My wife and I had issues sometime around December last year till January this year when she ran to her parent's house to stay without telling me. I know I was at fault, I have gone to apologize several times but she refused to forgive me.
Okay! Hand over my child to me, let me take my responsibility and play my fatherly role in her life, but she refused.
This Sunday may 1st, will make it 5 months I've not set my eyes on my daughter. April 2 was my daughter's 4th birthday, I couldn't even reach her to wish her happy birthday not to talk of sending her money.
It's been 2 months now my wife's phone is switched off. She off her phone purposely because of the way I'm agitating to get my child back.
I've reported to human rights at igando, Lagos State, they called and wrote petition to my wife but she refused to honor it. I also reported to the police and radio FM but they couldn't help me because her phone is switched off since then. I don't know her whereabout, she's no longer in her parents house.
My wife's elder brother who is a lieutenant in the Nigeria Navy is the bread winner in my wife's family, I'm sure he knows her whereabout.
I went to Abuja with my Dad and my people to meet him. He sent us away right from his gate. I felt so embarrassed.
It's 5 months now, but soon it would be counting years Pls Help me. My wife is frustrating me, I can't sleep at night, I'm always thinking and restless, @11pm I'm still in a beer palour drinking my life away. I'm fading away.
All I need is my daughter, if my wife don't want to forgive me.. No problem, but give me my daughter. My wife will contaminate my daughter's mind to hate me if things goes on like this. Please help me.
Nigerians please help me. Government please help me.
Take her to court, she will get custody but you'll get visitation right and thus get to play your role in her life, you'll also be footing most of her bills so your estranged wife will be unable to tell your child that you abandoned them
Sominablack: Greeting Nairalanders, My wifes attitude has been unbecoming, disrespectful, avoiding intimacy for months, insultive and always playing the silent treatment which I have learnt to ignore. Her mum visited and confirmed these attitude, she did counsel and advised her to change yet she was reluctant and stated she dont want to continue being a wife that she has lost love and feelings for me because I want things to be done decently and in order in my family which she is opposed to. Having observed this her mum left angrily and told the matter to her husband to confirm some of the issues of my wifes behaviour which I had stressed on and as a result had a family meeting with her family since I was invited not long ago.
Now with the attitude still being displayed by her, her dad asked me to come down to the village by next week so the issue will be discussed in their larger family so that my wife would come and explain to them why she is behaving the way she is doing, but not up to three months we had a meeting and now this one billed for next week again.I dont feel like honouring the meeting because I have done my best to follow peace even though I cannot fathom where I am at fault. At this juncture what do I do?
What are those things you want to be done recently? Are you compelling her to do the things you want done decently or you discussed it with her? Since you're thinking of dishonoring your father in-law invite as you believe you've done your best to follow d parr of peace do you want to go to war with your wife or what's your next move? Sometimes we tend to force instead of convince our partners to do certain things, we end up making them revolt cos they tend to think we are oppressive, try to pet her into doing those things, start thinking of divorce if that doesn't work cos it is better to be single than be in a troubled marriage, go for the meeting but don't go alone, get some elders in your family to go with you. Best of luck
helinues: What is inhuman there abo na because Dem never reach your area?
Just because Politicians are stealing billions don't mean our youths should engage in cyber crime.
They are not disabled, they should go and find decent work to do and if it's yahoo yahoo dey want to do, they should do it with sense without attracting unnecessary attention to themselves
Very hard working guy, but shey arm robbers, kidnappers, cultist, ritualist etc nor day he LGA way he b say na these ones come b problem for he mind? This guy should be encouraged to join the civilian JTF to help us flush out boko boys.
dre11: Ochanya: State court acquits husband of raping minor, federal court convicts wife of negligence
The two courts gave contradictory decisions on the culpability of the lecturer in the rape and subsequent death of the 13-year-old schoolgirl, Ochanya Ogbanje.
And the judiciary is supposed to be the last hope of d common man, where is the hope when the magistrate ignored the video testimony of the dead child and set the rapist free? I hope this judgement is appealed.
