₦airaland Forum

awulio:
Firstly everything u wrote is rubbish but I don’t think u meant harm. Women are tired of men cheating. If men can cheat then women should be allowed to cheat freely. Two can play that game. If u can’t be faithful in a relationship then don’t enter it. Women will no longer accept rubbish from men. If other men can live without cheating then why can’t Nigerian men?

I don't expect you to understand neither do I expect any better quote from you. You shd ignore what doesn't appeal to you next time

brightfuture24:
You are a disgusting, patriarchal and illiterate fool. How dare you try to justify cheating What a big fool. Men in this part of the world are not only shameless, but they expect women to accept their irrational shame.


OP and other ladies here, don't you ever in your lives condone cheating. You do not only invite evil spirits into your bodies, but also STDs. Don't listen to this bloody fool here telling you that a man will always cheat. They are rare, but there are good men out there who do NOT.


How could someone sit down and type this bullshit, and no moderator on here deleted it? Bloody bastard fool.

Malu

Men have to work to escape poverty. women's poverty escape means is marriage.

StacyO:
DUMP HIM.

Lol. Nothing better is expected from an NL lady


If this one sees ur guy, she will grab him aand shower him with love and she's advicing you to...not even separate peacefully but dump. A decision you may regret later

Pls op be properly guided

Hmmm I'm afraid I have both of you to blame. I do not support what he did but you too are just beginning to understand the life of a man. Most men do it but your man was wrong in that he didn't place you high enough over others. You are probably one of the kind of women who get deeply pained over cheating. For you at this level of getting close to marriage and still have the inkling that there's no tendency for him to cheat is being unrealistic. I'm not saying he has d right to cheat but for a woman who's ready to stay in marriage, you shd have learnt before now to take your mind off his cheating tendency. I guess that wasn't included in your upbringing or self training. That's what your mom-in-law was trying to figure out for you..like a woman who wants to last in husband house must close her eyes off her husband's cheating tendency blabla.

For him not to groom you from the onset that he's a free man sexually so as to prepare your mind for what you're coming into is also wrong. For him to tell his side chicks that you're in his life is good, it shows he values you despite their sexual service...some men will deny their wives. But for them to call you names like witch and he's comfortable with it is wrong. Strangely, there are some ladies who even work out chicks for their fiance when they're not around. But it's d man who shd be careful not to misbehave.

Listen woman,even if I cheat everyday,I can’t leave you,the truth is I will always cheat,I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,

This is true for many men. They'll see other girls they like but won't place them above you.

But from your description of him, he seem not to care about your respect. When some men will frown at side chicks for abusing their wives both in her presence and absence, he was too flexible that they have no regard for you. Then also, you need to ignore the number of girls you saw on his phone, it's not always like that. Before a man gets a girl to sleep with, he has to toast about 3-5 before one succumbs, shakara won't let others. So it doesn't mean he's sleeping with 10 girls at the moment.

babythug:
Divorce is an unfortunate situation to be in. Nonetheless it’s not the end of the world . Both himself and his former wife are to blame . He should brace up and try the following:

1. Dust himself and be ready to start over .
2. Face his career or job
3. Determine to be at peace with his ex no matter the level of provocation or otherwise
4. Be the best father he can be to his children given the circumstances. Pay whatever bills as deemed necessary and pay extra where possible
5. He should document any payment made
6. He must not bring the kids into the divorce by relaying what their mum has done or not done to them
7.

But the mother isn't thinking this way. She probably has found another lover already.

That's good. It's good to eat good food than smoking. Davido quit smoking before smoking quit your life.

You're doing great actually. She's already shown you she's not loyal so you too just play along, don't be bothered, just dey chop kpekus till she tire and get back up babe. Simple!

Find out who she really is. You might not be dating an ordinary person.

I've dated such a girl before but she was trouble. I had to quit with her. Cus peace of mind to me is of more importance than success. The one I'm with now is also supportive and my life is going smoothly too though not rapidly like it suddenly became while I was with the former. Most of all, she's peaceful and that gives me joy.

It's simple psychology. Girls who say so are really crazy about money. Those who don't, don't say so, you will realize it by yourself with time

Forget legal court sane palava. Go to him and plead to let them be with you or allow you pay their sch fees while they're with him with evidences kept. I used the word plead because this is Africa. As long as full bride price is collected especially if there's no court wedding, the father's family own the children o. Besides pleading is better with respect to their late mother. You're doing it for her not for the man. The amount of money you will spend in court can buy a car or even get a visa and passport for one of the child. The time nko, adjourned today, adjourned tomorrow. You will just waste the children time. Pleading also means you consider the time and future if the children. So go the easier way, leave court

Accept my heartbreak condolence in advance

When you grow up, you won't have such feelings again. You're having it because you don't know love when you see one and you don't know how to love but you think you do. When you channel all your emotions to a guy and call it love, you've missed it from the beginning already. You're the one with the issue, not the guy. Real love does not cost much emotional energy. When you girls get it wrongly, you'll then harm yourself by locking up. If you're asked, you'll say because one guy broke your heart...all guys are the same.

