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a man doesn't have to be told that 'baby is crying'. why did the guy not attend to the baby right away?

both are responsible for the baby. agreed that poster should not have bluntly say back the baby. but then, he should have taken it lovingly. i hate it when guys start doing bigmanism in the house. sharing activities is very important it doesn't make you less of a man.

@ poster, i hope you have settled it out with him and make him know that it is important he helps out cuz loving a lady means sharing.

@ babyosisi, na so we see am o

my sister, how you dey?

enjoying the summer weather right?

wale, yes you will find it difficult. there is hardly anyone who didn't. Well, i did not because i was here on a full scholarship all year round. i was all alone too. my books were my friends. i found a church and it was nice. i wasn't looking for nigerians, no need for that. i went to a church filled with americans and foreign students (mostly indian and asian) i made them my friends and learnt from them and them from me. we share apt in school when we left the dorms. then a while later i met other Nigeria students. so be open mind okay 

for you with green card, don't worry about landing the best job right away. you have to start from somewhere with humbling and patient mind. don't be too chosy with jobs. start lowly and honestly. you will find your ways around. you will then be able to look around for something better. don't say you don't want to wash dish, you never know and it's not a bad thing afterall ''you work for your money''. in my first year in school, i work the salad bar in my college serving dessert and replenishing the huge bars,  just start somewhere even with litttle money that you will earn, your heart will be filled with joy and thanks because it's your hard/handwork.

monkey no answer him name if another monkey dey call am  nowadays o maybe another monkey wey no expect anything will be the best one that monkey go ans 


I no know wetin u dey talk o

Omoge,  I said i no disturb person o! You no dey hear that one @ all.

Although monkey must answer him name now!

na wetin make you dey vex then? just say he no call you back? why is it important that he should? afterall he get friends wey close near am, he may get girlfriend or babe/wifey wey need am more than you need him, maybe he work long hours, so think well and try to understand. and again, get new friends and try to release your abroad friends 

i am very sure people abroad help a great deal (i have to use myself to measure others that they help). the point is the DEMAND is just tooooooooo much. If you do for this person, they will hear and pester you.

the thing here is not the asking but the asking don pass power and our friend dey complain say his friend no return his call, friend wey don run for cover 

soul, the guy just dey do one kin  

yes that dog posting that worked for his master sure was hilarious. but true, dog got to work and only for someone in nig to ask the lady for money, you see  

yes oo Osisi, it was sooo shocking and well, all i could do was listen to her and share mine cuz i know we all in same shoe though hers kinda worst. she told me that 2years ago, the inlaw had a girlfriend who gave birth for him and he called to inform them in UK that his gf don born and asked for money by saying 'baby go chop' lol. Her hubby was trying to put money together and she was so mad that he had to drop the idea. that was 2years ago. now he is getting married and asking for money from his sibling in UK. abegi o.

Note: my friend allowed me to share her story. i told her i will pass along advice. so am going to post the url to her, thanks for your idea  

you just have to sit with your friends over coffee or a meal and hear funny thing  

i have said it, e be like say somebody or his friends just refused to send him money he asked for. abi na the phone book from UK he asked for and no get dey make am vex here

i think they do. it's just persistent you know. my classmate (married) and in Graduate school was just gisting me the headache she is facing from both side. last month she said she sent some money to both her mother and hubby's mother. she had saved that money to do her hair, thinking it will be enough for 3months hairdos. right now she is trying to cut off her hair no money for it, couple with she is a student. just last week her brother came back from another african country, where he has soujourned for more than four years and now asking for money to go back to school. he is over 30years old. her sister is looking for a shop and asking for money 90k, the other sister is in college and asking for money(didn't say exactly but that sister, am about to leave for school), she just sent in money to take care of the family rent.

on the hubby side, same story. brother is getting married and want money. the other one ask for money just to upgrade his store and pay for his children school fees. another extended family is asking for money to learn a trade. asked for 50k for the trade. the mother is sick and need care. the sister need help and asking that he call them.

now she is soooo tired she was telling me and i just felt pity for her.

