This is a very difficult situation,my brother stay with your kids,let grandma do the much she can,u also have to sacrifice something here,your wife can be coming weekends to tend to her children,cheating is not forgivable by the male folks,someday whether officially or unofficially you will end the marriage,so allow her work and build a career,so they won't say she sacrificed her whole life taking care of you and your children yet you left her with nothing,move on at your pace,if possible don't act as if u don't trust her or start questioning her too much,let go and live

You guys should build trust,let your loyalty be genuine and based on mutual respect not fear of repercussion of broken blood oaths,it is usually the girls that push for this thing but I will advise you don't give in to it,give her reasons to trust you and believe in you and let her do same,there is no blood oaths better than that

My sister, anyone who tells you they never quarreled in their marriage is a liar and if you agree to that liar then you are worse,the emphasis is how they resolve their differences,I understand you need some spark in your marriage,then bring it on,talk to your husband how you feel and two of you can bring in some excitement in your marriage,you sound as if there is a man out their making you feel caged in this marriage,but ask yourself who will marry a woman with 4 kids,once he is done with the excitement of sleeping with a beautiful woman he would walk away to the next gullible victim,then it would be too late to regret or redeem anything,simply read up how you can spice up your marriage and be committed to it, Marriage is a lifetime commitment,nobody is perfect and that includes you,you are married to a good man which is something hard to find these days

This is a topic I think the society hasn't addressed honestly,the society believes that a woman's strength is in her mouth and it is okay to abuse a man verbally while same society expects the man to walk away when provoked or abused by a woman,the society never canvasses for the woman to also walk away when provoked,so the emphasis should be No to any type of abuse,it is not okay to verbally or emotionally abuse a man or a woman,it is as damaging as physical violence,most DV stems from verbal abuses but the society is fine with a woman using her strength (her mouth) while asking the man not to use his own strength (his fists),so it now behoves on how much control the man has over his own anger, people have different temperaments,so we are waiting for the next man that will lose control of his anger to beat a woman instead of teaching and expecting both men and women not to abuse themselves in any way,it is wrong to abuse anyone in anyway whether verbally, emotionally or violence,it is not okay and should not be encouraged or excused

My brother I see you are uncomfortable with the auntie and you feel your wife is subservient to them,my advise is simple allow a level of relationship btw ur wife and her auntie,u can't tell her to stop relating with people she sees as family but stand ur ground if you confirm she is being manipulated by the auntie,for now all I see is a man who is uncomfortable with her auntie would u also be this understanding when ur wife feels uncomfortable with your own family

The punishment for kidnapping is not death by hanging by Lagos laws so that judgement will not stand the test of legal rigours but the good thing is that he will pay for his sins in some ways

My brother the truth is dt both you and your marriage is better off without the female friends do not pay attention to these SM warriors sounding tough they are d worst simps ever B4 a woman please build a friendship and love based marriage and enjoy yourself with your wife some friends are better off from afar

Your boo has close relationship with his family,if you want to keep him under your firm control,his family is your best shot,they will fight for you even in your absence,make an effort,I understand you are introvert,just .ake an effort,for many men, relationship with their family is as good as their relationship with you,ask yourself would you like your husband to treat your own family how you treat his own,you also enjoy him having a relationship with your family,so understand it is important to him,it is easy for people here to run their mouths,but it is what it is,it is a healthy thing to do,if u like ur hubby to call ur own folks 2-3 times a year like you do then do nothing abt it,but if you want him to have a real relationship with your folks then do something abt it,or would you like your in-laws not to visit your home when you marry,would you like your own folks not to visit your home because of lack of relationship with your husband,in your heart you know the right thing to do,do it

Smells like she has skeleton in her closet,y ask u to swear with d bible when she knows it is wrong,just move on and live your life and be happy, whatever makes you happy do it for you,no go die for woman matter, unfortunately she may be innocent and trying to form manipulator till d marriage fails, women shaaa

