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lexy2014:
all the men she has been meeting, are they paupers?

simple yes or no

The question you asked seems somewhat irrelevant to the subject at hand so I'm honestly at a loss on how to respond to you. Also, I'm sorry I don't do "yes or no" answers cos I find them too intellectually limiting to be meaningful.

Restating my earlier point for clarity - while financial status is very very important, it clearly isn't the only factor a wise person should be considering when choosing a spouse.

Except there's a deeper message behind your question which I'm missing, do you mind elaborating?

yetunsbay:
then what's the problem?

So the only thing you check before marrying a person is whether they have money or not? No compatibility checks, no mutual respect checks, no character or personality checks, no behavioral checks, no friendship or love checks, no family background checks etc. You just expect people to consider only finance before jumping to marriage?

I don't understand your question; or are you being sarcastic?

yinkeys:
Leech ?
Lol there are many competent & confident men in Nigeria without network
Nigeria is a large population with meagre opportunities
Nigeria isn’t industrializing
Even Microsoft couldn’t cope in our harsh economy & packed up
Good luck to her

Yeah agreed - Nigeria's economy is not good, but for a better chance at a stable and happy home, what she needs is to be with an independent, financially stable and confident man; anything else increases the chances of a failed relationship.

MoneyMan5:
She is the one to blame if she want to follow some rules or conception

Life is more complicated than you all assume, who says you have to do things certain way or follow certain rules.

I'm sure with her capabilities she can easily get a well educated, cool headed gentleman that will be loyal to her , have considerable success that won't make her shameful even if he's not on the same financial standard as her and her family if she supports him many people won't even know who is richer between them.

I'm sure she is the problem herself.

Look at this Japanese princess that gave up her right and position in the royal family to married a commoner in Japan. Do you know what the Japanese royal family is ? Who is the Otedola compare to Japan Emperor? I'm it can never happen in Nigeria.

I didn't explicitly say marriages between rich or royal females and less well-to-do males don't work, some actually do. But they require an extremely high degree of emotional intelligence, open communication and secure self-identity from both partners for them to work.

Forget the Nollywood shenanigans, a woman marrying a man she's 100 times richer than comes with an imbalance which quite often erodes the man's self-confidence and ego, which will eventually lead to problems (if not now but later).

For a better chance at things working out, the man doesn't necessarily have to be as rich as her or her family, but he needs a certain level of financial stability and independence to be able to assert his confidence and leadership.

sweetkev:
Status is meaningless in marriage. As a lady, if you are more concerned about your status, don't get married.

Status is an extremely important factor for a marriage to work; forget the stories you see on nollywood.

The natural order of things is for the man to be the 'leader' and 'provider' in the home. That's the reason a man could easily pick up a girl from a dumpsite, clean her up, marry her and the marriage would work out just fine. But the moment you turn things around, i.e. a woman marrying a man she's 100 times richer than, it creates an imbalance from the natural order of things which usually rocks the foundation of the relationship.

No matter how respectful or well mannered the woman is, the status imbalance at some point would crush the man's self esteem, confidence and ego, and women naturally don't fancy for long, men who lack confidence to lead them.

lexy2014:
all the men she has been meeting, are they paupers?

So because a person isn't a pauper, she should automatically jump and marry the person without considering other factors?

yinkeys:
Looks like people close to her aren’t even telling her the brutal truth
So she can’t help someone level up through her old man ?
Lol she go tey
Guys already made may not want her, maybe she’s looking for those dudes with ultra high status
She’s not as attractive as her sister that’s with Eazi
Let’s not even talk about character because we don’t know her
The smart thing she did was to lose weight, she used to be bigger
That ego will still diminish as the clock ticks
Tbh marriage isn’t for everyone, better to be single than rushed into mistakes, although eggs die off quickly
She should act fast if she wants kids

I don't think there's anything wrong with her wanting a man who's financially capable, independent and confident; someone who she or her loved ones wouldn't dare to view as a leech. There's nothing wrong with her wanting a man whose confidence and ego wouldn't be bruised by her status. And trust me when I say it takes a very rare and extreeeeme level of emotional intelligence for a man's self-esteem /confidence not to be impacted by the status imbalance.

Women find it hard to love men who aren't confident enough to 'lead' them, so regardless of her financial status, getting a financially stable and independent man is the best chance she has at having a stable and happy home.

Blitzking:
Would have married cuppy but ppl go think say na becos of her money..I wonder how many guys think like that

Even if you're worth N10bn, if you marry Cuppy, the world would unfortunately still think you married her cos of her money. It's next to impossible to stave off these assumptions from the minds of people.

