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No2Atheism:

1. I am not talking about light complexion black women like Beyonce, I would take a Kelly Rowland over Beyonce any time anyday.

2. Notice that this topic and post is about my preference, hence logic dictates that my preference would not be a general accepted norm. Just as you do not like my my specific preference, likewise people that like white women would also not like the general prefererence.

Okay let me make things clearer.


1. If I have a choice between Alek Wek and Kelly Rowland, I would choose Kelly Rowland simply because my most intimate attraction is basically towards light skin tone black women.

2. If i have a choice between Alek Wek and Kate Moss, I would gladly go for Alek Wek, simply because my more general attraction is basically towards black women.

3. Hence there is a difference between my general preference and my specific intimate preference as a man.

Okay. I see. Actually, your preference for light skinned black women is very common among black men. But I see your point now.

LadyT:
White is just a colour nothing wrong with white people

I think most parents are usually against it b/c our cultures are very different, not really the color.

humbleboy:
This is my first time replying to a post.@ poster I believe that if you are happy with someone, that is where you belong. Nevertheless I find it strange that, given what you said, if you have both a black and a white man that treat you equally nice you would still prefer the white. In other words, it means that a black man should do more to get your attention and that is usually the sign that you are not totally fair.

When I was just a kid (around 10), I used to dream about women with long flowing hair (not necessarily white but with distinct traits) but, having an African mother I noticed in my teen years that I always went after African women with traditional values and that has never changed. I now realise that even unconsciously (TV, peer groups) we seem to interiorize certain ideas/concepts. I wish you the very best anyway and hope that I could be of a little help.

This was a very honest account. Plus, even though she does not say anything negative about black guys, she does imply that it would be easier for a white guy to win her over.

@Sasha:

Did you ever ask your parents why they don't want you with a white guy? You might have an easier time dating them, but maybe that could be b/c white men are usually known to be more romantic PUBLICLY. You might have an easier time DATING a white guy, but you might have an easier time being MARRIED to a black guy, especially a nigerian guy since you are nigerian. But if what guys are what you like then go for it, but just keep in mind that dating is not the same as marriage.

JamaicanQT:
I personally dont have a problem if a black woman have a white partner however i HATE to see a black man with a white woman especially when he acts as if she is his greatest achievement

That sounds a bit hyporitical, but I do know what you mean that some black men see a white woman as a prize. However, I've also seen some black girls who think they are high and mighty. b/c they have a white boyfriend. I think it's just that some black people feel special when they are with a white person. You can love who you love, but don't act like they are better than everyone else.

slimfine:
having lived in the US, I really do not see anything wrong with dating/marrying different races. I just won't do it becuase I have a passion to have a full blooded africans as my children

Yea, I agree. I feel the same.

phantom:
Beauty?Ghana?Please, As for the movie industry,the ghanians will always follow our lead.

I agree. I'm not saying there are not good looking Ghanaians, but they are not the best examples of African beauty. Besides, Nigeria has a population of 150 million, so there are more people to choose from. Of course they are gonna have the largest film industry, b/c there country is huge and population is huge. I'm not saying Nigeria is better than other African countries, but they are bigger than all other african countries (at least by population) Ghana is about 20 million. For for roughly about every Ghanaina there are 7 Nigerians. Ghana and Nigeria should not have their film industries competing against each other, but they should work together since they are all africans.

to the poster:

I'm african, but I'm not ghanaian or nigerian. I always thought nigerians as a whole looked better than ghanaians. here in new york, most of the ghanaians I see are not very good looking. I usually joke about how Ghana chooses their best looking ghanaians to act in the movies, b/c the majority are not good looking, but there are however some good looking ghanaians dont get me wrong. Doesn't Ghana follow Nigeria's lead with the movie industry? Nollywood was the first African film capital, was it not? Then Ghollywood came after.

Plus Nigerian actresses are definitely still better looking. Come on, Rita Dominic is much prettier than Jackie. Her form is too think like many Ghanaians. I do agree that Nadia and others you mentioned are gorgeous, but they are mixed race. A lot of Nigeria's gorgeous actors are not all mixed, but for Ghanaians why is it that the majority are mixed, when we all know that it is not representative of all of Ghana. Nigeria has many mixed actors, but the majority are not and represent all of Nigeria.

[quote author=Aloy.Emeka link=topic=255776.msg3974803#msg3974803 date=1244102995]Who dem be?[/quote]the sexiest men alive lol, but seriously, there are nfl players. umenyiora plays for the NY Giants and Asomugha plays for the Oakland Raiders.

ifyalways:
Seems like all Nnamdi looks alike.I prefer Nnamdi cos he looks like my Husband.
Nene 1,u serious oo abt ur love for igbo men

lol, yes, i guess you must have seen my post about igbo guys. You said Nnamdi looks like your husband? what a handsome husband you must have then.

mmunive21:
Hey girl sorry it took so long to respond!

here is the clip where he says he likes brunettes, and he says it to an annoying blonde girl (he even pushes her! ha)

http://video.ktla.com/global/video/popup/pop_player.asp?clipid1=2973181

it is more towards the end of the video but the whole video is cool



also watch this:

http://www.comcast.net/data/fan/html/popup.html?v=1039543489

its just some random video but its funny, he cant swim! ha!

anyways i dont wanna seem like a stalker. But I live in Oakland and I use to volunteer with the Oakland high school students and I know his volunteer work he has done for the community, he never does it with press all around. He prefers his volunteer work to be done without any hype. Hes a real man. He really does care. Hes done a lot because he loves it not becuase he wants to look good to the media, hes also a huge mommas boy, thats why i am crushing in him, hah. got any tips for how i should holla at him? haha

and yes i am not ALL white. I was raised by my single mother ONLY who is all black and beautiful but I look really light skinned so, yeah. thats all im saying haha I don't look as delicious chocolatey as nnamdi,

thanks girl. but you were raised by a black woman. you are still a black woman. hey u never know. u live in oakland. u could have a chance.

omg starstruck thanks 4 postin that pick of nnamdi. he is the perfect example of a fine igbo man. and unlike these other american football player, he doesn't seem to have any bad reputation that i know of.

