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Nice writing, i guess i hav 2 b mur logical wen approachin a lady nxt tym#modmakedisFP

baggy4luv: I am so soorry to say this u are a big fooooooool..calling a girl to ask if she wanna break up in the 21st century..u nailed yourself to the cross be that.my best advice ....stop calling her and just move on...stop fanning peoples ego for christ sake..ur silence is like an armour tank to her..

she behavin lyk dat doesnt necessary mean she is cheatin on her guy, she may jxt b tryin 2 make d relationship mur sponteneous, try reasonin wit dat

ebujany: Hi guys..pls i have a very serious problem.

My girl went to nysc and changed totally. she's now a stranger from who i use to know. it started from wen she got to camp. wen ever i call her, she wnt pick up and wnt call back, flash or send call me sms as the case may be. wen she finally picks she will say she was busy. she told me about a corper that works in ICT in her camp and that the guy wants to help her get posted to a good PPA.

She said they normally do the fixing with money but the guys said he will do that for her with his own money. I noticed that wenever i call, she's not happy. we quarrel about everything from wer she is to wat is happeing there.Today, she finally got posted to a nice place of PPA and I was happy for her. When i called her, her call was on call waiting OVer 10missed calls she didn't pick.

this was a girl that wen ever I call even if her call is on call waitin she will ask the caller to call her back that she wants to answer my call but she didn't. wen she finally picked she told me she was talkn with the guy.i asked wen it started that the guys call is now more important than mine.she got angry and said i shld stop calln her.am so mad ryt now don't know wat to do.

ma advice to u is that, u shuld call her nd let her knw wat she is doin nd ask her if she want a break up, if she did nt giv a straight answa jxt break up wit her nd move on...if u guyz r meant to b 2geda she will cum bck 4 u, bt wen she cums bck make her suffer small 4 d pain she caused u.

debrihachi: Lol u not handsome dude... A guy shouldn't b average height rada he should b tall n which one is thick eyebrows ? am sure tz ur face dey used t draw da character in naruto....pink lips? tell me da name of ur lipstick

lolz, funi child u no b woman xo am nt surprised...but e sure 4 me shaa

Gflat: I have always wondered why girls are scared of handsome guys. I have met a number of girls who turn me down just because they are threatened by my looks,serious.

Even my gf keeps complaining anytime she see's me uploading pictures on fb...she says i am trying to woo someone. She gets jealous a lot Especially when am smiling with her friends(uh)

Women claimed that cute guys are hardly faithful to their partners which apparently underscore their sense of judgement.

Maybe someone out there will give us insight into why some most ladies feel insecure instead of being proud having a charming guy around...

am of average height, pink lips, thick eye brown nd chocolate i mean vry handsome nd vry faithful 2 ma partner...mayb u r referrin 2 sum handsome guys shaa

tbaba1234: Crusaders in the 8th century My man go and read a book...

what about d story of yusuf u promised nd i will also want to knw abut d quran version of d birth of jesus, was he conceived spiritually? Thankz

