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Justiceleague1:
All of the above

budaatum:
You have a lifetime ahead of you to be thinking of forgiving her or not. But forgiving her is for your benefit, as unforgiveness is like a cancer in the heart of the unforgiver. You spend plenty resource remembering not to forgive and it slowly eats you up.

Leave and go find somewhere else to live. You will survive this and more. And read up on the psychology of unforgiveness.

samicine:
Greetings one and all. I'll try to make my lamentation as short as possible.

My mother accused me of stealing her 2k, but I assure you, I didn't. The money got missing on Thursday night according to her and my 13 year old brother. I won't do such a thing, because the times are hard and the pandemic is fueling this hard times. I'm not lazy, I kind of work from home, I write for opera news hub and to some extent I get money from there, currently I have 19k in my account. I have no motive of taking her money, but she insists I took it, and is currently threatening to throw me out of the house.

This is not the first time such thing has happened. When I was still in secondary school, money got missing often and she'll blame me, beat me and starve me for stealing her money, but God helped me and the culprit was found, my other brother was caught, he is 18 now and doesn't stay with us anymore. He stays with my dad. She never apologized for what she did and the scars of that emotional and physical abuse still ripples across my body. But this time I'm not sure I will forgive her if the money is found. I'm planning on leaving home and starting my life somewhere, it's hard, it might just be my naivety speaking, but I need your advice.

The only skill I have is writing and web designing, which I'm almost getting good at. I just need help and guidance. I'm a 200level student and I major in psychology. I'll be 21 by November.

BigJoe19:
Donate your mother as Covid-19 relieve fund, any woman that cannot believe her child is a nuisance to the society.

With your explanation your mum is single, she and your dad don't stay together anymore, I hope you have noticed that since your dad left your mum his life has been better, I advise you do same. A man that dwells with a toxic and bitter woman would never become great.

Find a group of trusted friends and stay with, hustle day and night, make your family proud.

Good luck.

Atomemmy:
I DON'T FIND ANYTHING WRONG IN UR CHARACTERS. I ONLY FIND SOMETHING WRONG WITH UR MINDSET. U FEEL LIVING UR LIFE IN CONTRAST TO THE WAY OTHERS LIVE MAKES U REJECTABLE, AND THEN U WANT TO PLEASE THEM.
IT'S NOT BAD NOT HAVING FEELINGS FOR WOMEN. IT'S A GOOD SIGN U'RE MORE THAN A MAN. TRY USING THIS NATURE OF URS TO ADVANCE GOD'S KINGDOM LIKE BECOMING A PREIST UNNO?

Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.

Edaniels9:
Pericoma

Thank me later

Edaniels9:
Pericoma

Thank me later

Benee1000:
Why are you this bitter?... Na wa oh. I simply stated what I want in a future partner. If u don't agree, u could simply ignore or state why u don't agree.
Why the name calling?
Also, I didn't command any body to do anything did I?
Ladies beware? Lol... for your info, I have met ladies who met and surpassed my expectations for a potential spouse, and they can testify that am an equally amazing person too.
I have the right to choose what's best for myself self and my kids and I won't settle for less. Your opinion doesn't count.

Benee1000:
1. Must have a good heart & be a Jesus lover
2. Must love me more than I love her & also be a virgin
3. Must be good looking, neat, smart, have great sense of humour, hard working, fun to be with & a great cook.

Have all these? Then it's Us against the world.

Won't settle for less

bns4eva:
Must be religious

I can't marry illiterate

I will go to their house and watch how her mother
Treating her father.

I am sorry I can't marry a lady whose not virgin, trust nobody

Sincerely from my heart I don't like short lady,I like tall and curvy lady,

SIR0:
For me, one criterion is enough;

"She must be God-fearing".

Benevento:
(1) Virginity

(2) Unconditional love

Bonus : Beauty.


1 and 2 is a must, ain't gonna marry a hoe, give me your virginity and I will love you more than my mom.

yuswrld20:
nt bad if we hook up
cuz av gone 6000 miles looking for girls with these traits

yuswrld20:
are u part of the pple u just mentioned

MeekAssassin:
Inbox me

Dreyton36:
I've dated up to 4 different very rich and influential girls
And I'll kindly share just one of their stories, I mean the first of them

It was 2013 mehn life no be moi moi ooo
I lived in Lagos , Maryland to be precise so I got a job at a catering company then at ikoyi
But not like other catering jobs oo , this one is special into big boys way
We only serve the NNPC_NAPIMS workers
Men go garage up with full swag to go serve rice
But it was fun cuz I had my cool Calabar friend with me
I finally had a friend who happened to be an auditor there (female)
Name withheld , she's absolutely gorgeous but a lil older than me i guess
She rides a range Rover , the company has a car park called Park view, for those who knows bayo kuku area in ikoyi you'll know there , big men area

