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I am just wondering? I have watched many movies (though never seen a life experience but I believe movies depict real life occurences) in which when an individual realises that he/she was adopted (the right way) the person feels anger towards his/her "parents" despite the fact that (in most cases) the person was treated normally as though he/she was biological child.
Isn't the person supposed to be greatful for being given a decent life?
Can people who have had this experience please relate how they felt and why they felt the way they felt when they realised they were adopted?
Also, can anyone explain the reason for this anger.
Thank you.

I don't watch BBA but from what I read I am so happy Prezzo did not win.

Expensive is α relative word. When you earn α decent income you should be able to afford most basic things of life. People say portharcourt is expensive, but having stayed there and other major cities in τ̣̣ђё world, I have come to conclude that expensive is relative to affordability.

NCCF Zamfara is the best. I experienced true love. It was a really nice experience. Hmm, I cant forget that family song, especially with the nice beats and the way our Uncle sings it and we way we all jump in joy. I encourage corp members to join the fellowship.I was blessed.

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Award pix

@rossp, it is not a single university, the 47 recipients are deltan graduates from different universities around the world whose certificates are not more than 3years.
You can go to d website to check out the list of recipients and their profile.

That pix is not the pix. We were about 6 ladies the odaz were guys. I ll upload d pix on Monday.
For you who asked about the process, just google delta state scholarship board, it ll lead u to d website. All you need to do us to get d scratch card, fill d form and u ll be invited to present your credentials.
It is a process that is based on merit. I am a living testimony.
For those beefing, just try to appreciate good initiatives. The scheme is designed to encourage diligence.

It is true, i am a beneficiary of d scholarship. The money is meant for our postgraduate study in any part of the world. 36 benefitted last year, 47 of us enjoyed it this year.
The beautiful rhing is that it is up to Phd level. So if I decide ro do my Phd, I will get 5m p.a.
I am typing with my phone would have uploaded the letter. Maybe on Mon.

University of Ibadan is to be named Rashidi Yekini University, Ibadan.

I recently finished my service in Zamfara. The place is cool, trust me. No stress. If I had a job I would have considered staying. Contact 08070969600/08030912074. His name is Uche, he was d agent that got me my house in Zamfara.

She should accept the job. If the coy frowns against couples working together, either of them can leave later. But for now she needs the experience and the money.

The world is waiting for me.

It is an indicator that she is not getting the world bank job.

debrief08: Madam Nous a good woman will find a husband single mother or not, and God decides the begining and end of a matter, if she wants to get married please go and tell God and the man who comes to marry her that she is a single mother and should find it harder to marry. I am sorry I insulted you, not normally my style, the woman just had a baby after a very painful experience, she has joy after so much pain and saddness, celebrate with her first then past judgement later. I was once written off too, I left an abusive husband and i was told i will never find a husband in nigeria and even if i did he would have to be a fellow divorcee or widower but guess what i found a songle handsome wonderful man and I not only have a husband but almost 2 kids, so please do not write anybody off, you d not know the story God has written for them. Right now I can feel the relief and happiness she must feel after such heartbreak, celebrate with her orlet her be, let her handle her pre marital sex issue with God, but dont take away her Joy with such negativity. Gods ways are not our ways.

Trust me I am not judging her. I am only being concerned about her.

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debrief08: Nous, I usually do not get personal on nairaland but you are a very wicked judgemental soul for making that horrible statement. Who told you she cant get a husband are you God to pass such horrific judgement? A family lost a son and God gavce them a gift to wipe the tears away see how your evil mind has turned a blessing into a shame. God forgive you and forgive me too for getting so angry with s stranger

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while I rejoice with her, if she had abstained from premarital sex, she would not have to worry about the issue of getting a husband after one. we cant deny that the single mother stigma will be there in the area of getting a husband.
Lesson: Abstain from premarital sex. you are not married until you are married. anything can happen, even on the wedding morning.
I wish you God's strength in raising the child.

