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If you have waited this long then just get married to someone you love and both of you start the experience together.

It is an exciting experience, most things that are new are going to feel that way. However, it is not worth going to olosho. It is not worth doing it outside marriage especially for someone who had been on the right path.

Also, the excitement usually fades after ejaculation especially for guys.

lovediehatelive:
Here's why I didn't have sex till 42 years

What made me stay without sex till 42



I was a church boy, redeemed, and my dad was a a pastor.


I was shy too and didn't start saying hi or hello to girls till I reached 23.

I was always busy with my dads building materials shop, and didn't have much 1 on 1 conversations with girls.


No girlfriend.

At 25 my friends were mocking me and wanted me to follow them to olosho house, but I was a pastor som.


Then after graduation life became tough and I still didn't have time for relationship, but I had my own apartment single room I pay rent.


Friends were trying to convince me to carry hook up come house since I now have my place.


But I wanted my first experience to be with someone I had a rapport with, even though not my girlfriend, even though I just met her and we started talking.


I didn't want it to be with someone openly selling her body to men.



So i held on and tried.

Now I'm 42, and have found a girl that we became friends at my place of work.


I'm still wondering how to go about it because I don't want to come off inexperienced or shy.

Should I forget everything and practice with a hookcusp girl or continue trying to see if I get a girl.

I'm almost 45.

E be like sey Sheriff wan use Tinubu shit take rob bodi.

Would the patient have preferred that the pharmacist announce the ARVs to everyone's hearing?

First thing I think you should do is have a heart to heart with your Dad.
1. Try to explain what your plan is to him. Give him all the details.
2. Let him know what you are currently doing to bring your plans to fruition.
3. Then ask him for the help you need to achieve your plan.

What you can add to your plan.
1. Look for software development degrees in Europe.
2. Take a look at "42".
3. Consider doing that business from your present location.

relaxfun:
A little back
story.

Due to some ugly circumstances, i dropped out of school in 2019 and I've been at home since then, periodically picking up one or two low paying jobs. 2 years ago, I decided to learning a tech skill. I taught myself C++ programming language and I'm currently teaching myself mathematics aggressively, studying for min of 8 hours daily.

For the past two years, I've mostly always been in my room, I can be in our house for more than two weeks, without stepping a foot out of our door due to how engrossed in studying I always am. My goal is to learn C++, DSA , And Math to an undergraduate level then use my skills to apply for scholarships to study abroad, and probably work in a hedge fund company as a quantitative trader in the future. For those who know what leetcode is, i can currently solve most leetcode (hard) problems in less than 40 minutes.

Now, I'll be 24 in August, and my dad is worried that I'm wasting my life away because I've refused to pickup any real job or learn a trade, his worried that I'm already getting old, always reminding me that people my age are already getting married. Now he wants me to leave his house to go look for my own place to stay, and has offered me 7 million naira to go start life else where.

Now I plan to move out of Lagos to PH or Akwa Ibom, then use part of the money to start up a computer business center, where I'll be doing typing, printing, lamination, jamb registration, GCE/WAEC registrations, etc. One of the reasons I chose this is because I've worked in a place like this before and I have experience in how to run such a place. Another reason is that, this business would give me time to also study and sharpen my Math/Programming skills. I plan to rent a shop that is big enough so that I can also be sleeping/living there.

Now I seriously need advicing because this is such a turning point in my life and the next few years is going to make or break me because there is no room for any disastrous bad decision

Good day Chief,
Please let us know how far your application for the job seeker visa to Portugal has gone.
Any updates?

Thank you.

c00la:
As far as I know, authentication is required in every Embassy.

Here is my logic...
You want to get a job in PT
hence... you want to go to PT on a job-seeker visa
hence... you will need to SHOW your qualifications for the job
hence... you will need to SUBMIT your job qualifications in your visa application
To avoid your Visa application being rejected, you need to authenticate your certificate(s) at Ministry of Foreign Affairs (MoFA) in Abuja.
At MoFA, if the certificate/credential is related to education (WAEC,NECO, BSC, etc.) they will insist you first go to the Ministry of Education (MoE) to get it authenticated.

