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Rosabelle:
I dont know what experiences youve had, but I think Nwaka77 was the only one who replied to you in the negative. Almost everyone on this thread gave a negative answer to the posters question. So Im not sure youre alone in your observation on being married to a Nigerian man. Unfortunately they were negative, but true. A good 65% of african men are badly brought up and this reflects in their association with women.

You got that right. Everyone is warm to you, but its just show. We LOVE show in nigeria. That doesnt mean we arent genuinely nice. But until our women start to understand they have to bring up their boys with just as much severity as they bring up their girls, the situation will only get worse.
I love my country, but sometimes, the truth has to be said.

@rosabelle
i agree with you wholeheartedly on the bolded

@thread
ok, is this thread about moving back to naija or about who thinks naija men we're not raised properly or who has had bad experiences with naija men? am beginning to get confused

from an insiders point of view it appears to be possible. . .but sustaining it is something else!

they should hurry up and end the strike so nigerian students wouldn't be involved in such stupid things, such as this!

er. . .guys when you say fall 2010 when is that? cos i want to do GRE in feb would it be possible to start school in september?

thats true sha. . .the man is such an elitist!

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=324433.msg4555927#msg4555927 date=1253115098]i think those marks look really nice on some ladies. very distinctive and exotic i guess

@seun, yea there are plenty beautiful women with tribal marks. don't know any famous ones though. I think moladun kenkelewu's look cute.[/quote]why dont you get so we can see if they'll look distinctive and exotic on you. . .

Rosabelle:
@mrsb. Its alright to disagree. I do, like you, know many wonderful men who are respectful and take good care of their wives.
Whether or not they live outside or within nigeria. Im not painting anyone bad. There is just a reality.

Mothers do a shabby work of bringing up their boys in Africa. They make them think they can run wild and free, whilst the girls are brought up thinking they need to spend their lives treating their men as kings and expecting nothing in return.

In the last 10yrs things have changed drastically cos more women are going to school. This is a reality in african and nigeria is no exception.
My brothers wives thank my mum for the work she did bringing them up to cook and clean around the house cos when two of them were expecting their children, my brothers did everything. I am proud of them
1 out of 25 nigerian men are brought up like this.

Our mean are 'generally speaking' badly brought up and lacking in finesse.
Your man is an exception, just like my brothers. But I would be blind to now say because the men around me are good, all men are good.

I have wonderful friends who grew up in the states and Europe. 50% of them think like typical nigerians and the other half otherwise.

So please believe me when I tell you I know what Im talking about.

pretty much the same way 1 in 25 british/american kids is well behaved, (i'm trying hard to think of you as a nigerian but i'm failing o). Yep there are some naija men that dont treat women well but does that give you enough reason to generalise?i happen to know a lot of 'exceptions' as you put it. You were right in saying it has to do with how they were raised but that isnt all there is to it sha!

@mrsb
congrats jo. . .u seem to be doing pretty well. all the best

@mrs ife
mrsb prolly would be the best person to seek advice from, best of luck whatever decisions you take!

still too young for such. . .

prepare to be attacked!

her prob isn't only bad choice in deodorant o, una suppose check her posts make una see as she take style no like nigerians at all. . .lol

i wonder why most of the threads here are from the romance/sexuality thread. . .is it only them that are funny?

Since when? I thought any number squared always gives you a positive result.

sorry, my mistake, i meant if X² is equal to 4 then what is X?. thanks for the correction!

@ajanlekoko
mennnn thats what i'm planning o, i want to see if i can get into system planning after an M.Sc so that when the power boom occurs i'll be in a good position.

@oyb
guy where did u get that picture from? the moment i saw it all my carefully constructed thoughts of celibacy flew out of my head

@sagamite
guy u soooo did not dull that your comment was on point!

@nana
is that supposed to be japanese? _{kai. . .if only i didnt have a place for you in my harem}

Thanks bruv for your concern. Quite frankly I'm surprised. I'm not one to be picky over a particular field but i understand what you mean by hitting a dead end. Electronics, computers, the usual stuff look more interesting. Frankly I've lost most of the motivation in school.
GRE eh, i know about the exam but i'm ignorant as regards the content. Have you started applying for jobs? Or are you too focused on masters?

i know exactly how you feel cos the same thing happened to me, it usually gets better when you discover which field you have a passion for(at least thats what happened in my case) thats part of the reason why i was harping on picking something you're interested in because thats what you'll eventually excel at given experience and opportunity.