tola9ja: Quran And Biblical Verses That support 5 articles of faith
No Islam No Paradise
1. Believe in one ness of God
Q-41:6
Say {o muhammed S.A.W} I am only a human being
like you.and it revealed tome that your God{Allah} is one
therefore take straight path to him
Q-112:1
Say {o muhammed S.A.W} he is ONE
B-mark12:29
Jesus answered ‘’the first is ,’hear,o isreal :the lord our
god,the lord is one
B-deuteronomy6:4
Hear o isreal :the lord our god isone
2. salat(worship)
Q-22:77
O you who have believe bow down and
prostrate yourselves and worship your lord do good things that
you may be successful
Q-29:45
Recite {o muhammed S.A.W} what have beenrevealed
to you of the book{Quran}and perform salat
B-Nehemiah8:4-6
And ezra thescribe stood on a wooden pulpit which they had
made for the purpose; and besidehim stood mattihi’ah
shema,anaiah,uri’ah,hilki’ah and pedai’ah,mish’a-
el,malchi’jahhashum,hashbad’danah,zechariah and meshul’lam
on his left hand and ezra openedthe book in the sitght of all the
people and when he opened it all the peoplestood.ezra blessed
the lord the great God and all the people answered amenamen,
lifting up there hands and bow there heads and worship the
lord withtheir face on the ground
B-numbers 20:6
The moses and aaron went from the presenceof assembly to
the door of the tent of meeting and fell on their faces and
theglorify lord appeared to them
B-genesis 17:3
then Abram fellon his face and god said to him
B-matthew26:39
And going alittle farther he fell on is face and prayed
B-revelation 7:11
And all the angelstood round the throne and round the elders
and the the four living creaturesand they fell on their faces
before the throne and worshipped God saying ameenblessing
and glory and wisdom and thanksgiving and honour and power
and migthbe to our God for ever end ever Amen
3.Giving Alms to poor{zakat}
Q-9:60
As-sadaqat{zakat} are only for the fuqara{poor}andmiskin
{poor}
B-mark12:41
And he sat downopposite the treasury and watched the
multitude putting money into the treasurymany rich people also
put in large amount
4. fasting in themonth of RAMADAN
Q-2:185
The month oframadan in which was revealed the Quran
aguidiance for mankind and clear proof for the mankind and
guidance and criterionwhoever of you sight the crescent of the
first night of month(ramadan) he mustobserve fast
B-jeremiah 36:9
In the fifth yearof jehoi’akim the son of josi’ah king of judah in
the ninth month all thepeople in jerusalem and people who
came from the cities of judah to jerusalem proclaimeda fast
before the lord
5.Hajj pilgrimageto mecca
Q-3:97
In it are manifest sign the mecca place ofibrahim(abraham)
whoever enter it attain security .and the pilgrimage to meccais
a duty that mankind owes to Allah those who can afford the
expenses andwhoever disbeliev(i.e denies hajj prigrimage to
mecca)then he is a disbeliverof Allah
then Allah standnot in need of any of All mankind wealth
B-isiah2:2
Now it will come about that In thelast days The mountain of the
house of the LORD Will be established as thechief of the
mountains, And will be raised above the hills; And all the
nationswill stream to it.
That is mountain harafah in saudi arabia

NO ISLAM NO PARADISE JESUS PRACTICE ISLAM WE MUSLIM BELIEVE IN ALL PROPHET INCLUDING JESUS THE JEW DOSE NOT BELIEVE IN JESUS BUT THE BELIEVE IN MOSES THE CHRISTIAN BELIEVE IN JESUS{A.S} AND MOSES {A.S} ETC BUT THEY DID NOT BELIEVE IN THE LAST PROPHET PROPHET MUHAMMED {S.A.W} WHICH JESUS PRESCRIBE IN THE BIBLE IF YOU NEED THE VERSE I WILL SHOW YOU

pls i nid d verse 4 more knowledge

tbaba1234: Crusaders in the 8th century My man go and read a book...

can u get me d list of all dose books u get dis info 4rm, i will like to get dem and read.

AlBaqir: WHY SOME SCIENTISTS DO NOT BELIEVE IN GOD?
A survey was published in ‘Nature’ in 1998 entitled ‘Leading Scientists Still Reject God’.
That survey revealed that of the ‘elite’ biologists of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States, approximately 95 percent were men or women who did not believe in a personal God!
~Nature, vol. 394, 1998, p.313

Why would this be?

There are many factors involved. I shall in this brief mention only two out of many:

1)God is not observed in my lab!
Popular scientific dogma holds that if something can’t be proven scientifically, i.e.; by observation and experimentation, it really doesn’t exist.

2) god of Christianity does not exist.
In many instances when a western scientist rejects the existence of God, as a matter of fact, he or she is rejecting the Christian concept of god in terms of resurrection of Jesus and being son of god or god and things like that which is of course nothing more than a myth, and has nothing to do with the true concept of a unique God who is the Creator of all including prophet Jesus.

Hence, according to Christians all Jewish people and Muslims are atheists for they do not believe in Jesus as God!

Source: Excerpt taken from “Ultimate
Questions in Philosophy of Religion” by Shaykh Mansour Leghaei
www.aimislam.com/the-fingerprints-of-god/

is their a quran written in english language because i have not seen one before? Thank you.

Their is this viral news out dat kolanut can cure the nefarious ailment ebola, so i want to confirm is kolanut realli a cure or jxt another prank?

The loving father

Dis boko haram want to turn nigeria to iran,pakistan etc bt dey will nt succeed

robosky02: Kelechi Iheanacho sizzled as he capped an impressive senior debut for Manchester City with a goal in their 4-1 rout of Sporting Kansas City.