Hotstepper:
@nene1, I know the families of those 2 guys u mentioned and I think I personally know Nnamdi

why do you THINK you personally know him? who's the other one you know? if you do know them, then aren't you lucky.

olanajim:
firstly, marriage is not all about love. There are marriage that are devoid of love that actually survive the test of time. I know many people will dipute this, but i am ready to take the challenge when it come.

secondly, most marriage nowaday are contracted based on selfish expectation. It is no wonder why they fail, eventually,

personally, I think marriage fail when the cost of staying together is more than the cost of staying apart. Many people run their marriage on deficit. They keep withdrawing without depoositing somethin into it until they run out of resource.

That's very true. Marriage is not all about a fairytale of love like Western television likes to depict it. Although I do not support arranged marriages, there is a reason why most of them last longer than the average western marriage, which is based on so called love. I think people should choose who they marry, but a strong culture and religious values is very important in a marriage to me. That is why marriages in Africa tend to last long. Many people complain that with Africans you don't only marry the person, but their whole family. I don't see anything wrong with that because marriage is not only about the two of you, the immediate family matter as well, because you will be an extension of the family and that includes your children too. I would want a marriage where my in-laws and my parents get along well.

I also think feminism in the western world might make woman try too much to act like the man. I am not the type of woman that would let my man treat me like a maid, but I do feel like the man should be the head of the household. You can't go into marriage expecting your husband to be the perfect prince. Also some women also marry for money. Now you know those marriages never last, b/c once the money is gone so is the woman.

I am not married yet, but when I do, I will marry someone that I know I want to be with forever and have children and grandchildren. Basically, in choosing a man I would ask myself

1. Is this the person I want to wake up next to everyday?
2. Is this the person I would want to be the father of my children?
3. How is he with his family, especially his mother? That would give me an insight on how he is with women.
4. How is he with my family? Do they like him? If they don't approve of him, I would really sit down and think why they would not since they would only want the best for me.
5. How does he feel about me staying a virgin till marriage? Now if he stays with me knowing that, then I know he really cares. If not, he would just move on to the another girl since I'm not the only girl with a *****. To me giving it up won't make you special or unique to him since he can get sex from any girl.
6. Is he handsome? (LOL, just kidding!).

Well that's just my criteria.  I hope it's successful in the future lol,

OgidiBoy:
I'm glad you said that, anyways you seem like an intelligent girl, so when you ready for a husband just let us know and I'll personally find a good igbo man ok.

lol sure. but on a more serious note, is there any such thing as an igbo muslim? religion is the only reason why i wouldn't get involved with an igbo.

Outstrip:
Yeah igbo men are cute but yoruba men (the really black ones that are so black they are purple) are sexy as hell to me. Especially if they are tall. Like the guy from lost. I forgot his name. He is one cute yoruba guy and then Djimon Honsou not yoruba but he has the look

Where is Djimoun Hounsou from? Personally, I have never met a Nigerian that was very very dark like you described. They ususally don't tend to be as dark as Gambians tend to be. But yes really dark skin looks so sexy. I don't like the igbo guys who are very light like mulattoes ( no offesne meant). I do like light skin guys (like nnamdi asomugha) but not too light.

OgidiBoy:
@ poster,


Who told you igbo men beat their wife

one of my yoruba guy friends. actually, he's half-white too. but i think it's just his bias. all groups have abusive men.

sisqology:
9ja mentality

i'm not naija so what do you mean?

omo yoruba:
Congratulations on your findings,

Clap for yourself for this discovery.

lol, ok yoruba men are handsome. does that make you happy?

follypimpi:
Shouldn't ur ass be aiming for A Good dude that will treat u right ?

wow, why do some people on NL have to be so negative. once again the marriage thing was a joke.

C2H5OH:
Are you white?
If you choose a husband based solely on looks, you better pray he treats you well.

oh no i'm gambian. why do you think i'm white? i'm not shallow, i definitely won't choose a husband soley based on looks. that was a joke, but i probably wouldn't marry an igbo since most of them are christian and i'm muslim.

I know all of nigeria's tribes like the Yorubas have many good looking men, but I am so attracted to igbo men. It makes me want an igbo husband lol, But seriously doesn't any other girl think so? There are handsome like Osi Umenyiora, Nnamdi Asomugha (my future husband, lol i wish), and Amobi Okoye and some of my friends. How are igbo men generally as husbands? One of my yoruba guys friends told me that yoruba guys are nicer and igbo men beat their wives, but I though he was just being biased.

Chisara Victoria, or Victoria Chisara, either way it would b a wonderful combo

for igbo i would say chisara
english- victoria

@ ghettochyk
well rita is wayyy prettier than omotola to me. don't see what is so stunning about omotola. she's just an average pretty woman.

if rita is no match for rai, can someone name any african woman that you think is just as pretty as rai or even more beautiful. Despite the fact that rita is gorgeous, I knew EVERYONE would say rai. I have yet to see a black woman who is REGARDED to be as stunning as rai and overrated angelina jolie. i know there are many, but never one on television. oh don't tell me agbani darego, b/c she is not that stunning to me. there are far more beautiful women in nigeria who could have won that pageant.

chiogo:
I know Nigerians born here by both Nigerian parents who can't pronounce their names.

Even their parents join them in pronouncing their names wrong. it's so funny!!

wow really?