Workers of Warri refinery? What do they do there? What are they refining? Nigeria and wastage, we don't refine products in our refinery but we engage workers there, to do what actually? They also allocate huge funds for turnaround maintenance every year, what they're turning around or maintaining you can never tell cause we keep importing petroleum products.
nazicartel: They should be investigated. But in a sane environment. That one no be much money nah to warrant arrest. And I believe the way those men will be handled won't be very funny. I trust Nigerian armed men. Their arrests are always the same if you are not a politician or a powerful individual
Can anyone go about with $200k cash in the sane United States or the UK not to talk about attempting to cross an international border with it? Have you heard of money laundering before? Do you know that this is how those who sponsor terrorism move money so as to avoid it being tracked? These men go day real soup if na "sane" country them for pick them up, not like here way one oga go call another oga to die the case.
Hell have no fury lake a woman scorned, could be true, can still be false but a lot of pastors day do things sha, pastors even day tie members as yahoo boys day tie their work.
If the youths get sense. They should attack bullion vans and take back what belongs to them.
Youths should attack bullion vans being protected by armed security men if they have sense abi? You day speak as wise king Solomon abi? Why you nor lead them or if you be elder advise your kids or siblings to go rob bullion vans since robbery is a sign of wisdom to you? Na wa sha, weldone o, wise elder.
iFlare: I've never visited the even when I'm a big fan of Nat Geo wild, so my girlfriend proposed we go to the zoo so that I can see the real thing. So we agreed on a day to visit the zoo and in the morning of that day we left for the zoo.
We arrived the zoo around 9:00 am and we were asked to buy a ticket which cost #7500 each, quite expensive for a places that is not even well kept. My girlfriend was the one that paid because she was the one taking me.
We were told to wait a while, while they gather more people because only one zookeeper was yet at work. We both waited and while waiting I bought a bottle of coke and puff puff that was tasting like fried beans, a very horrible taste, my girlfriend as an ajebo didn't even take a bite from her's and as a hard guy rugged guy, I wasn't ready to let my money go like that, so I forced my self to eat it, for my mind I was saying "we die here".
Around 10 o'clock an old skinny looking woman wearing a blue uniform that's twice her size, came towards us, at the time we were a total of five people including me and my girlfriend.
We then walked into the zoo after some briefing. The first animal we saw was a chimpanzees, followed by monkeys. The third animal we saw was a camel and since it's less harmful than a dog we asked the zookeeper for a closer look because we haven't seen it up close.
We all went in and immediately I touched the camel, it was like a spirit entered and possessed me, I started talking and teaching people all I've been learning from my favorites channel, Nat Geo wild. I was even teaching more than the zookeeper self, up to the extent of her leaving the explanation to me. My head started swelling with pride, I was even left to lead the way.
We saw porcupines next and the woman took us straight to a big cage, bigger than any other cage we've seen or entered. She said that the cage contain a baby elephant. Immediately I heard the word elephant everything I know about elephants started resurfacing. I was the first to go inside the cage, but what happened the next second shocked me. The woman jammed the gate gbooom.
I was like, "madam why are you closing the gate" she didn't say anything, she just say "shhhhhh". I was like in my mind, why is she shewing me, and the fact that everyone was shaking and looking at my back and moving away from the cage became more strange. I just turn with force expecting to see a baby elephant and lo and behold with was a lion, a hungry one.
There are difference between the lions you see on TV and the ones in Nigeria zoos. This one looked so hungry that you can successfully count the ribs with one eye closed.
I started feeling wet down my trouser, I don't know if it's the heavy sweat or piss, but all I know is that my trouser felt wet. I started shaking "jigijigi" and there was this kind of embarrassing odorless mess that left my yansh that moment.
The next thing I heard was from the woman was "don't move an inch or you're dead" I was now resting my back on the jammed door and still my legs couldn't carry me, they were shaking and vibrating like an old tiger generator. " I thought you said it's baby elephant" I asked without even realizing if that was my voice, they sounded like alien language.
I looked at the lion and the lion itself was looking straight into my eyes, I'm not in the lion's mind but I can sense he's still wandering if I'm real. There's a kind of food that'll you'll give someone and the person will enter into deep thoughts, that's how I am to him.
I started crying in a low tone like a baby told not to cry because I didn't want to make a single noise.
"Oh did I say elephant, it's a lion dear. Don't mind me I have dementia" I was like is this woman crazy, I'm about to get eaten alive and she's using the word dear and what does she mean by dementia.