Babangidapikin:
I agree but she has been brought up in love all her life she needs to consider the love capital too not just the financial capital, I believe she has more than enough to sustain her earthly existence.

Of course love is important, but love isn't always enough for a marriage to work. A man can marry a woman who has nothing and the marriage works just fine cos that model follows the natural order of things; however, when you flip the table around, the financial imbalance quite often leads to marital issues, regardless of how good mannered the woman is (the problem usually stems from the mans ego and self confidence).

Yes she may have absolutely no money problems and can literally afford whatever she dreams of, but it's also vital that she settles with a man who's confident, independent and financially capable..

Babangidapikin:
Her cook his one handsome man... If it's all about love , I think he's good enough for her. But she wants a Financial guy ...

A woman of her status doesnt just need 'any' kind of man. The man has to be at a certain independent financial level, else there'd be an imbalance which could rock the foundation of the relationship.

CreativeOrbit:
Don’t patronize me with that lazy “read again” nonsense. I read it just fine the first time—and what’s actually contradicting here is your ability to process what was said.

The man’s point was that governors and lawmakers are endorsing the president because he’s funneled more money their way—not because of national progress, not because of any transformative leadership, but because their pockets are heavier. That’s not a justification—it’s an indictment.

So when I call that out as corruption, not merit, you say I’m contradicting him? No—I’m exposing him. You’re just too comfortable with mediocrity and greed masquerading as governance to admit it.

Here’s the bottom line: if a president needs to grease the hands of governors and lawmakers with outrageous allocations just to earn their endorsement, that’s not democracy—that’s organized looting. And if you’re defending that, then don’t pretend you care about Nigeria. You're just defending a feeding trough because your favorite pigs are the ones eating.

Now go read that again—slowly this time.

The reason you were asked to read the statement again is because the person you quoted never claimed it was a JUSTIFICATION, and neither did they suggest the actions were RIGHT. They simply pointed out the obvious (albeit selfish) reason why politicians were endorsing the president.

seunjungle1:
What I don't understand is how some people believed that Peter Obi is different from other bad politicians.

If he wasn't different, all of you wouldnt have been crazily obsessed about him.

Someone who in your words took "a distant third" in the election, yet the presidency can't stop talking about him, the rest of the opposition cant stop talking about him, the media can't stop talking about him. If you check topics and social media trends, his name trends even more than the president cos everyone seems obsessed about him. The only reason someone like him isnt president is cos Africa is a shithole continent.

9JAMac10:
you misconstrued the comment. The white cardinal will be let in with his company unlike an African cardinal . White folks got an unspoken code among them irrespective of nationality

Lol... So it's now racism? Which kind of paranoia, or should I say 'victim mentality' is this?

Meanwhile there's absolutely nothing in that video that remotely suggests Cardinal Arinze, Obi or Fayemi were barred from entering anywhere. The entire 'bouncing' narrative is just a dumb imagination of some silly bloggers cos numerous other pictures show Obi and Fayemi inside the venue behind Tinubu and other dignitaries.

9JAMac10:
Hahaha. Black man still never get self awareness even at old age. If that cardinal was white they will find a loophole to let them in. I been around whites for a long time every move is subtle and subliminal by them folks . Wake me up when they elect an African Pope

You actually think a cardinal was bounced too?

Old message but still very relevant till tomorrow. CHANGE BEGINS WITH YOU!!!

fergie001:
As announced from the balcony of St. Peter's by the Prefect pf the Apostolic Signature, Cardinal Dominique Mamberti, a 73-year-old Frenchman born in Morocco.

He is the 267th Pope and the first American to be so named. He is to be known as Pope Leo XIV. He is a member of the Order of St Augustine.

FreeStuffsNG:
He is originally from Peru. I will not be surprised if he has Italian roots like the departed Pope Francis

Congratulations to the new Pope. May God use you mightily.

So many countries mentioned here, I'm confused. I first read Frenchman, then I saw Morocco and then America was mentioned and finally Peru.

Oh lest I forget, possible Italian roots as well

benuejosh:
But what if the VDM you're all supporting actually commited a financial crime?

We like him for his boldness but, make we also the think without allow emotions cloud us. What could he have possibly done for them to arrest him?

We've not known exactly what the issue is yet.

Then why is it so difficult for those who arrested him to say so?

Over 48 hours later, and with all the backlash, why has the efcc been unable to say anything reasonable regarding why he was arrested?

