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I think dating is an early stage of a relationship.
Dating can involve sex too.

Guy, there's nothing you can do about the situation at the moment.
It's not her fault.

Since she fits into your model 'wife', the only thing you can do is to be patient, don't force or pressure her anymore, just remain friends.
Don't make her your priority either but remain close to her. Keep the communication open.
Let her enjoy her university life, I bet you, she'll break up with that dude someday, in a year or two.

You'll notice when she starts showing more interest in you.
If she ever tells you she has problem with the guy or they've broken up, don't wait, take advantage of the situation.

The truth is that, as she matures, she'll start thinking more about marriage and start weighing her options, which of course you are one.
If she feels she can't wait for the guy, she'll turn to you.

Be patient, at the same time, keep your eyes open for a substitute, she can't be the only girl for you.

Good luck!

Old story...

@ alh haram, where is Agbameta and Ijaw-citizen?

omenka: I feel really heart broken for the kind of negative reception this letter has received so far. The barrage of attacks obj has come under in the past 24hrs for reason of this letter only signals how fiercely nigerian state resists positive change. They have completely abandoned the substance and content of the letter and gone for the jugular of the messenger, thesame way they did Soyinka when he stood up against the overbearing attitude of the first lady.

Obj is no saint, but just like his letter warns, most of the president's actions and inactions as we speak portend grave dangers for the future of the Nigerian State. I give him credit for speaking out while his contemporaries have decided to adopt the "sidon look" approach.

May God steer this nation away from the catastrophe this seemingly drunken leader is steering her towards. The Rwanda experience would be child's play if we ever cross that line.



God bless Nigeria.

Guy shut it!

Obasanjo is a "despicable human scum, who is worse than a dog".
Who burnt down Awka?
Who leveled Odi?
Who gave 'Ghana must go' bags to the National Assembly?
Who rigged every possible election we had in this country during his regime?
Who installed GEJ forcibly on Nigerians?

Obasanjo's name is synonymous with corruption so before he could say a word, he should first submit himself to Kirikiri.

He is a devil and I hope GEJ hangs him like Kim Jong Un hanged his uncle in North Korea.

Obasanjo is just mad because he has lost influence both in the SW and the national PDP.

A control freak calling someone he installed a drug baron, didn't he know that beforehand?
He installed GEJ and now running around like a fool shouting corruption when he is corruption personified.

I hope he has easy access to rat poison, that's the easy route out for miserable idi.ots like him who are about to face the music.

I hope GEJ does the needful by putting this clown away forever (dead or alive)!

Where is Ijaw-Citizen on his likes?

Are they waiting for the next SE/SS thread?


LMAO!

great1: Simple...!!!... As corrupt as Russia is, can any of those folks mess with Putin They know the consequences... GEJ is taking his time.... I think OBJ actually used this letter to nail his own coffin... Wrong Move... at the Wrong Time... Now BBC has it in that an ex president is fighting a sitting president.... #sucks..

Obasanjo is not Putin!

olabukola: at the moment I don't think Rochas is in APC. So if this case works against the G-5 Rochas will just maintain with agipa.

Then impeachment will be the next option.

... or OBJ that burnt down Awka?

GEJ should make him an example and gain respect.

sincerenigerian: Waste of time and money by GEJ and PDP. Atiku vs Obasanjo comes to mind.........

APC is going down faster than we thought.

[quote author=Omo_Tier1]It is a FACT that Edo state is more prosperous and is developing faster than your Anambra.

Show me one place in Anambra that looks like this:[/quote]Don't be too fast!
Ring Road, Benin City is the centre of the state capital.
Post pictures that are outside the core?

I lived in Benin too like you, born liar!

The one that is of interest to me is Rochas Okorocha.
I hope APGA do go to court to remove that joke of a man.

ibsmooth: What is wrong with this PDP led government.Do you guys think Nigerians are illitrates like must of you or our sense of purpose is dead.Their thought process is either sick or dead.What happens to Isah Yuguda of Bauchi state who was elected Governor on the platform of ANPP but defected to PDP?what about MHA and Senators who cross-carpeted from other parties to PDP?please GEJ and his kitchen cabinet should either reconcile with his party men or keep quite.If you think GEJ led PDP is confused,please click like

It doesn't matter, does it?
The affected parties should have gone to court but they didn't.
That doesn't make it wrong for the PDP to reclaim their mandate.
PDP won the elections except the constitution says otherwise.

pokur: Go read the lead judgement of Amaechi v Omehia,the SC specifically says its unique n can't be cited as precedent.It's why it's not bn cited by the lawyer in this case.So,Atiku v Obj still is the prevailing law as concerns executive defection.
I just laugh at u ignorant lot dancing naked in the marketplace.Executive office holders can defect as much as they like once they've achieved office,the constitution is silent on the consequence for doing so ere Atiku v Obj.

Do you have links to the said judgments?

@ OP, I really feel for you.
Don't mind those that criticize you, they might be worse off with girls around them.

Your problem is not just sex because you can't stop having sex once you start, it's hard so you have to be realistic.
Your problem is getting your girlfriend pregnant again, so buy condoms!
Don't mind what people say, buy condoms and keep them in your room in case you fail to control your libido.

Then, on the spiritual side, you want to stop having sex which is good.
If you really want to, you have to avoid staying alone in the room just by yourselves, if you have to, keep the door open.
Try and avoid being alone with her except you guys are watching movies or something.

Like brosss said, find other activities to engage yourselves in and she will love you more for that.

Good luck!

Obasanjo is just mad he could not control GEJ.

I hope GEJ sends EFCC after Obasanjo.
Let him taste his own medicine.

@ OP, you have to wait till I come out of my friend zone.
After then, I'll give you an answer.