"Please ma open the door I beg" I managed to say in mist of tears. But she slightly tried to open the door but nothing happened, she then used force and nothing happened. That was when she said what made me loss hope "don't worry dear, this is not the first time, just don't move or you're dead"
Diarrhea started building up the moment I heard that word. I started remembering all the bad things that I've done, all the exam malpractices, all the meat that I've stolen from my mom's pot and the one I stole yesterday from my girlfriend's pot of soup, all the lies and cheats.
I never expected that I'll die like this, I always prayed to God to make me famous but not this, not in the stomach of a lion. Imagine a headline "A handsome young Nigerian ends up in a lion's belly" Some people's will go ahead and say "A frustrated guy feed himself to a hungry lion"
I started asking for forgiveness, all the time that I didn't go to church, lord please forgive me, forgive me for eating my offering money while I was small, forgive me I don't want to die. I couldn't even turn to look at my girlfriend who I didn't hear panick. Instead what I was hearing all the while was a camera sound "craker, craker", God I will not date again if you save me, I'll repent lord, I'll wait till I get married no more sex for me.
For the first time the lion started coming closer and gradually closer, the diarrhea that has been forming since had it's way without my consent, I felt my own shit flow freely. The fact that I shit myself in public wasn't my problem, but how to escape this coming death was the only thing on my mind.
The lion started gaining momentum and in few seconds it dived on me and that was the last thing I could remember that day. All I'm seeing in the room that I was is white and blue which my brain translated to a hospital. I opened my eyes well and saw my girlfriend grinning. And that was when I started crying again.
Actually, I had fainted because of fear. The lion had no teeth and claws, so all this prank was actually set up by my weaked girlfriend. Thank God she's now my ex.
I'm still suffering from heart attack till today. The lesson I learnt was never to prank girls, because they might be cooking what you can never finish in your whole live.
(Good morning everyone...how was your night. I'm new to nairaland�)
lol, serious issue, thank God say ur village people day asleep when u day inside the cage.
Ozeh0142: It has become a thing of joy on the lips of Nigerian popular Nollywood actor Yul Edochie, who recently announced the birth of his new born child from his Alleged second wife.
Yul the youngest son of Nollywood veteran actor Pete Edochie was married to May and have lived together with her for 17 years now. He had 4 children with his first wife. Earlier this week he broke the news on social media by uploading a picture of his new born child which he had with his alleged colleague Judith Austin who became his baby mama in 2021.
His wrote " its time for the world to meet his son Star- munachimso yul Edochie" on his social media handle. He also wrote that he loves his son the same way he loves his four older children.
The first wife could not hold back as wrote "May God judge you both".
What will make a man of such calibre make such move? Please drop your comment.
Make what move? What is wrong with him having a second wife? He said his "second wife" not baby mama but wife, it implies they're married so his family are aware, Did he abandon his first family? He said he love his son as he love his other kids so what's wrong? You guys should let him be
MrUchenna1: Please share your nomination and reasons for nominating them as the worst Governors in Nigeria. Ogun State Governor ... Prince Dapo Abiodun and Hope Uzodinma are battling for number one possition on my list.
1. Okowa
2. Obaseki
3. Okowa
4. Okowa
5. Obaseki
Delta state do not have anything to show for the 7 years of Okowas regime except about 2k+ PAs, SA and SSA, primary school teachers in Delta state are not yet being paid the 30k minimum wage, retirees are not paid their pension/gratuity, tuition fees in Delta stare owned higher institutions were increased by over a hundred percent, the list is endless, Obaseki na Okowa brother in failure.
Nigerialabalaba: na Russia go lose. Ukraine don use propaganda finish Russia so tey any transaction with Russia don dey tagged as money given to Russia to take buy more weapons to kill d ukranians. Putin own don cast.
Russia go loose clients but their people go protest hike in the price of gas due to shortage and lack of gas to generate heat in their homes, India, China and even other EU countries are ready buyers for Russia cheap gas and they're willing to pay in Rubles and thus give strength to the sanction weaken Russia Rubles.
15 years old? What is she supposed to have achieved at her age that the old lady stopped her from achieving? What is it with this fixation with this enemy of progress mentality of our people? You nor get handwork or academic qualification and you day blame person say na he/she make you nor progress, how you won take progress? Na magic? Nor b everything witch day do, at times check yourself if you're doing enough for you to progress, rest on old one, our system failed you.
