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bukatyne:
@Bold:

It is a cultural thing.

Generally, the bolded is the belief of Ibos/Igbos

Some of their cultures even dictate that the husband should extend kind gestures aka money to his siblings-in-law (married/single/older/younger)

Someone also said the wives have expectations from their husbands which is not dependent on what they earn.

I think we are really viewing the OP from our cultural POV.

Errrmmmm.... Ikponhwosa "IK" Osakioduwa is a Bini boy, married to Olohije. Neither are Igbo. Not unless Edo state has moved geographically since yesterday

He's stating his opinions, people should decide how they want to live and what works for them.

Dollar is back up to N295 but let's keep an eye on the rate.

@tearoses (ducks and blushes)

wristbangle:
I just asked from a BDC agent and it's now trading at N230.

Where please?

Infinitikoncept:
Where exactly is it selling for #250 coz I'm tired of all dix media aides doing a useless job for their paymasters. Here in Yaba its #300 so who is circulating this fake news

It's N270 in V.I. I believe the price is fluctuating and varies according to location.

Blood should always be thicker than water. Always. Something in a skirt came into his life and he found it easy to throw out his flesh and blood for that water.

I'm not saying don't forgive him, forgive him but let him keep his distance and tell him straight up that he has to earn your trust back. Or you may end up setting yourself for another showdown: maybe his family will decide you guys are the cause of his old age sickness and all of a sudden, his mind changes. And then all our "Forgive him" Bible-Quoters will show up again chanting the same song and comparing apples and oranges (because you and your parent fight from time to time is not the same as your parent kicking you out because of his new spouse).

He cheated on your mother with HER FAMILY MEMBER, had the guts to continue, exposed his family to danger when his irresponsibility showed up with guns to threaten his family, made his wife suffer the humiliation of raising his child from outside, threw his children out because of another woman and the "Endurance" crew are trying to make this OP feel guilty for feeling the normal reaction of never wanting to see him again?? I'm sure this is what they told the OP's mum when he first got her cousin pregnant and look how well that turned out. People will do and undo as as long as they know there are no consequences.

na wa o.

This is just a suggestion, but she has raised over $2000 on GoFundMe. Maybe she should change that into Naira right now (dollar is dropping) as it will give her money value at a high dollar rate compared to a lower rate. I'm assuming she's paying her bill's in Naira.

$2000@N305= N610, 000

$2000@N250= N500, 000

Is there someone from the Business section who can do this for her, maybe this week?

Slimzjoe:
3 and 4 Is very Similar to The Anioma People Tradition in Delta State.

But that 4 Bloody....What if the Woman get bad mind and Refuses to Say? Na So Husband and Pikin Go waste like that

Almost all of them are similar to a lot of traditions of Anioma tribes in Delta state.

Hilarious story: no. 9 was used by a friend to be mischievous to his wife. He solemnly bought a bucket home one day and placed it in reverent care in their bathroom... where they have a posh bathtub. He refused to answer and waited till weekend when he saw her soaking some clothes in the bucket (she did it deliberately). He then started "raking" and vexing and saying the gods must be appeased by her letting him control the remote control all weekend the tout had lost a bet earlier before and she was going to make him miss all EPL matches as punishment. So he used this to get back at her. Those 2 are agbayas eh....

So there are suppliers of exotic tropical plants and flowers grown in Ogun state. They have Heliconias and Ginger flowers. I don't know their exact location but their products look good. if anyone knows, please share. Thanks

toparie:
Awesome @Onegai. Thanks babe

Pool noodles are N700 at Game and the swim diapers are in Balogun or you can get off Aliexpress. The floater costs more and deflates easily plus it ia not sized well, the pool noodle helps them use their legs and they will definitely splash water withe their hands. Start by putting baby with water in ther bathtub so they like splashing. HTH.

It's sad and our prayers are with her.

kilonso001:
Yes, I bathe him with lukewarm water and he is a bit calm now. temp is 36.7 this morning.

what infant painkiller would you suggest?

Calpol or Infant Tylenol. I don't know but there are more affordable Nigerian brand painkillers, but I'm sure other mama's can give you names.

Proudmum, when my nephews had Chicken pox, everyone avoided my house, even visitors to them. I didn't tell them, they all decided to (so as not to carry it). You've already gotten good advice but let no-one in your home go visiting downstairs to your neighbour for now.

kilonso001:
Yes, she gave some drugs and he temp came down. but it came up again. I am using something for the boil too and its disappearing. am just worried about the frequent rise in temp.

