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sunnydayasaba: Majority of women this days are just bent on destroying a mans relationship with his family when they come in. Am sure ur wife is just trying to destroy ur family with her attitude. If u send ur sister packing, am sure her own family member will immediately move in.

Am surprise that ur wife cannot tolerate her mother-in-law(your sister) Don't send ur sister away, Try talk sense into her, Its a clear picture that even ur wife parents are not helping matter, How will they allow ur wife move in back inside their house? Help ur sister get a job pls, Don't mind that can woman who wants to destroy ur own family, She really dnt knw wat u guys went through growing up. For me, even if i marry the most beautiful woman in the world, My family and siblings will forever remain my priority, Because ur wife and leave u and marry another man, But ur siblings will forever remain ur blood. So don't mind those evil woman who just want to marry a man and destroy his relationship with his family.


Some women are just plain evil.

What are you spitting out mr man? they should not let their daughter & grandkids return to their home because she is married? despite been harrassed by her husband and his people? a man that cannot provide a safe environment for his family is worse than an infidel!!! How much brideprice did he pay that makes him think its ok for him & his family to maltreat another man's daughter? Arrant nonsense...its people like you that encourage violence and attacks on wives and before you know it, they will kill somebody's daughter in the name of say na "devil cause am". then that is when the husband would know that his sister has somewhere to go to
to marry no mean say u don mature o? Abeg waka pass jare

clearly the case of a spoilt firstborn. You want to act a man yet you dont take responsibilities for your actions.
You blame your father for failing your exams in secondary school, blame your dad for only been good enough for geology, blame your father for failing uni exams - so bad that you were asked to withdraw from school, blame your mother for not getting you a lawyer.
Imagine the killer saying his father sent him to university with no money?? some people dont even have the tuition fees to pay for uni let alone ask for spending money!!!! Just because you are the first born/boy doesnt mean its your birthright to demand any and everything. You want to be free why not pack out of your father's house? Why leave your siblings fatherless and mother a widow? If your mother was been treated badly by your father she could have packed out of the house but she choose to stay, are you wiser than her?
You deserve to rot in jail till you learn how to man up to your actions and take responsibility for your actions. Dont worry about the freedom, you will be free to roam about the confines of the four walls of kirikiri hopefully for the rest of your life

As a born again (Pentecostal) Christian, I have to say that whilst i am skeptical about the man, his source of powers/his power, his person and especially the controversies surrounding him i do commend him that he's used his position and wealth/influence to help out people in need; be it graduates in need of jobs or even widows, beggars as often shown on his channel (the few times i've stumbled on it whilst flicking the channel).
I dont care whether he is a prophet of God or of doom, if we had more people like this man, giving out aids and alms, jobs & training skills, helping out the poor and the needy, healing the sick via spiritual/fetish/questionable means, Nigeria would be a better place (in a few years).
Might i add that i do not believe in his powers nor agree with the people who criticize him. However i do think he should be respected compared to the leaders/well to do family members of ours/community leaders/politicians etc who dont do anything for the less privilege in the society.

