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TonyeBarcanista:
My brother, don't be quick to label her BUT, I think she is yet to give us FULL DETAILS of what transpired FROM HER SIDE.

As much as I believe that both of them should part ways, I don't think the man is a mad man that will be acting the way he is doing without any trigger

Even agbero that fights at the parks get triggered!

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

jackals:
what do u do?

jackals:
Another broke idiot spotted.
Broke idiot pacifying his fellow colleague

jackals:
Thank you for admitting. Instead of finding ways to impress girls, dress nice and look good, then Make money, you're here arguing with a lady who's far better than you in all ramification

Jewessgratitude:
Crushing on who? Im Just trying to help the small boy cos he seems confused.

Jewessgratitude:
Nice one. At least better than you whos new School but doesn't know the difference between phonics and phonetics.

Letters are not sounds. Its your likes that go about confusing students that AEIOU are vowels.

Imagin you claim you have a book and you're saying 'one' sounds 'U'. Its You who needs to go and get a refund from wherever you did this cut and paste phonetics course. Or you come let me tutor you.

Its your type that will pronounce her as (hair).

Here's my number 08184166606. Call me to hear perfect British accent and diction. Not the mirage you people go about speaking and teaching students.

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

Afforda:
My brother, you need to be good to unlock this code. But nothing is impossible just that they express their likeness for guys codedly.

She calls you ODE. My beloved brother , its not an abuse its a code to let you know you ain't listening enough to the signs and wonders she has been displaying.

I don't want your girl friend to come and break my head ooo.. It's the coded way to ask you if you have a girlfriend. And if you gawk it, you are on your own.

Is there light in your house?. Excuse of wanting to come to your house to hang out. Better say you have light even if you don't have a transformer in your area.

Big head go joo. Again, this is not an abuse but endermeant. Its another way of saying I love you.

You can't even call somebody.. Never sleep on it bro. This one is code for ‘”I miss you’’. Any time she says this, accept your fault and apologize in a romantic way.

Go away jare. Guess you never heard that Nigerian girls are the king of reverse psychology. Go away means the exact opposite. And if you are not smart enough to know, my brother it's only the holy spirit that can minister forgiveness into her heart.

You just forgot about me.. Another way to say can't you see I'm tripping?

Olodo : olodo is the synonyms of ‘’my baby’’. Once she calls you olodo, just know you are getting there

I hate you. Means I am head over heels in love. My brother you have won

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boss1310:
so they get miss universe and miss world differently what of miss planet

Ekeletu:
Happy weekend my beautiful people. Please there's something bothering me and I think I should share it here.
I will be very brief.

In 2012 I met a girl and we started dating. One year later, she cheated with a guy and got pregnant. Gave birth to a still child. Because of the love I had for her I forgave her and we continue dating.

In 2015 she cheated again and got pregnant for a guy and aborted it. I called her one day and told her that I can't continue with a cheating partner so we broke up.

After breaking up I became bitter towards women and vow never to be in a relationship again.
During this time of breakup with my ex, we continue communicating and we were just friends. She got into a new relationship which she told me and she advice me to find a girl and love not to stay single and I told her I can't.

After a while we spoke and I asked her about her man she told me that she is with a new guy that the old one left. I asked her why he left she said there was no problem. they just decided to end it.

I added her ex on facebook and chated. I asked him why he broke up with his woman, if she cheated. He told me she didn't, that he has a serious relationship with his hometown girl and his parents want him to marry that his hometown girl, so instead of wasting this other girl's time he had to end it. He began telling me how good this girl was during their time together.

This my ex, since breakup we have been good friends. We seek for advice from one another and help.
She is always coming to me for monetary assistance and when I have I do help. Sometime ago, I lend her 200k to setup a business and when I discovered that the business wasn't moving well I told her not to bother about refund.

Last month I when to visit my people so I branch her shop. Getting there I saw her using a phone and it seems the phone was giving her issues so last week I ordered 52k phone and send to her. She was very happy.

Three days ago she sent me a text that she want us to date again and she vowed she will never cheat again.
I still like this girl but my mind is numb for a relationship. I told her I can't date again that even if I do, I won't love that person like I should.

She keeps on begging me. Today her message woke me up.

Now I don't know why she wants to return back. Is it the goodies she has been getting from me or is it love?
I don't trust women again.

mechanics:
Mind your words o, it's not a must to accept my point.

victorian:
Thats pure fallacy.

I'm a lady, my man is very nice and I love him,loyal to him 2 the moon and back.

So plz don't generalise.


Remember not all helpers we must have sex with or marry.

Op is the kind of helper that falls in the category of a kind friend or kind brother.

But trust me Op, you will be blessed for being kind and helpful.

mechanics:
If she really admit she did it and she has asked for your forgiveness never to engage in that again, you can forgive her and accept her back, remember we are not perfect by our own ability accept by the grace of God.

govomotors:
My rule number 1.

No sex before marriage, unless you are virgin.

I had similar issue, a lady that was introduced to me for marriage, told me no sex before marriage and I agreed.

When it was time to visit me in Abuja, she decided to come over 400km along her friend, which I accepted. They stay over a week, I tried and she only allow a kiss, from a kiss to sucking the tits and ended up with heading. Every attempt for sex was denied.

We later lost communication only for her to call me after a 1yr plus that she have a child for someone but she is not yet marriage. I congratulated her.

If you are not a virgin don't even bring up the issue in the first place. Don't give me an excuse why you lost your virginity.

Lexusgs430:
One mugu must fall, for another maga to rise........

Psalmy2cute:
She had sex because shes sex starved,.. to me no sex before marriage is clear stupidity

Walai:
A girl I paid her mother's hospital bill, fed and provided for her and paid her expired house rent around May with my hard earned proceeds from keke without making any effort to bed her (until marriage) have the mind to have sex with another guy in the house I paid for.

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STENON:
what did you study?

STENON:
Read this...
https://www.nairaland.com/5577015/nigeria-nurse-moving-uk

iLegendd:
You need to outline your book — steps needed to express your idea.

In a lay man's language, you need to know the stages you'll go through to have the problem solved and each stage is a chapter's subtitle.

iLegendd:
This post is just to inspire one or two people to know that failure does not exist.

iLegendd:
Write it to be at least 25 pages.

iLegendd:
In your first question, you said 25 chapters, but this one, you said 25 pages. Anyway, whatever you're writing, if you want it to be in paperback lformat, it should be at least 25 pages.

STENON:
4. CBT Part 1 pass email
5. Decision Letter from NMC or any feedback from NMC

iLegendd:
At least 25 chapters? I have never heard of such rule before. Expatiate, please.

iLegendd:
Money making advice.

I know lots of men are boring when they interact with women on WhatsApp. If a wise man wants to make money with what I just posted, he will turn all these funny and crazy images I have into a chatting trigger, then write a short book on how to use them to trigger a conversation online in a fun and lively way.

I once sent a stranger the image below and from there, we started arguing on who is supposed to take the chair. Before you know it, we became too close just by debating on who is the right person to sit. Women love argument and gossip, so things like this always make them want to talk, talk, and talk.

Hours later, she asked, "But who am I chatting with?"

The rest is history. We want to revolutionalize how people should chat and keep things fun — instead of the usual boring hi, hello, have you eaten? How was your night, etc.

Think and grow rich.

victorian:
I don't need to convince you.

I know myself.

Jgoldie:
where do you meet this ladies