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tearoses:
It looks like a rose but I cant tell if its a floribunda or a tearose
Does it have thorns?

It does...

tearoses:
really!!!
Wow its one of the flowers that I like especially the really tall ones.
Ondo state
Thanks for sharing
Does it flower all year round
here it only flowers in the summer

Honestly I don't know but when I was in Ondo state, it was a wildflower, all over the place and it did seem to flower for months (and that was rainy season). I took pictures of it last week and its dry season and its flowering. So maybe yes.

Pavore9, Please if someone wanted to invest in a farmer, how would they go about it? What do you look for in a farm to know which one would be profitable, what parameters apart from knowing the farmer is responsible. Thanks.

Gomphrena

Gomphrena Globus or Globe Amaranth or Bachelor's Button.

Stunning outdoor plant, this one. I don't know much about it, but the professional gardeners around Lekki like it. It's drunk as a tea in Trinidad. It makes the most colourful addition to any bouquet and lasts long (it also comes in different colours). It is quite a hardy plant and give it a good soil and lots of sun.

Spider Plant

This is nice and easy to grow. It's an indoor plant which improves air quality by absorbing formaldehyde. It does need a lot of indoor light, so put it near a window from time to time. Give it a well-draining soil and all should be well.

btw, average price of a cement bag of potting soil is N500 on the island. A lot of outdoor gardens in Lagos don't flourish because the soil is bad, and if you really want the best, you may have to consider getting some bags of potting soil. Also, people around my area are considering having small herbs and vegetable gardens in their backyards: fresh organic foods grown right in your home

Tearoses, please is that a tea rose? I saw it in a neighbourhood in Lekki.

Alright, let's play!

Who can identify this popular one?

cc Olerismith, Gloriouspa

Emary:
@OP: Hi, girl! I just want to appreciate you for creating this beautiful thread. Well done!

Thanks

Sunflower

These grow in profusion around Ondo state. Like the name says, its a sunloving outdoor plant. It is a heavy eater so give it water and fertiliser. A lot of people don't realise they make a great flower for bouquet or centre pieces, just cut them in the morning. Imagine a yellow and navy wedding.
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Sunflower seeds make sunflower oil, which is a healthy cooking oil and sunflower butter, which is prided in cosmetics making. There really is no reason Nigeria shouldn't be producing sunflower seed oil.

So I made my own can planters, put in some Asparagus fern and Spider plant in them. I used good ol' Quaker oats cans and punched some holes at the bottom, following the tutorial I posted earlier.
They are both indoor plants that purify air and minimu fuss.

For anyone asking: yep, I do take pics of some plants (sweet peas for example) but the picture quality differs. it looks much nicer outdoors than indoors.

Not directly under the fan so it doesn't blow particles inside her lungs and that causes irritation there which leads to allergies/respiratory illnesses.

yemi16:
Its really amazing how what is taught during pre-marriage classes quickly fast becoming almost irrelevant in the real world..
During the pre-marriage courses, the counsellors will advice that there should be togetherness, and that no one should hide anything from the other....no matter how little or insignificant.....and that there should be no secrets...
Nowadays, this theory is almost not application anymore especially....really a strange and changing world!!

No, actually the message is right. People are the issue.

I'm a gambling woman and I'm going to make a bet. I bet you N200 that she also acts jumpy when your relatives come around, like she's not comfy but dare not be rude and overdoes the fake smiles sometimes. Did I win my bet?

if that's true, she's suffering from I-Gats-Fight-Needless-Battles Disease. it's a nasty illness, ah tellya. There's a long cure for it and a short cure. Only take the short cure if you are a very calm and in-control person. ONLY IF YOU ARE CALM AND IN CONTROL AND HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOUR.

if you do, reply this and I'll post the short cure here.

Oya efferbodi let's laugh! It's 2016, no fight!

tearoses:
Onegai good morning

I'm just curious are these people going back going straight into ready made jobs?

Most of the people I know who first relocated to Nigeria and then came back struggled to get back to the point at which they left off.
The same way with people who relocate abroad and the people they left behind in Nigeria are moving on too and not just twiddling their thumbs. Some of my classmates are big men/women in Nigeria now too.

Good morning.