if it deloitte be ready to wait for long. Those people can give somebody high blood. It took me long to get to the recruitment stage i am now. I am even better, someone started the journey last march another last august and they just got called for the second interview. Some are lucky though, i know someone that started Jan this year and anoda this month and we are all at the same stage. I think it is prayer and their need that determines the pace of the recruitment. I pray I get the job. Amen.

it is not usually stated on the certificate that you took the course online. You may only be questioned about the length, then you explain that it was by distance learning (not necessary stating that it is online). I want to believe that some employers may want to discriminate if they know that the degree was acquired via distance learning. But if you work hard and smart and if you are able to prove your worth, you would be able to get any job or promotion you desire.

just got mine, i had 64

abeg when did you get the text message? I have not recieved mine.

it happens oh. When my aunty's husband died(2006) she was willed to her husband's brother.
It also happened to my grandmother. I even heard it happened in the Bible(Tamar).
No be today, e don tey wey women don dey suffer in the name of culture.
I hate african cultures. They are suppressive and meant to enrich some lazy and greedy thieves called elders.
Mtcheew

I am busy making real money selling valentine gifts in my pop's pharmacy.
Also trending is the purchase of condoms and birth control pills. In the next few days and weeks, what will be trending is the purchase of pregnancy test strips and STD drugs(unfortunately we dont sell abortion pills).
Happy valentine!

I love christmas and valentines for the fun in the air and the boom I get from selling seasonal gifts.

