Seconded..
You are correct..
It can't work for me.
I can't stay with such a man that is ok with doing house chores..
If it's just to help around the house, that's cool but daily.. No..
I may start feeling like I'm missing something.. Yea missing the man i married because he has turned into a sissy..
So different strokes for different folks..

Phema:

Babe, you no fear reach me oooo. I had postponed this wedding before cos of that. I even opened a thread discussing my fears. I got realistic and good advice there. You can check it out.

In fact, gimme your email make we relate. Mine is phemahema@yahoo.com

Nne you wont understand..
Me that kept saying that I'm not ready for marriage is now planning a wedding..
We will be coming home to do the trad and the white wedding..
Almost everything is already in place but we are still contemplating whether to use a live band and a dj or to use only the live band..
The live band alone is 80,000..
I dont know whether there is any good dj around there..
And I'm also told to get an MC that know's our culture, but my fiance has already gotten someone else, so i dont which one to chose..
Lol.. Quite tricky huh??
About the food.. We just payed the caterer to buy the foodstuffs and cook..
No stress..
I will send you a mail dear because i can realy do with a friend now..

Baby mama:

Yes it is not easy
I felt that way the first few years of marriage
I was a stay at home mom running around with two kids
I felt ashamed when I ran into my classmates.I felt I was wasting away
I saw people I did much better than in school ,in their careers and I was just a mommy and a wife
It is a sacrifice I made and looking back I have no regrets
I may not have progressed as much as I would have liked professionally but I haven't done badly either
My greatest achievements are my children
My career doesn't compare to them

This sounds like something my mum will say.. Now i understand perfectly well why she had to put us first before her career..

Well i don't see anything wrong with that.. It's just a way of addressing somebody..

^ ^ Hahahaha.. The sacrifices women make just to have a happy home..
But sister this is hard oo..
I can identify with this post because i see a bit of your husband in my fiance..
Dude is a go getter, working and schooling, professional courses after the other and i have a feeling this is just the beginning.. Lol
Now you are saying a wife may have to put her career on hold in some circumstances inorder to help her husband actualize his dreams..
Well that's not bad, but wont one feel kind of useless or something..

I'm not a fan of swallow but when i do, it's wheat meal or semolina all the way..

bellong:

The bolded part is a false understanding of what a blissful union is. Marriage does not take away your freedom and privacy if joined with the right partner, it strengthens and builds it.

Oh I'm quite relieved..
Because I wouldn't like to give up somethings i like doing just because i now have a "Mrs" attached to my name..
Thanks B..

My own started with "baby will you marry me" baby please marry me" It's you i want to marry!!..

Lol.. 50k just for wrapper..
@Phema.. You have a good heart girl..
I love the way you answer people's questions and also help them out with their budgets..
That's very kind of you..
I never knew that planning a wedding can be this stressful..
My wedding is on 2nd Jan 2014..
Lol.. Yea i know it's already close..
But I'm having the wedding jitters..
I'm scared mehn, sometimes i feel like it's just a dream..
That I'm not about to lose my freedom and privacy.. Lol
And the date is close already..
May God help us all..

carmelion:

It means jigijigi

*runs away*

Hahahaha.. You are funny..
Me i can't explain oo, where i wan start.. Lol..
Baby mama yellowpawpaw is calling you..

Nice thread.. Following..
You and CC has just taught me something on anger management and the act of saying sorry..
I will try and put it into practice..

Lol.. Very funny thread..

byvan: God bless you

Amen..

No it's not good..
The question is, are they getting together because they love each other or just to make babies..
At this stage babies should be the last thing on her mind..

Simple.. The girl should ask her people..
So you will not make any mistake..

Congrats dear..

No i refuse to believe this..
Not Vivian Chinaza that's so full of life and has a lot of things she wants to achieve..
God please let it not be true..

Aunty Efe has already said everything there is to say.
Stop bothering your head about them and continue to enjoy your marriage..

64billion for ordinary gate..
Chineke..

Lord have mercy.
Op please do something before that woman ruins that poor girl's life.
Because it's obvious she has a wicked heart...

Hahahahahahaha..
Sorry Op, i couldn't help it..
Ok why not tell her that you will like to show her how to prepare your meals..
Atleast it's better than telling her "babe you no sabi cook".. Lol..

callola: In my tribe (anambra state) if a woman have a child out of wedlock, d child bears d maiden' name. As far as we are concern, any child born out of wedlock belongs to d lady's family even if the man marries d gal later he must forego d child unless his inlaws decides to dash him

Exactly

Hmmm.. What's going on here..

This Op sha..
Are you 10yrs??
A man is making serious advances at you and you are saying you dont know what he is doing..
Kissing you, pecking you, holding your waist, bla bla bla and you allow him..
If you are still in that house, just pack your things and go back to your parents..

RubyTheBlogger: u wil make a caring moda or a 9ce sister

Hahaha.. Thanks.. Maybe that's why my siblings loves me so much...

lorretta u: aww she must have been a wonderful woman.

Lol.. Yea my mum is a nice woman..

Guilty.. Thanks to my mum that gives them out...

Nne you are trying..
Dude knows what he is doing so this one is not about prayer, if you want to pray, pray for yourself first.
Because i think you need that prayer more than him if you can condone such behaviour under your roof and on your matrimonial bed, even if he is the one paying the bills.. Geeezzz

Op i will suggest you go and see your doctor first.. He will be in a better possition to tell your wife the one that's good for her body..

When you get to the university or if you are there already, concentrate on your books.. Never look at the unserious guys and the people whiling away their time..
Because some of them are not students, some only came to enjoy campus life, while some are already rusticated fron the school but refused to go home..
Please dont join any cult, they will only succeed in destroying your life and turning you into what you dont want to be..
Aim for 1st class, so that even if you dont get there you will land at 2.1.
That's my litle advice..

Yes.. I will..
My upbringing is one of the factors that made me what I am today..

When i was small i actually believed i will be my mum when i grow up..
Whenever i look at her pretty face and height and looked at small me, i will smile to myself,
because there is hope..
I was always asking her when i'm going to grow up.. Lol.
Now when i remember that, it makes me laugh.. How can somebody grow up to be another person.. Kids..