Ready-made jobs ke? My BiL came from his posh U.K. home to start a fish farm as he jobhunted and he did well. Sometime last year, some young fellow on NL had a thread on leaving the U.S. and coming home to start a Cucumber farm. The profit margins are high in Nigeria but the cost of living is high. However, you can have a good life if you're willing to look outside the box and sacrifice some things. Like decide to live close to your work, rather than spend 3 hours getting to work daily and reduce her high blood pressure (you're not saving any money and building that mcMansion won't help, your kids will still grow up one day and leave). Go to market instead of supermarket, buy local instead of imported (if it's available), make do when you can't afford it, don't flaunt your wealth (I've never owned a phone that cost over N40, 000 in my life out of choice and no-one is going to slap me and steal my handset with its broken screen), make good friends, have a good relationship with your doctor (I've been in the U.S. without health insurance and I sorta laugh when I see some comments, because that period I'd have given anything to be in Nigeria where I'd have had doctors everywhere). As for having fun, there are soooo many activities one can do (affordably) that truly it is lack of knowledge keeping people away. I'm signing up for NHIS, I heard about it on NL and people will still come here and scram about how they took their loved one to a hospital and presented a bill and they couldn't pay and something happened. Govt did free Measles vaccine for children and babies till February this year, how many took advantage of it?

Now that Nigerians are being forced to pay taxes because we're broke, everyone is querying politicians because they have now realised it is our collective duty to so

EfemenaXY:
Remind me again what promises your politicians made to the masses, prior to them being voted in power. Was free or rather, subsidized health care touched upon?

You're commending the efforts of those who took it upon themselves to do what your government ought to be doing in the first place (commendable), but have any of these people been held accountable? Was this little girl's case used as a starting point to hold those in power accountable for their gross failures and let down health services? I guess not.



A recap of what I posted to PresVA, yes, I have done my fair share to help (and I still am) but it's not for you to question who, what, where, when, why, or how I've done / doing. What you should be focusing on is ensuring the leaders you voted in power are held accountable for their non-actions.

I can't tell you from here how to run your country. I can give suggestions, but the buck is on you to make it happen. And you start by encouraging freedom of expression / speech, and not by trying to smother opinions that don't sit well with you.

If I see or hear something I don't like, I speak up. I write to my MP. I even attend the bi-weekly surgery sessions my local MP runs to voice my grievances. You should do the same at your end to make your environment more live-able.

But in your original posts, you were referring to all Nigerians, not the political class or elites. That everyone living in Nigeria was mad and would drive past children in a car accident or snap pictures or beat up toddlers and leave them to starve to death as witches. Which is why I called you out on it.

No-one is stopping anyone from speaking. I could say some things that are totally true and will hit hard, about this issue, but honestly I think we've all debated enough on it. Whoever wants to move should make their choice now.

I lived in the U. S., my husband lived in the U.K., we relocated like several people and have not died yet. People in my circle are now thinking of moving out back to the west, but only because the economy in Nigeria is down. Only because the economy is down. Not because they are scared for their lives, or hate everyone around them. Only because their
money is hurting. The same reason why most of them left the U.S. and U.K. to Nigeria in the first place: the economy there had a recession.

Dude, you just got great advice. Take it. Sit down and document how you will care for your kids and provide for them. Discuss with her.

bebe2:
Now dats common sense.

Exactly the point I have been trying to make, but thru no fault of their own people have become desensitised to the sufferings of their fellow human beings.

And life has become a culture of me, myself and I.

As for the government official issue u went thru, well if it was now , nothing wud very happened be cos there won't be any chance of it getting to front page, unless u manage to include a pix of some celebrity taking a poo in their toilet.

Start from Sunday check all the front page news, and ask urself, which of these are supposed to help make life better for us and our fellow citizens.

Well then, let's change it. Let us generate intelligent content. The content of FrontPage is to attract the most views and celebrity news sells. Those daft threads exist to power sensible threads. Everyone in media is suffering from that banality: if you've gotta put a pic of a Kardashian on your news outlet so you get clicks to read about serious stuff, so be it. Sad but welcome to the 21st century.

We are a selfish people. Nigerians (diaspora and local) have the same mindset (I can count the number of Nigerians I met volunteering abroad, they only showed up if it was church-related). Be the change you want to see. It starts with you.