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This poster is very stupid and self righteous guy,she has done nothing to justify what you claim,you have many girlfriends and you told her meaning you want open relationship,so she is free to also have many dicks as she wants,you bleeped and it was wide maybe ur dick is small n unsatisfactory dtz y she is trying with another guy,you open an account to try her,she is not married to you or engaged so is free to mingle,she is even descent to say no privacy for the first meeting and you are here crucifying the innocent girl,you don't deserve such a good girl,you are d most stupid self absolved idiot I have heard of and the stupid people advising you without thinking, obviously your brains is just for decoration,stupid chauvinist people and for your information am also a man but I can't keep quiet when you degrade women in your stupidity

The truth is that the NO SEX thingy is making you lose sexual interest in her,am talking from experience, sexual attraction is Paramount in marriage else you will maltreat n be unfaithful to her,this is both a moral n emotional decision,but if you want this to change you have to start having sex or adequate romance with one another else you will be very unhappy in that marriage,d ball is in ur court, don't mind d moral angle many will take on this matter,it is ur life finally,you will sister-zone her in marriage,we all know d consequences,if u can't treat her well y then marry her,discuss with her how u feel but don't force her n don't let her talk u out of what you are feeling

I see early stages of vitiligo,try and see a dermatologist to see if you can arrest this situation B4 it escalates further,as per the girl,she is right B4 u complicate her life ����

A man doesn't say all he sees or experiences in his search for money,so deal with your issues and leave your wife and family out of it,this will break your wife and things may not be same again,most women can't handle such,the earlier you buckle up and leave the ugly experience behind you the better for everyone,you were desperate yes but anyone in your shoes would be too,so don't feel so dirty abt it,dtz what life threw at you,go take a bottle of cold beer n leave dt experience in the trash where it belongs and move on with your family, hopefully God will see you through soon,let love always lead

A man doesn't say all he sees or experiences in the search for money,so deal with your issues and leave your wife and family out of it,this will break your wife and things may not be same again,most women can't handle such,the earlierlier you buckle up and leave the ugly experience behind you the better for everyone,you were desperate yes but anyone in your shoes would be too,so don't feel so dirty abt it,dtz what life threw at you,go take a bottle of cold beer n leave dt experience in the trash where it belongs and move on with your family, hopefully God will see you through soon,let love always lead

You are such a lucky man,women don't love these days and you are part of the lucky few who have a woman dt loves you and you are complaining,wait till you lose her and love a woman dt doesn't love you,dtz how your type ends,if you know what is good love her back n treat her right,if it will be,it will be,if not nature has a way of doing it's thing,don't lose a good woman because you will fall for a terrible woman next and live your life in regrets, talking from experience

Meeehn,you are too observant of this woman and it is worrisome,how you are able to observe a married woman to know almost everything that happens in their marriage,anyway when a man doesn't provide,he goes through many forms of abuses in the hands of the wife,from sex deprivation, insults,disrespect etc,so this is d phase for him, ordinarily it abnormal but women know how to change every rule to favour themselves in marriages,if you can help the man get a job and see the same woman become loyal and submissive

My brother insist on what you can afford for a ceremony, women generally want elaborate weddings but at what cost?after that ceremony is where the real deal starts, secondly next time be sensitive,every woman wants to have a say in her marriage,so you telling her what ur mum said sounds as if you are a mummy's boy,women will resist dominance of ur family in the marriage,so next time use wisdom,it makes no sense spending dt much for a ceremony when u can use half of it to start biz for her n use half for a decent ceremony,if she wants elaborate let her fund it, insist on what you can afford comfortably if she doesn't like it,she can go n look for another moneybag to fund her fantasies, because after d wedding if you can't provide her needs u will also be called a useless man not minding you overstretched to make her happy on wedding day

Femi Adeshina,we will surely see how you end,you have put your reputation in the mud just to be loyal to a man and not loyalty to your conscience or even your country, go and see Dino and the sarakis what happened to them after they were used by your principal and dumped after they served their purposes for the MAN,I pity you honestly because the world and even ur God would reject you,keep running ur mouth d time is near and you would see how they leave you to dance alone