Unfortunately the man has shown himself to be a weakling, both to the wife/wife's family & to his sister/his family. That he let this issue degenerate shows he cannot protect his wife. He has decided he is powerless to do anything and in effect he's let his sister run his home.
Your sister is your YOUNGER sister and as such should respect your decisions and take orders from you. I will give you an example of my marriage, My BIL (Hubby's elder bro) used to live with my hubby for about 3 yrs before hubby met me or even married me. Shortly after our marriage, hubby travelled, and his brother ( We were leaving in peace before hand o, no problems what so ever) began having issues with me and he was very influenced by another cousin of my husband. His brother used to bring prostitutes to my home and wont pay them and they will cause issues the next money because of non-settlement, all of which i would pay them 2 settle d matter. But all in all, i kept my hubby upto date with his brother's behaviors whilst not picking a fight/quarrel with this guy (he is my hubby's jobless elder brother) one evening, the troublesome cousin came and it looked like they had planned whatever, and something very trival, my BIL slapped me, i immediately called my hubby and he asked for soldiers to lock his elder brother in the guardroom (hubby is in the military). He was locked up for 3 nights. Obviously my inlaws were livid and huffed and puffed and ranted but since then, they have all accorded me my respect as a wife. He moved out a week after he was released .I never apologized to my BIL nor did he apologize to me but we still talk albeit within boundaries. Now all of this happened within 1 month of our wedding, there were no children involved, i wasnt even pregnant yet hubby took a stand which earned him respect amongst my family and even in my sight + more bonus points in bed when he returned.
My point is, your sister has a place to go, her PARENTS house is her HOME. She is a woman, why should she be in her brother's house when her parents house is there? You are not throwing her out on the streets, the money you would use to rent an apartment for her you can send that to your parents as a monthly upkeep (if you are that concerned).
If this was happening to your sister, would you be pleased? would you be happy that your sister is been maltreated by her inlaws with a husband who couldn't care? you only want your wife back in the house to keep your bed warm not minding the fact that you have created a deadly, unhealthy environment for her to live in. You dont even consider your kids!!!! what man chooses his sister (who tomorrow would marry somebody and her husband could say i dont want your family in my house and she would happily obey after destroying your marriage) over his kids? you dont even consider what this is doing to your children? Abegi a word is enough for the wise!!!

Its really sad when primitive, unenlightened and uneducated people make uninformed decisions based on bias. FYI - Nigeria and Pakistan are the ONLY 2 countries in the world where polio hasn't been eradicated despite the biillions spent on awareness campaigns n vaccine research n availability by the bill gates foundation, WHO amongst others.
Whilst i have no intention of making this a tribal/religious issue, unfortunately you will find its an epidemic in the North. Northern Nigeria and Northern Pakistan (d afghan border region).
I remember growing up in 9ja and my mum (God bless her, my dad died when i was 6yrs n my younger bro was 9 months..... she struggled 2 take care of us wt her nursing sal) would travel to Minna/Kano/Sokoto and come back 3 months after with tales about the struggles and challenges they faced during the polio vaccine. The local ruler would deliberate with his Chiefs about whether children shld get vaccinated/then you hv d parents who would kick against it.
What i would say to you is this. Pharmaceutical coys would NEVER put out a jab that is unsafe due 2 lawsuits. Particularly Paediatric jabs. This vaccine has been in use for over 15yrs with enough data and evidence for u 2 make an informed decision. Amongst the takers of this jabs whats the % dt died? D % that suffered low IQ or whatever it is that is now claimed? D % dt suffered allergic reactions? D % dt suffered infertility as a direct result of d jab? You should atleast look at your leaders children and their extended families and learn from their children who got vaccinated yet they go on to marry and bear children (defeats the fertility issue), take over mummy/daddy coys and even rule the state (defeats IQ/sharpness theory)infact they live until whenever (defeats the death theory)
Your child is more likely 2 die from complications of this illness if they contract it. Your child is more likely 2 suffer life changing illnesses eg crippled if they catch this disease n suffer complications.
As with any medical intervention and even herbal/natural nothing is 100% safe. Even Paracetamol that has been used for over 50 years has side effects. Herbal medicines/leafs/drinks all have side effects, some of them include diarrhoea etc
Whilst as parents we do things out of concern n love, i would urge us all 2 make informed decisions n not decisions due 2 our bias of anything western. Don't subject your child to a life of sadness/begging because unfortunately, the society we live in has little to offer disabled people, there isn't enough out there and don't let your child become a statistic.
What you don't realize is that your so-called leaders spiritual/community all get their kids vaccinated but would rather d paupers don't because dt way you hv 2 rely on them for financial help with ur disabled children which in turn makes them control u with their money. It is well. A word is enough 4 d wise

Send them all to me I will help you get rid of then all............Money etc . Assets such as shares, lands, houses etc should be transferred to me.

pleep: This is a bush baby. That is a tree rat ^

Thats a picture of the bush baby on d foodpack. I even googled bush babies n similar pictures came up. (Not d human baby pic that you've got)

So is it that they cry like human babies or they look like human babies?