Hence,
start at MoE and get the educational certificates authenticated (it will take a day)
then move to MoFA and get the certificates and all others authenticated (another day)

Basically, you pay the FGN/Ministry for each certificate via Remita, then submit copies of the receipt (always two copies) for the certificate authentication. If you have access to a scanner, and can pay through Remita, you can do the groundwork for both MoE and MoFA by yourself and then go and submit. With what I know now, I can do both in 1 day.

There are certain issues you will face but with patience, and money, you will overcome.

What I authenticated in MoE
1. University Certificate
2. WAEC Results

What I authenticated in MoFA
1. University Certificate
2. University Certificate Copy (authenticated)
3. WAEC Results
4. WAEC Results Copy (Authenticated)
5. Court Marriage Certificate
6. Church Marriage Certificate
7. Employment Letter
8. Regularisation Letter
9. Promotion Letter 1
10. Promotion Letter 2
11. Declaration of Age (They said this is not ideal, they prefer Attestation of Age from Nigeria Population Commission if you don't have a birth certificate)

What I have to authenticate later just before submitting my Visa Application (at MoFA)
1. Police Character Certificate
2. Attestation of Age
3. Scanned Bio page of my International Passport

All these for me and the same documents for my wife since we are both applying for the job-seeker visa. For kids, the Birth Certificate.

I hope the road blocks on that road will be exempt from Roger!!!

The most appalling part of this disorder is that the check points are most times less than 500meters apart.

From one check point, you can see the next one. It makes me wonder what the first check point can possibly miss that the next is needed to discover.

On Tuesday evening by 7pm there were 2 check points at the Onitsha end of the Niger River Head bridge and then another 3 (two military and one police check point) immediately after the bridge.

This resulted in an hour delay just to cross the bridge.

you can buy your car directly from auctionexport on your own.
register.
choose a car of your choice.
pay for it (you will billed for the car and for shipping to Nigeria).
when it arrives Nigeria, you clear it from the ports.
number your car.
start to enjoy it.

Try not to buy a car that is more than 6 years old.
You can shop for a car directly from auction export by yourself and cut off some of the cost and thereby get a good car of your choice for the same amount of money.

atiku4President:
Who is this one working for? Abi, him dey join to mock Tinubu too?

It is the biggest sarcasm.

Well done,
Walk in God's light.
Keep your head down.
No look woman.

Mr. Allen's statement is a clear indication of how far removed from the reality of life in Nigeria the elites (Entrepreneurs enjoying government patronage, politicians and their ilks) are.

He isn't aware of the true state of things.

A call to eat soft food - the stronger the eba doesn't mean the fuller you will feel.

Drink a lot of water throughout the day, not just at meal times.

Eat fruits regularly, not only when you see your favorite fruit.

Eat vegetables - let it be a part of most of your meals.

Eat moderate sizes, your body doesn't need all you are losing into it. What it doesn't need will be passed out as stool.

GAZZUZZ:
Natural Gas deployed


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHbCRB1fts0?si=BrziOLIZvVGpVx4z

Well done chief!
Is there any chance we could get a breakdown of the cost to do this retrofit at current prices of course?

Also, do you have a partner in the south south, like in Delta state?

Thank you!

Doraehi:
Hello everybody. Recently I've been so confused especially because of my academics.

Last year, after completing WAEC and NECO, my mom and I were talking about schooling abroad and we decided that I should make some research with my phone. This research started November 2023. After making my research for about 2 months, to understand the educational system in some countries like US, UK, Canada, the Caribbean and Australia, I finally came to a conclusion in January that I wanted to school in Canada so I did further research on Canadian Universities and finally decided and picked University of Manitoba. And then did further research on how to get a Canadian Study permit. (After going through alot of things I saw on the IRCC website, I finally understood, at least to an extent).