The only thing I know is that it sucks.

Good luck!

So this thread is still going

@ OP, we know there are virgins around.
We equally know you are still a virgin, no one doubts you.

But you have to admit like many here have said, we don't want you and your virginity. You can keep it till the end, that will be good for humanity.

So stop being harsh on people that said they don't want you and your virginity.

Guys equally prefer those you called 'left overs' because they are better, exposed, and natural.
Those 'left overs' get hitched more often than those virgins, fact!

If GEJ fails to break up this country, then he will live to regret it.
His people will never forgive him for that!

Imagine Obasanjo talking, kai!
Someone that actually institutionalized corruption in Nigeria.

SMH!

And they said it's not a coordinated attempt to give a President from a minority group no rest.

The only injustice GEJ will do to his people is not to balkanize Nigeria.

If he fails to do so, he will forever regret it.

Balkanize Nigeria now and let those corrupt people take care of themselves without giving others nightmares!

ejim blessing: My broda, thank you o

Your question has been answered severally

ejim blessing: You'd rather send a virgin girl out there to get a little wild? Which man wouldn't be happy to have a pure and unadulterated woman for keeps? Be sincere to yourself

I was sincere in what I said.
There's nothing special in being a virgin, absolutely nothing.

I'll allow a virgin girl to get a little wild, feel the world, know good and bad, gain experience on how to handle emotional stress, etc.
I don't want someone I'll be teaching stuff in order to gain the intimate satisfaction I desire, rather I'll want someone that will thrill me with things I didn't know.

Nawa oo, this virgin thing seems to be on the rise!

Who told you girls that guys like virgin girls?
I'd rather send a virgin girl out to get a little wild and get some experience before I consider dating one ever again.

Guidette: Yeah I get the whole sex thing. Its not that important to me anyways.
I think the only way me and a guy can co-exist perfectly is if he is faithful, not a sexaholic (very important!), respects me as much as I respect him and fears God. These criteria are necessary, after that hopefully everything falls into place.
Plus, I know I am pretty. I just laugh when I see people abuse my looks just because they disagree with me. Very low

The boldfaced caught my attention.

How do you define sexaholic because it is very subjective?
5 times a day, once a day, once a week or once a month?

This is a common mistake girls make, if a guy is not so much interested in sex with his partner, it is either he is a chronic wan.ker or has someone else or probably has some yet unidentified problems.

Your own definition of 'sexaholic' should not be the determining factor else you are trying to be domineering.
Again, if you don't have the stamina and desire to satisfy your 'good' partners sexual needs, then don't we shocked when you hear rumours and don't get angry.
It's bound to happen and it's only true when he is caught.

This is one of the reasons we don't want any political parties with Yoruba signature near the East.

It's not about hatred of Yorubas but how they do their politics.

To them, politics is a do or die affair. Very violent with incessant demonstrations, riots, thuggery, destruction of public properties, political jabs and counter punches, heated atmosphere, assassinations etc.

We are laid back when it comes to politics and Yoruba kind of politics does not interest us.

Akwa Ibom had a little taste of APC. Rivers State's own will be deadly if unchecked!

Easterners, be warned!

ochejoseph: We should not be fighting each other , the simple question we must ask OURSELVES is

1. Did these sites mentioned in the article cross check their facts before publishing?

2. When they realized what they published was not true, did they make any effort to correct the error ?

3. Is there consistency of attempts to constantly peddle lies?

if we can do justice to these simple questions then we will be able to know media houses that are misleading us and media platforms that we can rely on

GOD BLESS NIGERIA

@ the boldfaced.
Yes there is consistency of attempts to constantly peddle lies.
Why wouldn't it work?
It worked before in Western Nigeria, why not now?

The first attempt of any would be Yoruba leader is to take hold of the media, tell lies to those 'sophisticatedly' gullible folks in the SW and they'll be on their knees worshiping you.

Awolowo did it. He screamed on every possible media he had control of about free education while the supposed pupils were studying under trees with no slates, no books, no crayons, no pencils, no uniforms and in their panties. The biggest sham in Nigerian history!

While this was going on, he was busy buying up Nigeria/Multinational companies with Yoruba money for himself.
Had anyone ever asked why he was the richest among his peers?

That's the template Tinubu and Fashola are using.

odua boy: This got my attention....why would reno omokri compare a gossip website with a news platform in terms of viewership...how many nigerian youths are even interested in the politics of their country... all they want to know is the latest car davido is driving,or the newest girl wizkid is dating....they dont care if stealar oduah is driving a $2m vehicle nor the president feeding on a 1 billion naira meal

So why wont sites like lindaikeji garner more traffics than online news platform.

This now brings us back to comprehension issue.
If you did not understand that the above article was about 'lies' and my post that we aren't buying those lies, then you won't know why saharareporters.com slipped from top 10 to #37.

Nigeria is more than Yorubas and other Nigerians are not as gullible as Yorubas.
So they should, maybe, start telling their lies in Yoruba language meant only for Yoruba audience.

they have adopted Goebbels' philosophy that a lie told often enough eventually comes to be accepted by the public as true.

That is the way of Yoruba people.
They live in fairytales.

Their leaders know they are the most gullible people in this whole world.
What is takes is tell lies and you are on your way to greatness in Yoruba land.

That's why a 'N1 billion/km' governor, Fashola, is the best in the world!
That's why a thief, Tinubu, is now a king.

Fortunately, Nigerians are not as gullible as Yorubas and are not buying their lies.

In 2015, they will know we aren't buying their lies.
Nigerians are more intelligent than them.

Wsdm: Jonathan with his present style truly is not banking on the masses' votes in 2015!

Who are the masses? You?