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Please remind me again, is Port Harcourt in Sambisa?

Queengee:
Currently lives and work a 250k monthly Job in Lagos, recently I got an offer for a 500k job in portHarcourt so am still contemplating whether to accept the offer or not. I heard portHarcourt is very expensive compare to Lagos, so I don't want to make wrong decision.

References1:
https://leadership.ng/fg-condemns-attacks-on-journalists-in-gaza-calls-for-ceasefire/

As Ministers of Information representing member states of the Islamic Conference,

What does this statement mean?

Rebuker:
Hmmmm. Do people really do this? I mean, hanging oneself with a rope and your body dangling till life goes out of you.

Imagine the pain and the slow death; it definitely takes some levels of guts or some serious level of stupidity to try this, no matter what.

How can one be this wicked to himself? This level of wickedness to oneself is more wicked than whatever experience might have ever promoted the idea.

I seriously doubt the man did this to himself, unfortunately no one will invistigate anything 😔😔😔😔

Flesh and blood did not reveal this to u bro.

EreluRoz:
Then be ready to accept the biased choice of Nigerians since you have no problems in recycling and repackaging these same people. Like I said what made you believe your choice would have been better? Argue without emotions, I'm too old for banters

Now here is an argument without emotion.
One of the candidates during the last election kept and keeps hammering on cutting down cost of governance and production more than consumption which we all know makes a lot of sense if tried out.
Instead what we are experiencing now is all talk and no action that is relatable.

Namaster:
Dude woke up early to shove his way through the depressing Lagos traffic to hustle for money.

Girl took her time lounging and having a good night rest. She's a stay-at-home Mom that has no job other than taking the kids to school.

But somehow, the girl wakes up to a note praising her and Naira notes to pamper herself while the dude woke up to Lagos conductors raining insults on his generation.

ALSO, the dude is acting like he doesn't deserve her. He shouldn't be surprised when he finds her sucking the black dick of his jobless neighbour.

I do not think your thoughts here are correct. A sit at home wife is actually a working wife!
Here is why:
You see, if you hire a nanny, you will have to pay her.
If you call for the services of a laundry man, you pay.
If you hire a cook, you pay.
A sit at home wife does all this and more!
If you are to pay her, she will earn enough to contribute to the house hold.
Think about it.

tyup:
Tomorrow now they'd go bout insulting the SW and calling her names but will never think of going back to where they came from, they can never try such mistake.

SW have been a place of security to every region of Nigeria and we have our Yoruba people to thank for.

I don't type Rest in Peace to any dead persons cuz it's useless. they'd rather be judged according to how they live their life on Earth. Good or bad

Do you know why comments like this your own are not good?
This is actually an advise to you.
If you are enjoying relative peace wherever you find yourself, let it be your secret because the moment it becomes too loud, you lose that peace.
This to me is all political games.

BOSSkesh:
No need to shame her
Life happened to her
Circumstances change
This is what the headless mob don’t understand
No need bringing a past tweet
Life happens

There is something called consequence, if one is billed for it and you try to stop it, consequence may turn to you.
She may be facing the consequences of her careless statement.
She couldn't have changed because she is now broke. She was humbled by force!

Na wao. 3 goals and the game is still live!
I beg ref blow even though e remain 39mins

Which one is LIVE again after three goals na!
Shey de game nor go end?

Nice

It is all a game they are playing.
Dem de use Nigerians head.
The rulings right from the tribunal to the supreme Court were all scripted in my thinking.

Trust no politician!

Wisegeek01:
Heres why ladies refuse to build with guys
.. Experience ✨

and i cant blame them for that,
because this my gender, men!!
They can ghost ehh!
Today you are dating, tomorrow is saturday you see trad on their friends status😎🥂 ..

but thats not to say ladies don't ghost too oo, one of my guys they ghosted during university, fell sick for 1 month, i mean he said theres nothing he didnt do for her, even that he was repeating a year is because of her, they dated for the whole time frame in school, same set, and towards finals she was bringing invitation card, ma guy fainted, when i talked to him, he was like nwa nkwo na zu, ngbe mmiri na ezo, je ulo ogwu ( the lady i backed inside rain to the hospital ) but you see this gist, i wil gist another day.

So ladies do too, and they usually do it to someone they think is unserious about marriage, whether they love the person or not, ( i dont know if they are usually under pressure from family or peers - but this will be another topic for another day )

while the guys ghost a lady they feel dont have all the requirements, but both of them are sneaky and using the same formula, no closure, just ghosting, i will understand if theres no closure for a toxic relationship, but a relationship that had no flaws, you just wake up one morning and jump out of the molue ( i.e assuming your relationship is the bus)
Why ?
I mean thats what c0wards do

Now back to the real question, why dont ladies build with guys again ..

