₦airaland Forum

SmartyPants:
I'm surprised you are asking this question when the answer is the core of what Mr. Odegbami writes about. Didn't you read through?

Not everyone on here has a good comprehensive skill. Some don't even understand English literally.

My love for Siasia would never die. I could recall in Beijing Olympic in 2008, Nigeria played against Belgium, it was a total victory. I watched the match live with my friend from Belgium too. He couldn't believe Nigeria could win the match, he was speechless and disappointed after the match.

I wish I have the money to pay Siasia's bills. I would have done so.

Rukkydelta:
Good day everyone.
I have notice a trend going on here. Guys always complain of being heartbroken. And physically I don't really see guys being so heart broken.

Because lots of men out there are womanizers and cheaters
So why is romancelanders guys always complaining of being cheated on in a relationship?

Is it that the guys here are fragile or soft at heart?
Or they do cheat too but get more hurt when their girl cheats on them?
Or maybe those threads are just formulated?

Or girls feel so shy/scared of sharing their heart breaks here because they are already used to getting their hearts. Or maybe because when a female veils or heart break issues the majority here (usually the males) bashes and find a way to fault or

Or maybe it because the population of males to females on romanceland is in the ratio of 70;30

Please I need answers

Apropos of the above, I am in total discord with it. Infact, some of these stories are somewhat fabricated to drive traffic on this social site. I also think that people writing these stories get paid for doing that. Do not believe in everything you read online, for some of these things are hoax.

Notwithstanding though, there are still real stories here. Women also cheat as well as the men and can hide their dirty secrets more than the men.

iLegendd:
Lol. Since I'm not a womanizer, I'll decline.

It's okay. I wanted to give you this babe as a reward. Have learnt a lot from you.

It's alright then.

iLegendd:
As you see me so for this Naija, I'm a one man soldier. I shy away from business or relationship linkup. This way, I stay away from fingers pointing at me that I'm the "linker" of the transaction.

Hahahahaha. It doesn't matter. There's a chick in PH who has been bugging me with a lot of phone calls everyday, she's pretty but not that tall. I can give you the girl if you want.

iLegendd:
Women are funnier. Even with the belly, she wants the dick. I just had to keep things on friendzone level to avoid taking care of another man's child. We are good friends now and she has traveled, but we do talk on phone.

Women! Women!! Women!!!

Ok. Man, link me up with a slim shady chick. I love tall and slim girls.

iLegendd:
Princess has been confirmed pregnant.

As Shaggy would say, "It wasn't me."

Already weeks pregnant before we met.

Hahahaha. Funny guy.

rusher14:
You are not talking to kids.

An organisation cannot show you everything and yet think you would not divulge the information should you find a reason to.

I work in technology myself and we have confidential information we cannot share with clients but does that function should I leave on my own tomorrow?

I cannot suddenly pretend I dont know what I already know and should I need it, it becomes useful.

If you are talking about patents, then whether they spoke English , French or even dealing with their own kind, it would not be divulged.

Everyone has his own trade secret.

But trying to make it seem as if our government is made up of dummies whilst you are the intelligent one is actually dumb.

I am not saying I am intelligent, but what I want to tell you is some of these guys are not that intelligent. They care a lot about how to steal, if they care more about human capacity, Nigeria would not be in total shambles.

shadeyinka:
Unfortunately, few people understand. And it's a pity!
We can forgive the uneducated if they don't understand but how about the so called educated people?

The summary of Governments primary duty is to empower citizens to be rich (financial empowerment). In turn the government makes good money in taxes to facilitate making the citizens richer and secure.

Government thus has the duty to
1. Facilitate easy production of goods and services by citizens
2. Facilitate the creation and expansion of market for the goods and services
3. Facilitate security and protection to citizens in the course of production and marketing of goods and services.

Even though, Government has to build road, waterworks, airports, etc, they are fallouts of empowering the citizenry (not by giving N10,000 empower money)

God please give us a visionary leadership

Yeah, you are right. In addition to that, no country would reveal all their technological secrets to you. The question is, if they transfer technology to you, would you need their services anymore? Of course not.

rusher14:
There's nothing like confidentiality when the secret is already in possession of those you aim to oppress.