Most of you young girls are devoid of advice from mature men and women who are married, All you have are age mate female friends who add up advices from their immature minds to your own to worsen your mindset. You want to live like you'll remain young forever and want to get great results, some of you don't even want to leave your comfort zones and you want great results.

To even swindle from the extreme of intense love to feeling nothing means you're not emotionally balanced and that's not only dangerous for love but also for child training. You have a lot to learn before you love properly. The problem is with you not the guys. If you like lock up your mind for 15yrs, if you don't open up to learning, you'll still fall into wrong hands.

She didn't share experience, she shared picture.

How did she cope with the smell btw?

That's why I always say compatibility is very key in relationship. Here is a case where a man is acting tender and submissive falling in love with a domineering woman and many other men don't like such women. An unwise woman who has been disliked or hated by men who don't like such, may commit suicide thinking men generally like submissive women only, instead of her to pray to find a man who would love to be subjective to leading women like her. Such is life compatibility is very important!

Queenlovely:
wow it's cool,

But just close your eyes and imagine the type of vehicle that is best for Nigerian roads

THOSE type of vehicle used in Mad max fury

that is the type of vehicle we are supposed to use in Nigeria

Lol. True talk

StephenBB:
Cars like this are the bomb, but how does ones removes "poo" from the van?
Definitely not for Africa as a whole!

Same as they remove poo from planes

So what's d difference between the abroad vagina and Nigeria own that you chose to do worse than your boss in Nigeria? Which country abroad did you go sef?

HunterArt:
For me I don't like how it's so expensive... One of the main reasons.
Ordinary phone can buy plots of land in my village, can you image.

Yes I can image. Infact I emmaji

Even if she doesn't run mad, does she think she can do well in life after such betrayal. Too much shallowness is bad for a woman. They should learn to think and act deeply. Life is not shallow

True. In this part of the world.

Kriss216:
You have nothing important to say.


Good day.

Lol ignoramus

Kriss216:
Are non smokers liable to die young?

Search on Google "risk factors" That answers your question.

Kriss216:
My neighbour died last two months, he was barely 28 years. He doesn't smoke nor drink.


But, according to you, ONLY smokers are liable to die young.

Pls search out the word ONLY in my write up. And point it out. You're definitely not a good reader nor writer nor publisher nor even a public speaker. You shd learn to comprehend better.

Pls search on Google the meaning of the word "risk factors"

None is better. That's the truth!

Isn't this the same davido who said he wants to quit smoking.

Each time I see a smoker, I see a person with short life. So all the riches and children will soon lose their owner and dad. And no one will hear of him again except for references to his grave.

You may say I'm wishing him bad, buy it is clear that smokers are liable to die young. Smoking is an addiction that destroys the lungs to the death.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Is it rude to tell a stranger “give this to her”?[/color]

I don't know, all I know is my former moniker was "radicallyblunt" and I'm obsessed with your stature. Wish to meet you.

SanctifiedSista:
thank u sir, I am not looking to impress anyone with my intellect or eloquence. I am only looking to show people solutions that can help better their lives

Is this about eloquence?

Well it's not wise to rush into conclusion. The things happening in their homes might be beyond that. It's just what you saw, you are concluding about.

However, a lot of men are facing such bully and abuse in their homes. Infact research has it that the level of abuse men go through these days is increasing by the day. They just don't come out to talk. Women are experts in doing to men, what they can't accept. Sometimes it's not about just doing or saying things but how those things are said and done. The familiarity that has been existing between the two of them was what reflected in her response that you saw, it's beyond bank charges.

SanctifiedSista:
This is a sign of idleness
Am sure if you indulge in more profitable ventures, u won't have time to think problems and failures in your future marraige. I invite u and all NLers to the Living Faith church cananland cananland OTA. Time is 11:45am. Papa Oyedepo will be anointing the sick and they will be free. I suggest u come and be anointed . David was anointed and it turned him into another man and the Spirit of God rested on him from dat day..same will happen for u as u make ur way there. Ur own case is different Beloved

You don't portray good Christian disposition let alone inviting people to church

You must be sick or so. You know how many men do these for women and still had to go for DNA test on their children? A woman that will be kept forever has to agree with herself to be kept forever, regardless of the level of her husband's efforts. You must be a kid to even generalize that all women need these. You're talking about yourself alone and you think other women reason like you. Turn yourself into a god that ur man will serve beyond God because he wants you kept forever. Kanye west ignored his career to have time for Kim, now she still wants divorce. This is her fourth divorce and she's just 40, does it mean all the four men don't know how to keep her. You better challenge yourself and wake up from fantasy. If you want to be kept forever, it's in your hands. Your joy is not in ur man's hands. Men can only help you glitter the joy you already have, not create one for you. Anyway you can wait till 45. By then, half of the forever would have gone. If you're to live for 70yrs, the unlucky man who finds you will just endure for 25 shady years. After all, some ex-convicts spent more than that in prison.

Funny enough, at a stage in your life when you shd be learning to know more about the opposite gender in preparation for marriage, you're still delusional about yourself. You're aging by the second if you don't know.