So you see?? now her own friends in Nigeria are asking too so is her hubby's lol.

na wah oooo.

make una stop am ooo . make una no use depression kill una siblings and friends now. who go give bread then eh?

look for coleslaw dressing. if you can't find it, then sub for Mayonaise. also, if you can't find coleslaw dressing and Mayonaise, there is this one they have in nigeria i think it's in a bottle with green top (Heinz brand). i have seen someone use that for coleslaw.

Bigger trash cans should replace that small basket sha . good job seeing Lag as it really is.

it seems someone no give the poster Elgaxton money he asked for and he is using style lol 
cheer up my brother  . you see Hershey chocolate and you dey complain eh? 

family stretching you, friends stretching you, and they are smart fa  that they prefer you to call them as it's easy to ask for money in that way than in emails.

giving (in this situation calling you or giving you money) is a thing of the heart. you don't have to ask someone anything or to do something before that person remembers you . again, don't wait/count on your friends abroad. make new friends where you are. Remember they have their life where they are now with maybe wife/family or girlfriend and new friends.

Nigerians in Naija should stop asking those abroad for money sha

soul, thank you ojare 

Elgaxton:
@Siena

Cant u just read posts before your own, I said i don't need anybody's assistance abroad, can't u get it

I'm just sayin that there is this mentality that eats them up once they get abroad and that is: " [b]Money is hard here o"[/b]It is the wrong mentality!

That will not make any person wether in Nigeria or Abroad a millionaire!

if you didn't ask for money, i am sure they won't say that money is hard o. maybe they are damned too tired of constant demand from others that when a call comes in they suspect it's money issue. why then call just to say hello and have the person ask for pounds or dollars? so you know what you might have done to make them not return your call. the tone of your email (even though you said you called just to say hello) seems like you were asking for money. it will be hard for u to be honest to readers here but bear in mind, people abroad know the tactics (sp) lol

so relax and again, make new friends and forget those abroad they just too busy okay  if they call or write you, fine. if they don't, just bear in mind that they are just too busy with life oversea, work, family, new friends etc. also, if there is mentality, it is the mentality that people back home have that once you are oversea, you get money. Yes, there is money but bills sure take am. even air is paid for oversea  . no well to draw water, so you pay for water

cheers my brother

Iseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Aminnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
Aseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeen

jail isn't even the problem. the thing is cutting life short. doing a 90mph is bad even on free way or high way not to talk of 35 area. there are reasons for speed limit you know. It's to avoid being killed or killing someone. it is better to be late than be a late abi.

take care my brother

you can use it as desktop. i think you safe it as pic then you start from there. i love all the pic posted so far jare

oh that trash, why are the trash not taken care of eh?

there is the Ghana student in school who always dorns his Ghana dress (Agbada like top) and pant to class all year round. He will put on sweater and then the Agbada like one on top.

For me, i wear jean and danshiki once in a while during summer. When going to church sometime, and when we have some international gatherings.
It's not wrong if the weather will allow you. Oyinbos, they love our dress o. My roommate bought a dress from me and she go to class dress in it at least once a week even in winter lol. I always tease her that how reddish her white skin looked after catching cold in the dress. She always laugh and doesn't care.

yes naija full of different things. ''that iroko tree'' our neighbor just entered o! there is a pot inside. how funny when i look back now.
the witch just confessed she killed so and so and so.

catch that praying mantis, break the leg, next morning someone is walking with a bad leg so he/she must have been the praying mantis

weird stories. agree there are things we can't explain but all this weird stories calls for real investigation. the baba might have given poisonious plant to add to meal to kill someone rather than witchcraft being used. some sickness might have been ravaging the body without the person knowing instead of oh the wife or the family killed her.

fibroid may have been inside the belly instead of oh she get belle for 10years.