Iheanacho, latched onto a cutback from Jesus Navas on top of the box and stroked home with calm composure and precision.

The 17-year-old deservedly took man-of-the-match honours after a performance that embodied class, ease of movement, quick thinking and impeccable passing.

"Iheanacho. Watch out for that name. You're going to be hearing that name for a long time to come. Eye catching display," was the drooling comments from the ESPN commentators post game.

Iheanacho was the star performer as Nigeria's Under-17 team won the World Cup last year, and was the target of Europe's top clubs before signing for City.

with this stand out parformance by Iheanacho at the highest level of football not looking intimidated.And with the fact that Mikel since 2005 refuse to give us a joy with that jaysey.

can we now say we have found a worthy successor to the nigerian no 10 JAYSEY that was once used by JAYJAY okocha, ETIM ESSIEN that made other countries dred us.


what is your take do we retire Mikel now and give IHEANACHO the 10 jaysey
or we keep waiting.....

i think he is, but nt now,he is stil immature

latino2swt: This is a true life story...
Not from/about a friend, a brother or a classmate but about myself and my life.

There is this girl(a Nairalander) I love with everything within, outside and around me. We are from the same State but different Local Government Area. I and her elder sister attended the same school. I met her during the December vacation of 2010/2011 academic session. After much persuasion, persistence and with the help of my good friend who was close to her, she granted me audience. We talked and became casual friends thereafter.
Febuary 2011, I proposed but her reaction though pre-assumed did not go well with me. As a man, i gathered courage and launched yet but another failed attempt same month. March same year saw hat-trick of proposal turned down again. My senior on detecting my mood inquired to know what's up. Wholeheartedly, I told him everything. Contrary to what I assumed would be his reaction he laughed and said, 'kid bro, in life good things comes in a challenging way and don't try to prove a point that to be a man is a day's job'. I agreed within me to make a final attempt. I did, this time 'please talk something else' was the reply. Was that really my final attempt? NO! I called daily for six more months telling her that same old story and receiveing that same old feedback.
October 2011, I found my joy. Anytime my phone beeped, I smiled because she was always the one. My life was never the same again. It was then I confirmed that patience though bitter comes with a sweet fruit. Sincerely, I was uplifted physically, morally, emotionally, academically and health-wise. My life was never the same.
Unfortunately, what I have been seeing in Nollywood movies happened in September 2012. Without any quarrel or attempted quarrel, things fell apart. Though it torn me apart, I remained focused. I considered it a battle I must win or die trying. Why? Because I couldn't imagine myself telling another person other than Mm...n YES I DO in the altar when it's time.
I fought with all available means to refix my ever-valued relationship. People were insulted along the way. I can still remember I kept a very good friend at arm's length for telling me that 'while waiting for the desireable, there is nothing wrong moving on with the availables till the desireable is available'. I only forgave him in April 2013 when we(I and my Precious) found out that we were made for each other.
Life was worth living again but recently(last week to be precise), I sensed something better imagined than experience may happen. She doesn't call nor text again. I can observe a slight deviation from the way we used to speak on phone. Our latest 2go conversation ended this way:
Latino: Precious, I love u passionately
Mm..n: thanks but i don't have time for love matter now.

I sincerely love her, this she knows. Since our first meeting in 2010, no matter how intelligent, good-looking, nice, caring, loving etc a girl is, my inner man always tell me 'Yours is 100% better'.


Nairaland n Nairalanders, I strongly believe ur kind words, advice and encouragement can save my relationship. She is one of us(an active nairalander). She will certainly see/read this, Please let her see reasons to leave the part-time friends stuff and embrace reality.

Please LET IT BE BECAUSE OF U, LET IT NOT BE BECAUSE OF U.
Let it be because of u my joy is complete.
Let it not be because of u it move from bad to worst.

I believe in the power of your words even as I remain focus in the words of an English author Alan Alexander Milne, 'Rivers know this: there is no hurry, we shall get there some day'

Thanks my fellow ever-caring Nairalanders...

you dnt need to start proving ur love 2 her, u made a mistake in d first place by giving her so much attention, she does nt deserve you if she does anyhow, bullshit her. She will cum bck 2 you if you guys her destined to be together.

bizngr: The discussion about death is one which everyone abhors, especially their own. But if you don't make plans on how you want to distribute your worldly wealth while you're still alive, you can leave a host of problems and hardships for your grieving family to sort out.

