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U just stuck the nail on the very head. ..
#uglytruth
They are only human to think that way oooh. ..

modath:
Even me sef know na you....






I can't really call it cruelty, I think its what nerf & aunty call "intolerance" & "deep seated anger" especially when they see you come in almost on a daily basis with shopping bags & then have the audacity to say you are paying your thousands of USD medical bills in CASH!!! while they have to either use insurance or medicare..

You get dat kain money, use shakara dey talk "I'm paying cash, I can't use insurance ooo, come still dey squat, your case na sorry...

Quick tip mostly 4 first time mums. ..
If u can spare a lil change by the side, allowing a professional baby photographer step in n fp shoots with u during delivery and postpartum will create such unforgettable moments wch I can't have bk.

Had a professional baby photo shoot at the hospital and those pixes are up kill for. .literally.

Best of luck to all the new mommas n papis in the hux. ..hey #shola u just became my friendlier. ...hehehe

Hahaha. ........
Totally. ..
Oya na first please of u don't mind I'm would like u to pm me the winning powerball numbers Pronto. .at least as your gift to my son. ..

@shawlar u also had a boi. ....sweeeet. ..
Guess we can say we were in d spirito Santos wen we were doing the archery acing for a precise hard target. .

Congrats and best wishes to ur precious one and wifey.
By d way wetin concern daddy (u) amongst the list of people doing okey for the matter.
Your own na to chop kpekus bring moni n give them better life. .her own na to carry 9/11 articulated parts n superwomanly push ur boi out. .so don't steal her glory mk hormonal warriors no bite u here now ooh. .

Congrats again. ..this is kool
We too been discharged n relaxing back at the apartment now

shawlar:
First of all, Congratulations to @olokings and @gaggle on the birth of their LO's. May the babies be blessed and gifted specially by the Almighty God IJN.

Here is also announcing the birth of 'mini-shawlar'. He was born on the 29th of sept. We used oakbend & Dr. F and the whole birth/delivery process went on very smoothly. Mummy, baby and daddy are all doing well and discharged 4rm d hospital already.

In other news, i think we can now safely confirm that @firsttymum has mystic powers becos....

.. so if you need info to place a bet on anything, I think firsttymum is your best bet... (see what I did there.. ??)

Hospitals presumably equipped for vbac includes:
Baylor medical centers
Texas Presbiterian hospitals
Methodist medical center etc.. Google for more

Vbac friendly obgyn around dallas area includes:
Yolanda - baylor
Charles Griffiths - presbiterian
Downey - methodist
Carlton - methodist.
Google for more and be quick to hola at them because the doc's don't take late patients especially if they ate vbac because there's a lot of parameters required to be considered to decide weda the woman is a gud vbac candidate or not.

Google vbac friendly doctors in Texas and a few names will pop up then go further by researching personally each of the doctor's of their experiences with vbac and patient review on that specific practice. .

My wife used methodist Richardson n Downey as obgyn.
He did pretty well and no drama.

U ll like to note that hospitals that are vbac friendly are usually large and have dedicated various med practices housed in the same complex such that d docs are practically available all thru the delivery n labour pls they are ready for any emergency.
Mostly the labor rooms (private) are equipped to go to emergency c section without moving the patient during delivery.

Gud luck on ur further endeavor. ..

bizzle6:
Thanks so much for touching that matter, can you help out with the name of hospital and dr your wife used for the VBAC.

Hmmmm....
I know I can be very insensitive to people who try to play #jah because they got something on you. .
Instead of me to tk #shi from a host so much to be treated like a toddler just because u feel you ate doing me a favour I will tell u str8 to please kip it (if not shove it sef) n I ll step out.
If not anything my sanity n dignity are paramount to me.
Bad as e bad intown n studio 6 dey week no cost more than $1k per month. ..I wee go there n manage rather than ur space managed combo wch is apparently being turned into ur Kingdom because I wan squat. ..

Like I said, I ll kip preaching no matter how ur host beg u, get an apartment rented on ur own no matter how budgeted it is it ll surelybe more comfy for u than the one bed that ll be #gifted u in a host's place.

My own sha ooh. .

modath:
It's easy to insist that you don't respond to naysayers but it hurts so so so bad when one goes with so much expectations of being treated decently & also reciprocating with respect & goodwill but find the case to be the reverse..

People always are quick to malign the hosted party without getting the true facts of the course of events which is so so unfair....

Let's be slow to judge without facts.

