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kherlly:



Most men are prom|scuous in nature 💯

Na lack of money make men calm and if money dey as all men want I bet y'all majority of men will have more than one wife 😂😂😂


I dey my house make una come b€at me 🤣😂

why will I give myself excess headache and overload of two wives while I can have one wife with as many side chick I want,that I can command and discard as I like

KiNg0G:
The greatest embarrassment that can happen to a man is when he sells his car.

I always advise people if you know you're not financially buoyant triple don't buy a car because once you do, you've automatically purchased a NEW IDENTITY.

All eyes are on, you respect coming from different directions young and old, family members, church members and even neighbors but sell that same car you are reduced to a BEGGAR in their eyes.

this is your own personal opinion which I disagree,it is people that are too attached and proud that they have a car that will be ashamed of selling it,my close neighbor at a village in imo state were we have a farm came back from abroad from ukraine with a nice Honda but he sold it and got a bike,is he ashamed or embarrassed?this guy has built a mega 5star hotel,massive piggery farm,pure water factory,sand and chippings haulage trucks,rental services and currently working on a yogurt factory all in his village,from all the investment made in two years since he settled in his villsge I can estimate his net value to be in excess of #200+ million naira but he rides a kymco motorcycle.

ufuosman:
Some leaders na something else

it is sad and worrisome to hear this sort of planned intention from a leader of a poor state like cross river,this is a clear case of misplaced priority,is he elected to be super comfortable in his cocoon of air-conditioned offices and expensive imported fittings or elected to be on the frontlines on the war against poverty and undevelopment,can he truly stand and say that spending such money on his own comfort benefits the people while it can easily be channeled to a productive venture like a mega oil palm plantation of 4-5 million trees that will employ thousands directly and indirectl generating billions in revenue,in some countries even to habour such ideas is a prelude to your resignation,as long as government officials are free to do whatever they like with our Commonwealth it will always be one step forward two step backwards for nigeria

Doolove:
Some time ago my boyfriend brought my matter here because I went to visit a male friend and I was called all sorts of derogatory names without anyone hearing my side of the story.

We met early last year, he was just out of school without a job but I still accepted him regardless. I had a stubborn ex that wouldn't go away so he was taking care of my bills while I was dating my new boyfriend which he was well aware of. I later had an issue with the ex that led to him calling the police on me accusing me of stealing the iPhone 7 that he bought for me while insisting that I return it or he would take the matter to his village and make sure I run mad. I stood my ground amid all the threats held on to the phone.

Coincidentally, things picked up for my guy when the ex left, he started getting lots of freelance gigs online so I didn't feel the absence of the old guy. My boyfriend made sure I didn't lack anything even without me asking. I had to break up with him once because I felt he was doing too much and I might be running him down. He laughed it off and gave me screenshots of some of his account balance.

Fast forward to this year and things went south again, The gigs stopped coming in, and some of the firms he worked for closed shop so he was surviving on his savings which were depleting very quickly. It's worthy to note that before now the major issue that I have had with him is the way he sees my relationships with other men. He practically doesn't want me to have male friends or even go on harmless sitouts with friends. He thinks it's a disrespect to him for me to have anything to do with other guys while I am in his place.

This has resulted in serious fights each I come back from seeing a friend, At times he gets so mad that he flings my things outside to go stay with whoever I went to see.

Meanwhile, things have been very tough for him recently to the extent that feeding has become difficult. He quickly invested in a farm with with a friend when his savings were going down and used the remaining money to startup a blog. Now it's looking as if the guy he's doing the farm business with has scammed him because it's been from one story to the other and he's so broke right now that he can't even afford data to write content for his blog which we all know blogging is even saturated and takes time to start paying.

I started work two weeks ago and I have been the one taking care of my transport fare, he only gives me 1k once in a while to support. It's this same men he doesn't want me to communicate with that has been helping me out all this while. He sits at home all day waiting for the proceeds of the farm so he can start mini importation of wigs.

Every guy that asks me out seems to be well to do than my guy and it really bothers me. They all have nice cares and ready to spend while my own guy now depends on begging to feed. Even though he's smart and all but I don't know where the break through will come from and it seems I am wasting my time with him.

On Monday was my off day and I was at home, I woke up with a mood swing so I wasn't talking to him. He was busy cleaning the house without mentioning breakfast so I had to call someone to come get breakfast for me. He got mad at me tagging it an insult to him. It caused issues and I left the house and dared him to do his worst and he asked me not to leave because I needed some positive vibes since he was boring me with his attitude. I actually went to my family house but he feels I always go to see a guy each time I leave the house.