See let me tell you dating anyone is a 50/50 percent chance, anyone can wake up the next day and break up, or worse you wake up and find out they are getting married or married with 6 kids or any other reason (for the men), or they have a hidden child or children from different men or any other reason ( for the women )

So now for the guys,

what's to say the guy will continue to marriage stage when he has money, that he wont dump you for his dream girl, and you have to start from scratch again ..
So i never blame any lady that says they wont build with a guy, their reason is valid, but ..

For the ones who choose to build with the guy, kudos to them, but ..

While you are at that please build yourself too .. i cannot vouch for any human being or any man, build yourself in the relationship too, learn skills, get certifications, as he is growing you are growing,

If he refuses, your growth !!

omo i give you the permission to leave him, that is a very bad boy .. a narcss!st to say the least .. because if that guy eventually gets money and gets someone else, you have your years of achievements to console you, you wont be starting out again with nothing ..

Now if you decide not to build with a man, like i said, you have good reasons too, but ..

While you wait for your prince charming, please build yourself also, you cant just be dancing on social media and saying all sorts about wanting a big man or saying things like if your boyfriend is not given you 500k monthly dump him, or if his account bal is not up to 50m dump him .. what audacity for someone that has no skills, i mean they say empty barrels do what 😅

So you think a big man will just gallivant and coman carry you like that so you can be doing tiktok in his parlour .. they too know what they are looking for, and if they carry u best bet theres only one thing they need from you at that point in time ..

So build yourself while you wait for prince charming, a way of encouraging him, that ..
"see ma guy nothing loss" i gat you
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And for the guys that want to know what to be doing in relationships that they are building, maybe the lady is not supporting you or is achieving more than you -- i.e you want to know what to do, i will cover that in another post,

Now another topic that is coming is -- when to dump a guy or a lady in a relationship, i will cover these together
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You guys just follow up, give me your feedback, negative or positive, i need it to get better, at this point i drop my pen,
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my brain wan burst ..

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Ooni:
Chief of army staff- Yoruba
Inspector general of police - Yoruba
Chief Justice of the federation- Yoruba
Head Customs- Yoruba
Head immigrations- Yoruba
Accountant general of the federation- Yoruba
CBN governor- Yoruba
NIMC MD - Yoruba

Admittedly this type of tribalism has never happened before in Nigeria.

Lol. That is why it is always good to speak up when anything unfair is happening in government. When Buhari was in power and was doing his own appointment, people complained but the North thought it was their turn.
I think this guy learnt from Buhari.
We the minority tribes are watching 👀.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
That was a long & vital eyewitness account. Dis wan no be say dem say.


But i wonder why he's making it public @ this point in time?

I think its because he is old now and no longer scared of death.
It also may be because he wants to let the people know what the real issue is in nigeria. Which that we are divided because some still hate some.

Zxcvbnmghtr:
Eyah...but don't expect Nigeria to favour everybody. Some of us has a very different opinion from yours. Always have positive and optimistic line of thought.

Do u mind sharing ur thought with us? Is nigerian better at the moment? And should Nigeria be better for just a few?

Ijelenwanyioma:
You are the only one getting my point. Maybe he plan marrying someone else in the future which I won't be part of his properties again

If u go about it like that u may be wrong. What if? Now act as though u don't really care what he did and then, be straight with him. Do not act as if u are pained by it. You can even say he did the right thing and when u are ready to Acquire yours, ask him to contribute. If he is a reasonable man, he will.

Ijelenwanyioma:
But you know a million naira can't buy land in any good location. Thanks for your contribution anyway

I think u should save some more money and when u think its close enough, ask him to help out with some funds. If he is a reasonable man, he will give some money.

HanisahZuwy:
This is a laptop bag with USB port. I would like to import it, but I don't know if it'll sell here in Nigeria. What do you think? Do you think I should import it or not? What would you rather I import instead? What would you advise me to import instead? I mean a fast moving product/products. I need your opinions/suggestions please. Thanks.





I also plan adding backpack. So that it won't be only laptop bag. What do you all think?

I need quality backpack myself if u have it not all this nylon I see every where sha.

Freshtruth:
Tinubu kws this job I am an obident e go pain me if obi wins the court case we need someone with balls like tinubu not another Goodluck kind of president coming to pls d North. We need someone we guts and intelligence to rule this nation. Buhari has the guts but was not intelligent.

In Tinubu case the results is there for us to see not sweet mouth making.

You are not in any way Obidient cousin.

NOC1:
300 what, how is it possible?
First few times are rape the rest are with consent

It is not possible to be a day or week occurrence

With a minor is not considered consent.

Microwhy:
Child will only understand Father disciplinary and principles act as Father's disciplinary love if its not weaponize by the mother to use against him by brainwashing the innocent children.
Last week,I gave my wife money for our second child footware, she came back with the footwear and the boy loved it so much. He said "Mummy thank you so much" while I sit across the Dinning table.
No "Daddy thank you for giving mummy money to buy my footware" then, a thought came to mind and I silently prayed for every husling fathers all over the world.
Women should learn how to immediately tell their children that, "Oya go tell your daddy thank you, he gave me the money to buy it for you". My wife do it most time though but some women start using it against the father and as children grow older, they tend to trust, close and confide in their mum more.