So I discussed with my parents about everything and what the whole process entails: from gaining admission into a DLI and applying for the Study permit, I told them the tuition was about $23,000 estimate and that I needed at least $20,630 as proof of funds. And after hearing that, they said it was ALOT of money. My dad told me to calculate everything I needed to get there and get back to him. After doing the whole calculation with my mom, I concluded that 60M Naira would be enough for the tuition and other fees, POF, accomodation, flight and others. Meanwhile, I had already submitted my application (did it myself), it was just my application fee left. We didn't want to pay the $120 application fee yet until we were sure that we would do the whole process.

I discussed with my parents and they said it was alot but they could try to get it. I honestly believe that studying abroad is not a do or die affair but is there any harm in trying? We could try, maybe it would turn out to be one of the best decisions for me and my family. If not, I already have back-up plans (I registered for JAMB) Other than that, my parents have always wanted to sponsor me to a school overseas (I'm the first child so yeah they've always wanted it).

They could get the money but I wanted to apply for September intake 2024 (because it's obviously the best intake) and I think it's a very short time interval because I should have drawn a study plan at least 2 years before I wanted to leave. I feel like if I rush things, my visa could get denied and it would just be a wastage of time and money.

I'm just 16 years old, I'll be 17 by 16th of June, 2024. And I don't really want to waste time in my education because the clock is ticking. So I don't know, should I just wait till next year, September 2025 or do you think I should go ahead with the process this year. I need honest opinions because it would be really useful. Alot of you are pretty much experienced than I and my parents are, so your advice would be really helpful.

Also, if you know any way I could be able to get proof of funds and tuition (it could be through a loan) and get visa approval, please share.

Well done.
You are on the right track with your ambitions.

For an undergraduate degree, you will need to show first year tuition and funds to cover your living as well as show that you will be able to cover same for the subsequent years of your studies.

While looking at canada, you should also look to the US, and Europe.

Europe without any doubt would be over 50% cheaper. When you are done there you can then move to US, CANADA, AUSTRALIA or the likes for a masters and possibly to live.

My small bit.

Is the platform opening now?

Rating:
50-50 is a good percentage.

I'd say though that if you believe in your earning capacity, you can use the loan to apply and get into the country, settle down, and then pay it back quick enough (so you can minimize your financial exposure in a foreign country). Hopefully, the early repayment won't attract premium charges.

Being able to settle down and not worry about funds to pay school fees in the first year is crucial to overall success.

That way you will be able to look out for the best opportunities without the added pressure of fees.

damosade:
Bro, my total loan was approved but I will suggest you don't use total mpower loan for visa application, if u can have a personal funding add it to it so that it will show on your I20

I am planning to do about 50% loan and 50% my savings.
Do you think that's okay?
Kindly suggest a percentage that you think is best.

Thanks so much boss!

saintsylve:
Thank you boss, i hope they backdate these daily courses which we are not able to take.

As it is now, the programme is yet to kick off an.
I have tried again today and still unable to login.

saintsylve:
I am not on any group too. just want to know if this issue us peculiar or general

It is general.
The organizers sent a message to say that they are try to fix the issues with the platform.

EseOkuk2021:
I'm not sure these guys have a QA engineer on their team. This is the first time I'll try using a website and I'm getting multiple errors every time I try logging in.
Hope they are not scamming us already, this is Nigeria as anything is possible.

We have been scammed already!
The funding for this programme has been approved and spent.

Agbaragba:
This is completely unfair, why on earth will anybody do this.
Why will you kickstart a programm without a proper infrastructural checks. This is so Sad and deceptive.
We didn't request for this. You sat there and deem it fit to execute this, now you have brought people together and left them stranded and confused without a word to pacify and give them sense of direction. This is the hieght of it! It is not done anywhere.
You rather do not start it...