Nice,d dogs will be thinking you love them alot,they don't know that someday it will be their turn to be roasted by you

My brother,I want to believe she is still the same woman you married but you know pregnancy is about changes and raging hormones and it works differently for different women,all you need is to understand that she is not totally in control for what she does,if you understand this,it will help you endure this phase,some women become very weak n lazy during pregnancy,some become very irritable and aggressive, different shades for different people kinda thing,so calm down, understand,pray,love and support ur wife at this time,dtz y marriage is for matured people,all d best

War will certainly address what is going on in the present Nigeria,this war shouldn't be between tribes or ethnic group but with d leaders of today and the masses,these leaders have enriched themselves at our expense,the person from d North is my brother,also person from d West,east and south,we are all faced with the same problem, unfortunately it is getting to that point where a revolution will solve this problem,our VP and his cohorts know what the issues are in Nigeria but instead of addressing the issues they are here making politically correct statements,let him be truthful for once

My bro,it is easy for people to advise you based on theory but in practice flee from a woman with anger issues,you will never be happy in that marriage,you,your siblings, parents, friends, children etc nobody will be spared and this her coming to apologise later is because she wants to coin you into marriage when you guys marry the apologies will become fewer,besides these apologies never compensate for what is said or done during d anger crisis,so d time to flee is now,no sentiments,some of us talk from experience not textbook theories

Maybe she has some regrets or you didn't do the act very well dt night,so what you do is ignore her,if she really wants you she will give you adequate green light,yeah I know it is not easy staying with a woman on same bed without urges coming upandan,but what choice do you have

My brother, everything you narrated shows she is interested in you,maybe her orientation is the same with you,if she initiates discussion you will feel she is desperate or she enjoys the chasing thingy,call her up,do the chasing and win her over, don't let those IGG discourage you,man up and take charge,tell her how u feel and listen to what she has to say

My dear why I don't support your husband comparing you to another woman but let's be honest,he must have said it time and again and you ignored him b4 it reached the level of that comparism,ur husband loves you dtz y he wants you to always be his dream woman,do ur marriage a favour and discipline urself and lose a lil bit of weight both for ur health and marriage,every successful marriage is always a work in progress n dt includes weight,physique etc,so if u really want your marriage to be successful be your man's dream woman, ignore the feminist here ranting out of tune,those ones are extra loyal wives behind social media

Y should she say dt abt u to an Ex,dtz very disrespectful and it also means she is still in love and fucking d Ex and would do dt at d slightest opportunity, imagine she doesn't kiss you and you kept such a girl,a woman can open her legs for you for many reasons but if you want to know if a woman fancies you it is d kissing part,my man dump d girl immediately,don't tell her what you did,these bitches can be crazy(b4 she reports u to police) just tell her she is too ugly for you and then quote exact thing she told d boyfriend abt u

Unfortunately this is the mindset of many African women,the question is what is now the essence of feminism and their struggle for equal right with men?isn't hypocrisy?this style of men taking care of the family started when women were housewives n d men are d people that work,y do women in this era expect same trend when women work as much as the men,my brother if she is a good woman marry her and invest in her,do the much you can do and she will definitely augment the rest,this response from her is their usual template and you wonder y some men treat them like acquired properties

My brother,I understand how it can be when you love and provide for someone only to not be appreciated or regarded,but the issue is you have to live for your children,if u commit suicide or depressed d woman will tell d children you were irresponsible and they will grow to hate you even if you are dead,so what has dt achieved NOTHING,so my advice is simply get urself a girlfriend and ignore her or divorce her and hv ur peace but don't take out another person's irresponsibility on your self and punishing yourself for nothing, remember you are someone's kid and also someone's father,so deserve to live for them,hurt as much as you can but move on,such women always hit the wall and live in regrets.
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The girl is very stupid,never gave the man a chance because of what the mum must hv told her and to impress the step father,dtz how they heap curses on top of themselves n in future start looking for imaginary village people