Best thing is to always remind the child when he or she comes of a reasonable age that you usually give the funds for those things. When ignored, the child grows up not knowing. Speaking from experience.

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Nice2023:
Why do most govt employees end up retiring very poor and wretched.

What might have caused it?

They did not actually work while they were in office so, its more like they were getting paid for doing nothing. And you know getting free money makes one lazy. They thought the money will keep on coming until it did not.

yungzed360:
What do I do bro?

RUN!

So if he doesn't do all u are asking you will not come out for debate about? U think u are doing him but u are doing ya sef!
Scared chicken �.

Is there any race called MONKEY RACE?

What is happening here!? Is this not the party without a structure? I am confused right now cos its already looking great come February.

So there is still a treasury to be looted?

Why are they all of a sudden doing all this? Cos they want us to believe them or what? If they can install them and let them start functioning properly before December then I can start taking them seriously.
If not that they are scared of losing power now they wouldn't have gotten sense abi?

But I thought this is supposed to be anti-party?

Whatever you are doing or have done that does not affect the immediate lives of Nigerians does not make sense at this time. U can not be focusing on infrastructure and forget that people are supposed to eat. If the people all die who is going to enjoy the structures?

Infrastructure, yes, but a little bit of both to keep the people alive that's leadership.

Militant1:
I will try to be brief and straight to the point.

My wife stays up late (11pm -12 am) every blessed day.... That's the problem.

We live in Lagos and have 2kids, 3yo and 8 months. My wife was working before but left the job when she gave birth. There is a job waiting for her when the baby is 1y6mnths, therefore she is a stay at home mom.

We live on the mainland but I work on the island so I live home as early as five. In our house we have all the amenities you can think of; 24 hrs light (NEPA plus inverter), running water, gas, 2 washing machines etc to make a home 95percent comfortable but my wife can't seem to cope and it started when we had one child.

She doesn't wash my clothes, my office shirts and suits are given to dry cleaner to arrange while my other laundry I do myself every weekend with the washing machine.

When I get home by 7pm or 8, that's when she now starts rushing to bath the kids and prepare dinner, so we eat by 9 or 10. Before the kids play play and play, by 11pm we are still awake. Sometimes I go to bed by midnight and have to wake up by 4am to go to work again. It's impacting on my health and my work. She will sleep by 12 am and wake up by 8 or 9am the following day.

I have tried to beg and appeal to her. If I eat out and come home to just sleep, she go dey vex. If I just come home shower and sleep the kids who have passed their bedtime will be playing and when madam is ready to sleep they won't agree to sleep. She will beat them, guess who they will come crying to- daddy that just started sleeping and has to wake by 4am, I will now pet and pet till 2am before kids sleep.. I have advised her that kids have a bedtime(8pm). When I man up and off the tv by 9pm and tell everyone to go to bed, she says I am disrespecting her. She reports me to her mum.

Worse still our sex life is horrible... We have sex like once in 2 month.. At 35 I am in my sex prime and can Bleep everyday but she doesn't seem to care about me because she is always tired am I pity her so I don't demand sex so much.

I fully understand stay at home is not easy and I help her when.

I tried to create a schedule for her.

Wake up by 6am
By 7 she suppose don clean finish
By 8 breakfast should be ready for her, kids
9-10am bath herself and the kids
10-12 do any other stuff in the house
12-3pm rest, watch movies, chill
3-5pm... Do whatever she likes
5pm boil water and bath the kids
6pm she don bathe and bath kids
7pm... Food don done... Everything dey freezer
8pm we eat
By 9 everyone goes to bed and we knack 1hr

I throw the trash every day
Na me dey go market buy foodstuff
On weekends I clean the house
I wash my all my clothes
I provide all the finance in the house
I satisfy her on the bed when we naka. She begs me that she's tired
I buy her gifts, drop 3k for her everyday
Why should we have a house help when she is a stat at home mum (for now)

So what's the problem..


Mothers, are my demands too much?
Mothers, please when do you close your kitchen and go to bed?
Are you still awake by 11pm every blessed day.
Am I crazy?

Please advice me.

I have begged her, pleaded, shouted, done everything. Sometimes I intentionally come home late (10-11pm) thinking that the kids have gone to bed but my first child will be watching cartoon.

Please advice me. I am going crazy, Lagos is stressful

If all what u described here are true then it is true why men have shorter life expectancy than women. Bros I know its ur family but no go die young oo. Cos Las Las na ur health matter pass all the trouble. Women can claim victim wey nor make sense. Just man up!

madridguy:
Tinubu: I am not going for the presidency for boxing No be by muscle but brain.

Sickness dey affect brain too! If you are not well u can't always think straight in serious matters of state.