Can anyone imagine a grown adult being called from the room to come pick up a grain of rice that fell from one's plate or told having a CS does not preclude sweeping just a week later.??


I never planned to do this ever,but just have to;

When my spouse's relatives started drama, nerfititiram & her angelic aunty were my boy & I's refuge... I started doing 3 days with them, 1 day with our relatives who suddenly became friendly when it was apparent I now had alternative & didn't have to endure..

What's so ironic is that they've sent us an errand, like they do while conveniently forgetting their actions ....


Can I get an e-round of applause for nerf & aunty, dem too much abeg....

I don't quote long posts but in this case I had to make an exception, sorry everyone.

Quick note. ..
On the VBAC case. ..
there's really no special (or different hospital/ obgyn) price as to normal/cs and vbac delivery.
Is just a matter of whether or not the hospital is equipped to handle likely emergencies that may arise during a vbac and further if the doctor is experienced at handling vbac cases.
My wife just had a second vbac with a 4kg+ youngie n the doctor and hospital charges were same as a normal delivery.

My advice is for your location just Google obgyn that encourages and performs vbac however from research only a handful does it and are successful at it.

Please a word of advice really research the doctor by reading vbac mums review of him/her because some of them will tell you they ll give u a vbac only for them to ve premeditated n offer u an emergency c-section few days to ur EDD wen dey know u got no where else to run to. ..

I noticed that during my research whilst looking for a vbac friendly obgyn. ..

2 cents for who cares to pick. . ..
out for a bit again I'm seriously in need of a shutter-eye

Firsty haf cutted d wrope ooh...

firsttymum:
Once u ain't a regular here I won't acknowledge any pms. So it's better u ask questions here let everyone benefit.


Stop with the pms abeg

Congrats plenty many much to u too.

gaggle:
Gave birth to my lo on Friday. It was a beautiful surprise! I got a baby boy after the scan I did in naija at 25 weeks indicated I was having a girl. thank God I didn't go all crazy buying pinks. so excited I will be going home soon. thanks everyone.
congrats @ olokings

Hellos fellas. ...
It's official, legacy number 3 confirmed and ushered into the beautiful world. .
The young prince is doing great with momma. ..
Further story leta. ..
Pinging from methodist Richardson. .
Peace people. ....
Happy dad signing out for the moment. ..

#armsup.... present ma! ...
Follow up

firsttymum:
Olokings and ladyguinivere

I see you peeping...Or is it window shopping

Ooh trust me he's reading alright ....
Cos rut now asides nego, he's combing the forum for ideas...

firsttymum:
Olokings u shld cc alfred in ur post for him to read.

MiddyO lol...

Favoredgal if ur travel date is near write yo d embassy or rather go to d Dhl office to see if ur passport is there.
I didn't get an update whatsoever... I just went to the Dhl office and picked my passport... Unlike my husband that did.

Hehe..
Yay to get yo moni back.
Put it out for free u ll see mommas who's willing to come n stay with n kip themselves company..
But putting it out here for peops who's ready to come pay to to live in.... I doubt.
Have u ever stayed with ur landlord under one roof?!.... The fight no be here ooh...
My advice is allow her enjoy her space, if she's willing to have a friend to stay over (not subletting ooh) then she be kool as there'd be less string n drama attached.

My take though

ObRochec:
I paid for a 2 bedroom apartment for my wife in a nice environment in elpasso having a gym ,Swimming pool and a basket ball court, but she is only using a room, any one intrested to pay and stay from now till second week of Dec can contact me because by third week I wld be around with my other kids. Thank you, romyify@yahoo.com

Hahahaha.
I write d way I think

hopefulme:
You be civil servant? Internal Memo From: Prof oloks To:NLGBINM.

Hmmm....
In view of the foregoing, oI'd say this is a more astute response to d case (ignoring the smoke screen).
Let's to highlight the later paragraph and move on ahead. ..
To every give there's a take, to a Ying there's a yang, plus - minus, yes - no. These makes the balance of life.
Noted and kind enough that the gud doc have credence to the complaints of the ma'am regardless of time n circumstance played out.
Let's just hope others tk a cue from this and realigned their acts to acknowledge that we naijas don't always like to raise hell in no man's land, we still very well know where the furnace controls are. ..

