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Hannibal:
You will never understand this because you are not a man. . . . .

It's similar to why MEN want to pull off after making love to their partners.
A hormone triggers the man to pull off while the female hormone(oxytocin) triggers the woman to cling. . . .
Should we put this down to being selfish or a natural phenomenom??

Y'all chics got alot to learn.

What world do you live in? I mean seriously!! This is the upmost bizzare thing i have yet to read. So hormones are what controls your logic? Please dont even bring in oxytocin into this debate because it is nothing compare to your male hormones.

@topic

I'm sorry but i couldn't. I promise to be by your side every moment i can, but i couldn't marry you. I would love you with all my heart but I couldn't handle burying my husband before we would see one year anniversary.

ChinenyeN:
I've got an idea what it's like. I definitely don't have anything else to compare what it FEELS like, but I have an idea what its like. Seeing (for life in general) is believing.

Not really, feeling is believing. Sometimes i don't even think i want kids seeing what pain my cousin went through having her kids. I would totally accept the offer so that my husband can deliver while i just stand around as "mental support"

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=159132.msg2642721#msg2642721 date=1218486419]As long we could find even just one woman that will cheat, i personally see cheating as human weakness then and not just as a man's weak link.[/quote]That is why I said MAJORITY not ALL.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=159132.msg2642721#msg2642721 date=1218486419]Not good enough reason for cheating to be accepted.[/quote]So you view cheating as just a guy want to explore? If he wants to explore, go partner up with Dora the Explorer and leave her to be swiped by a REAL man.

Hannibal:
You should put a cock/sock in it.
Are your hormones play-acting again?
Listen n learn. . . .

Utter rubbish.

Hannibal:
Cheating is not a sign of love neither is it a sign of stupidity, selfishness or disrespect!!!
Sometimes, boredom just make people CHEAT.

If you are bored, you leave. if you are bored and you stay, you are STUPID.

Hannibal:
Men are adventuresome. . . . . .It's in the DNA.
When men cheat, they are doing it NOT because they don't love their partner. . . .It's just an adventure.
The same urge that makes men want to open the hood of a car to dig his hands into it. . . .exploration!!!

SHUT THE HELL UP!!!!!!!

What kind of rubbish is this? So cheating is a sign of LOVE?? It is a sign of being a stupid, selfish, uncaring, disrespecting lover.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=159132.msg2642673#msg2642673 date=1218485882]even if you are right, i will never admit it.[/quote]You will because you know it is true. Out of all the cases in which cheating was a factor in a relationship, MAJORITY OF THE TIME, [/b]it is the [b]MAN, who did the[b] CHEATING.[/b]

ChinenyeN:
By together I mean, finding out who one is, where one believes they fit in life, what one wants to do with one's self and one's life, and finding out how to achieve all of that.  

Shuppie, most men have an idea of what it is like, that's the reason why they'd rather not accept.

Well alot of ladies do figure out who they are. But for others. . . it takes some time and soul searching. I mean i will use myself as an example. Do i think i know myself fully, no. But am i getting there, yes and no. it takes time and understanding know your place in life. I mean i know what i am, but just not who i am.

Oka about the whole pregnancy comment, you have NO idea what it is like.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=159132.msg2642640#msg2642640 date=1218485381]i can see that the onye still remain same stuborn lady, so i rest my case, u just always want to jump at anything to show that men are cheats and stuff like that.[/quote]But you must admit im right.

sistawoman:
But you see Rhino the problem is that men most times (99.9%) get caught.

Women go undetected for decades.

Guys are fools when it comes to cheating. They will leave text messages on their phone for their woman to find. They will keep phone numbers in their pockets. Leave voice mails to be heard. Come home smelling like they spent the evening a perfume shop. Start acting shady. Use excuses like "Im working late". Detecting a cheating man is like looking for a red feather among white ones.

Come on now. Kanye is great lyricist. His songs make you think. While slim shady's music just gives you headache because all he raps about is "my daughter this" "my daughter that" "cleaning out my closet" "mocking bird".