[quote author=ola_pluto]I knew it would get to this. He looks Muslim to you? Islamophobia is worrying you. This is a typical South London scum, nothing more.[/quote]yep very muslim. have you bothered listening to ITV news? the link i copied is on there and if you havent got free internet tune in at 9pm and watch it again. He "the black dude" was quoting arabic words reciting allahu akbar and saying their women in iraq see this daily and until the government removes their troops from their soils, the women (ie british women) will start experiencing what the muslim women experience daily.

i didnt make it islamic, you did, your brother aka latest terrorist did all in accordance to your koran books and in accordance to your socalled religion

its been confirmed as a terrorist attack carried out by the religion of peace. lets wait for their supporters to come and tell us otherwise. watch them defend the men's action.
May God protect us from this demons and open their eyes to see the truth IN JESSSSSUUUUUUSSSSSSS NAAAAMMMMMEEE and may the government come hard on this dogs because enough is enough
listen to the dog reciting allahu akhbar
http://www.itv.com/news/update/2013-05-22/exclusive-video-man-with-bloodied-hands-speaks-at-woolwich-scene/

take her for an ultrasound scan. It dates the pregnancy based on the length of the foetus. You will see the actual calculation on the screen in weeks & days.

Theres 3 sides 2 a story, your version, his version and the truth. I am indifferent as to whether the "story" is a fraud, truth or whatever.....i will say that i hope you/your hubby/student researcher/story teller find whatever it may be that you seek be it advise or survey feedback.
Happy sunday all. XoXo

Hmmmmm, you knew he was a cheat before you married him yet you choose to go ahead? You cheated on him whilst married and you think 2 wrongs make a right? You dont need to explain or defend your actions. You have allowed third parties more than enough to give their opinions about your married life.
I personally can NEVER tolerate a cheating husband and i dont envy what you have gone through in the hands of your hubby, however by choosing to stay, then you have ACCEPTED his actions/habits and you cant then turn around and complain that he is a serial cheat hence he should forgive your transgressions.
Evidently you are hurting and so is hubby,and its clear you are willing to work things through as you are both communicating albeit to the wrong person and a very wrong platform. perhaps some neutral counselling might help (not family or pastor/Imam but a paid professional counselor).
Your hubby perhaps choose you because he loved you more (like you say he said) probably because he never assumed that you would cheat on him (he forgets Karma is a bi----aatt---ch)
Unfortunately, the only person i feel sad for in all of this is your daughter. in this day and age of IT, everything you print online remains there......even if Seun deletes this thread, who is to say someone hasnt recopied and posted it on a different forum? What happens when your daughter turns 9 and stumbles on this aired dirty laundry that can only be likened to a soap opera that was her parent's marriage?
It is well with you both and i wish you wisdom and God's guidance in whatever decisions you make.

Your lawyer has acted against his ethics. Its called breech of confidentiality (his actions that is).
if you feel you want to proceed with a divorce, you can file under the grounds of "Irreconcilable differences". You are allowed to and its your right. No Judge would force anyone to remain in a relationship if they dont want to however they may recommend mediation between both parties for a few months before your divorce is granted.
What i would say to you is this, the move (relocation) is a good thing. it gives you time to stay apart, clear your head, and meditate on whats important, who is important to you and i believe its also healthy for your wife to use this time to reflect on her life likewise. I do think that if after say 1 year, you havent resolved your issues or you arent sure about your wife and family's thoughts towards you then please go ahead with the divorce.
The ladies advising you to be patient are been very untrue to themselves, how would they feel, if their husbands ignore the financial responsibilities in the home and instead spend his income on his family? No tangible savings etc, he takes the household foodstuffs and gives his relatives leaving very little for you to manage?

PS: I would advise my brother (if he was you) to file after a few months, because right now,there are no children involved, just broken hearts which heal with time and a family/wife who would learn not to allow third parties meddle into their affairs.