GRE is just basic arithmetic but the reasoning is different from how we're taught thats why most naija ppl need to prepare for example: X² is what? most naija ppl will say 2right? but the answer can either be +2 or -2 you need to retrain yourself to be more open in choosing answers and the english is something else sef. . .(most naija ppl dont read enough and that adds wahala).

i'm leaning towards the M.sc now o but i could swing either way, i'm afraid the only place in naija where they do what i want to do is PHCN so it means i might be forced to work there (i'm still making up my mind o) meennnnn life after school isnt easy o(just imagine if i work in PHCN it'll mean i have to say bye bye to my range rover at 40 and g-class at 50 plans) i have to choose between job satisfaction and money cos i could just as easily go into IT or oil and gas and make serious money.

Doing an M.sc would mean giving naija and PHCN more time to make the power sector more attractive for young turks like me cos as at now it is only God that can make me settle for what they'll pay me in PHCN if i join(its somewhere around 50-60k per month). i have some my ear to the ground wrt the IPP's but they wont do much power system planning(thats what i want to do)so i wont work there for long even if i join one of them.

[quote
]Dear G,

What have I done to deserve this from you? Have I ever cheated on you? Lied to you? Did I lie to you, saying that I cared about you when I didnt? Have I?
I found out that you were going out with a white girl as well, while you were with me. And that you laughed at me in front of your friends saying that you "like to take it slow. . . whenever we are doing stuff and you don't want to kill me cos I'm a sickler. . . " . How could you? I believed in you.I told you a secret about myself and you informed everyone else. You told people these things about me when i hadn't even slept with you. I thought at least you would have the maturity to keep what happens between us private. Why did you do this to me? Why?
I've meant to tell you this for ages and ask if it was true, but since the rumour wasnt even true, and i hadnt had sex with you, I didn't bother. I also never thought you would be the one behind all the stories.
I look at you, even now, and i can still see potential in you. You have the ability to be better than you are. But that is never going to happen as long as you keep trying to make people miserable. You will never know the extent of the damage you have done to me and my reputation and you will most likely never care. But I still dont think I deserved any of this from you. There was a day you tried to convince me that you were a horrible person. I didn't believe it because I knew you were better than that. I really tried to help you. You will never understand how I tried to make to make you happy. But it didnt work.
I can remember when I found out that you were cheating on me with shade and that you had lied to me, and when you came back that night you told me some thing like, "What if I hadnt told you anything that was going on, ?" So I was supposed to be grateful and thank you for all the trouble you caused to me , right? I was suposed to go around with a smile on my face, grateful, that my boyfriend had cheated on me and decided to lie to me about the whole issue. I dont think so.
Did you ever like me at all? This hurts me the most because I know you never did. I was just a back- up plan. I may be naive and trusting and immature, but I would never deliberately hurt and use someone the way you did with me.
At least I learned something from you. You taught me not to be anti- social. Especially with my former housemates. Funny enough you were friendlier with them than i was when we first started going out. And then they ended up hating you at the end of it all because of whatever happened when i was on holiday. Till today I guess I will never exactly know what happened with you guys.
Every move you carried out with shade , you repeated with me. You asked her why she hated you so much, you did the same to me. You kissed her and she pushed you away, you ran back to me and i stupidly responded. How relieved you must have been. Do I look so much like her to you ? You never took me out once. Not once. It didnt matter to me because I was happy with you wherever we were. I preferred staying at home anyway, so it never was a big issue with me. I would just have loved to be appreciated once in a while.
I'm not saying I dont know where I made my mistakes. I'm saying I never treated you this way.
Remember something, G. What goes around comes around. There's a reason why people say this so much. Because it's true.
There's one thing I have to ask of you. Please dont do this to someone else. Please. Don't treat those coming in next year the way you have treated me. It's not worth it.
Have fun with your life. My greatest wish is that you change for the better.
[quote][/quote]this has to be the most mature letter on this thread. . .big ups to you o, i'm not going to 'form' giving advice to you cos i know you'll do just fine!

@the lovebirds(unitee and na2day)
e ku ise o. . .unitee just tell your husband to stop spoiling my runs now. . .its not fair o!

Sagamite:
tkb, so na so you dey chase doctor babe? You too like goothin.

next to lawyers [size=5pt]*based on my main squeeze now*[/size] doctors are it o!

spikedcylinder:
Who are all these people?

whats it to you?

tkb417:
ore mi owon
bawo ni? se ise nlo?
oma to ojo meta ?

mo ti miss e pupo ju

olamide mi nko?

nana:
Ijo kan pelu. I just took some time off ni jare. Mi o ri Olamide mo oh. Mo ti loose contact pelu e tipe.

ehen o, awon NRC ti de ni yen!

