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Deanxy1:
It has been almost two years now since I broke up with my Ex whom i dated for almost a decade since when we were in secondary school up until we both graduated from uni ( we went to separate uni).

There were so many things that happened leading up to the break up. We kept having one issue to the other and we were quarreling almost on a weekly basis for the last two years of the relationship.

Amongst the many issues, one which stand out was her dating another guy. It started with her denying they were dating to when she could actually post his picture on snap and other social media handle and that was the height of it.

Friends told me to cut her loose but I couldn't and the whole toxic thing continued ( in retrospect, it was just naivety ). So little by little the love she had for me waned and I became tired of the whole thing and we just stopped talking and went our separate ways.

And it's been two years now but each time I run into her or see her picture, my mind skips. This has continued to happen ever since we broke up. I had long cut any form of contact with her but our childhood friends are kind of alike, so sometimes there's always that possibility of bumping into her or her picture from time to time.

Please what do I do?

OP please keep calm, okay.
Her mind too skips whenever your name is mentioned.

By the way, your mind skips because you feel you did the wrong thing by calling the relationship off. Kindly remove that perception from your mind and all will be well.

Nice one

EkehPraise:
Like every well brought up young man, I'm in my early 30's and really doing fine at least I'm not begging for anything from anyone.

I set out this year to wife my girlfriend whom I had dated for 2 years but her character made me think twice so we broke up and I moved on. I have tried to make friends with matured ladies in the church I worship but it's been from one bad experience to another.

Ever since I started looking for a woman to call my wife I have been meeting different characteristics of women.
Within the space of 1 year I've met one who is a maniac, one I met at a hangout didn't hesitate to show her lazy attitude the day she came to my place to see I'm a bit comfortable, another one I met recently in church turned out to be a thief.

2021 is almost over and I'm yet to find a wife. Where do you advice I go in search for a good woman?

Wife material scarce oh!

Hahahahaha
I want to laugh concerning the LAZY lady that came to your house.... That was how my friend will clean and scrub his house morning till night. I warned him that he will attract a lazy lady and he thought i was joking, until he almost fell into that trap.

All of us want to live with less stress, so seeing a place that is always clean to a lady, she automatically feels that aha! There will be less cleaning to do here.
The error is that, the man will not have the chance to clean once he goes out to work and comes back at night.


Guys, please be watchful.

That is his/her cup of tea.

Is she not supposed to be in school or school is on recess?
After all the partying, she will still come out with flying colours.
I'm beginning to suspect these oyigbo schools self. Lols

I, Newyorkitis, chairman of the Association of Unconcerned Neighbors Citizen and Friend (AUNCF) does not give a blankety blank about this story.

Father Lord, grant unto me the grace to avoid some unprofitable posts this coming year 2022.

That's good to the recipients.

Amazing!

Let us see the draft before jumping into conclusion.
Who knows maybe the bill wants to empower women such that they can abort any pregnancy they like without the approval of their husbands.

The equality that should be in the fore should be that all women should be educated to a cettain point at least, they should also have inheritance as the males and the removal of bridepice/dowry too, because that is what demean women in this part of the world.

Frank2021:
Good evening guys I am in a serious relationship with this girl and she bath and change in my front. I use to video her withone app called BACKGROUND VIDEO RECORDER. With the app u can record with the person noticing you are recording he or her. Luck ran out today as she was naked and looking for cloths to wear. I was moving my phone too to record everything. She suddenly came to me snatch the phone and saw it record. She play the video and saw her self. She was very Angry and walk me out. For 4 days now she block and refuse to talk to me. Please what can I do to get her back. I love her so much?

Anything for the bedroom is not for social media or social gadgets.... Delete all the videos and convince her that it will never happen again.

I guess this is how it started with Tiwa Savage.

Abimbolafavour:
Honestly am just too tired of constant nagging .. so today I got a call from my bf that I should help him wash some of his cloths .. I politely told him i can't cause am at work .. then he said you can take it home .. this pissed me .. told him I can't again , he got angry told me to get out . and then ended the call .. Relationship of two months plus every time quarrel .. Am just unhappy and confused..

This scenario usually plays out but not always about washing of clothes.

My point is this: men love to marry who they can control by testing that out in a relationship while women would not want that control when they are not married to the guy yet.

So, let him know that you are not disrespectful but presently, your hands are tied considering the nature of your job.

If he doesn't listen, just know that he is a control freak.

caspee:
Help me
I have no Friends at all not even a single person who I can talk to.
I spend my entire time on my phone either playing games, watching movies, reading novels or browsing on the Internet and when I am not doing all these I am sleeping. I spend my entire day indoors but even the times I go outside I don't have anyone to talk to or play with. Throughout my day in the polytechnic I had no single friend in school when I finished my ND I was alone taking pictures and no one even celebrated with me.
I heard my siblings today talking about how they will spend their Christmas day with people yet I can't even relate well with my siblings.
I can't keep a chat going with people online or offline because sometimes I run out of what to say.
I don't even have a girlfriend nor have I ever asked a girl out, I don't even know what to say to them.
Any advice is appreciated all I need is to stop this boring lifestyle of mine.
I see people on the street laughing and joking, sometimes insulting each other and wish I am among them. I really need a friend even if it's a bad one

Don't wish for a bad friend, please.

I really do not know the kind of novels you read, brotherly. However, I'll suggest you read how to win frend and influence people by Dale Carnegie.

On another level, you have to see other people as unique and not as items to be taken from your shelf whenever you need them.

Also, use your phone to read about current issues and you won't run out of ideas when having a conversation.
Cheers!

Nice one! We hope for a better 2022 by His grace. So that i can invest.

Hahahahahaha

We thank God for giving them another chance at life.

MrBrownJay1:
you are comparing apples with oranges... just because the west prefer that "your" children slave for them (instead of their own children) is completely irrelevant to the issue at hand.

I don't need your validation, sir.
Parents who give birth to children with good reputation see their children as an achievement while those whose children are bringing pain will not see such children as an achievement.

China's useful population is her strength.... That is different from Nigeria's case and i don't need to elaborate.

Even gayyss and lesbianns see children as an achievement in the USA that's why they go for surrogacy.

This is interesting

MrBrownJay1:
to an African, children is a source of WEALTH, not in the west!

Children are wealth anytime any day.
Otherwise, can the West explain to us why they prefer our young energetic population to migrate for the wheels of progress and development of their country because they are faced with aging population?

Oh... I'm here to learn.
I pray she gets the solution quickly.

Really?

They won't listen if the toxic guy has Cash.

Sorry for the situation... And stop calling your child a slow - poke, even though you don't mean it.

Beautiful buildings with sadistic people.

Bigotry streak

Is he a first time offender or he has been doing it all of the time?

Kobojunkiee:
So, those who skip #2 entirely, and still enjoy marriage are what? Unmarried?

Lols... I'm just stating the reasons generally for marriage.
However, most of us if not because of having children, a lot of us will not get married in Africa.

More disheartening news for the masses, considering what is being stolen.

Interesting!

Hehehehe

In elementary social studies, here are the reasons for marriage.

1: Companionship
2: Procreation
3: Sexual satisfaction
4: Economic cooperation


Know this and no peace. Be you a male/female.