One day I went to serve as usual , I was cashless , after closing hours I almost lost it cuz I had no penny to go home , mehn I trek from ikoyi reach Maryland life tire me
The next day again I went to work after borrowing money from my own younger brother
And after serving , I was just thinking of how to go home , but I no too dear because that day was Friday and we don't work during weekends
As i went to pack up the used plates, this damsel asked me to pass her bag to her, she gave me some $ upto 15 pieces
I mean dollars not naira ooo , 100 dollars each
Mehn my prick sef stand
I was dumbfounded , to say thank you sef tire me
Anyway I left , but I thanked her Sha , but I didn't even know the actual figure of the cash but I know say na load
Trust poor man na , I arrange the dollars inside my wallet and went to a nearby bar to get some cold Heineken and catfish peppersoup
After that I headed to obalende park , as usual the conductors don know me as a wahala boy who no they always get money complete
I stepped into the bus and put on my headphones in it's loudest volume , as usual the conductor started shouting (owo da)
Because I see fine girls inside bus I start to speak phonetics and brought out some dollars that i dont have change , conductor shock
To cut it short I went home
And I made my biggest mistake
Drop ur comments if I should continue cuz this is the funniest partt

yuswrld20:
those girls wey u mention are gone extinct.
they big momma wey i dae date don kill me with liability my aim just to chop and she pack n go

thatsleepboy1:
You're lucky anyway.


As a shy virgin


What kanai sai

fineboynl:
If you have dated a big girl before you will easily relate with this. Big girls is my term of the opposite of a big boy and not oloshos or Gold-diggers.

Here are my experience. I have dated a girl that has so many girls she called her children. she help them alot, like securing a job from her contact and as well as writing the application letters herself for them and arranging the cv.

She called me always and never flashed and it's calls that runs into hours per day. I will even get tired and tried cutting the calls to discharge her.

I and some of my friend dated girls of this trait. It's not that they have so much money but they have a niche for themselves. They do anty to your younger ones or girls around by taking them out or buying them stuff. Your family developed a feeling that this girl doesn't want anything from you.

They will never allow you spend any money on them, they come to your house with cab. They will never follow you to a gathering where your friends spend money only on drinks and foods. And if it happens by accident they will pass the money to you to at least pay some of the bills.
She doesn't like going out while others pay for her drinks.

They never collect transport or any money from you.

BimsTechLTD1986:
Price: N2000.
You really need to get this to make the kids at home enjoy the tutorial videos on your phone since schools won't open any soon.
With this phone holder , you can read ebooks on your phone , to see/watch films , Facebook live (for dem online ministers) ,video call with your bae, many more..
Call/ WhatsApp 08165021023 to get it ,only delivery within within Lagos is available for now because of the pandemic.
Wholesale is available !

blessgreg:
Governor Wike pls thread with caution. Some words spoken should be slept over again and again before acting. This is extreme I must admit

fiercehillz:
Sexual immorality....hmmm
The most common of them all. It takes a strong willpower to overcome this one o...Na for me to marry ASAP to make am offficially and spiritually accepted.

But what is the relationship of this particular sin with vengeance...please enlighten me biko because man too hot these days...Time to clear all the immoral cache of my life and do factory reset and there after upgrade the moral OS of my life.

SultanOfAbia:
African mentality is that you should respect your parents no matter what because they sacrified all they had for you.
This is a tactics used to Guilt Shame you whenever you don't agree with parents

Lol, duhhhhhh. Before nko??
If you bring a child into this world then you must sacrifice to keep it alive.
It's not rocket science
If you don't want to sacrifice then don't go and insert your dick and give birth to kids.
You don't owe your parents for taking care of you..
That is a duty they both agreed to do once they decided to have kids
If I request for a puppy, of course I have to get ready to feed and raise the puppy.
It is my responsibility and duty since I requested for it.
You can never achieve anything if you cling too much on your parents advice
They are biased on many many levels
Some are blinded by doctrine
They had no access to Internet and a large amount of information unlike us.
That is why White people are far ahead of us. They allow their kids to explore life and in doing so these kids become their best selves with great potential to the community and the world.

MyVILLAGEpeople:
Orji Uzor Kalu is a servant of God. God will never leave his servant to suffer. He will come out victorious at last.

ghettokid1:
our able Party @PDP should pls caution Gov. Wike, he is going extra mile and that is not what we are known for

gift2xl:
The inspiration from this pillow while sleeping is madness.

Baawaa:
He bought it inside holdup, that is aboki pillow for you

Ejima1:
Prayer is also essential

LLobiorah:
Yes, I'm letting you bimbo be.

LLobiorah:
And as you young, with a fine face, where's thy grace, fame, popularity?

Bad belle.