He has a wife and 3 daughters. 3 daughters from d same woman. The eldest daughter got married 3 years ago and bore a child late last year.

Which of the daughters? Because i read on here the man has over 38 kids

I see that the people who blow themselves up in d name of the "fairy godmother" [/s]allah/mohammed [s][s][/s] are at it again. Soon we will have the supporters and sympathisers of d Motherless babies children charity (aka boko haram - remember we were told last wk dt BH isnt a terrorist organisation) come online raging and ranting like rabid infested dogs and justifying the actions of dis troublesome religion dt is known everywhere for violence. Instead of the muslim leaders to come out and denounce violence and killings they will be ranting abt acts of violence committed by other religions against theirs in 150BC forgetting that there were no religions just tribes n ethnicities in that era

ecosanders: Debate wit who? R u madt ni? I ask u 4 a proof, if u dnt hav shut ur dirty mouth, u thnk dats a threat? U must b kidding, u open ur gutter n insult ma prophet n religion n u want me 2 debate wit u? If only u cn repeat dose jargon in public, den i wil agree dt u r not a Ba*s*tard.

there we go again. the religion of peace full of insults. what makes you think i cant say this in public? You think everyone is afraid? No one has called you names yet you are quick to throw your dummy out of the pram like a 2 year old having a tantrum/hissy fit? What other proof do you need? the book you use koran has it all written there about the story of your prophet, its not some theory or conspiracy. its a fact, perhaps you should get offline and spend some time studying the stories in that book and you might actually learn a thing or two rather than waging an e-war (oops i forgot, thats what you are taught to do as obedient followers)
Like i said, if you cant have a conversation/argument/debate without threats and insults then take a walk.

ecosanders: u r doom if u cnt provide d Evidence of crime commitd by Muhammed (S.A.W)

dont start an argument you cant finish nor dish out insults if you cant handle one. Its a confirmed fact that your Mohammed is a child molester, he is a woman peddler (encouraged his followers to follow his route), he is a trouble maker. You can say all you want about him been so peaceful that he had a jewish wife but we all know that whenever he and his army fought and subdued a town, he married wives from that town as part of his conquest/trophy so please spare us your rant/rage etc
Like i said, if you cant have a debate without threats/insults, then please take a walk

[quote author=Jon.Bee]Timothy McVeigh (Oklahoma bombing) & Adam Lanzai (Sandy Hook massacre) are CHRISTIANS![/quote]Go back and read ur history notes again. Or u could put to use ur MB allowance in a more educative way. The people you mentioned are NOT Christians. They are free thinkers ( no religious association) and atheists (do not believe in d existence of a God). So please don't compare the 2 groups.
When a terrorist attack isn't perpetrated by a muslim ( in d rare occurrences) why do u Muslims think it has to be a christian? And for argument sakes the proportion of attacks perpetrated by other religions n non believers i.e atheist et al in comparison to dt of d followers of islam " religion of peace" is a small ratio. it is evident across all sects of islam (sunnis, shites et al) and d followers of islam in all continents that you have no value 4 human life whether child/woman/man

Right, so last week friday i bought my 6yr old Happy meal on the way back from school. he left the box in the car (parents would understand this is the norm when you have children). However this morning on my way 2 drop him off in school, he picked up a leaflet from the (now unsealed toy pack) and began reading about bush babies from there. And so this caught my attention. there was a picture of a bush baby and that its an animal commonly found in East africa bla bla bla. I have attached the pics for you to see as i googled it and the same pictures from the mcdonalds thingy came up.
Now my question is this... growing up in 9ja, i heard lots of stories about bush babies and how if you catch it you'll become reach story i always assumed this was some sort of human being/human like creature at least not something that looks like a matured rat!!
can someone who has experienced bush babies (9ja style) enlighten me please.

patholaw: Pls wat is libido drug? And wat is it used 4?

It is a name of a person, animal, place or thing. It is also used on a person, animal, place or thing.