Lord i thank you for restoring me!

y'all are just mean!

unitee:
I miss you so much lol hope you are good lol

now am trying to concentrate but all I see is you in pages and eish exam time is calling me now[b] am gonna write you you and you in exams [/b] lol

and you will see 'f', 'f', 'f' in your results

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=261058.msg4491474#msg4491474 date=1252251474]Ha I remember you, you are that Brother in the Church who plays the saxophone and the drums occasionally. As the Church Accountant, I remember handling the invoice for getting a bigger drum because they said you had a big feet


I am a usually busy person, what with having to open up the Church and lock up the Church, and attend services 25 times a week, with numerous Night Vigils, House fellowships, daily Street Evangelism with Pastor Na2day and other Charitable work, so I am a very very busy person, but as God would have it, ^{he is a miracle working God y'know} I am free tonight, so why not pop over to mine for the night, for some all-night laying of hands session, bring along some "holy oil" too [/quote]i carry a very large anointing. . . . Of which i had a vision last night and i 'received' for you o! the gist of the vision was that you are to be totally devoted to me and only me! that means no more chasing other men o, whats more you have to burn all your revealing clothes and dress only in boubous from now on! and no more make up! ~~~

menn i don dey tire o. . .sometimes we naija ppl no dey try at all

nuzo:
The architect of Nigeria's failures.
The founder and mentor of 419 in nigeria.
The evil genuis.
The coup plotter.
The looter.
An assassin.
Major stake holder in GLO.
Green snake in the green grass. etc

Fhemmmy:
What do u know about IBB, i will say, he is one Nigerian man that holds the key to Nigeria's tomorrow.
I will say, he is a man that knows what it takes to win Nigerian.
I will say, he is one man that has boyz in almost all the states that matters, and all the boys are important personnel.
So tell me who is IBB?

he is a man that is at home in his hilltop mansion while millions of nigerians do nothing apart from talk about him all day!


we talk too much jo!

dump the two of them till you sort out your issues, cos u certainly have some!

ebonyeyes is kinda right. . .

but i hope u sha earn enough money for the basics? so she doesnt have to pay when y'all go out and stuff?

Sagamite:
Let me sing a modified song the chavs in the UK sing:

Get your tits ikebe out

Get your tits ikebe out

Get your tits ikebe out for the lads 

Get your tits ikebe out for the lads

[Chants] Spiky o, spiky o, spiky o!!!



[size=4pt]God, I am being too naughty again![/size]


[flash=450,300]http://www.youtube.com/watch/v/J5Uk8w8vSZk[/flash]



Although this one is disturbing 

[flash=450,300]http://www.youtube.com/watch/v/bG8Y4BUKF3I&feature/related[/flash]

as i like to say 'a group of young white males with a camera is a recipe for disaster'. . .

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=316937.msg4508360#msg4508360 date=1252478105]bring your own pic nau [/quote]no mind am, make she put her picture where her mouth is!

next year? ok. . .that means we have some time to find a proper place, do you have a place where you can stay? if you have relatives in any of the cities then we can start looking for a place in them cities. it'd also help if you could specify a field that way it'd be less likely that you'd end up getting stuck in a dead end place(it'll kill your morale) why dont you think about what you want to learn more about? i could help you think it through then we'll find the best (and highest paying) place!

yep i think i'll go for the masters o, but this place is killing my morale, i can barely read for GRE(its like SAT but for masters students). . .

haven't had this much fun on NL in ages. . .

all of u that are contributing to amaka's spoiling education well done o!

Eseaba:
Why all these rumours? CBN is auditing only 11 banks and the results are not out. There are three banks yet to be audited and there are: Standard Chartered Bank, StanbicIBTC and ETB.

Where come the rumour that three more banks are indicted by CBN.

Why all these deceipts and rumours? There is no result of the 11 banks which the audit is almost completed by the CBN.

Please, let us help this country in little way we can.

i heard the reason they haven't done those 3 is cos they are either foreign or wholly privately owned banks so its highly unlikely that the board woulda disagreed with any loan that was to be granted

guy u shld have asked to see the DPO or something, they chanced you because you dont know your rights o. . .at least thank God you're ok sha

@amaka
babe, the slut bit was referring to something finemocha said much earlier o. . .twasn't directed at you

@david
i think you shld teach comprehension during those tutorials we talked about earlier

@C2H5OH
some girls just dont get it o!