EfemenaXY:
But the lady in question is a foreigner, isn't she?

Where were all the so-called "kind hearted" Nigerians within that child's vicinity for the 8 months he was left to his own devices roaming the streets, whilst the life slowly drained out of his little body?

Or was the child in the middle of the dessert on his own? It laughable you say you admire the lady who came to his rescue. A lady, who under normal circumstances would be viewed as "irresponsible" with all her visible tattoos, doing the decent, human thing. Why did it have to be a foreigner showing Nigerians the right thing to do?

What she demonstrated was basic human empathy. A basic emotion, (judging from how long that child was ignored) which apparently isn't that basic amongst your average Nigerian.

People on NL fought to raise funds for a little girl in a SW state so she could get heart surgery in India, total strangers met her mum at the airport to send her off with goodwill and prayers. Her mother has never met any of the hundreds who helped save her little girl. They were average Nigerians.

You that you know better because you live in a sane climate, what have you done for your community in Nigeria? Have you sent some money to that lady's foundation? I'm not fighting anyone, but to all whom are screaming "Nigeria is evil", what have you all done to mitigate or even change society? If you've done nothing, how are you all better than those who live here and do nothing?

Ewuro4, I really didn't want to put mouth in this matter

OP, Nigeria is currently having a crumbling economy so things are getting pricier as the days goes by. And yes, it's a mess even in the basics and people's mentality will seem off to you. So you can try it for 3-6 months (2 months will make you hate it, you need time to take a proper look) and see if you like it and you can thrive.

Good schools are pricey but it depends on your location, same with food and services. Healthcare is really bad, same with infrastructure. Safety isn't great unless you stay somewhere with rich folks.

What you really need is a good network. Hospitals may be bad but if you have doctors as friends and relatives, you're better off than most people. A good network will find you work and opportunities where other doors are closed.

And if people don't come back to develop Nigeria, it will change but much more slowly. Nigeria doesn't need money remitted from abroad, it needs people rolling up their shirtsleeves and putting in hard work and effort. Case in point: LASG built 2 tolls on Lekki expressway and charged a premium to use the road. Nigerians in Nigeria complained, Nigerians abroad whined, both groups had the same mentality and DID NOTHING. It took one retired guy to be pissed off and get a few other folks and they sued the govt and won and now, only one toll is taken. But Nigerians in Nigeria are still complaining and Nigerians abroad are still whining and neither group is getting off their ar.ses to DO ANYTHING ABOUT CHANGING STUFF.

QC Alumni association maintains their school (they provided Braille machines at one point to encourage them accept disabled students), St. Kizito's clinic (Mother and Child)
is funded by the Catholic church and private donations, some actress just donated fans to LUTH, etc.

(when I got back, I whined so much my mum almost dropped me at Oshodi in anger. But ask Jim Ovia where his oldest daughter is, ask Otedola where his girls are, Dangote's kids may school abroad but will come back here, come to Ikoyi and Ikeja and ask why all the rich people's kids are coming to Nigeria).

Nigeria is a mess. But if you're not doing anything about it, then you're the same, whether you live abroad or live in Nigeria.

And just like that, I've been cured of my buying plantain chips in traffic craze.

ewwwwwww!!

I remember in uni, we all loved that ice cream that came in a pyramid pack. Only for people to say they saw the seller use the same scissors he used to cut it open to groom his armpit hairs.


Or the food vendors, that we were told rinse out used straws and give it to new customers. Till now I bend and destroy my straws after drinking.

I dunno if the Marriage institution is in as much danger as we think.

I know 2 married women who left their husbands over 40 years ago because they were cheating on their husbands. I know someone's grandmother who left her husband and remarried and she passed away years ago at the ripe old age of 100. And far too many people in my generation grew up with fathers who did and undid.

But couples are still wearing "And co" to attend church and functions and people are dancing even more at weddings (Saturday traffic is now bad in Lagos ).

Maybe it's not that the rate of divorce is skyrocketing as time passes, but that the story of bad marriages is spreading faster.

After all, Mindfulness opened a thread to ask people to praise their SOs and even me, I no talk (but in my defence I was busy at that time plotting some acts of naughtiness against him but he caught me). If she had opened a "I hate my husband" thread, that would be on 7 pages and people would have asked the Mods to move it to the FrontPage by now.