source: daily champion and vanguard.
THE General Overseer of Elshaddai
Foundation Ministry at Oke Ira area of Ogba,
Lagos, Pastor Tom Joseph, is now under
interrogation at the State Criminal
Investigations Department (SCID) Panti over
alleged murder of a six year old baby with
olive oil.
Trouble started when the wife of Elder
Friday Duff, an elder in the Apostolic Church
Iyaje Abatan, Ogba district took the little girl
for deliverance in the church with the
knowledge of the father.
She said she went for family planning so as
to focus on the upbringing of her other
children but she did all these without the
consent of her husband.
According to her she went for medical
attention from a nurse said to work in a
government hospital.
The woman said she parted with an
undisclosed sum of money to the nurse who
administered some injections on her to
make her unproductive, as she demanded.
According to her since she took the
injection she has never been her normal self
again due to excessive bleeding.
She said she became very weak and hardly
does she walk a distance or do any tedious
job.
Sensing trouble they had on a particular day
went to church for prayers in their church
due to the severity of the bleeding she called
her husband aside and narrated her story
and pleaded that he should put her in his
prayers.
To the greatest amazement of the husband
who became furious and decided to table
the matter right there in the church before
their women leader.
She was scolded but a particular woman in
the church who was listening to the
conversation called her aside and advised
her that she knows a nurse who can solve
her problem.
Mrs Duff, like a drowning man in search of
help, opted to the woman’s advise and they
exchanged telephone numbers. A day was
set aside and a point of meeting fixed. The
strange woman in the church rather than
taking her to the nurse as agreed changed
gear and suggested to her that there was a
very powerful man of God who can
terminate the flow of blood within a twinkle
of an eye.
The man of God lives in an uncompleted
building where he used a small space
outside the building made with canopy as
his church.
Mrs. Duff said she told him of her problem
which he dismissed with a wave of hand as
a very minor issue and assured her to
consider it as a forgotten matter. The pastor
insisted that she must pay a token of
N38,000 which was later reduced to
N25,000 and the woman paid instantly and
a date was fixed for the deliverance.
According to her, on that faithful day,
January 17, 2012, the husband a staff of
Unilever Warehouse at Abule Egba left to his
working place as he was not notified by
wife.
Daily Champion gathered that immediately
he left, the wife also set out with her five
children to the pastor’s house for the
deliverance.
They reached the church between 8 and 9
am and the deliverance commenced at the
makeshift church.
Pastor Joseph was said to have
demonstrated that he had gone into the
spirit realm and God revealed to him that
her children were being caged by satanic
powers and they needed deliverance.
The man of God was alleged to have
brought out a battle of olive oil where he
poured into another bottle and gave two of
the children to drink. Before this, the man of
‘god’ had warned them that the children
would vomit and defecate regularly after
taking the oil.
The mother said as soon as they drank the
oil, their eyes turned as though, they were
intoxicated. They rolled on the floor as
though they were in a trance and fell into
deep sleep. The nine year old son, Joshua
was able to wake up at about 2pm but
Victoria failed to wake up as soon as
possible.
When the mother noticed that there was
danger she became worried but the pastor
allayed her fears and assured that all was
well. The mother insisted that he should
make the child to wake up without his
response. Her persistence compelled the
pastor to purchase a bottle of soft drink for
her.
The mother said she demanded for palm oil
for the child to drink apparently to
neutralize the efficacy of what was given to
her by the pastor but the pastor replied that
he had no oil.
However, Joshua, the only son, who survived
the storm said the substance that was given
to them was very harsh adding that the olive
oil where they were given was poured into
another bottle with a black substance.
‘I tasted it small and he warned me to drink
it at once or it will burn my mouth I drank it
slowly but Victoria poured everything at
once into her mouth. I prayed before I
drank slowly but Victoria poured everything
at once into her mouth and I prayed before
I drank it. There is one prayer we used to
say in our church I said the prayer before I
drank it’. Joshua said.
Mrs Duff further narrated that when it
became obvious that there was danger the
Pastor then suggested that the child should
be taken to another nearby place of worship
to save the child which they did.
She said another round of prayer was made
’they asked me to buy another Olive oil I
bought it and they turned it round on her
head and the bottle was thrown outside but
the bottle failed to break as envisaged
signifying that there was danger. I noticed
that the woman shook her head with
displeasure I then knew something serious
has befell me’ she said
According to her, the woman in the second
church where they were transferred to then
advised them to take the child to a nurse
living nearby.
At this time, it was about 3am the following
day and the father who had no idea of
where the wife went to had embarked on a
search for them since he returned from
work 5pm the previous day.
He felt her family had either been kidnapped
or something bad had happened to them
since they could not communicate as the
wife’s telephone was faulty. At about 3am
mother of the child and the Pastor had in an
effort to save her life took her to Urban
hospital located at Ogba and the child was
confirmed dead.
They took the child to the father who was
already filled with anger and fear on the fate
of his family.
According to Elder Duff ‘’At about 5am he
heard a knock on the door and his first child
asked him to open the door and behold he
saw a man standing with a baby on his
neck.
‘This is a man that I had known for years
when I was working as a driver, he was a
mechanic and I had to connect him to be
repairing my employers car, once he saw me
he called my name and asked me is this your
house and are these your children? I replied
yes by then I never knew the child he was
carrying was my daughter I ushered into my
house. He started talking and he mentioned
that my daughter was dead.
There I asked where she was and suddenly
it occurred to me that the child he was
carrying was my daughter. I went for a
matchet to cut him into pieces I called
neighbours who came out and he repeated
his story. That was how I asked him to carry
my daughter and we headed to the Area ‘G’
police station Ogba where he was arrested
and detained’. The father narrated.
The pastor we gathered had since been
transferred to the Homicide department of
the State Criminal Investigations Department
(SCID) Panti for discreet investigations while
the corpse had been deposited at the Isolo
General hospital mortuary for
autopsy.Meanwhile, father of the deceased
has demanded for justice to avert a similar
occurrence in the future.