Take the billionaire aviator turned recluse, Howard Hughes. It took 15 years of legal wrangling before his fortune was handed out among surviving family members because he hadn't bothered to make a will.

Maybe he, like many other people, felt daunted or even afraid by the process - or was it the cost?

But in reality, the business of making a will can be quite straightforward and it won't cost the earth provided you are aware of the major pitfalls.

Here are our top ten tips on how to end up with the perfect will.

1. Choose who draws up your will wisely
You can make your own will but this process is full of pitfalls and errors are easy to make. Lawyers make a lot more money sorting out badly drafted wills and dealing with claims against those wills, than they make for drawing up wills. It’s always advisable to employ the services of a reputable lawyer.

2. Choose your executors well
Executors are responsible for exercising your estate in accordance with your instructions after you have died. It is a responsible and demanding role, and involves handling large sums of money. And don't forget to check that the people you choose are happy to take on the role.

3. Appoint a default or substitute executor
If you are married, you will probably want your spouse to be your executor, but don't appoint them as your sole executor. If you both died together in a plane crash or a car accident, neither of you would have an executor living. Always appoint a default or substitute executor as a fall-back position in case your spouse is unwilling or unable to act.

4. Appoint guardians
If you are the last living parent and you die leaving children under age 18, a guardian will be appointed by the court if you have not specified who this should be in your will. If you are unmarried but you and your partner have children, you might not even get guardianship of your children. If an unmarried man dies, his female partner automatically gets guardianship of their children, but if an unmarried woman dies, her male partner does not. You should appoint each other as guardians in your wills to overcome this problem.

5. Appoint trustworthy trustees
This might sound obvious, but if you are setting up a trust in your will or if your beneficiaries could be aged under 18 when you die, you will need to appoint trustees. Trustees will be responsible for managing and investing money, or looking after property until it passes to the beneficiaries, so make sure they are people with a good grasp of financial matters - and that they are still young enough so they don't die before you do.

6. Make specific legacies
If you want to preserve family heirlooms or items of special sentimental value, (for example, a grandfather clock, or a wedding or engagement ring), you should leave these items as a specific legacy to a named beneficiary.

7. Make sure you leave a residual legacy
The 'residue' is what is left over in your estate after you have made any specific legacies. You must specify who this goes to, as if you fail to do so, you will create a partial intestacy in your will. In other words, the small gifts and legacies would pass according to the will, but the residue would be subject to the laws of intestacy.

8. Save tax with a trust
Inheritance tax is becoming a burden for many families, particularly where the value of a property pushes the value of an estate above the nil rate band for inheritance tax. If you are married, you can include a discretionary trust in your wills, which could save your children millions of naira in inheritance tax at current rates.

9. Sign your will
It's all very well having your will drafted, but if you don't sign it in front of two independent witnesses, it will not be valid. A witness cannot be anyone mentioned in the will or anyone married to anyone mentioned in the will.

10. Get it stored safely
Once your will has been correctly signed and witnessed, have it stored in a proper safe storage facility. This will protect it from fire, flood, damage, or loss. Your executors will be provided with a certificate showing them where your will is stored and how to get hold of it if you die. Whatever you do – don't hide your will. Your will is no good to anyone if it cannot be found after your death.

Source

gud job

francleanflexy: i dont really know where to post this but if its in the wrong place the admins should pls do the needful.

Every body know that if u put ur hand/finger into a soup it will become sour. In fact this is one of the first lesson every nigerian child learns; never put ur hand into the soup pot or it will go sour.
So now am kinda curious, what actually causes sourage In that situation?
Is it that wen ever there is human contact (flesh ) with soup it goes sour or that any disturbance to the surface of a soup after being warmed causes it ?
ur thoughts are welcome

2 me putting ur hand inside soup pot dnt realli mean spoilage it jxt 4 d purpose of hygiene, dey knw dat if dey tell d kid dat it is wrng 2 put is hand in soup pot, he might nt take it seriously but if u say d soup will spoil xpecially if it is his favourite soup den e wunt want 2 put his hand in d pot of soup

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is dis place stil real up to date? Or dis picz wea takin during d civil war period

[quote author=pmarz]This article is disturbing. When will this stop.


American women targeted as Malaysia becomes Internet scam haven: U.S.


KUALA LUMPUR (Reuters) - Hundreds of American women are being ensnared by Internet scammers based in Malaysia, with some losing over a quarter of a million dollars, as the country becomes an epicenter for online crime perpetrated by Africans, U.S. officials say.