Begonia:
Oh dear! I really do not care about your "dealings". I simply implied that the last part of your comment was quite unnecessary as that has always been discernible. As for your obviously "meant-as-an-insult" question, I've never and will never support tribalism irrespective of the ethnic group being denigrated. Don't forget, I'm not you

Well that's good for you. Yay! And you've had my 5 minutes of attention. Now, I'm sure myself and others will care to go back to the issue at hand.

Begonia:
No need to state this. Based on most of your ethnic related comments, it's not too hard to decipher.

Oh honey, I wasn't trying to be subtle. I never am when dealing with a tribalist who is also in favour of railroading my culture and says it to my face. Will it make you feel better if I say if it were a Yoruba person making these comments, I'd say the same?

Please ask the mamas here

https://www.nairaland.com/889053/pregnancy-pregnant-going-through-high

kayfra:
Can I get his contact?

Thanks

Will get back to you.

See "great African values" at work, where they abandon a toddler because someone said he's a witch.

BellaElla:
There is no big picture to see. And the people quoting statistics without proven facts to back them up are the ones getting emotional.
tonychristopher and co have come to state categorically that 90% of inter tribal marriages don't work out, and also say that in Igbo land, marring out of your tribe means you have been promiscuous and hence the Igbo men cant marry you.
I said earlier that I was in a relationship with a man from my tribe. the funny thing is that most of the time we conversed in English. it didn't workout, we were not compatible, despite the fact that we had cultural similarities.
As for language preservation, even if you marry from your village, and you are in another town, your child will learn the language spoken by his peers and environment, except if you speak vernacular at home always. I schooled with people that couldn't speak and write Igbo even though both of their parents were Igbo, because they grew up in Lagos. they spoke Yoruba fluently.
we should be careful how we spew imaginary facts, because someone that is engaged can come and read this thread tomorrow and conclude that his/ her marriage would fail because of tribal differences, based on what you people are saying here with all conviction.
I am more concerned about how my husband treats me than how his family will treat me, A lot of us have stopped going to our villages because of fear of witchcraft, some people don't even allow their family members know where they live. some of us have been duped and stolen from by our kinsmen, but we would now come here and say that a marriage with two compatible, understanding, well behaved adults has a less chance at success than a marriage between a two incompatible adults, just because of tribal differences. Shey its my husbands tribe that will provide for me, or it is his tribe that will make him a good father, or it is his tribe that will comfort me when in need. even in Igbo land, an Anambra man has problems marring an Abia girl, An ngwa woman has problems marring an ohafia man. no be the same tribe ni? Please you people should stop peddling unbacked rumours because as far as I am concerned tribe does not a marriage make!!!!

My dear, my cousin (decades ago) broke up with his Yoruba girlfriend to marry someone from our tribe and our village, all in order to please Mama and his family. The marriage packed up in the most spectacular manner and he used his 2 legs to find his square-foot back to his Yoruba girl and they are still married.

If tribe was a star factor in man in marriages work, divorce would have been non-existent I our grandparents time and thats not true, marriages broke up, people cheated, wives poisoned their husbands (why else would that rite of drinking the water used to bathe one's husband's corpse exist) and husbands did and undid.

It is a Nigerian thing to keep doing the same thing and never ever want to change, in spite of the glaring issues with the method. They will fight you to he death to keep doing things that don't work. Look at the state of the. country as proof.

Eddygourdo:
You all getting emotional aren't seeing the big picture, there are generalisations and of course exceptions, most with successful inter-tribal marriages are exceptions and very blessed, tonychristopher isn't very far from the truth with respect to the majority of cases. It's everybody's opinions and experiences. The challenges poses is why we sought successful experiences from the successful ones

I have to differ. I know someone married inter-tribally to a Yoruba man and she says "oh don't marry Yoruba people, they are so tribal, they don't like me because their son married a non-Yoruba". You know the crazy thing? Her SiL (husband's sister) is married to a Benue man and the family accepts and likes him. She refuses to admit to herself that they have a problem with HER, not her tribe.

