One can enjoy life by doing what one love most as against going with the crowd. In everythings, we must ensure that we live the life that best suit us.

All these material acquisitions and marraige for the sake of marriage dont make people happy. Instead happiness come from within, when you do something that you know is in line with your personal creed, believe, creeds and conviction. Whe you stay away from toxic people no matter who they are and when you surround yourself with positive elements.

No matter what you do, you will be happy!

naija2day,
Thank u for that input. Only an uninformed will look at that stat and agree with the senate. Maybe they want Bankole to know who is the boss.

seriously, the man has a point. If he claimed he has a certified copy of his AD, what stop the tribunal from taking a look into it before declaring him wanted?

I am not a fan of T. Bakare, but I admits he has the knack of making true statements regardless of who the personalities are. People may attack him for one thing or the other. But let us look at his claim on merit. Sadly most people concerned will want to use T. Bakare's radical past to brush aside the weighty allegation.

It is time Nigerians stop enriching some crooks in the name of religion.

alloy.emeka,
I believe I can provide a little answer to your original post. I read it and love the manner you presented it. Though am sad that it is a bit misunderstood by a fellow to the point of ridiculing the name of God.

I shall, by God grace try to remember to return to this thread to add to what you have read. Am mobile now and therefore cant do much.

On the addiction to porn, I make bold to say it has nothing to do with religion affiliation. Porn watching are more prevalence in non muslim countries and yet, no one link their problems to their religions. Similarly, countries like China and japan has strict and rigid law against porns and we all know that they dont all worship God, yet they prosper. Finally, we know that contemporary African society detest porns/nudity and also worship idols, yet they are underdeveloped, poor!

What these analogies implies is that watching porns may not necesarily has much to do with the authencity of your faith. It is a moral question.

Most people that we consider clean and godly on the outside do watch porns when opportunities present itself.

Porn to me is like a virus (a social virus) with a consequence. Watch and get addicted to it, and you have to bear the consequence regardless of your religion affiliation.

But there is cure for porn addiction. Depending on the intensity of addiction, if he follow the rule, just as smokers, drug addict, he will be free. Mind you, God can answer the prayers of porn watchers, prostitutes etc as long as they have faith and know how to pray regardless of their religion affiliations. God answers everyone on earth, that is why He is Ar Rahmon.

If your friend want to be cured of porn watching, then he must combine faith with actions amd follow the path of recovery

@poster,
Get a fresh air.

@17, it is advisable the poster thread slowly, cautiously but with positive attitude

@uju,

You are at least right. As for the fellwo that called it senseless thread, it is pathetic if that is the levvel of your intelligent. Kindly read he link.

Sometimes, I wonder at the manner of people that post without thinking lol.

Just read the link and educate yourself before you sleep with maniac.


"A devoted husband strangled his wife to death in his sleep while he dreamed he was tackling an intruder, a court heard yesterday.

Brian Thomas, who suffers from a sleep disorder, claims he reached out to grab the raider but instead throttled Christine, his wife of nearly 40 years.

He then dialled 999 and told the operator: 'What have I done? I've been trying to wake her. I think I've killed my wife. Oh my God. I thought someone had broken in.


'I was fighting with those boys but it was Christine. I must have been dreaming or something.

'What have I done? What have I done? Can you send someone?'

Thomas, 59, and his 57-year-old wife had been happily married and they had two grown-up daughters, Swansea Crown Court was told.

However, he had a history of sleep walking and other sleep disorders.

Before the killing, Thomas had stopped taking his medication so the couple could be 'intimate' while on holiday in Aberporth, west Wales.

On the night in July last year that Mrs Thomas died, the couple parked their camper van in a car park.

While they were trying to sleep, they were disturbed by a number of young people screeching their tyres, and the couple decided to move their van elsewhere.

At 3.49am, Thomas made the 999 call saying he thought he had killed his wife.

Ten minutes later, police found him crying and shaking. He said of his wife: 'She's my world.'

Experts specialising in sleep disorders carried out tests and agreed his behaviour was consistent with the 'legal concept of automatism'.