The mostly Nigerian conmen, who enter Malaysia on student visas, take advantage of the country's good Internet infrastructure to prey on lonely, middle-aged women, wooing them on dating websites before swindling their savings, they said.

The scams are more sophisticated than most Nigeria-based operations - which most Internet users have experienced at some time either via email or advertising - helped by Malaysia's advanced banking system, which allows perpetrators to quickly set up accounts and receive international transfers.

U.S. officials say Malaysian police lack the resources and expertise to tackle the problem and have yet to launch a single prosecution of a case involving a U.S. victim.

Malaysian police were reported by local media last December as saying that the number of Internet scam cases more than doubled in 2013 with total losses of more than $11 million. A total of 476 Africans had been apprehended for suspected involvement, the report said.

The Malaysian police and the Nigerian embassy in Kuala Lumpur did not respond to Reuters' request for comment. A spokesman for Nigeria's Economic and Financial Crimes Commission said he was not aware of scammers operating in Malaysia, but added they were known to have international networks.

Tim Scherer, consul general at the U.S. embassy in Kuala Lumpur, told Reuters that complaints about such scams now made up more than 80 percent of inquiries to duty officers at the mission, with a dozen new cases reported every week.

Citizens of Australia, Canada and Europe had also been targeted, he said.

"These are not rich widows who are being preyed on, these are middle-class Americans who don't have this kind of money to spare," he said. "It can really transform their lives in a very terrible way."

The U.S. embassy estimates that U.S. victims are losing several million dollars a year, with two women in the past 12 months losing more than $250,000 each. There are more than 600 cases a year, and the amount lost by each victim averages in the tens of thousands of dollars, it said.

The actual figure of total losses is probably far higher, Scherer said, because many victims are too embarrassed to come forward or do not know who to contact. He said the scammers were highly sophisticated, often grooming victims for months and using convincing techniques such as forging letters purportedly from the U.S. ambassador in Malaysia.

FAKE ROMANCE

Large teams of scammers typically trawl dating or Christian websites and contact middle-aged women, the U.S. officials said. They pretend to be a Western man who then gets into legal or business difficulties in Muslim-majority Malaysia.

One U.S. victim told Reuters she transferred a total of$260,000 to Malaysia, where the man who claimed to love her said he was being prevented from returning to the United States by Malaysian bureaucracy - which required hefty payments to negotiate.

The 59-year-old widow from Phoenix, Arizona, who declined to be identified, said she had gone heavily into debt to make the payments to "Charles", and even flew to Malaysia in March to meet him. He never showed up, but a European woman claiming to be his lawyer managed to bilk another $25,000 out of the woman before she returned to Arizona.

Another victim, a women in her late 50s in the eastern United States, said she sent her life savings of $300,000 over two months to a Malaysia-based "American" man she met on dating site Match.com, three years after her husband died.

"I felt like I was in love with this man and we'd be moving forward with a life together real soon," she told Reuters.

Match.com did not respond to a Reuters request for comment. Along with other major U.S.-based dating sites, it features prominent warnings about scammers, specifically telling users to be wary of people who say they are Americans based abroad.

STUDENT SCAM

The conmen have exploited Malaysia's drive to become a global education hub, securing student visas to attend college, the U.S. officials said.

Malaysia has pursued a policy of attracting international students for more than a decade, allowing dozens of foreign colleges to set up Malaysian campuses.

Scherer said it was likely that many of the Nigerians in Malaysia were not genuine students. As of March, there were 9,146 Nigerians on student visas in Malaysia, the education ministry said, out of 123,000 overseas students in total.



Dis americans neva stil won wise, after wetin dey don hear about scammers.

