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oma19:
See nobody is perfect the same way you calling ur ex shallow someone else is talking bad about you.
So you need to sit and think how you getting it wrong.
Do a quick survey example by calling an ex and asking her how you got it wrong.
I believe you judge and you have already accepted all are shallow.
believe me you may be surprise what they say about you.

Sure, I try to keep things civilised with my ex's, but I am show some will speak ill of me

TheVictim01:
Ah! This is where the virus is. So, you're now exposed to the wiles and specially manipulative state of mind, body and soul dogma called love. Love doesn't exist, but you're trying to find one? The audacity to view of oneself being an exception over the TRUTH baffles my problem solving proccessor to reality. Weigh the chances of your success to how you'd specify your car's trim level unto placing an order. If she's 6/10, go with her, Las Las you too ain't perfect and a 10 to her. From history, marriage without "LOVE" initially lasts the most and more blissful.

You just said something that got to me. "From history, marriage without Love initially lasts the most". I guess its cause of the lower expectations and eventually with time they bond in their own way.

Hmmm, maybe this is what I was looking for . It sounds good.

TheVictim01:
Modified, check.

Okay

TheVictim01:
Ah! This is where the virus is. So, you're now exposed to the wiles and specially manipulative state of mind, body and soul dogma called love. Love doesn't exist, but you're trying to find one? The audacity to view of oneself being an exception over the TRUTH baffles my problem solving proccessor to reality.

I am not trying to find one cause I know it doesnt exist. Unconditional love which is true love doesnt exist. I am just trying to find someone I can live long term with and not regret it ultimately.

studentofTruth:
Why are you attacking the young man. What he considers intelligence may not be what you consider intelligence.

To some, especially the ladies, intelligence is how fast and witty one can be when chatting or how well they can use stickers and emojis to spice up the gist.

To some, especially guys, it's how well she can discuss topical issues, politics, sports, or other stuff not related to her book knowledge.

For someone like me, it's about knowing the trends in tech and digital space, understanding the financial markets, and being able to discuss events happening around the world — including central banks meetings and decisions. I always imagine coming in, and she asks me: "hey boo, what do you think about this or that stock? See their last quarter earnings, this and that"

My point is, most times, it's really about one's area of interest, and it goes both ways.

So, the most important thing is to find someone who shares the same interests as you.

How can I like this more than once

WestAfricaan:
Oga new phones get released everyday. It's the same thing with women, you will keep meeting women that are more younger and Beautiful than your present gf.

My point is it's better to marry all of them

A legend! But I dont stan, ask fela or Solomon for reasons

Oiza131:
Jeez!!!
I was almost moved to tears reading this. From his words alone, one can imagine how hurt he is.
No amount of sorry can heal this wound, but better days lies ahead. Nawa o, things dy happen sha.
Marriage gets scarier everyday

Hi, you know why I messaged right? What's up?

TheVictim01:
Seek advice from Buhari for now. Las Las, Lobatan.

You tried bro. Good advice you have. I have tried them though. I prefer advice from Lai Mohammed instead

TheVictim01:
LOVE?? I don bilivit. But some, limited in number might find others attractive and charming over some personal contentment to their interests.

Now you understand why I am bored. The love part doesn't get me (I can only believe you love me when I am broke or jobless and not when I suit your dream guy narrative) i need something else to get to me, something outside love.

TheVictim01:
Lobatan!!! Adhere to her leanings and see yourself getting dumped. Las Las, try come up with script for acting, it might work.

At the stage, she is looking for a ring and I am checking if she is the one. So a lot of compromises between us to just to see if it can work but it's boring.

pretteemee:
I've come to notice that in this part of the world we live in, most beautiful girls/ladies really do not have anything meaningful to contribute to the lives of either their families,friends or partners.

It is NOT because they are so dumb but because the only thing they think about is how to impress a guy with beautiful looks and intimidate the ladies with fancy wears.

They worry about slaying the streets and there's no room for the brain to think on how to be productive and useful to themselves.

So this is it, I must be honest with you....If you are looking for a girl in the picture you just portrayed....then, you are on a loooonnnng thing.

Of course, we have your kind of woman, beautiful,brilliant,smart,not easily provoked or aggressive and I'm sure you also like them sexy but you're gonna need to be very patient and lower your standard or better still take your eyes off the Physically adorable, try the ugly ones.

Guys ain't left out too...Just like kidwaya and laycon

This lowering your standard stuff is like the norm. You spoke well, cant fault anything you typed. It's just a sad reality though.

RisenPhoenix1:
Like I said, MGTOW is only one of many coping mechanisms developed by members of the redpiller movement. Not falling in love however, is a fundamental teaching across all redpillers. Falling in love is not essential for being with a woman. Marriage is difficult enough even without the folly of adding some pseudo emotional concept of love madness into the mix. In any case, women get married all the time, though they neither feel nor understand 'love' as it is defined.

True. The whole game is messed up.

TheVictim01:
Consider her leanings unto FUN.

yeah I do and I dont like it. I tried bro, she likes mostly going to fancy places just to eat and dress up for photos. It's fun initially but after a while you see how shallow it is. Her shows too are just there, very predictable.

budaatum:
Aged 17 and a self-described “late bloomer virgin”, he was growing apprehensive about going to college when he stumbled across online men’s rights forums that seemed to hold all the answers. “I believed in it so much,” the now 24-year-old tells me via Skype from his home in Portugal, “It was such a fantastic thing to me… Back then I used to say that I was so happy about finding out about the Red Pill and pick up artists that I would rather be with them than win the lottery.