In court, Thomas, of Neath, south Wales, accepted he caused his wife's death but denied murder. Prosecutors want a 'special verdict of not guilty of murder by reason of insanity'.

Paul Thomas QC said: 'This was a case of insane automatism - because the sleeping disorder the defendant had suffered from since childhood was "part of him" and not something that could be cured.'

The alternative, he added, was a not guilty verdict in which case Thomas would go free. However, defence lawyers argue the automatism was temporary as it was brought on by the stress of dealing with the youths in the car park. The case continues."


I hope that help the fellow that called it senseless thread, cheers!

@poster,

Well well, another one will soon come to roast,

Why not tell the lady who you are first and see how she will react? Dont tell your brother yet. let her know you.

That disclosure will however add you to the reason why people should not just add anyone on their fb list if they have skeleton in their cupboards. You know you equally commit sin by disguising as someone else. There is no way she will see your picture and she will know knwo i is you. In a nutshell, you are also a storyteller though you are telling the police story. Kudos. Eni maa ku pade eni maa pa!

Ther is nothing wrong in taking his gift as loong as he is not sending the photograph of both of you nude in a crazy position to you and your husband. If he has money to throw and the goodwill to back it up, if your spouse trust you, then there is no problem.

hi

Mind who you sleep with. Even if he is your lover. You never can tell what kind of dream he will have.

A devoted husband recently killed his wife while sleeping thinking he was fighting an invader. He even had to call in the police!


http://www.metro.co.uk/news/article.html?Man_killed_wife_in_a_bad_dream&in_article_id=771896&in_page_id=34

call an area boy to do justice to the guy

Bearshare,

You can never compare kids poor upbringing to one another. That will be a grave mistake. Each kid has his own peculiar path. Fir instance, I have a close friend who was raised by a single dad. HE grew up to be a womanizer and a careless guy. he cant stay with one lady. Though married now, he still chase creatures in skirt about and rare stay at home. You can say he took after his dad. But another guy in the same compound, raised by the same dad is a cool guy. You cant believe he was raised by the same dad as the careless one. And he cant even talk to ladies!

So what am I trying to say, you may say some has worse upbringing or you may think your s is worse, we all react differently to situations. That ou know you need some expert advise show that you want to change. But to me, you do it on your own without having to waste money. All you need is determination to go through it. When you remove bad habit, the best way to take it out of your system permanently is to replace it with a better one.

have you tried that?

ouch!

The militants need deliverance. They are now more godly that the prophet.

Sad!

Uplawal,

Wa alaekum salam warahmotulah wabaraka tuh, Have fun


@mushin,

Thanks f0r the ebook. I got it, though I have not opened it due to many tasks at hand. I will reply sha.

may God bless you. Maybe I can send one to you also,

@poster,

you get it wrong!

We have good psychologists around. And in fact you can get god advise anywhere.

The truths is that you are the problem! No matter where you go, the first solution to your problem is that you must admit that you are wrong. The next is to listen to all possible solution. Many of them may not be what you like, but they may help you.

Think about one of your posts: You said "sex come naturally" to you yet you dont wnat to admit that it could be part of the problem. what come naturally to you have difference level of intensitive. Everyone have the urge for sex but not everyone have the same problem as you do. Why? because you probabl underestimated the influence of sex in your emotion.

Look at it this way "if you are not after their "beauty" nor their "money" (since you have your own money), and you are not even interested in how morally upright they are to respect them, obviously, we have to look at other angels.

the angles I will look at are:
1. Sex
2. Your childhood
3. the people you flock with
4. your mental state
5. your psychological state.
6. spiritual curse

When you look at the above you will find that in between them is the real problem. if you want to know whether it borne out of sex or not, the only way is for you to abstain from sex first and see what happen. If you can't abstain, yo't know whether it your problem or not. Next look at your cicle of friends. If they are he motivating factor, they have to go. the rest is left for experts. You can find them if you seek them.

the guy need a psychologist

i think it is normal to feel that way when what you have for them is lust for sex and the fun of being with them. If you are truthful, then you have got a real problem. It will be hard for you to stay in your marriage without running into a problem.

