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I hope she's saying the truth o. Lying on d dead can be dangerous much later.

Both of them irritate me

Mammy water

Shokoloko:
I might learn something from you. I always tell young men and women to maintain dignity and never stand and allow people to insult them. I advise them to walk away or cut the call when they are verbally abused.

How do you marry that with asking a person to stand in humility absorbing another human being's insults and not doing anything about it.

Does this standing / listening and accepting abuse apply to both gender?

Yes it applies to both genders.

In any marriage-based relationship, compatibility test is very key. There have to be compatibility(being okay with each other's actions and reactions) before both parties start involving each other deeply in their matters. And this compatibility can be found out within 7-8weeks of spending time together. Once its obvious they're not compatible, there's no need wasting each other's time. Both shd go their different ways.

Aside that, both parties shd be vast in knowledge about the opposite gender. This knowledge has to be put in play in trying to find out how compatible they both are. The man shd know a woman needs to be loved to blossom and the woman shd know that a man not only hates his ego battered, he lives on respect as fuel for happiness.

If this knowledge is understood, a rich and classic woman will become tender to her man or at least wise enough to avoid ego challenges. Once his ego is not traumatized, she may be the richest woman in the world, her man won't feel intimidated. That's d secret of some outwardly domineering women who have peaceful marriages...they act tender at home. The harsh female boss at work may be a dilly-dallying or crycry baby at home.

The problem with rich ladies is that they already have an ego-battering attitude beforehand, their wealth regardless (like being rude, domineering etc) probably from the way they were raised. It just became complicated with the wealth.

Attitude/understanding a man's psychic and riches are two different things that don't overlap. When a lady becomes disrespectful or claims equal right with her man, even if she's poor, the man will feel disrespected or ego-challenged(which is normal in gender psychology).

Now instead of such rich ladies to own up to their attitude, they usually shift the case to ...he's feeling intimidated by my wealth, he has low self esteem bla bla... Whereas, he doesn't even have a problem with her being rich. In fact, being the man of a rich woman is a great feeling when she submits despite the wealth.

Habby222:
How cool. But mostly the guys suffers / feels low self esteem especially when the babe earns more than him. He feels intimidated

Hello

Ring na by force? Must you wear ring to profess love?

This guy needs prayers. Himself shd know. He became speaker at 35 and wasn't married. He married 2 years after he became speaker and now the marriage is divorced? Nawa o

How much will be my salary. Let's talk

Even the op na mumu. To think this is the worst thing against a man's ego when being financially broke is there and more embarrassing

In these days that ladies are plenty all around na him one mumu man go dey think say rejection of proposal na ego-battering. It only means you didn't do your homework well. Financially stable men who are responsible and ready for marriage are not much. If you're truly one, you won't go through this kinda of shit. It's the lady that'll want to die there with you cus she won't wanna lose you.

70% of this kind of proposal doesn't end up well. She may say yes on the spot but wahala will show up later because this kind of surprise proposal is trial and error and it means d relationship hasn't matured up to marriage, you just want to jump steps. How many married women today got this kind of proposal.

I don't even know why someone will kneel in d gathering of people under hot sun when you can chill on your sofa at home with the AC on after eating a sumptuous pounded yam and vegetable soup she prepared for you and propose to her like a king the way Isaac blessed Jacob after eating hot food.

Your birthday mate abi your girlfriend. Happy birthday to you both. Long life n plenty money

I went through your profile and saw this, where you asked as a guy


https://www.nairaland.com/6327530/please-should-quit-dating-girl

Are you a guy or a lady?

You lost your job, you're struggling to come back..

What a line to start with. So na woman weh don establish u wan take rise. You're wicked n selfish

Dab for village witch o

I have only one question to ask.

Does borisky still have a manhood hoping to father a child someday or has he cut it out and replaced it with a vagina through surgery.