I read about this story when it broke last wk. Apparently the deceased killed the twin brother over game winnings. And he killed him in the public. People rushed 2 the house 2 advise the family of the incident. But the twin brother, in a fit of rage, ran out and attacked and killed this fellow who had just murdered his brother barely 2 hrs prior. He killed him, chopped off his body parts n hung them on the 4 exits of the village and then the police came and shot him dead.
So whilst its a saddened occurence, however have some sympathy for the mother who has lost 2 grown sons in 1 day. If this man did not kill the twin, he wont have lost his life by an act of revenge. And if d twin did not take the law in2 his own hands, his family wont have lost 2 sons.

Tell ur friend MRSA is curable as long as its managed effectively. If it isnt then it could lead to septaecaemia which can be fatal. Its not an STI so his wife need not worry however it can be passed on via contact with an infectef object or person.
Mrsa in itself is generally not harmful to a healthy person. Its one of the bacterias you find in the nostrils and guts. It only becomes harmful when theres a break in the skin ie pimple, graze, cuts or sores (na there yawa fit gas).
Just in general, ur friend shld maintain very high levels of hygiene at all times to help reduce the cycle of infectivity.
He can read up more on the following links. Good luck and Gods perfect healing are my wishea to him.

http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/mrsa/pages/introduction.aspx

http://www.patient.co.uk/health/MRSA.htm

Tesiday: Re: Refusing A Marriage Proposal Based On
Religion? by horladort(m): 7:47am On Sep 06
natasha: So wat do u want us to tell you. Just
remember in this day and age of boko haram,
hmmmmmmm. Love is never enough.
A word is enough for the wise.
funny how peeps judge tho.. So yu mean d man wld
put a bomb in d woman's closet!
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I WONDER OOOOOOO! Lolz

During the jos crisis, i have seen married muslim men give their wives up for beheading to the muslim rioting youths. I am talking about couples who v been married years with kids. And whats the wife's crime? Been married to a muslim and not converting to Islam so plsssssss..............like i said, love is never enough.
We have seen how muslims repeatedly bite the fingers that fed them. The US ambassador waa killed in Benghazi: dts a town where gaddafi crushed many people, d same town that the killings were so much NATO intervened and today the muslims show their appreciation by reciprocating.
Its up to the poster what choice she makes......a word is enough for the wise

So wat do u want us to tell you. Just remember in this day and age of boko haram, hmmmmmmm. Love is never enough.
A word is enough for the wise.

Did u have any reason to doubt him during courtship?
Was he a cheat before marriage?
I believe your answer lies there.
And as for his friends, the quote "birds of the same feather flock together".
PS - go get your self STI screened

This is d problem wit marriages of our time. We spend so much time, money n energy ensuring "pre wedding pics", cake, photoshoots et al are perfect and forget d Core shld b the marriage. The ceremony would b 4gotten in d nxt few months but d marriage is wat'll b focused on.
I have heard of brides spending 1000's just 2 impress- pre wedding and then they rant off, call for family meetings, play the "he has changed since we got married card" wen the poor guy asks her 2 chip in her 2 cents to help stabilise wateva financial challenges myt hv risen @ d time.

I stopped reading half way. Too confusing, clustered and yes i definitely agree, the write up can turn a literate to an illiterate

@ poster - i had similar issues and as u, i had no valid reason 2 brk up wit my hubby. Wat i knew was i loved my ex alot more than my hubby.
How did i deal wit it? Everytime i felt d urge 2 talk wit my ez, I went 4 a run and wen i rtn m far 2 exhausted. Gradually weekly calls became monthly n monthly bcame seldom. When we did talk i focused on the"now" and not the past. When thoughts of him flooded in, i made a conscious effort 2 replace them with all d negative things he did when we werw together.
I hv 2 say it wasnt easy, it took alot of work n effort n i can say boldly now dt i m well n truely over him. U just need 2 find wat works 4 u and adapt dt 2 ur emotions n lifestyle.
Goodluck wit all.

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