When people have issues, it is so much easier to blame inconsequential things like race and tribe rather than get down to the real issues: differences in mindset, upbringing, morals, principles and personality quirks. So instead of saying "my cousin married from Niger and the marriage didn't work out because he and his wife kept fighting and didn't know how to communicate peaceably", they will say "Dont marry Niger girls, they're bad".

Example of this is a lady i met, Igbo, who declared "we can never marry Asaba girls, they don't make good wives" based on what she had seen one relative go through. Yet, she will tell you Asaba people are Igbo (like so many Igbo people on NL will) and her hands were not clean (she was being frisky with a coworker's husband, also Igbo ). She would even say "if an Igbo girl is seen with a married man, everyone would be shocked because Igbo girls are well-brought up and know better". Ignoring all the aristo babes I know (go to Abuja and ask the tribe of yellow girls hanging around NA and come back and testify ). Talk about blindness.

So can I now tell my brothers "don't marry Igbo girls, they're shameless and the marriage won't work"?

(btw, where I come from, they bring up children with the phrase "if you marry an Igbo man, we will not attend that wedding".

oieda:
Just see what you are saying. Are parents to send their children/wards to school to eat or to be educated?? It is just misplaced priority.

You speak from lack of knowledge. If you like, build the best, most beautiful school. in the world and fill it up with hungry kids and expect them to stay in class, starving. Even university students come here to NL to use their time to beg for funds to feed and pay schoolfees rather than browse their coursework, how much more primary school kids (the most important sector of Education).

juman:
Inter ethnic marriage success depends on couples involved.

One thing always wondering my mind, how come the countries that have it citizens consists of mainly immigrants are able to excel while we nigerians that are mainly indigenous people cannot build a sensible and reasonable country.

If you want to know Nigeria's problems, read this thread. They cannot fight the people from their tribe robbing them blind and depriving them of basic healthcare, but will attack the neighbour suffering with them in the name of tribal differences. They cannot put their differences aside to look for the greater good. When I say Nigeria's problems will be best solved by some nuclear attacks, people then get angry.

Henceforth, I fully support asking people what tribe they come from before offering help on NL. Your money should not be the only thing acceptable to them.

bajeen:
I supported the school feeding program right from the outstart. I believed it'll boost enrollment and will lure those defiant parents to start sending their kids to school. But, when I now dissect it from an expenditure point of view, I now see it as a non-priority. It is said that 50 Naira is spent for 1.5 million, this amounts to about 70 million daily. What Kaduna has as primary schools, are mostly derelict and ramshackle structures not fit for taking lessons. I am aware that the Gov has awarded renovation contracts for schools that are in need of serious intervention. But just imagine if this 70 million spent daily is channelled towards building new classrooms/schools, I believe it would have been more worthwhile.
BTW, Elrufai is still my best governor, across board. He's someone who sticks to his principles and implements his policies not caring whose ox is gored. I am optimistic that Kaduna(and Nigeria at large) will be great once again and forever.

If they had built pretty classrooms, they would stand empty because hungry kids won't stay in them. It's not the pretty of the classroom Nigeria needs, it's the quality of education that needs to improve. Feed first, then retrain teachers and upgrade State ministry of Education. Encourage new topics and methods for teaching (our Nigerian teachers are beyond lousy in imparting knowledge). Even developed countries offer a schoolfeeding program (e.g. U.K.).

mizzkweenbee:
I'll try and make this as brief as possible. Have been dating this guy for almost a year now. Things were going smoothly till he travelled(outside the country)early this year, I got to find out he is married but the wife stays outside and he has relocated to go be with her. After he left, his best friend started calling me often, sending me messages, tryna check on me and all that. I didn't really take it serious till few days ago, he called me and was like since we both didn't av a date for val, let him take me out. I obliged. He took me to a fancy restaurant and was telling me how much he has always loved me and had wanted to tell me about his friend but didn't wanna betray him. I was shocked outta ma senses when he brought out a ring and proposed in front of everyone. Now my question is, can u marry ur ex's best friend, can I really trust this guy, isn't he like his friend. He's a nice guy really but I dnt know if i can marry him. Your advice'll really be appreciated.

Tell him you'd like to get to know him better and keep your pants on throughout this stage. And for goodness' sake do your due diligence (put up couple pictures of you on his fb so you can find out his status etc). Don't go trusting until he's proven himself to you.