Anybody with a grasp of how the system works in Nigeria, already knows this is just another case of individuals lawlessly using security forces as private thugs for hire. EFCC has probably spent the last 48 hours desperately trying to cook up a meaningful allegation to present to the public.

Kaiii.... This country is full of imbecilees.... How did some people manage to turn this into a tribal war overnight?

proff010:
Can you imagine a grown up man that can't think by himself but rely on someone's action. So because vdm mama get issue with Gtbank I should now have issue with them too. Common this is what fela called.
Fela has a name for you guysss... Zombieeeeee

Someone was arrested for complaining about erratic deductions from his mum's account. Nigerians are reacting to the injustice and intimidation by threatening to close their accounts with the bank. The only thing you could deduce from this scenario is that the people speaking up are zombies?

Who do you really think is the zombie in this case?

Kobojunkie:
You keep trying to sidestep, in vain, the fact that this is, after all, about getting paid right here on earth though. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2. Christianity is a religion where your gods-of-men get what is due them here on earth while you, their members, dream of someplace called heaven. 😂😂😂

I'm also working hard, getting paid handsomely, and living well whilst here on Earth. So why should I feel triggered by another person who's doing same just because the person bears the title of 'pastor'?

Did anyone ask you not to work hard or get paid or live a good life? If that's your case, then your ignorance is to be blamed, not the pastor.

Kobojunkie:
Ah! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

So, this money he needs to survive on earth is money for the latest jeep and the sort. Una many formats no dey disappointed! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

So after I work hard and make billions, I should ride around in a wheelbarrow cos I want to please Kobojunkie and some other inconsequential fellows who feel triggered by my existense?

Kobojunkie:
Oh, now the format is that their wages are paid here on earth, and it is no longer according to Paul who said his wages would be paid to him after he had finished his work? Finally, you all are beginning to admit, at least, that even Paul has no connection to your hogwash! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

This should be common sense! A man needs money to survive here on earth, whether he's a pastor or a devil.

Many people who are fake Christians always looking for meaningless things to deperately justify their faithlessness!

Someone said the pastor drives range rover is the reason he doesn't go to church no more as if to say the pastor was what they were going to church for.

A labourer is worthy of his wages! Why e com dey pepper people say this labourer dey chop? If e easy, run am make we see!

In the last 5 years, this dude wakes up by 4am to organise bombastic prayers for 2 hours every weekday. He's getting millions upon millions of view from all across the word on his multiple social media platforms. The revenue he gets from Youtube alone is sufficient to buy 10 of these cars each year. If e easy, run am make we see!

Oh I forgot, because he's a pastor, he should ideally be driving a tortoise car despite making legit billions from his social media platforms.

bfire:
This is very depressing to see supposed educated young men hammering, and comparing GDP of Nigeria over.

It's half baked education.

PPP is a better way to measure how a country is fearing.

California GDP is greater in numbers to that of Japan. It does not mean California is richer or better than Japan.

will continue..

If in your so-called 'educated' opinion, GDP per capita isn't a valid measure of economic performance, then please enlighten us; what do you propose as a more accurate metric for assessing Nigeria's economic woes?

Perhaps we can also assess things based on your expert opinion.

MrRichmond:
2027 is not far again.

The elites are gathering around tinubu, let's see if the masses will be dumb enough to follow them again.

The masses are forever dumb, the black man has a fundamental IQ problem! Regardless of rigging and vote buying, Tinubu will still have millions vote for and defend him beyond 2027.

emperor4love:
100 or 200 dolls fr verification fee, this one na final scraping the wan run ppl

The people dey very heartless. After pocketing over a trillion, dem still wan suck $100 and $200 from the grieving losers.

Kalukalu don cast!

Congratulations to the winners!

Sympathy to the losers -- Better luck next time!

Same pattern, different seasons!

ObosiLandlord:
If you truly have a common sense, you will know am only calling out a hypocrite who was silent because his children got employed in the CBN and NNPCL under Buhari.

Nigeria is currently grappling with a severe debt crisis, thanks to Buhari's reckless borrowing. But in less than 2 (out of a likely 8 ) years, the current regime has pushed us deeper into the abyss, racking up an additional $9.45 billion (~N13 trillion) in loans, while everyone with a voice has remained silent. Now that someone has finally dared to raise a legitimate alarm on how most of these loans are squandered on frivolous and dubious expenses, your best line of response is to focus on the character of the messenger? A matter of national urgency, and you're only concerned with attacking the individual raising the concern. And yet, you think I'm the one lacking in wisdom?