“I don’t know why I believed so deeply because it really makes no sense.”
https://www.newstatesman.com/science-tech/internet/2017/02/reddit-the-red-pill-interview-how-misogyny-spreads-online

A redpiller doesnt mean you are a woman hater but if not checked you can be a woman hater .

TheVictim01:
Enough of the eatery outings. Go out and play games, especially contact games. Try pool, badminton, tennis, handball, football..... Etc. Teach her how to play, if she doesn't. Women love ACTING/DOING than gisting without walking the talk. Get the drift?

You get me, you just havent understood me. I like outdoor games with her and we do that alot. I dont want to start listing it, but she doesn't add salt to my pepper the way I like to spice up the relationship.

comrademac:
i think is ur mindset abt ladies and how easily u get them. when you meet your match someone that will give u hard time before giving in to u and
make u feel worthless and then your head will reset to factory mode

If I was still a novice that will work, plus I dont think I will chase that long. But even if I decide too, things can still get boring for me if I find it had to connect with her intellectually.

RisenPhoenix1:
I like to think that fundamental redpill doctrine does not actually recommend any mechanism to cope with female manipulation. It just points out the methods used by females to manipulate weaker males and leaves the solution to the empowered individual. All the proposed methods you see are the opinions of various redpillers in the manosphere. Often it requires you to outmanipulate the manipulators, which is also unjust.

But I agree with you on one thing, men who understand how females try to manipulate them do not fall in love. This is because 'love' is one of the most effective weapons that females use to manipulate men. Why arm your adversary with her most dangerous weapon? Men who fall in 'love' always act like fools; and with that door mat attitude, they never get the object of their 'love' anyway.

True, but if you dont strike a balance you may soon fall amongst men in MGTOW. And I think that is a problem

TheVictim01:
Bro! You need a hint of mystery, drama, games, new set of romance bouquet. I suggest you take her for a fast and furious drive occasionally. Gearhead, am I.

I do that. We go out a lot, it's the conversation part that doesnt go to my taste.

ogbonti:
you are very immature- you will be bored after one month? what makes you think anyone can stand your over bloated ego for 2 weeks?. Excuse my brutal honesty, you come across as a very proud, self-serving and unfocused young man. If she has anger issues and you claim to love her, I didn’t hear you say you tried getting help or meeting with a relationship therapist - nah, you discarded her and left her to wander to someone else not minding if she gets help in resolving her issues or not. you think you will find any human being who is 100% faultless ? you will only find that in heaven

yes your friends are married to “shallow” women because they are matured enough to realize no human being is perfect, a truism which your egocentric self is too blind to see - goodluck to you!

It's good you like fixing peoples problems not me, dont have that time and we both lost out. She knows even today it was her violence and anger issues that drove us apart. He wish her the best in the future and myself too.

IamPlato:
please can i know the site? was it written in english?

Novelcat. Sign exclusive and non exclusive deals with them. It's in English. It takes about 1-3 weeks for you to be offered a contract.

IamPlato:
did you publish your book in the nigerian market? is it profitable? who was your publisher?

no not in the Nigerian market, it was on a Chinese novel site. My ex introduced it to me.

Ishilove:
Then you'll keep on searching and hope you find it, but remember you can't have it all. No one has it all, not even you.

That's true. But it will be stereotyped to think pretty girls have nothing to offer aside their beauty.

Jsaviour:
I can agree with you that most women are shallow. Most men are shallow too.

I think it's predominantly an African thing.

Nevertheless, there are still inspiring and interesting men and women just that they are few.

I guess it has to do with your birth month, exposure and self awareness.

Some people get bored easily when the spice isn't there.

Why you don't always see women complain same thing about men is because they either can't wait to see who will take them in or don't have any level of self awareness.

Keep looking until you see what you are looking for. Never settle else you might become miserable.

This is a wake up call to both men and women to develop and work on themselves.

Some women only care about their makeup, and body while their brain, emotions, social capital etc are zero.

I don't like boring or shallow men either.

I get tired of people who have nothing else than money and sex to talk about.

Can we talk and discuss about business ideas, global issues, books, events, future aspirations, vision, goals, leadership etc.

Just wow, amazing your write up!

BuddhaPalm:
Perhaps consider not "settling down".

Hmmm tough choice, that is my last last option. If I ever come to that decision its final.

Ishilove:
The problem is that the qualities you want are not in the package you desire.

I hear this alot but I dont want to believe it. You I date someone who isn't my spec I wont be proud of myself.

sogud:
since u re nt ready n tink marriage is nt important to u.... will u give me money to do my marriage or connect me with sum1 dat can give me job so dat i cn gather money for my wedding.

dey re gud girls out der, nobody is perfect

You are right, nobody is including myself but I am not asking for too much. Just dont be boring.

As per the job, I dont have one to link you up with. But you can do high risk investments, all those 50% return on investment type, just pick one that will pay you and if you are wise about it , you make millions in a few months. Good luck.

vickydevoka:
His problem is, not been able to accept de fact that gals are wahala.
Once you have that believe. All you have have to do is to pick your wahala n go. If u can't endure you all go ur separate ways

Hmmm. This I know. Na the boredom I no want.

Lucrativress:
I have to go
It's been fun and a pleasure talking to you tonight
If you ever want someone getting you mad,I'll generously be at your service

Mad has two kind, just mad and madly in ....
Its was nice young lady

Lucrativress:

All this for me...you are generous.

Lucrativress:
Goodnight Sir

Good night mrs smart pants. Later

Lucrativress:
Oya goan follow me back
Let's be following yourself bumper to bumper
I don follow you

Sorry I done jam your bumper, na too much bumper 2 bumper as I follow you.

Lucrativress:
It's been a pleasure talking to you
That's how our Neighbours also started
They're marking the date

I get it . You no regular rara.