Outspoken,Gud manners nd beauty r still d best trait i tink

Outspoken,Gud manners nd beauty is enough 4 me

Gud manners nd beauty is enough 4 me

gbaskiboy: I want to know benefit of being a cult member in school. Does it add to academic performances?

it jxt 2 gain power

alutacontinua: He should explain to both of them and involve them in his decision making.

i dnt support d idea of him involving dem in d decision making, d choice is his to make den wat ever he decides then he can tell the two of den
that can break up the family if u were d wife or d broda nd u had a job of 600k wunt u long 4 it xcluding allowance, but if he makes d decision himself and let d two of them see 4rm his own perspective then that should solve the problem.

collynzo2: This has nothing to do with boko haram, there was no bomb blast whatsoever.

you sure? Because the last time i checked, more than 25 of the insurgent were arrested in that same state

More and more lives keeps losing everyday because of these boko haram insurgence, nd if we start laying complaint now, sum pple will b saying it is apc other pdp. wat has d president himself done to stop these rebellious pple? Is it until they start commiting genocide in d south also before he acts? Leta he will say he will b placing campaign for 2015 elcetion, i wish im luck in dat#rubbish

okparaugo: Sexylogan, we have been casual/far friends for 3 years and just became close recently. I do not suspect her. I know her Ex at least online. Let me say her love is still new.

From the little I know about ladies, if they want to do a runs, they won't even tell you where they are going. At least I don't live with her.

But I view this as insurbodination.

I won't talk to her till she explains.

i knw you luv your gf so much but what i think you should do is 2 calm down and trust her, you dnt nid to start avoiding her bcoz of that act if you do that, she mayb thinkin you are too possessive jxt let her hav her space if you say she has not been doing this before.

Last week monday, i was talkin to one of my coursemate then he asked me this question WHO IS A SERIOUS STUDENT IS IT THE PERSON THAT ATTEND CLASS AND FAIL OR THE PERSON THAT DNT LIKE ATTENDING CLASS AND PASS,
i told him been criouz does nt necessarily mean going to class, a serious student is a person that attend class,do is assignment and put God first in anytin he/she does, that ma view tho. So am throwing the question out to you guys, who do you think is a serious student and state your reasons for your various answers
thank you.

Dnt dey have tv in their country that d citizens them self can b watchin d world cup, evn 9ja get tv broadcast
white lie

lawa18: My fellow nairalanders, am writing this bc I want to lessen the load that has been pressing down my heart for long now by pouring out to its entirety wt has been transpiring between me and my only brother and I earnestly wish u help me out on wt to do.

I am a fresh graduate hoping to serve come Nov and .mmy brother came back from service in 2011, luckily for him, he got a job with WAEC, immediately after serving. He rented a one room apartment n I visited him in 2012 when I did my industrial training. During my stay, I noticed he doesn't allow our relatives n friends to visit us which became more pronounced when he got a girl friend called Ada. Ada started to visit us gradually till she now visits on daily basis. It became serious dt from daily visiting she started sleeping over and later started living with us. Landlord and the wife complained and quarrelled wt my brother over her sleeping with us but nothing changed. The landlord even slapped my brother amidst a quarrel and the wife once abused the girl but she wouldn't learn her lessons. My brother later relocated to a new apartment ( a room and parlour) abandoning a remaining 6months in the old apartment. The girl moved in with him.

Before I now visit, I v to write an application letter giving him like two weeks notice talk more of any other relative or friend visiting. My Dad only visited once and it was an uphill task bc he has to keep postponing it to avoid Dad knowing about the girl he is harbouring likewise when my mum once visited. Each time I visited from sch, the gal must be there with her clothes and shoes all over the wardrobe. All these gave me little worry until he started talking about marrying the girl.

Though l didn't like d idea, I kept silent over the issue. When I thought God has answered my prayers was the day he to told me that their genotype did not match after they did a genotype test not knowing dt things will become worse. The intimacy started like never before despite d test. I had to confront him one day concerning d girl, giving him several reasons why he should let go of the girl like:

1. Risk of pregnancy and abortion.

2. D girl will prevent him from finding a wife since he said he wants to marry.

3. His reputation n dt of the family will be dragged to the mud.

4. His spiritual life is in jeopardy as he no longer prays since the girl came into his life unlike before

5. Dt the gal has alienated him from our relatives and friends.

6. He is spending on the wrong person and so many other reasons.

After, he insisted that he knows wt he is doing, in fact I should stop telling him dt he is ready to bear the consequences if anything goes wrong. He celebrated his 30th birthday last month, he is not too financially buoyant, he has many family responsibilities but is wasting his future with a stranger.

They have lived for over two years now, they now bath together, he helps the girl in cooking and atimes cooks for her, he accepts anything she says and live his life to please the girl only (she recommends the movie to be watched), she takes call from her other suitors in his presence but my brother cannot. What a world!

I happen to be the only person that knows wt is happening, not even my parents are aware. Am confused. Could it be that they want to take the risk and get married or my brother is just wasting his time waiting for her to get married before he starts looking for a wife.