I will not be surprised to hear that this programme is already running into hundreds of millions of Naira at this point and will top out into some billions by the time they are done.

Good morning chiefs.
1. Please, what percentage of your Tuition and Living expenses for your programme did you apply for as a loan from MPOWER?

2. Did MPOWER approve the total amount you asked for?

3. Should one show financial capability to meet more than the remaining amount needed or just enough to add to the loan? I mean if I need $45000 total and I can fund $25000 myself, should I state just what I can cater for or a little more like $28000 - $30000?

Thank you so much for your anticipated responses.

Tochskings:
Pls do VO do approve visa with mpower loan ,
I just got admission in University of Calgary and I have 4days left to accept the offer, accepting the offer mean me paying $500 which they will deduct it in tuition fee and mpower just approved my loan, my question is have anyone been granted visa with mpower loan and what is my percentage of getting visa? Apply for visa without paying tuition fee yet?
This is my WhatsApp number 08039373533 pls I will be happy if I get reply or direction from anyone

damosade:
My loan of $45'000 was approved last Thursday.

Any information as regards to mpower? but not yet scheduled appointment with embassy though.

This programme is truly Nigerian in character.

Organiccourses:
Anyone successfully logged on PC tell us your experience

It is slow and most times times out.

I hope the organisers will be able to improve on the response times of the website.
Students cannot study effectively if they cannot access the materials that have been provided.

I have spent over 2 hours today just tryong to get tp the Dashboard.
The day is almost ended and I have not been able to go through the material assigned for today.

This is extremely frustrating and is not helpful at all.

Adeoye11:
Change the starting of the WhatsApp group link to words, then keep the other.
I guess there is a connect training on Friday in Abk?

Did they send a message to this effect?
I only received the congratulatory mail.

Permit me to say you sound like an enemy rather than a concerned father.

You want to teach your son a lesson for marrying workout your permission.

Your son actually did the right thing by ignoring a person like you. You are not a friend to your son, you are a foe. That is exactly why he isn't seeking your permission to live his life.

MrUchenna1:
My 37-year-old son got married without my permission. How can I teach him a lesson?

Your family isn't interested in your happiness.

Someone is still married - and even if gets a divorce - he only wants you as a housemaid who will help to babysit his child.

Which one be first wife? Are you already seeing yourself marrying him and being his second wife?

You are in your twenties, why do you feel pressured to be married to the point of people having to introduce husband to you.

Nengiraw:
Hello nairalanders, please I need help on this situation. So I’m a lady in her mid 20’s. I’m actually very much set for marriage in the eyes of my family, since society deem it fit to place marriage as an achievement for women, and always bring up your age to remind you to. Anyways, it’s not a priority for me to get married now, as I feel like I’m not ready mentally,and I have a lot of trauma to work on, but I’m also open to it, if it’s in my face and ready. I don’t stay in Nigeria, so my family don’t know if I have a man in my life, so they decided upon themselves to introduce me to a man who is my uncle’s friend that stays in the same country as me. They were more focus on the fact that he comes from a neighboring village from us and that he was a doctor. (Meanwhile he’s actually a nurse, but he told them, that he was a doctor, he also never mentioned to them that he was married and had a child, before they decided to introduce him to me)

