minutes, Branch, Carbon, Quickcheck or Renmoney, these ones are responsible human beings.

Money In Minutes is a loan shark.

Responsible? A UK company that charges N20,000 for N26,000 in 2 weeks?

That’s broad day stealing. Nigeria is so f****