I hereby move for the case to be struck out n discussed no further given his apparent repentance.
Watchtower activated though. ...
So mommas can fire on (as long as yo singletons though)

Hi.
Pls proof read and rephrase. .
Don't know what u trying to say!

kosplateau:
Hell all, why wld a doc or hospital u activate medicare and some don't suggest or say don't say I told u so? Why do some prefer u pay up from ur home country and with d risks of not paying involved and still don't want u to use medicare? If u don't pay up...is the penalty not being able to have ur visa renewed only?

Woah! !
Apparently the reaper-bot 's been upgraded. .. it now reaps without leaving any grave or burn marks. .
Wait lemme look again

My thoughts exactly. ...
I was gonna ask that buh I rmbr we got some docs in the hux as such I hit d mute button not to sound too fwd. .
However diff ob / gyn with diff styles and policy of practice.
Madam has been subjected to 2 routine blood tests all within the 3rd trimester to make sure all's well.

Further to the above, didn't u tell them ur missy is a vbac candidate? most hospitals n docs outrightly don't do ur yo know. ..

Word for all: pls endeavour if you are a vbac candidate (even if it's a vbac^2) to tell ur ob/gyn so they can mk am informed decision. .. not all practice n hospital does this. Up here they need special consideration for that.
In dallas for example only a handful of docs (not more than 10 i think) does it n dey need a higher rated hospital plus d docs office a usually housed in the same complex s the clinic I think. ...

Sorry abt ur situation though, really try negotiating with them however I know there are some wch state in their quotes that bills subjected to market dispensation are not allowed for negotiation as they have already been discounted.
Happy ur baby n wifey ate n both okie that's the most important.

favoredgal:
Sorry bout your ordeal. Pls ask and insist on a discount and a flexible payment plan. Your discount can be more than 50% doesn't matter.
Also ensure you collect zero balance for the once you have paid on full so far that is for the mum and hospital. It will come in very handy

Big hug

P.s dint they test her for gbs in the third trimester? I remember I tested positive so they administered anti bacteria to me during labor to prevent the child from getting infected. It is well

Lol. ..
My taser was set to stun before. ..
See how u for dey dance shoki-shankiti with 50k volts coursing thru ur veins. ..
Hehe

firsttymum:
u wey dey always scatter our head with grammar no talk o.
Ladyguinivere na my paddy... I don't just want someone else (nairaland monitoring spirits)catching feelings and all that. U no nairaland na... People catch feelings
Hahaha hahahahahha

#onstripeshirtwitharmsstrechedapartpointingtasers......
Walk away! Walk away! ! ..
U wan force us dey keep dictionary by our sides when e dey comment for NL now. ..
oya tk hug n chill out

firsttymum:
wrong choice of word bae.

Nope!... I don't have a clue.
I'm just saying since we most usually take PTA for our trips (given d thought that PTA taken is not for miscellaneous) lil purchases can be done with naija cards while large amount denting can be directed to cash or otherwise...
It's all about perspective though..

bigfido:
Do you know how much banks charge to send money to foreign accounts? Do they use cbn rates or the ridiculous 220bucks per dollar rates to do this?

Boss,
I stand corrected but I think that ban may not be applicable to everything ooh...
I have swiped my Stanbic card for transactions worth over $500.00 at a tyme.
I swiped it for car rental, and was still able to make purchases at the local groceries place all in a day...
@firsty is #high lets poke at her tinker with her BOP n make her blow a cap...

shawlar:
The Naija banks that'll then limit how much of my own money u can spend per day...??



agreed.., the amelica air come join put sef...

Dust ur naija card. ..
Mk d bank chop ur moni tk pay ur sisters n brothers salary. .lol

firsttymum:
lol.... So is the only way out to carry cash around?

Aswear d meth weh u smoke na quantum dynamics dem use calculate am.
.lol

firsttymum:
Oya na... On Monday when u go Abeg update us.


Looks like ur wife and olokings wife might put to bed around the same period.
To think the kpekusing was mayb d same day sef....
Lmfao... Hahhhahhahhahhhahhaha.

Plus I get to comman eat pepper soup

U see exactly what I am saying....?!
The charges you runaway from with naija banks exchange rate and surcharges u pay with amelican minimum balance n hidden surcharges as well.
These feefoo know how to rip u n kip u smiling at the same time ..lol...

shawlar:
Firstly, the cash/self payment package in the hospital doesn't necessarily mean paying in hard cash. I think its better termed upfront payment. U can also use ur card, swipe and use d debit option or count out the cash; Whichever way, as long as the hospital gets paid immediately.