I came back around 8pm to meet the house locked and he kept ignoring my calls knowing fully well that I didn't leave with my key and I wasn't feeling fine and needed to take my drugs. I got drenched by the rain and my sickness go worst. He came back home by 11pm that night.

Now I haven't been able to go to work for the past three days and he's been running around buying drugs and food on credit so I can get well when he caused it. On the other hand a guy that has been giving me stuffs asked me to take a break from work and rest and he will give me my full salary.

I am just confused, it seems I am leaving better things out there for a broke guy and it's bothering me. What do you guys think I should do

Please ignore any typos, I wrote in a hurry

this is quite an interesting story,but for me I don't see any luxury of choice,he is not your husband and you are not obligated to suffer with him for better for worse,,

Zonefree:
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Must be those monstrous herdsmen terrorising that area. They got a settlement few kilometres from uturu.

not herdsmen,infact no herdsmen can be brave enough to rear cattle in the bush in imo state now,it is too volatile and dangerous also for politicians,if you are from imo state you will know what I mean

NoahHadNoArk:
Add a side chick to this drama and you sign a death warrant

side chick get levels,just cut your coat according to your size,there are still subsidized side chicks that are pocket friendly,I don't know about other places but in imo state there is no shortage of beautiful women that will suit your budget.

Nice2023:
That is why as a man pls,work hard.

no matter how hard you work or how wealthy you are,when you die only the living can take decisions about your corpse,this is a lesson to people that accumulate wealth without helping their brothers and sisters,when we die we will only be remembered for the legacies left behind and 130 years from today every body alive today in Nigeria will be dead including a baby born today,so let us think for a while and realize that life is not only about our own self satisfaction but also to be our brothers keeper

bigdawg7:
Believe it or not, nigerian women are the most unfaithful people in this world

the last people to take this test will be men from imo state,no need for unnecessary heart attack

Dididrumz:
If you don't believe in other lifeforms then that's your business.

Aliens exist.

anybody that still doubts the existence of other lifeforms apart from humans is living in self denial,the Galaxy itself with it's billions of stars is 90% probable to habour other types of life,my only problem is the distance,the closest star or planetary system close to Earth is 4 light years away which is an incredible distance considering that one light year is 10 trillion kilometers which makes a total of 40-50 trillion km, anything that can travel such distance has broken all laws of science and humanity,infact anything that have the tech to achieve such will have the ability to create mankind itself

PaganTerrorist:
before I start I need to make it crystal clear that nothing is happening between me and her. I'm not a pedo and I don't plan to become one.

I give private guitar lessons and for the past year I've been giving lessons to this 17 year old girl (I'm 26). We have a super chill vibe in our lessons and get pretty conversational about casual topics and music we like. Recently she confided in me that she has a crush on me and wants to get closer to me to which I laughed it off and told her point blank the answer is no. I don't know if I should tell her parents about this or how they'll react. I might just stop our lessons altogether. She's a good kid, very popular and pretty. I just don't know how to approach this situation.

pls stop that guitar lesson and walk away,trust me it will not end well

izuch:
Where?

either akwaibom or cross river but seriously these people are not smiling even our list in imo state still dey learn work from what I am seeing

Fafesot:
That'll stop soon..

We promise.

that is a promise I believe that will come true very,dangote will surely put a stop to that

doggedfighter:
Thought yorubas aren't into this kind of thing.




Was I wrong ?

It is rife in Igbo land.

Able bodied men, parents and even married sisters shamelessly dragging properties with a late man's wife.

Sometimes they accuse the wife of killing the man just to justify their greedy selves.


It's been receiving condemnations lately even though much is yet to be achieved.



Why should you take all and leave a man's widow and children with nothing?


It's shameful and no responsible and self respecting family should be involved in this.

point of correction that such is not rife in igboland,it is when you live or cohabit with a woman rising kids without proper traditional marriage rites,if you die all of your property belongs to the dead man's immediate brothers because he is not married yet,just doing boyfriend and girlfriend,so if you are not traditionally married then I am sorry you will fall victim to such practice but if you are properly tied traditionally nobody can take your husband's property in the physical or spiritual world

Merry100:
Lol, you are judging a total stranger and comparing yourself to him. The fact that the guy in question has not achieved as much as you have achieved doesn't automatically imply that he is lazy. Mr. man, if you can't help others, let them be; don't contribute to their problem. Sometimes, words can be sharper than swords. Must you comment, he said his friend is on the verge of giving up, and you wrote this. Where is your conscience?

you are totally correct,I should not have made that comment,it is shallow ,naive and a mockery to the distressed op,I apologize but he must buckle up for the road ahead maybe even far worse from the ones we had passed before

TheBillyonaire:
Why do you need contractors when the ministry can become a construction firm directly.