I don't understand

Hes a realist. I like that

Unfortunately in Nigeria, therapists are not much as they should and only few can afford them. Some cultures even consider the consultation of a therapist a taboo. Imagine that! Some see pastors as therapist, psychologist, teacher, guardian, counselor etc...just one person...even when it's obvious most of these pastors don't understand psychology. Nobody including pastors can advice beyond his own experience. One may not understand what he/she has not experienced before. Some pastors are quick to bind and cast out over a simple psychological issue. Some parents who abandon their children to death after accusing them of witchcraft surprisingly are advised by pastors and prophets

So you agree say God made male and female.

Na lizard God suppose make you make male agama go dey toast you upandan as fine girl lizard.

Mumu

Bros Bros. You don do DNA? The baby face is oblong yours is round water melon o. Where the mama sef?

Go do am before naming ceremony o before you kill goat. No waste the life of innocent goat.

Chii59:
Story story. Yawns

But you read through. That's good

Boss13:
You're right. Men are attracted to beauty. As his earning capacity increases, he seeks the most beautiful woman he can afford. A woman being dumb is not true. Probably she is resting on her feminine power. No man wants a woman who is argumentative. A submissive woman is best. A woman who strokes the ego of her man, conquers all.

True!

Sterope darling, I believe in you. Come see this

NAETTE:
Dem resemble die. The only difference is that one is crying while the other is planning.

Lol

Oyiboman69:
In your learned opinion,they fight each other because they are not blood related and for you not to see the striking resemblance is disturbing...to crown it all,the people liking your comment is are not left alone....

Over seriousness can run you mad o

Anytime I hear ikeji, DNA test rings in my mind.

I no trust these ikeji girls

EzegeNdiigbo:
Is like he never blow

cuz i neva seen his face

Me sef never see am before

He resemble one handsome mannequin weh I see for ajah

Dem no resemble.
Dem dey fight each other

Bros co-existing good but go do DNA first.

Original and bastard pikin no fit co-exist. Na blood matter, fight must dey.

This guy don loss. I used to admire him before. Not anymore. Something weh he no start with

First I like your keen observations about men. Many girls your age don't know half of what you know about the opposite gender. But they expect the opposite gender to know all about them.

However, apart from the fact that even a spec can later lose shape and fall out of being spec after four children, the issue of making the right choice for any sensible man involves a lot of things. Naturally, no true spouse has 100% all a person need: no man finds everything he needs in one woman..nature has made it so. The woman who possess the virtues a man need may not be totally physically appealing to him and the one who's physically appealing may posses only some of the virtues. A lady may be really attractive to a man but may not be fluent enough in English language to him while the one who speaks good English may not be humble or wify enough.

I can't count how many super shapy girls I see in the market selling pepper and roasted fish with liveliness to customers, who can't even speak the simplest english and are very crude to fetish level while the educated ones we come by with flat front and back will be making unnecessary yanga. Some shapy educated ones have totally lost true humility due to constant attention they get from men and they don't even know they've lost it.

These lapses are what brought about "grooming". A man(bridegroom) acknowledges the excesses and lacks in a woman who possess at least 60-70% of his desires(enough to hold on to) and begins to groom her up...cut off the excesses, and add up to where she lacks. Some men have sponsored their Sweethearts in school to measure up to their educational/intelligence level, some have successfully registered theirs in a gym and followed her up closely to lose fat and gain shape. Some even tell thiers how he wants to be addressed inside and in public, how he wants her to dress, serve his food etc. Just to groom her to his dream woman

But then there's a little problem which is... Not all women are groomable. Some already consider themselves equal or even higher than any unlucky man that come their way even before he comes. And some have the "I cannot kill myself" syndrome. May God save men from the demerits of civilization

Lol no say my mouth big o. Go do DNA test. Very essential

2. You don't change a family name on the basis of like or sounds sweet. If you must change an extended family identity (which is not bad), it should be for worthwhile reasons.

No let woman use tenderness push you to what you'll wish you never did later. I'm not saying you shouldn't listen to your wife at all but on this, be firm.

Chai, women get power sha

Olunmercy56:
Don't die of depression, you deserve to be happy no matter the disability, you know what is best for you. I don't like divorce. Let her parents know what is going on.

You're a honorable woman! Keep it up