WE also want to live big after seeing
other young boys that are not even our
age group living in affluence, riding
good and exotic cars, living in good
houses and enjoying the good things of
life”.
“These were the words of Samuel
Olatunji, paraded by the police
authorities, last week, in Akure, the Ondo
State capital, for the ritual killing of a 25-
year old, Adeoye Dovo, a hunchback.
Adeoye was an SSS3 student in a private
school and lived with his parents at
Bashorun Quarters at Ago-Alaye area in
Odigbo local government area of the
state.“The suspects-three of them -
wanted to get rich by all means, they
were ready to kill to achieve this
purpose.“Olatunji said they wanted to
enjoy the good things of life after seeing
their mates who come from the cities
during festivities to the village with big
cars and beautiful girls.“So they
approached a herbalist, Oluwatosin
Elebile for money ritual.
“The herbalist, who is equally in police
net, was said to have told them to look
for a hunchback with a condition that
the position of the victim’s deformity
should be in the chest.“It was not
difficult for the suspects to zero-in on a
victim. They immediately set in motion
plans to get the victim; they resolved that
a beautiful girl would do the magic. And
it actually did as the deceased fell for the
bait without any inkling that he was
being lured to the slaughter house.
“Because of his deformity, Adeoye had
very few friends and was not the toast
of girls in Ago-Alaye. So when he was
approached by a beautiful lady who
later spent the night with him, he saw it
as a life time opportunity but not
knowing that death was lurking around.
He was ambushed by members of the
group who strangled him and then took
his body into the deep forest for the
operation to remove his hunchback for
the money rituals.
“The death of the Adeoye led to violent
reaction from youths in the community
who set ablaze vehicles and houses of
the suspected ritualists.“Parading the
suspects – Olatunji and the harbalist
Ondo State police commissioner, Sani
Mogaji, said Olatunji had confessed to
the ritual killing.“The commissioner said
that the father of the victim reported
that his son was kidnapped and that,
during interrogation, it was discovered
that the abduction was carried out by
the Olatunji group.
The two other suspects, Dayo and Holo,
are on the run.“Giving more insight into
the murder, Olatunji said Dayo, Holo and
himself committed the crime in the
forest of Oniparaga.
“We contacted a herbalist on how to
make fast money and he assured us
that if we could bring hunchback for the
rituals, we would become rich. We
immediately swung into action by
employing a lady to lure Adeoye to the
bush and we killed him before removing
the hunchback”, the suspect said.““We
kept the hunch back in a plastic and hid
it in the bush but the police traced us.
I was apprehended while others ran
away. Before we got to where we kept
the hunch, they had taken it away; I
suspect my friends took it away in order
not to leave any trace.”“The police chief
said that detectives discovered the
corpse of the victim in the forest with
the hunchback ”neatly” removed and the
rest of the body covered with
clothes.“Mogaji added that the killing
was in connivance with the herbalist.
“He pointed out that the corpse was
removed and deposited at a private
hospital mortuary in Ore.“But the
herbalist denied asking the suspects to
kill the victim.
He, however, agreed that they consulted
him on some issues. “Speaking with
Sunday Vanguard, the mother of the
deceased, Mrs Lydia Dovo, said his son
was very brilliant and that he was the
only son of her six children.“Lydia
pointed out: “I went through series of
ordeals to bring him up; he only started
walking when he attained the age of
12”.“She called on security operatives in
the state to bring to book those behind
the murder of his son.“

some people fight for food at funerals. I am just wondering should we even eat at funerals /especially below 50funerals/ not to talk of struggling for food. If you are truly morning a departed soul food should be the last thing on your mind.

He is no more in Private uni naaaa, he isn't
ready for the real world. . . . If u no read, u
go FAIL!!!!!
@kpolli: I dont remember writing anywhere that he attended a private university. He went to a polytechnic and graduated with a distinction before proceeding to the university through direct entry. He graduated as the best student in his department.
He reads to a point that almost affects our relationship.
I am sure you are one of those people who beef private university graduate not because you dont wish to attend a private university but because you cant afford it even in your dream. My word to you today: dont worry, God will provide, ie go beta.

@ every other person: thank you for your advice. He is begining to brighten up.

my very brilliant boyfriend (first class) just failed a professional exam. He is totally shattered now cos he wasnt expecting to fail. As a matter of fact we were expecting him to win a prize as usual (he always wins academic prizes).
He is also sad that he is a disappointment to those who look up to him.
He has refused to contest the result maybe due to fear of victimization.
How do I comfort him and tell him to throw this experience into the past?
I want my baby back!

my very brilliant boyfriend (first class) just failed a professional exam. He is totally shattered now cos he wasnt expecting to fail. As a matter of fact we were expecting him to win a prize as usual (he always wins academic prizes).
He is also sad that he is a disappointment to those who look up to him.
He has refused to contest the result maybe due to fear of victimization.
How do I comfort him and tell him to throw this experience into the past?
I want my baby back!