I have done several jobs in a quite number of companies. If you don't provide all we need from the onset, your project would be intentionally delayed and that's more money for us. I wouldn't want to disclose how that is done. It's like the more you look, the less you see situation. They have used this on federal government and still doing it.

rusher14:
Are you minding him?

Bringing beer parlour gist to Nairaland.

I am one of the few translators who do not look for a job. Jobs look for me.

shadeyinka:
It is obvious you don't know how government in Nigeria works.

Let me give you a summary: it's called least resistance high publicity and money spending thrift.

Meaning:
The government works by spending money so as to look like they are working (and of course personal gains is embedded).

In other words instead of the government doing that which will last a lifetime, they prefer to do window dressing for the publicity it gives.

Thanks a lot. A lot of people don't understand what this government is actually doing. Thanks once again for telling them the truth.

TUANKU:
So they reveal secrets to you (a nigerian) and then they turn around and ask you not to reveal to other nigerians abi? Clap for yourself.

The job comes with confidentiality and of course, I have nothing to lose.

After all, your leaders are suffering from inferiority complex.

TUANKU:
What is the main thing? Oga transfer of technology is not rocket science, we're not in 1960.

I am a Translator. I know what I'm talking about. Sometimes, I am being told not to reveal some certain things in the course of training Nigerians.

TUANKU:
Credit where it's due. I'm impressed with Major General Buhari on this one, long term planning for the railway/transport sector is the right thing to do. There won't be need to hire foreigners and pay them huge sums to do what nigerians can do.

The Chinese I know won't teach them the main thing so they would always need their services.

lavylilly:
So your man tells you he is not planning on having kids or getting married anytime soon as he is still sorting out his life... He tells you he wants to have his second degree, a proper house and a bigger car first. You sit there smiling with just a birth certificate thinking how 'lucky' a wife you'll be?
With the little he has, you ask for Brazilian hair and designer shoes. He goes to work and then straight to class after work. He leaves you in pyjamas in the morning and returns to find you in the same pyjamas in the evening. While he studies you watch 'African Magic' and 'Keeping Up with the Kardashians'. He comes back home to find pap and chicken in the microwave. The only serious conversation you ever have is about the type of groceries you guys need.

The only advice you give him is "Babe you need to buy a new pair of socks, the ones you bought last time are torn." Nothing intelligent comes out of your mouth. No plans of making your own life better. Yes you're are pretty but this days is all about what you are made off not beauty even pretty ladies don't marry handsome men if their pocket is empty, no doubt about that. But so is every second girl passing by.

Don't you realise that you're not doing anything a maid can't do? When he finishes studying, the first thing he will do is REPLACE HIS MAID. Because then he would be able to afford a maid and have a PROPER WIFE who has brains. That's when we are going hear your infamous last words, "I was with him through thick and thin when he had nothing, now that he is successful he thinks I am nothing."

Truth is, yes, you're right. You've always been NOTHING but a maid to him.

My dear, empower yourself to be the woman a successful man wants to be with... a woman who would be able to sustain her home if anything happens to his job or his health!

Good afternoon!

Hahaha. That's right. Kudos to you!

Men are only interested in a woman who could bring stability to their lives, not other way round anymore.

jackals:
Instead of ubunja to be educating the women folks about improving their self worth too, he won't. his loyalty is only to the brotherhood. selfish lot.

Thank you OP, I have gained one or two things from this write-up

Hahaha. That's not necessary. I'm glad I learnt a lot of things from you. He's taught me how to swim with the sharks.

Chi59:
Now I see where your problem lies. Now if your wife feels that her blood relatives are more important to her than you are, how would you feel?
You expect her to leave to cleave, to make you her number one priority yet you'd easily choose your blood relatives over her. You need to reset your mindset.

Reset my mindset? Hahahaha. I do not care if my wife makes me the number or not, what I value most is respect. Everyone in the house has to respect one another. Are you single or married?