So we eventually started talking on WhatsApp, he saw some of my pictures already and he was mesmerized. In fact he was already kind of making me his wife in that moment. So one day he called me and we were just talking,and I heard like a toddler crying so bad and needed his attention, I asked him who was that , he told me it was his daughter, there was this awkward silence for almost five minutes of us not saying anything, so I told him I’ll call him back. I called my mother that day and was mad as hell, that they didn’t disclose such information to me, but from my mother’s reaction she had no idea, and she was also mad and she told me, she will call me back, so she could verify from my uncle, since that’s his friend. Even my uncle too had no idea. To cut the whole story short, he later called me the next day on a video call, and he started telling me about his wife( Yes! She’s still his wife, because I don’t think he has divorced her yet)and how abusive she was, and how he tried to make it work, but she was so crazy and stuff like that. That he’s actually trying to get shared custody of the child. That he’s no longer married to her. I was not really having it, because I just felt like he wasn’t being honest with certain things and on top of that his wife is still in the picture, and I don’t know if I want to settle for that. Also he just turned 40, and I’m 25. So the age gap is too much for me. Also I have not met him in real life, cause he stays in a different state from me, my family still wanted me to be open minded until I see him in person, then I could make a decision if I want him or not. He always sends me pictures of his daughter, and he recently sent me one with his first wife and daughter, I was surprised that he did, and he said he wanted to show me the daughter instead. I still felt like I didn’t need to see a picture of her. I started seeing the red flags of him that I couldn’t settle with. Also the way he talked about the wife was vulgar, and I felt like he didn’t need to tell me about her in that manner.

Now the most recent thing he started doing was sending me random stuff about marriage to my WhatsApp. I usually glance at it,and don’t reply, cause I don’t know why he’s sending me that. The one that gave me a major big red flag from him, is when he sent where Regina daniels( the actress who married Ned nwoko) was talking about marrying her husband a virgin and how it’s important to be a virgin. He then asked me if I was one. Honestly I felt really numb, because I don’t know why he will be asking me stuff like that, when he didn’t really get a respond back from me, he proceeded to send another message telling me, “No mind them sha, virgin no sabi. With a heart eye emoji. I was dumbfounded, I didn’t know how to reply to him anymore. I stopped picking up his calls and I have no intention to meet up with him anymore. Now my family is mad at me, saying that at least I should see him in person, but I don’t want to. In fact I’m no longer interested in him. Please am I wrong for feeling the way I feel? Thanks.

What you are saying is that you want to do the same thing these other guys did to her?

When did it become a crime to date someone in the past?

She definitely deserves better.

ebijimi7:
Good morning landers, its a beautiful thursday morning here in lagos,
Ok so straight down to the business without much hassle.

It goes like this, ok I have this girl I'm dating she has been a lovable soul a friend,partner,lover and mother.

She is caring also I have never met a girl like that in my life since I became an adult the only person that I know has those quality she possessed was my mum which is late now.

she is from kwale I think a town In delta state and I am from ondo so we have been together for couple of years now.

We had a heart to heart conversation she told me about her past and I also told her about mine.

Though I've dated some substantial amount of ladies sha, I don't want to mention before una call me (Ashewo or brostitute ,

So in the long run while explaining she told me what transpired between she and some of her exes the ones that kept deceiving her and collecting money from her she mentioned about 10 of them which she actually supported to to travel out of the country but they neglected and dumped her after they got over sea, more of like she fell into the hand of bad guys.

What kept ringing in my head and making me scared was the fact she made out with some of them and I still get angry knowing that fact sometimes she would be crying that I'm using her past against her just because she was inlove and it didn't work out within she and any of her ex .

I love her but her past kept dragging me back and making me scared of taking the next step.

Not to mention all of what she has done for me but when I lost my mum she stood by me all through the difficult times she prays for me she was with me at the hospital for days until my mum passed out.

Looking at these are qualities I get confused the more because I dint know if I'm making the right decision by letting her go she rarely ask for anything

Please your candid advice I'd needed

I don't think so.
The message simply says: ALL EYES ON THE JUDICIARY.

Truth is all parties involved, petitioners and defendants alike are indeed looking unto the judiciary.

Blackmail only comes into play when a party, or person has something unwholesome, something they do not want to be public knowledge being held over them.

If you say that message is an indirect blackmail, then you are admitting that indeed, ALL EYES NEED TO BE ON THE JUDICIARY.

Dreament:
this is not freedom of expression. You people are indirectly blackmailing the judiciary.

What happens to freedom of expression?