this is what I am trying to wrap my head around,with idle competent engineers in the ministry,how hard can it fbe or them to use all those billions paid to contractors to buy first class equipment and machines to start work and also do it how they wanted it to be but such venture can only be managed by an expatriate because of the cancer of npotism and corruption

charles009:
Folks, in a few days I will be leaving for Lagos . I currently live in Enugu, amazing city. I can move my family, but Wify advised the kids stay back in Enugu for at least another year to enable me settle. For the first time since I got married 7 years ago, I will be leaving my relatively young family behind. I love my children to bits and immensely enjoy every second I share with them. Our bond is so strong. The feeling of staying a day without my babies is completely indescribable. Although I intend to visit Enugu at least once weekly.

Guys please encourage me.

is it sustainable to travel from Lagos to enugu every weekend?let's be realistic about the cost and risks,at least once monthly is ok with enough video calls to makeup while planning to take them in the shortest time possible

efelicity:
I live with my mother, a single mother, since I lost my dad over a year ago and we haven't been having issues until recently
The problem with my mother is that she wants to remarry but I never wanted that because she planned to move in to the house my father built.

After a heated argument, she claimed the house as hers but I rejected! I didn't stop her from marrying any man but what I am against is moving the man into my father's house. More to that, she planned to open a business for her husband to be on my father's land. I know the consequence of allowing that to happen: he will later claim the land.

Since my mom met this man she stopped treating me like a son. One of her sisters told me that the man was disturbing my mom to send me out of the house so he can move in asap.

When I approached my mom with this, she cursed me because she believes I'm against her will.

How do I prevent this man from taking what belongs to me?

I think your best option is to report her to the family kindred,I don't know if you have such but in the southeast every family has an umunna that deals with such,but in my community if a widow wants to remarry she must forfeit all her previous husband assets and liabilities and move in with her new husband,nobody is against her remarrying but she will give up her dead husband's properties,even for her new intending husband to move in to your father's house is taboo upon taboo,take the case to the community chief,but I don't know your customs such thing maybe permitted in your region,but in imo state the firstborn inherits his father's house solely and other properties will be shared with his brothers.

ADURA123:
Good evening fellow NL members,
My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice.

I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating.
Her qualities are
She can cook
She can keep the house clean
She can manage resources
And she is accommodating to my people
In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife.

My qualities are
I work and earn like about 700k net a month.
I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of.
I don't drink or smoke
I don't keep late night
and I am the best friend to her and my kids.
Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her.
I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her.
I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans.

My decision between now and December is
1 Avoid asking her for lobe making
2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything
3 when she comes close I avoid her.
4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back

Is there anything more I can do for her?
Advice me pls...

what you must understand is that nobody is perfect,your wife have 7/10 and you are complaining,if you divorce her and marry a sex machine that don't have those qualities your wife have,will you mange or divorce that one also?for a man to have Mistresses or cocumbines is permitted even in the Bible,I don't see the reason sex will make you chase away a good woman,she may have reduced libido due to child bearing or age which is not even her fault,you are making good money just rent a small self con and use as a love nest,trust me you will be a happier man with a very happy wife and family

Zionmdde:
Lies
Those guys are all Igbos who are seeing shege because they have been taught political lessons.

Tinubu has erased hunger and hardship from Nigeria. And we the good citizens of this country are happy and enjoying our lives. We wish jagaban will be president till 2050. Nigeria will really be like Dubai.

Police should come for these miscreants from SE constituting nuisance in ibadan. Tinubu government is really showing them shege.

Remain wicked

I don't even know the true meaning of this post,is it a satrical jab at the people of ibadan or a sarcastic comment with hidden meaning,but all the same the op is trying to cover up the shameful behavior of his people by blaming it on the igbos,the igbos I know will be busy in their shops,offices and workplace and will not even have time to struggle for rice,vehicles with foodstuffs do breakdown on various roads in the southeast but they will not be touched,because it is people's sweat and business,it is a taboo to do such

Israel5:
I have just been informed by neighbours from my house in my home town that my tenant was burnt to death by people in the environment. They almost burnt my house too but for some interventions. They ransacked the entire house, burn any item they could find, cutting down trees and pulling down doors.

He was accused of stealing and selling children. Four children have been reported missing. He confirmed it, only that they can not be recovered. That was before they meted jungle justice on him. He was survived by a wife and four children. The family are in police custody now. All his properties brought out and set on fire.
As I write, I am in shock right now. I can't travel there. All the while this devil told me he deals with Rice and other food items. He usually comes to Abuja to sell his items, asking to visit my house but for some reason I refused to let him. I have never him physically though. I thought he was a good man, how that he helped secure the property. It was after his death yesterday, I got to find out that he rented other rooms to some students and was collecting rent. Unfortunately, the properties of these students were burnt too. Not my problem.