Anyway, "Great minds discuss ideas, small minds discuss people;" so I'm not surprised at your your reaction cos it's very typical of Nigerians. We easily lose focus, veering away from pressing issues to focus on irrelevance - exactly what our plundering political elites want. Nigerians always fall into the same trap, derailing the real conversation with either tribal, religious or other irrelevant small talks. Whether some of you do this deliberately and tactfully to derail the topic or whether you innocently do it out of ignorance, I can't even tell.

Meanwhile, a simple Google search should have cleared your ignorance; the same Ndume was also the only vocal senator against the reckless borrowing under Buhari.

https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/top-news/485230-apc-senator-faults-buharis-borrowing-plan-senates-speedy-approvals.html?tztc=1
https://punchng.com/dont-spend-foreign-loans-on-salaries-overhead-ndume-tells-buhari/
https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2021/10/10/bamidele-ndume-disagree-buharis-fresh-borrowing-plans/

ObosiLandlord:
You said nothing when Buhari borrowed more than $30 billion in 8 years with very little on ground to show for it

So the best intellectual defense your brain can muster for the current regime's fiscal recklessness is that "BUHARI and his cronies, of which Tinubu and his gang were largely a part, also recklessly plundered Nigeria's economy with irresponsible borrowings and debt"?

So that’s your genius justification? A legacy of economic vandalism is now a blueprint every new regime must follow?

Just watched the full interview where Ndume knocked Tinubu on lopsided appointments, but I'm surprised no one is talking of where he also slammed the government on irresponsible borrowings.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-IR-tphOPhQ?si=mv-Rqs4EvEHI3muZ

For context:
June 2023 - $500 million - "Women programme to scale up NPWPS"
June 2023 - $800 million - "Cushion the effect of high petrol prices after fuel subsidy removal"
September 2023 - $700 million - "Adolescent Girls Initiative for Learning and Empowerment"
December 2023 - $750 million - 'Renewable Energy Scale-up."
June 2024 - $1.5 billion - "To Support Nigeria’s Reform for Economic Stabilisation to Enable transformation"
June 2024 - $750 million - "Efforts to stabilise the economy to scale up support to the poor"

$9.45 billion (about N13 trillion) loans in less than 2 years despite Nigeria being in a debt crisis, yet there's not a single tangible project anyone can point out on ground to justify this. Meanwhile some supposedly 'bright' economists claim we're on a 'right economic path!

Every sound person knows there's nothing wrong with borrowing if the borrowing is for productive reasons. However, none of the above-listed items seem to be related to infrastructure or productivity.

Tinubu and his lieutenants currently seem to be on a shopping spree using Nigeria’s credit card. But as sickening as this might be, just watch how some people, many of whom along with their families, haven’t had a decent meal in weeks, will jump in to defend fiscal irresponsibility, purely out of 'the usual' sentiments.

https://businessday.ng/news/article/tinubus-borrowed-for-ambiguous-intangible-projects-without-legislative-approval-ndume-alleges/?amp

suasmablow:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-IR-tphOPhQ?si=mv-Rqs4EvEHI3muZ

Watched the full Ndume interview where he knocked the govt on lopsided appointments, but was surprised why no one seemed to be talking of where he also slammed the government on irresponsible borrowings!

June 2023 - $500 million - "women programmes to scale up"
June 2023 - $800 million - "cushion the effect of high petrol prices after fuel subsidy removal"
September 2023 - $700 million - "The Adolescent Girls Initiative for Learning and Empowerment"
December 2023 - $750 million - 'Renewable Scale-up." Whatever that means!
June 2024 - $1.5 billion - "Enable Nigeria’s reform for economic transformation"
June 2024 - $750 million - "Efforts to stabilise the economy to scale up support to the poor"

Everyone with a good brain knows there's nothing wrong with borrowing if the borrowing is for productive reasons. However, none of the above listed items has anything to do with infrastructure or productivity, rather just frivolous proposals to loot.

Tinubu and his lieutenants are currently on a shopping spree using Nigeria’s credit card. But as sickening as this might be, just watch how some persons who neither they nor their families have had a decent meal in weeks, will jump in to defend fiscal irresponsibility purely based on tribal, political and/or religious sentiments.

Someone trying to be smart was asking what OBI would have done differently; without a doubt, OBI wouldn't be subjecting Nigeria to a deeper debt crisis by borrowing foolishly!