jam mammy water and she will make you rich. mammy water get mansion for under sea. if you meet am, she will make u rich,
dig on where a rainbow is and you will be rich

Our society self

exactly! they will not even tell you months ahead in order to give you time. Bang!!! the phone or email, i need money how the person no go run when next caller ID shows

growing up, i saw my dad backing my younger ones atimes
nothing wrong with it, better yet buy a basket and put your baby inside and carry it. it is all an act of helping your iyawo.

the right thing for him to do (living in western world, he should have known better) was to try pacify the baby. it's not only on the back, baby might just be needing attention. i think your husband is wicked!! afterall that's his baby!!

God save my hubby-to-be when he refuses to give me hand with our baby.

on your side, next time i think you should just say ''honey, the baby is crying and i have relaxer on my hands" please carry the baby. don't say carry the baby on your back, he should just carry the baby and then it's left to him to know what to do to make the baby stop crying.

lol, that library looked sooooooooooooooooo familiar. used to seat by the step while waiting for my classmate to catch up with me

dblock, i asked if the first pic is that of a dept at UI.

post dugbe for us to see, sango, mokola, eleyele, orita, iwo, ojo, sabo, sasa make we see

oh!!! my waist don break with laughter  . well, there are better things to do than to wait for someone else call abi? i just think it is easy to forget friends when you are not together or in different place. you got your life where you are now, you busy with school, busy with your relationship, new friends, job, multi tasking etc so it might not be because they are tight fisted. instead of waiting for their calls, why not go ahead and make new friends. hold on to the memories but don't limit yourselves with friendship  or stuck your tent with one that is thousands of miles away 

my lady friend was overpaid. the job she worked for paid more than her salary to her bank. she was excited and went to cash it. happy to buy a expensivve ipod, she also put in down payment for a plasma tv for her new house. 1month later, her office asked she refund the money. she was shocked and was gisting me, at first i laughed but felt pity for her. she made arrangement for deduction from her salary  

another lady was over paid, there was an accounting error and was paid 17k instead of 71. she was happy and said she had been praying for a financial break through. she gave some to church, bought car seat for her lil baby, changed stuffs in the house with the money. she was sued because when the office found the mistake and contacted her, she told them it was their problem and that God has blessed her. in court, the judge told her she is a thief. that she should have returned the money. Judgement: she has to pay back.

so in oyinbo world, if you are over paid, just don't spend it cuz no matter how long it takes them, they will figure it out and then you must pay back  

same here  but i wouldn't say mine is OCD just to over hygienic 
i remember back at the hostel at sch in Nigeria, my roommates fear to sit on my bed, or touch my beddings, it's just to specky and too tidy. one little line, i know someone touched something. that's going to be a really  day lol.
i watched them use other s pillow for seat so i locked my pillow when am leaving for class 

my roommates here don't like cleaning after themselves. once i caught my oyinbo roomie using the sponge for washing dish to clean the bathroom sink. once for her shoe. she was like, oh am going to wash it when i'm done  from then on, i got my own everything no more sharing.

i hate it when someone yawn without covering their mouth. spreading their germs and stinking air 

i hate it when others leave messy bathroom for you.

i hate it when other african students stop by unannounce and want food lol, hey!! i just got in from class  and my apartment is not a eatery even though i'm a great cook. When i tell them to wait till after exam for time to make ''free food'' it's like i just said your life is over lol.

soulpatrol:
hmm i hate abnormalities too, or things that don't seem to look right. it could be part of OCD i think (Obssesive Compulsive Disorder). i'm definitely guilty of some OCD behaviour e.g.

if i don't make my bed before i go out, my day is going to be horrible. not only that, the pillow has to be set at a certain angle and the duvet has to be folded the right way, otherwise i'll just be uptight all day o. weird eh! and please don't tell me i'm crazy!

washing my hands every hour. i just feel that everything i touch is filthy so i have to run to a sink and wash it off. even though i carry a hand sanitizer everywhere i go, it's not enough. because of that my hands are constantly dry because even when i apply lotion, i end up washing it all off again.

i know this is offensive to some people but i can't help it when i eat at a friend's place, i have to re-wash the utensils or use a napkin to wipe it vigorously (before eating) because i feel like they prolly didn't wash it as good as i do! i'm a dishaholic freak. dishes gotta be super clean o.

another odd thing i do is when i see something bubbling over like paint or saliva i feel like puking. or if it just doesn't look right.