Do you have Infant painkiller? Depending on the one you have, maybe give according to dosage at home, for not more than 2 days. And consider non-medicating ways to cool him down (lukewarm water bath) perhaps.

tearoses:
Do a lot of people import their flowers?
I guess the lack of steady Power is also a problem
You know I said about the small buds & small flowers on the roses.
Onegai why dont you try if you have the time
Buy a few pots of roses and try and put them in different places, maybe including the fridge for a few hours a day and see what happens.....just a thought
Probably if you pot them in imported rose compost to start with that might help kick start their journey

Yes. It will shock the things that Nigeria imports. They import even other species of Aloe Vera and common plants for wedding bouquets. Every single fresh wedding bouquet in Nigeria has imported flowers. When I asked a florist, he said all the brides come in with saved images of something they saw on Keeping Up With The Kardashians and only a bad businessman would say no. Our appetite for imports is crazy. I have seen 2 instances of tropical wedding bouquets or wreaths in the past 5 years. And they don't know how to condition the roses and imported flowers to last in our climate so more than half those roses are usually wilting when you get them. My Valentine's day bouquet, only some white 'mums managed to stay a week, the rest were dying as they came home (red roses went first)

I'm almost tempted to offer to pay for a bride's wedding bouquet if she will use tropical flowers (and if I have the money ). But they're so much nicer than half-wilted flowers and so much more colourful. And it's way cheaper to use local than imports. I know a while back I asked a florist and she said she once had an order for a tropical arrangement but she couldn't make it up from the growers in Nigeria and had to fly them in. So there is that angle.

I was informed by a professional gardener that only a greenhouse would help grow roses down south because even in India they have the same issue (altitude and climate issues means small rosebuds). That's why Jos is so crucial: perfect conditions but human factor.

I'm hoping to speak to a botanist on this matter, so maybe an experiment will be coming soon...

This car went past me in Ikoyi on Friday. We all stopped and stared.

feddy27:
Onegai, where did you get the swim diapers?

I had it sent for me, because I checked supermarkets and The Palms and they didn't have it. But check those sport stores at Ojuelegba busstop. It used to be quite common, even Ebeano supermarket had it. I'll keep an eye out, if I see any, I'll let you know what store has it.

Stadora, please scroll down and look at a picture of Red acalypha. There is actual research on it that it helps a lot of fungal skin infections and it grows everywhere in Lagos. Just go to those gardeners that are on the road and ask them for some of the red leaf acalypha or show them that pic. HTH

https://www.nairaland.com/2894705/hibiscus-flower-society-calling-all/5

tearoses:
These are gorgeous
Beautiful bold colours
Do they have a scent?
Onegai these are the roses I was talking about
I guess they thrive better in Jos due to the weather
If the growers in the south have a way of keeping the plants cool, Im sure they will thrive
I guess its easier to grow a tropical plant in the cold than the other way round.

I spoke to Rosety Gardens and he said it's the altitude as well as other factors. That the roses down South have a very small bud and are not commercially viable. They even showed me some cream or white roses they're growing that they're trying to stop from blooming when the buds are small. I was also told that an Indian guy started a greenhouse (the best bet to grow commercial roses) in Lagos but has packed up shop. If a farm can get their act together and grow roses and send them down South, there's a profit in it as I'm sure even with factoring cooling van and processing it manually, it will be cheaper than importing it because the dollar is steadily climbing to almost N400.

tearoses:
Onegai Im just thinking
I can bring some seeds of different flowers with me and get them accoss to you somehow the next time im around.
We are getting to seed planting time here and soon the supermarkets and garden centres will be flooded with all sorts of seeds.
some will grow, some wont but you can give them a try
Seeds dont weigh much so I dont mind

Oh thanks a lot! I'd gratefully accept them Hydrangeas are doing well here and so many cactii.

toparie:
Hei Onegai, what pool did you go to? I'm assuming you're in Lagos. Ive been on the look out for one cos I want my girl to start to learn how to swim as soon as possible

I am in Lagos. It was a private pool (in family house). Ikoyi club has a baby pool so if you know a member, they can take you in. I heard on the mainland, Sunfit gym has a pool and I used to hear about Alaka estate having a swimming place.

you can get a pool noodle (those long colorful things, they are at Ikoyi club but I'm sure you can buy them at the Sports stores in Ojuelegba), I like them better than floaters. And follow this video (my sis used it and it works on building their confidence in water).