Keep away from sex, and other bad habits including porns. Maintain a respectable distance, yet learn to be close to her. Look at the people you flow with. If they are the same as you or see nothing wrong with you, start looking for a new peer to flow with.

Next, what is your perception of women? Do you see them as sex objects or as human? Are you are nyphnmaniac?

Finally, just think of this method. Look at your self as another guy. Then think of the next lady you will hurt as your daughter or sister. How will you feel if the guy do what you are doing on your daughter or sister?

Let that analogy guide you to a new mental reconditioning. And remember to seek divine intervention. God will help you

Someone posted this on my page on facebook.

Who are the Gog and Magog and are they animals, men or demons? Will they ever come back?

So I feel maybe the house can discuss the issue. I is something most people ignored. Though I gave her the answer, I wonder if I was right.

Fortunately, this isnt a Christains vs Muslim so I expect a healthy discuss.


Let's share

@poster,

This is ridiculous! You didn't offend me at all.

We are in a forum, you expressed your views and I did mine. We all make mistakes but we should know when to correct. It has been long I come to this section. Just that someone send me the link. Anyway, there is nothing to forgive. I hope that settle it? I just feel we should respect one another regardless of who we are dealing with. If someone dont agree with you, you needn't make him look foolish. That can not make him agree. It will aggravate th situation.

Have fun and remain humble. God bless.

@mushin

Can you send me that ebook? use my email isqilnajim@yahoo.co.uk cheers

@poster,
I think you are missing a point. I am sorry, you got you father wrong. I believe you have a flaw. Your post show it. Pls think about it.

@topic
It is unwarranted, stupid. No lady or evem guy should do that.

Funny how people reduce every serous issue to jokes.

If the poster is right, I will have love to askk her what she meant by working hard. In my own little understanding, I feel she was saying they dont have a job that is paying big or they are managing with something.

If my assumption is correct, I see no reason why they can't get married. People who are condemning jobless couples have forgotten certain things:
1. Many people get married with job and eventually lose the job, especially when only one oartner was working;
2. Many of the most suceessful men in the world actually married when they have nothing! I am wondering why we dont read history. Many people who we count on weren't rich at the time of their maraige;
3. There are thousands of people tha married with neither partners having any job at all. and a serious prportion of them actually made it. I knwo alot in this category including a lady who married a workng man only for the man to die when she is pregnant with her second child while she is yet to have a job! She went on to become successful and has been raising the kids now while putting them in one of the bst schools in Lagos. Yet she had tough begining.
4

the problem with most of us is that we tend to get frighten at the prospect of suffering even though a majority of us are suffering already. T

To to the best of my knowledge and experience, it doesnt matter how or where ou start. What matter is who you are . If you are hardworking and know how to navigate the tide of time and turn around your situation, it will b folish of you to delay your time just because you ant to make it as a millionnaire.

my friends, I strongly believe tha the best marrauge are those that have wonderful partners tha trust one another, yet while working hard toward achieving their goals. Life become more nteresting f we know how to fight and defeat obstacles ahead of us.

I recalled that my parents gave birth to me when they have nothing. No job and they never forget to raise us up and gave us the best they an afford. Today they are o pauper and they can sit back and smileat the past.

Youths of now aday are quick to point out the povwery level in Africa and number of children as if marraige is all about raring children. If the couple know what they truly want, they an marriy and delay the raising of kids while they work together to build their homes.


E go beta

why not post here?

This sound more like poem than a story,

@poster,

Why are u interested?

Ridiculous tale!

phemmy, you need to realize that it is not every thief and harlot that ventured into the vice that did so willingly. Circumstances made people take into vices. I have seen ladies desperate for survival that can sleep with any man just to get their needs. We must learn to understand that many people dont enjoy being prostitute. As long as they are not addicted to the trade, we must give them second chance when we can afford to bail them out. Our leaders are worse than prostitutes.

my mind tell me it is money that is motivating her to do that.

3 times, she mentioned that he earned 350k per month and didnt want to add just 1k! She was even talking of inheritance when the man is rtill alive! This is absord. What if the man drop dead today and kick the bucket?