I have contacted a property lawyer, and sent him there. He confirmed the incident, but asked me to sell the entire property.

Is that the right call? Seeing that the people see the house as bad omen now.
Please what do I do? Am I going to be implicated? I don't know the devil.

don't be rushed by the lawyer to sell your property he has a hidden agenda,just remain calm and watch the situation,the mob has killed the man and burnt his property so they will not come back again,hold on to your property and ignore the lawyer,what is pushing him is the 10% commission and other apiriko his greedy mind is manufacturing,what happened to you can happen to any landlord,it can never be avioded,it is just pure bad luck.

Gggjhhj:
Just rent another house of about a room self contain, furnish and enjoy your life boss

I think this is the best idea,not just for your mistress but other adventures you may like,life is short to be unhappy

Bobwil96:
Good day, please I would like to say this again, if you are struggling with betting addiction or someone close to you is struggling with it, please kindly speak up... Don't die in silence.
If you do no stop, you would never and Ever achieve what you have always dream of.
We have a group chat to help gambling addicts.
Please save yourself the stress and stop gambling.
Please

don't be a joy killer to other people's business,anybody with no inner strength and will power to stop what is destroying him cannot be helped much

ElSudani:
The original inhabitants of the FCT were relocated. So, who are these indigenes?

so the original owners of Abuja don't have any say in what goes on in their land?was the original people of Lagos relocated when it was federal capital?does people are even docile to allow a Buffon like wike rule over them

b0rn2fuck:
that's why Jesus no get girlfriend but I understand what you meant. Monkey gbola go small nah But Dem go sabbi suck

that suck is the major thing they need with these pets, cucumber can easily replace dick,I strongly suspect she will be putting ripe banana into her pvssy for the monkey to llick and suck,that will be an interesting sight to see

MikeofKd:
I had this girl visit me some weeks back, we are long time friends. She came and we gisted and vibed but at some point she started giving me massive and heavy sexual green lights.

I did like I didn’t understand any of those her sexual tactics until she grew tired and left lol. I realized after dat day she ignored my messages and calls. Not surprised.

In As much as I love sex ,I’m also very cautious of who I sleep with , some women would destroy your whole life through sex , dis one isn’t Nigerian movie it’s ducking real . If you share your body with just any woman as a man then your seriously doomed.

Cause normally why would a woman be pissed dat I refused to sleep with her , if she didn’t have diabolic motives ? It’s crushed her ego and she felt bad. Her seduction couldn’t work on me lol cause I sensed her evil intentions.

So ladies why do y’all get mad when a man refuses to sleep with you ?? I mean u should be happy u meet such kinda men cause they are usually very rare, but y’all get mad instead why

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you are the one that put your hand in the hornet nest,why inviting a girl you don't intend to nack in your house,don't you know that is gross indiscipline,she has prepared her mind for serious nackings and you are forming angel Gabriel,if you don't intend to fvck a girl don't bring her to your house and don't tempt those girls it is not healthy

TemplarLandry:
Congrats to her!

I am not surprised she is from imo state,land of beautiful women

fineboynl:
For months now so many girls kind of do a short video of themselves dance and shaking of yansh on tiktok. Sometimes the place doesn’t look their own house it’s either hotel room or a guys house. They also upload the video on WhatsApp status. What is the rational idea behind this act? The worrisome part is even girls knows to be decent also does it. But I don’t find if funny or like it either..

that you don't like it does not matter,many others love it including me,you forgot the ones that shake breasts without bra

tunjijones:
Cos it's boring

so imagine how boring heaven will be,super boring,i don't even care if I don't go there

oyebanji44:
Coward biafrans. ...

l Pray 1960s civil war should not repeat itself. .the term pogrom will become understatement

shut up stupid man,it is your family that will perish in a war in your region,God will never answer your wicked prayer,you think the southeast supports these brigands,NO,we dont,they are operating on their own to satisfy the evil agenda of whomever that is controlling them,whatever that affects peace in turn affects business and we don't want that

VickyELEFAN:
I noticed the absurd thirst and desire for money. Why can't Humans stop thinking about money for some time.

Why is the world obsessed about money. OK maybe it's because of responsibilities. But even after solving our problems, we still think about more money

What could be wrong

not all humans do that,it mostly in our Nigeria you see the mad scramble for money,Eve in Nigeria it is far worse in the southeast,the pressure, competition is simply stifling but in many Western countries it is not like that,they live simple lives,it is the southeast you will see a man build a duplex In his village he may never sleep in his life