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pzdf_FWskl0

Any more pics? I'm interested in this too.

Heliconia

Also known as Lobster Claw.

I saw these in front of a house on Bourdillon and someone has put up pictures of them growing as well here. These are very unique looking flowers and its leaves look like that of a Banana tree. They are outdoor but require shade in the hottest part of the day, lots of water and fertilizer. Yes, they look very nice in bouquets (in Hawaii its a popular wedding flower).

Flowerpot arrangement.

If you have a balcony that gets a lot of light, you can do a flower arrangement there. Get some plant containers (the made in Nigeria ones are decent and the medium sites is from N600), stack them on top of each other and grow something colourful like Vincas (Rosy Periwinkle) in them. It seems this is the season for Vincas to bloom as everywhere I see them, they look stunning.

Please if anyone still wants the cup of Desitin maximum strength Diaper cream (40% zinc), it's available.

And for mummies who have exuberant babies, May I suggest swimming as an activity to wear them out? We finally got our swim diapers and used the pool which was wasting. Baby E complained a bit, splashed a lot and wanted to do pass herself (so she drank water ). That was the time she cried, though she did cling onto my hair and swimsuit for good measure. We went underwater a bit too.

Some safety precautions: only do this if you can swim, stay in the shallow end (where you can stand up), you can use a floater (but my friend's wife teaches without the floater for babies as she says they remember how it feels to be suspended in liquid) and maybe use a private pool if the baby is less than 1 year (I know Ikoyi club has a baby pool that is heated and will take 1 year old baby for swim lessons with their swim coach).

But oh the rewards after! Baby E was so hungry she wept for food (a first! ) and slept as if she did night vigil, then ran Lagos Marathon. plus swimming is good for this current heatwave we are experiencing in Lagos.

I wish I could post pics of us in the pool...

Soil Acidity

Certain plants thrive in acidic soils and others in alkaline soil. Now, to conduct a soil test requires cash which, because we are not commercial farmers, I don't believe it's necessary. But if you wish to find out at home if your soil is acidic or alkaline (you won't get an exact pH number sha), try these simple tests:

Vinegar: Take a sample of dry dirt (about 1/4 cup), mix with distilled water to make a liquid "mud" and then start pouring household vinegar (I'm assuming white vinegar is what they use) over top. If the mixture fizzes, it's alkaline.

Baking soda: Mix dry dirt and distilled water as above then start sprinkling baking soda over top. If the mixture bubbles, it's acidic.

If neither test produces a reaction, you have fairly neutral soil.

Distilled water can be gotten by plain boiling and cooling down (if you have time to condense it, great. But I don't). Btw, drinking distilled water is actually not considered good for the body

touchmeder:
I want to share some pictures. I took them while on a visit to Jos sometime last year. Jos is simply amazing; I saw so much precious stuff just growing around wildly. Stuff that I'll personally love to have down south. In addition, the people were super friendly (I was wondering if I was still in Naija at a point) I loved seeing the rocks and the pretty flowers growing around them. I wanted to move there (joke) permanently until a bomb went off the day before I was due to leave.


Anyways roses and the plucked roses in a vase.

Mehn I feel like crying when I see these. Those rises are gorgeous and you cannot find any that size down south. Nigeria imports roses now to fuel our large Wedding Industry, people in the North are looking handouts and here we have something that, just growing it and selling in Nigeria, the demand is so high you are sure to make a profit.

Please I call on anyone around Jos: florists down south need your flowers commercially and are willing to pay. Contact them and ask for tips to learn the job. Don't starve and be fighting foolish religious and tribal wars.

jnrbayano:
The Op describing the little boy as energetic and ebulluent never suggests other kids weren't playing as well.

What is foolishness on the boy's parents part for allowing their 2year old child have some fresh air?

Did the Op say he was distracting people in church? The Op rather described the little boy's handsomeness and energy which is joy to see.

A good mother wouldn't raise a hand on a toddler for dragging a toy with another, would rather withdraw that object of attraction and the child.

By removing the toy, you've taught nothing. By telling the boy "stop and say please may I borrow your toy/play small with your toy", you've taught a lot. Good mothers teach meaningful lessons, bad parents teach nothing.

Should the other mother have spanked another person's child? Maybe not, but should that boy's parents have gotten up to collect their child when they saw an argument starting? Yes.