I think most people open bank accts in order to avoid keeping or carrying around so much cash. Its also easier to use for online shopping et al - than 1 naija bank saying I can't spend more than $300 or so. My wife travelled with over 8k and I got her to open the BOA acct but when I hear say the minimum bal. na $1500, fear grip me... . plus if ur bal goes less than that in a month, u get charged around $7. They also opened a savings acct for her too. Anyways, I'm going to go into the bank on mon to talk to them cos my sis (who has had an acct for over 3yrs) doesn't abide by the min bal thingy and she doesn't get the monthly charge either

I'm not sure oh, but I don't know of any individual that funds their amelica acct by swift transfer from naija.. I'm sure the bank charges r ridiculous (as usual). Most peeps jst bring in d cash and deposit it

Pm the poster....
Grim reaping bot is on DEFCON 1.

jacklenst:
Kindly assist with the apartment u stayed in Batavia. I intend to use the hospital next yr.

Okie so this BOA thingy got me thinking.
1. How do u fund the account?.
Do u lodge in cash which I surmise you got from ur PTA (wch is ur case is $4k)... If u did, then haven't that defeated the point that u wanna do self (cash) payment.
2. Reviewing the bank charges and monthly charges, correct me if I'm wrong (because I got no clue on weda dis boa guys have got ATM surcharges) but comparing the resultant charges on the BOA card and the fact that you have grossly moved ur cash in hand into credit balance with the bank doesn't that have its own negating effect as it is.
3. If u are eventually going to fund it from ur own account by intl swift transfer I bliv u are gonna yet be paying the same bank charges wch u were running away from in the first.?!

The thought process goes on more than I care to type perhaps I need to be properly schooled in that regards.

At the end of the day, after careful consideration (to the best of my kpako sabi-ish) the best gamble is to buy PTA hard cash and use cards for important POS n online transactions wch u can't get away from.

My take though waiting to learn more...

firsttymum:
I never paid any interest in the bank of America posts.... Now looks like imma have to dig them out.


But I'm a newbie.. Can I b spoonfed


Olokings
Financefitness
Donchukky
Shawano
Ozycy
Popri

Inshort everyone... I need spoonfeeding on this one.


If I hear pim about u won't b spoonfed what happened in 1960 will repeat itself

@Nas-a-Diva congrats on ur successful birthing...
Wishing u quick recovery and all the kool perks that comes with even higher levels of motherhood.
Best wishes ur precious one.

Hahaha. ..
I'm just window shopping on NL...

firsttymum:
Justwise Hi.... I see you peeping....

Don't worry we've been good mummys and daddys.

Oloking I see you too... Jetlag things abi?

Firsty you have broken record ooh.....
See as ur cry S1E01&02 is bringing silent followers into the light. ....
If not for anything, for this one please kindly honor us with episode 3 so that more silent readers will come out..
Cry reason: u re missing DH..

Congrats on ur smooth delivery in gud faith. .iron lady firsty.hehe

@firsty na ur fever dem cure like this so chai....
Instead weh u go sitdon for their counter cry better red Sea for them u rather form strong eye carry the kaya go hux go do. ..
Oya na
.we are waiting for the rest part to drop. ......
BTW, welcome to amelica. ....
Rest well n type away.

Hahaha. .I never thought of it via that perspective. .hmm.....

As per the later I deliberately didn't say much buh I trust I tickled the thought process of allot.

Funny how the poster joined NL less than 2 hrs n the first, one and only post is the bomb.
Then I wanted to waka pass on the condition that the poster responded to the quote where someone requested for further details but he/she didn't.
That simply gave them off n affirmed my suspicion.

Yet I tried to downplay it by just dropping a pebble on the water rather than a full out tsunami .

I got no beef whatsoever buh my line of thought is its better the ladies (and dudes) take decisions with adequate info on the fine prints n not have to play R-Kelly "I wish" remix afterwards.
It's not a matter of good / bad, buh rather is just a master of sharing info to know whose the goose n who's d gander so that we know what's best for each if u get my gist.

How's yo precious doing. ..?

modath:
@olokings,

Una nor hear say 33yr old Dubai crown prince just murd from "heart attack" ?

Anything passing through that country that looks slightly suspicious go hear am like na dem fault say dem pikin sabi chop life...

@nogen, @olokings @nefertitiram ,
Make una try cc woman pikin before Jwizzy do hin usual grim reaper stuff nah...

Now, I'm just racking my head for the brouhaha now.