My parents r hoping dt soonest their son will marry. I don't knw wt to do n whom to seek advice from. I love my brother so much and wouldn't want anything to go wrong in his life. I don't even want people to knw wt he is doing so as not to v problem wt him or taint his image. I solicit for ur help pls

u brother nid spiritual help, i dnt think that is ordinary, dat ma view tho

[quote author=ayukdaboss]Here’s a typical scenario of how the friend zone situation is for most guys.

You meet a girl. You hit it off pretty well. You start being friends. You kinda feel that she kinda has a thing for you, but you’re too scared to make a move. You get an opportunity to take the relationship to the next level, but you’re still too scared so you don’t do anything. Time passes. You’re still friends. You have a great time whenever you’re together, and you’re closer than ever with each other. When you FINALLY do get the courage to say or do something, she delivers the ultimate blow: “I just want to be friends.”

So now you’re trying to find out how to get out of the friend zone and stay out of it, for good.

Is there any hope for you? Fortunately, the answer is a resounding “YES!”

For most guys, getting out of the friend zone usually means that you had a chance at the beginning, but then somehow, some way, for some reason or the other, YOU BLEW IT. You took a wrong turn somewhere, and ended up in the dreaded friend zone.

Trust me I’ve landed in the friend A COUPLE OF TIMES ever since I started liking girls at teenage age. So what do you do now? Here, I’m going to share with you some simple steps on how to get out of the friend zone. Follow them and drop your testimony here later

1.) Accept the reality of the situation.

No begging or pleading for her to give you a chance. She made a conscious decision to not be anything more than friends with you, and no amount of convincing will change her mind. Instead, we’re going to approach the situation by working on her irrational and illogical side. Don’t withdraw yourself, but you’ll do much better if you start putting less focus on her and more focus on you at this stage of the process.

2.) Improve yourself.

There is no single person in this world who can’t use a touch of self-improvement. Start lifting weights. Start eating healthy. Learn something new. Try out some sports. Get that adrenaline pumping through your veins. Trust me, you’ll feel much better about yourself and gain more self-confidence, and you’ll look better in the process (if you decide to work out).

3.) Have fun with other people.

You cannot and should not put all your eggs in one basket, EVER. Even your mum must have told you at some time. Start meeting some people. Your friends have friends who have friends of their own — work different social circles. Meet girls and learn how to flirt well. Ironically, the more women you meet, the better you will do with the girl you’re trying to escape the friend zone with. The more jealous she gets, the better. Girls easily get jealous, take note of that.

4.) Ask her out on a Non-Date.

Now the game begins. If she’s hesitant to go out with you on one-to-one basis, start asking her out on Non-Dates. A Non-Date is basically a get-together where you ask her to accompany you doing something that you would do anyway. Something like picking up some stuff, buying some fast food, watching some movies together etc. She’s more likely to go with you than if you ask her to go to dinner.

5.) Flirt with her.

The number one reason guys can’t get out of the friend zone is because they don’t realize that it’s a matter of sexual attraction; or rather, the lack of it. So start teasing her playfully. Start with playful compliments until you can eventually move on to flirting that’s more sexual in nature. If I notice that she put on a maybe revealing wear, my favorite line is, “You cannot put that on around me any more, because I’m afraid that one of these days I won’t be able to hold control myself and do something BAD.”

6.) Emphasize your sexuality.

If you failed to make a move before, then you can’t be Mr. Touchy all of a sudden — she’ll know what your doing. Start slow with casual touches on the arm, or the small of her back. Then graduate to hugs. If she talks about other guys, then talk about other girls and be very graphic. Make sure that she knows that you are a man who doesn’t repress his sexual urges (it's okay...nothing will happen).

7.) Make your move.

If you do steps 5-7 well enough, you will find that you’ll be gradually escalating. Your flirting becomes more sexual by nature, she starts being touchier with you, and your dates become more serious. By the time that this happens, you have done well. To accomplish your mission of getting out of the friend zone, you MUST make your move. There is no way in hell that she is going to be making the first move, but she will be giving you hints that it’s okay to do something now. Do not be a fool and miss this second chance! When opportunity knocks, open the door and pounce on it.

And that’s it! I know it’s VERY simplified, but that’s the basic process that you must follow from beginning to end if you want to know how to get out of the friend zone. Lolz#notofriendzone

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