I know a little boy like this too, big, cute but ebullient and his mother defended everything. When his school called her to say he got into a fight and other kids didn't want to play with him and parents complained he was rough and worse, most refused to show up for his birthday party, was she not ashamed?

RiloKiley:
But you didn't , did you?
You actually should have done so, it would have corrected the parents (most parents don't know any better about raising kids) and also cautioned them against a next occurrence with another kid.

It is a pity we no longer believe in the social upbringing of the child anymore. In our particular society it would have been very advantageous in teaching children respect for authority and elders and also helped imbibe responsibility in them. Sadly we would rather copy western society in this regard and get the same results of recalcitrance they are getting.

I kept giving her eye to do the needful but she turned her face away. I should have, because I was pissed: the toy was one of those fabric stuff that can't easily be washed. Everyone was forming polite and classy that day i guess. But the nursing staff there don't take nonsense: they will parent your child for you (even if you have just paid a bill of N59, 000 before their eyes). But now, I know better. Make her pikin try it again, mama's ears are gonna be burning in shame when I'm done.

I miss the community bringing up a child. I know I benefited from it. I'll never forget coming home from uni, I wore some tight white top with a plunging v-neck out and draped a shawl around me negligently. I had just come back from the U.S. and truly the world was at my feet. At Ojuelegba I was walking to the car and one of those elderly guys who pushes those big dirt carts howled at me "cover yasef up! ". Sharply I did and never wore that top again and I had worn the top from school, so when I told my mum, she said "serves you right and who bought you that top sef "

if it's nowadays, they will say that the man is jealous and suffering from poverty.

Foolishness on the part of the boy's parents. Your child is running up and down in church, distracting everyone and you let him. Then he wants another child's toy and rather than you step up and teach your son how to politely ask for the toy (we taught all the kids in our family "please" and if they don't give you, let go), you let him get into a fight. And you are there forming angry because another parent did YOUR job and put your kid in place?



If you don't want someone else to parent your child, you better do so.

I took my baby to the clinic and another mother was there with an older child. That one walked up to our diaper bag and picked out the toy my child puts in her mouth, to play with and rub on the dusty floor. The other child's mum just sat down and ignored as if it was her child's right to take whatever she wanted. If I was a slapping mother, someone for chop slap that day. And I truly should have taken the toy back and loudly said "if you take things without asking, people will accuse you of stealing", so that mother will get up and parent her child. When my baby starts trying to grab other people's stuff, I pull her away or apologise to the person. I shouldn't take their understanding that she's just a baby for granted, its upto me to show good manners as well.

I'm going to try making this for he first time this year, my mum is the only one that makes it.

brandnew3:
Isn't it funny that the Sunflowers grow wildly in my hometown?

However, I wouldn't dare harvest it.
I've also seen water lilies on a lake.

Is there a tradition against plucking sunflowers in your side

Water lilies on a lake... abeg buy pro camera, snap it and sell as stock photography.

Desert Rose plant

Quick, someone post lyrics to the Sting song

This is really new to Nigeria but it's a native of Southern Africa and Arabia. This is also known as Adenium and I saw the Adenium Obesum in one of our lah-di-da fancy flower stores in Lagos. So this ain't cheap.

This requires sunlight and can be grown from cuttings or seeds. It's very popular for Bonsai treatment as the trunk can be shaped in all sorts of peculiar arrangements and their roots are not deep so you can use them in shallow containers easily. But it does flower very prettily. The sap is used as a toxin for arrows in hunting. If you're buying it, please it is an investment so demand all the knowledge and care tips and even plant food from the seller.

ifyalways:
Onegai, do you do " truppr run" ?

I saw a lady at today's run with flowers in her car( I guess she bought them on her way to the run today) and resisted the urge to shout Onegai

I'm starting my first flower garden in April. So help us God.

I just started following them on Twitter, I haven't had time to join them! I must join them soonest o... Haha, you should have yelled out. Good on you for starting the flower garden, but biko be careful: a lot of imported species are going for mad prices now, so just try for our local ones and they are still gorgeous. One of my friends just bought and killed a N9, 500 succulent (bear in mind she has actually NEVER grown anything herself, she pays gardeners)

Get good potting soil ( I got a bag of black soil, horse and cow manure for N500) and once your plant has started growing roots, then you can repot into your potting soil (the gardener who sold me mine said if I try and nurse cuttings in manure-rich soil, they'll die from excess fertilizer).