Upliftment101: The usual but controversial sit-at-home order in the Eastern States, took a different slant today, as armed policemen stormed the State Headquarters of Nigerian Security and Civil Defence Corps, NSCDC, shooting sporadically.
Some residents of Okigwe Road and Works Layout, who alerted Vanguard about the development, said that they have scampered into the safety of their rooms.
Speaking to Vanguard on phone, Chuka (surname withheld) said: “There is serious shooting going on in our area now. We have all scampered into the safety of our rooms. From where I am hiding with members of my family, I can’t hazard a guess on the people shooting.
I’m not sure if the unknown gunmen are at it again, but I must, however, say that the shooting appears endless. I will keep you posted if the situation gets clearer.”
A further enquiry from a businessman, who operates his outfit in the area and spoke on strict grounds of anonymity, said: “The shooting spree is between the police and NSCDC personnel. I understand that a police officer was arrested for a yet to be ascertained infraction and detained by NSCDC officers. I also learnt that he alerted his colleagues and they stormed NSCDC.
It is not clear if they succeeded in getting their man out from detention or not. It is also not clear if anybody died in the process, but the massive shooting was uncalled for.
“The invading police officers ought to have chosen a more civilized approach in resolving whatever was the issue, instead of taking laws into their hands. I expect the State Commissioner of Police to fish out the fellows that attacked the NSCDC Headquarters and punish them appropriately.”
All efforts made by Vanguard, to get the Police Public Relations Officer, PPRO, Mr Mike Abattam, to confirm the incident failed, as he rather retorted: “Really? What happened?”
Meanwhile, unconfirmed gory pictures have started trending online, which was alleged to be the consequence of the shooting in Owerri.
A young boy was seen in a pool of his own blood, while the second had his leg shattered.
You could not confirm from the police spokesman what about the spokesman for the NSCDC? What about your correspondent in the state? You published your report base on hearsay? Is this not a low for a newspaper house as big as Vanguard?
You spoke very well until the last line, "the body of Christ has been diplomatic for too long and you think Enough is Enough" in other words they should become violent, the Prof carry talk but he nor ask anybody to become violent as you day do so now oga, let's please mind our choice of words, someone close to that prof should please let him know that he's going out of line, he should take that his Muslim/Christian rotational governorship outta Lagos, its not going to working
Make una nor day raise unnecessary dust, such agreement day Jigawai or Zamfara state? Na who follow una make the agreement? When and where was it made? Make una day take una time o, stop creating unnecessary tension, rubbish
Okobola146: Baba Kekere has served 3 Alaafins. His duty is to run errands for the king. He served :
1. Oba Adeniran Adeyemi II, Lamidis father between 1945 & 1956.
2. Oba Gbadegesin Ladigbolu II between 1956 & 1968 and
3. Oba Lamidi Adeyemi III, between 1970 & 2022.
He walks briskly in and around the Alaafin of Oyo palace. He is very popular not only because of his diminutive figure but because of his humility and he does not get angry.
Some call him a man with repository of knowledge of the Palace for he has the history off hand and some call him the Palace library or an archive.
He is called Baba Kekere possibly because of his height. His age is unknown because his birth was not recorded but it is assumed that he should be over 100 years now.
His real name is Morenikeji Lasisi.
~African History Archive
Nor b one of the gods b that so? A walking shrine, I greet you living ancestor.
Tinubu joined the back of the queue but other people gave way for him and urged him to go to the front. Very surprising humility.
Bola Tinubu seems to be quite as humble as Peter Obi.
He seems to be a good man. Is this enough to vote him as president? Or he acting a skit like many politicians do when it's election season?
His joining a queue is an act of humility? Are the other persons on the queue also humble or just Tinubu that "condescend" so low to join the queue? Don't he join queue when he travel out of the country? Is joining the queue not what any sane individual will do if he meet people ahead of him at any given time? Was he supposed to shove those who got there b4 him aside? You're supposed to applaud those who gave way for him to go to the front for having respect and not him for joining the queue cause it is the normal thing for him to do.
Nice initiative but how will it be powered? Where will the power come from? Hope not the normal distribution and genco people else they will frustrate the initiative.