ZIMDRILL:
you are wrong dear you are watching to many movies

these things happen in every society in life be it africans, europeans asians etc

example look at the media how they paint MEGHAN Prince Harry's wife they say the royals dont like her because they think she has made HARRY change


look at AMIR KHAN the boxer, how his family dont like his wife

Do you know as Nigerians we don't love one another?

Funkybabee:
You will continue in other to have peace in your home.


Maybe you are not accommodating, try to be jovial.. It's only peace that can solve this, if you turn ur hubby against them, the outcome might not be good

That's right. Some folks think that as a woman, you just have to focus on your husband only, not knowing that his siblings can shut down the family.

Chi59:
Taking my husband's siblings as mine is one thing, knowing that both my siblings and his are secondary to the family (me, him and our kids) is another. Don't argue with me.

Now, let me tell you, you see, those siblings you don't have much respect for, are the ones who gave your husband the green light to marry you.

midnighter:
Does the European woman expect the husbands family to barge into her home and start ordering her about?

The one Africans do is too excessive hence the backlash from the wife (though every case is different)

Not ordering her about. You don't really understand what I'm talking about here. What I wanna tell you is that I experienced similar thing as a young lad when my elder brother got married. None of us ever lived with my brother's wife, even my cousin sister did not.

Then, my brother's wife would call me on phone and I will tell her I am in my parents house and I have freedom here.

Chi59:
They are important but secondary to his wife and kids.

Okay but this is just an African mentality, a European woman takes her husband's siblings as hers. Whereas in Nigeria, it's a different ball game in the sense that when a man brings a woman home as his wife, the wife tends to drive away her husband's siblings.

innobarca:
You took your child to your mother? Why?
I thought you were married then so how will your own mother dictate what happens in your home.
In my place, it is a disrespect to the husband's family.
Your problem started from there.

They don't like your mom, Why? Because she make decisions in your home? If your mom is running your home then it's never good.

It is very difficult for all your husband family to hate you, there should be 1 person that loves you.

Your husband know you very well, he loves you,He love his sisters too.

Your husband loves your mom and your family, I am sure of that bc you did not say otherwise.
So pls don't make him hate his own sisters.

I remembered many years ago when my sister brought her child home bc of some issues in her marriage, my parents told her to take the child to the husband's family.

She did and they told her to stay with them for few days, within that few days the husband people made peace between her and the husband.

Most times the problem starts little by little.

Make peace with his sisters, let your husband see it by himself.
Then he will know you have done your part.

There is no problem in your marriage.

You really understood the situation. Kudos to you! Some folks here thought that the husband's siblings weren't important and it's pitiful.

MEGA4BILLION:
The moment a man marries, his children and wife becomes his primary assignment to protect while his siblings becomes secondary, until a man come in terms with this, he can't run a good home

Blood is thicker than water. The man's blood sisters and brothers are also important.

MEGA4BILLION:
Your husband is still immature to be the man of the family. The problem isn't you but your husband, he is not incharge of his family. For a better advice, can you highlight some of these problems between you and your sisters-in-laws.

Always listen to other side before you conclude. Family matters are convoluted.

Preciousgirl:
My husband has already warned I delete social media from my phone
Today he is demanding the guy I sent my pictures number
There is nothing between me and that guy, but this will embarrass him.
My reluctance is being misinterpreted as having something to do with him

I intend staging. Giving him a male colleagues number and arrange with my male colleague to take all the threats and insults for me to save my marriage. Please your candid advise

Most women are nothing to write home about these days. Keep sharing your pictures with your secret lovers, he will definitely dump you to marry another woman.

If a woman tries this nonsenseee on me, I will send her back to her parents house.

ubunja:
if you can't afford to marry her let her go and let those guys able to marry her do that. She's getting on in years. Unless you wanna waste her precious time but every year she spends with you with nothing happening she's losing her beauty and sexual market value.

Let her go. You'll get another one. Focus on women with money because two broke people getting married is such a disaster.

That's totally true. He shouldn't let that becloud his sense of reasoning.

ubunja:
Has your life gotten boring that you have to ask yourself questions about another person's life?.

Hahahahahaha.

jackals:
I'm a very very nice girl. Very homely. hope no problem sir?

You're not nice.