I watched the show but slept off in the middle of it. it was interesting with Monique and the Phat Ladies dancing Beyonce. it was sooooooo fatabulous. she tried real good. but what happened to the shoe thing? i thot she was limping until i saw the guy removing the other shoe, lol it was funny. the show was nice and enjoyed it but slept off.

Diana Ross looks so pretty in there. She is really looking young

they all did a good job this year and happy for dream girls Ms. Hudson Jen.

maybe to continue to build up their immunity Lactation my biology prof. said is always good

chaka chaka, my fav

i have come to feel, to need a love from you it's so hard to find someone who's kind
now is time to give, to one another of some care, we all need some understanding, blah blah,

this is from me to you, all we have to do, it seems together we are one, from the love we all have to bring,
this is from me to you, all we have to do, it seems together we are one, into haaaa ar mony

If you sabi am pass me post am oooo lo that na what my small mind could grasp by then 

Sunny Ade: mo ti ko ile mi sori apata ile aye nibi ti aye ko le to

Sweet, sweet sweet banana sweet banana
vanity upon vanity all is vanity, oun to mu bale ile sare pa ti e meji,

ori oke ma pa mi o,

eyin jolosy, eyin shakara, eyin poke nose lol


If you know you love me, you will wait for me, haba pas kelebe  

lol that Funmi's song was so lovely, with village ladies doing poundo and ululating, walahi, i loved it but forgotten it real good.

stella, you love me i lelele, lol something like that, i don't know how it goes ooo forgotten
danny wilson, mr. raggamuffin

felix liberty; you are the one you are the one baby, you are the one oh yeah you are the one i have in my mind,
i love you, i need you right now, oh my baby, you may feel alright. i love you i need you right nowwwwwwwwwwww oh my baby you may feel alright, baby you may feel alright darling you may feel alright,

Baby kilode, give it to, baby kilode uuuuuuu give to me baby kilode, you reject my love baby kilode. i wonder wetin he want the baby to give him sha

Ngozi, your love your love your is all i want, Ngozi, Everyday you come for money, for money i want your love, i want your love baby, Ngozi

Dizzy K falola: you are my sweet sixteen, i can see your eyes shinning, your precious beauty shinninggggggggggggg. You are my special woman, wont you be my ladyyyyyyyyy

Terry Mackson: for better for worse, in richness in poor, in sickness in health, till death do us part, i marry you (?)

Boney Mark: i love his songs to much, like I was born, i was born, i was born in mama ma ma ma, and God will let you know the reason why, i was born, oh sweet holy nostalgic

yes my sister, the memory lingers. now that i feel grown enough to really listen and understand, i can't seems to get a hold of those songs.

oh!! i love bongos ikwe, cock crow at dawn, i can only hear the sound of the cock crow at dawn. uncle gaga plant the corn and who go steal, lol, forgot how he used to sing it lol, oh my goodness. I love the other one, Show me a virgin in the maternity home, show me a river, oh! i feel so nostalgic. where is BONGOS IKWE by the way? is he still alive?

please if you should lay your hands on his songs, please please remember a needy omoge of his songs. and his lyrics too.

i hate the way we do things in nigeria you know, we just let their work die you know. see old Bob Marley, Peter Tosh, Yellow man, etc one can buy their songs online etc, WHY NIGERIA WHY do you let their work not last forever?

Anyone reading this should please help look for their work BIKONU 

dblock o, the first pic you posted today looked like a pic from UI. was that a dept pic? looked like it