I don't get it, nor b this guy blast Osibanjo say he don do VP for 8 years so why he go come contest for president? Nor b this same guy say every other region don produce president except the east say so the presidency should b given to the Igbo's? Na the same you day project Atiku as the best? Not just the best Northern candidate but overall best, ha, oga u day speak from both sides of the mouth? Atiku was VP so according to what you said about PYO shouldn't be contesting cause as VP he was almost the president, secondly Atiku is from the North, a region that has produced President's, you used it against PYO, you said he should stand down for a candidate from the South East, pastor what's stopping you from giving same advice to Atiku? Is feed for the geese not supposed to be feed for the gander? So to you Osibanjo being a VP and from a region that has produced President is not eligible to run but Atiku a former VP and also from a region that has produced President's is eligible to run and should be voted for? Them go check you, I pity those who take your words serious.
oseahumenb: About six months ago, I returned home from work and discovered that my wife and four children were no where to be found. I also noticed her that belongings and that of the children were missing.
I quickly dashed out of my flat and went to my neighbours to enquire of their whereabout. I was shocked to my bone marrows when they narrated to me how a man accompanied my wife to move out her belongings. When they tried to intrude the man warned them of serious consequences.
That was when it dawned on me that my wife whom I have caught severally on the phone discussing with her lover on the phone has finally done her worst. On two occasions I caught her sneaking around with her phone, in the midnight I discovered an Sms that the so-called lover sent she was fast asleep . I cannot divulge the content here because it was disgusting to me at first. I reported to the pastor and she was warned. Then the identity of the lover wasn't known to me. I just let it go, because I still needed the marriage for the sake of my four children. However, I began to investigate without her knowing. Then I discovered that the secret lover was a custom officer, named Adeniyi Adesola, he was in Ibadan command. He is married with children. One day he called my wife and I just could bear the insults, I confronted him on phone I warned him to stay away and reminded him that she was married. Then he started abusing me and even threatened to kill me. He revealed to me that he knew my wife before I married her. He told me to backoff and let him always have access to her or he will kill me. I reported the matter to the ekpan police station warri. The IPO who was a lady advised me to thread with caution and report to my family which I did. I am from Edo State and my wife is from Ondo state. The custom officer is from Ekiti state. The custom officer, Adesola was intimidating me because I was not understanding their language.
I gave my wife everything she needed. I got a loan of 5m from a bank to set up a business for her. She squandered the money and there is nothing to show now in the shop. The bank has started moving in on me, I don't know what to do.
The custom officer I heard has kept my wife and children in Ibadan because his wife couldn't take it. MY children are not in school and my wife just gave birth to a baby for the custom officer. Meanwhile, she has not returned the bride price but she has delivered a baby for the customs officer. Now I want the custom officer, Adeniyi Adesola to release my wife, Helen Bose and my children with immediate effect because he has charmed them. Pls nairaland admins put this story on front page pls.. I need my children. They are not in school.
Is this true or you're just trying to tarnish the image of the custom guy in this faceless forum? If its true then you're mad, in fact you're more than mad, he should release your wife to you? What wife? So you go accept her if she come back to you? You really nor well, how're you sure those kids are for you? A lady that can move in with another man while married to you is who you are calling your wife, you really day craze, comon move on with your life, you nor thank God say she nor poison you so that she go day free to marry her lover? Mumu man
Call the pastor, those family members and the other persons you called so your daughters would relate their accusations to, gather all of them so they can relate this new twist to them, it won't undo the harm you guys have done him but it will help to change the perception your kids made them have of the innocent man. It is very possible that at least halve the guys languishing in jail for rape are innocent of the accusations, we are quick to condemn guys accused of rape without considering the fact that the accuser might be lying, what is impossible if one own kids can do this to him? Imagine the accusation from the mother of the Chrisland girl, what would have happened to the innocent boy accused of rape if not for the video? May God help us all
Presidential aspirant strategically wooing the delegates
When and where was the meeting with the delegates held? What state? What city? What day? Why is there no one in the pics? Why is there just one bag? You're on a smear campaign against Osibanjo right? Weldon
Family › Re: My Wife And Her People Are Denying Me Access To My Daughter. Please Help Me. by oilmane(m): 12:14am On Apr 30, 2022