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=159132.msg2642632#msg2642632 date=1218485265]i am glad u said people.[/quote]But it usually on the grounds of men.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=159132.msg2642600#msg2642600 date=1218484921]And sometimes looking for something missing from the present relationship, i do understand that it would have been better to just break up and start something else, however, most human is always afraid of something new.[/quote]This shows how weak people are.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=159132.msg2642579#msg2642579 date=1218484708]In as much as i hate cheating, i will like to disagree with you on that statement, there are some people that cheats because they got themselves in a bad place at the bad time, i am not making excuses for them, some will cheat all n the name of attention, there is nothing every human craves more than attention, both men and woman, and human will be attracted to where he/she is celebrated rather than where he/she is being tolerated.

* i hope you wont say i am being judgemental and start using some kind of words oh.[/quote]This goes back to stupidity, selfishness, and lack of caring.

sistawoman:
yes.

that is why i will not, will not. . . . . did i say will not support a man.  My husband/mate/boyfriend does not need to make as much money as I do (most don't) but he must be bringing something to the table.

(coughing relentlessly)

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=6633.msg2642543#msg2642543 date=1218484296]A simple woman will not worry about vacation, not to talk of once every 2 years.
A simple woman will rent a 2 bdrm apartment and reside there with his kids and Dada
A simple woman will not need a car, but will back one child while she is pregnant and they will be going around in her "legedes benz"
A simple woman will let the kids eat and not too worried about herself.

I am yet to see a woman that will pass on a rich man, all because she can't handle the drama that comes with marrying a rich man, i will be glad if u cld be the first one, however, i doubt it.[/quote]That is not a simple woman, more on the grounds of cheap.

ChinenyeN:
Hehe. _{I'm only wondering about whomever your man/boyfriend/husband will be. mmekpa-ahu oo.}

You know, I always thought that females got it together before males, but I guess I was wrong.

Hmmm. . . . define "together".

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=158862.msg2642560#msg2642560 date=1218484525]if that makes u feel better, sure.[/quote]It is the correct term.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=159132.msg2642551#msg2642551 date=1218484396]i am sure there has been some ladies too that started cheating for very stupid and dumb reasons.[/quote]Cheating on the one you love is a symbol of lack of caring, selfishness, and stupidity.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=159132.msg2642455#msg2642455 date=1218483147]do u think a man want to love, or most of the times, fear and maybe attitude makes him to reserve his love, like i have read on one post that love is a choice.[/quote]Please elaborate.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=159132.msg2642443#msg2642443 date=1218482935]so what makes them to want to? [/quote]love.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=158862.msg2642407#msg2642407 date=1218482516]Cos when God created man, he said, he realizes that it is not nice for man to be alone, so he created him an helper.
So man can't do without the ladies and so are the ladies.[/quote]Try using the word "companion" instead.

LOL!!! not all are like this you know. It is just that it takes time to fully know and accept one self. Some women might take to the age of 30 to know themselves. While others will know by the age of 25. It truly depends. By the terms of women being complex, well that differs. I know ladies who are so complex and complicated that i don't know how they deal. While i know ladies who are simple and serene. Me on the other hand, is very complex. Even i have to admit that.

Don't get your hopes up Hannibal. Slim Shady's lyrics are good but they aint that good. Slim Shady vs. 50 cent, well of course slim takes that one home. But Slim Shady vs. Kanye West. . . .you do the math.

See that is why i would accept the offer. You know because tend to be more simpler. More laid back. While alot of women are complex and difficult to understand. many don't even fully understand themselves. So fully understanding a guy is easy. Most women learn by the age of 25.

Oka maybe slim shady's album was a wee bit better but im sorry until he can prove to the world that he aint another washed up rapper, he is a thing in the past.

Much better but, no offense you will never[i] fully[/i] understand what a woman goes through. You can try to understand it but, you won't grasp it fully.

1. Only the Strong Survive.

2. If you don't stand something, you will fall for anything.

3. Those willing to bow before God, will stand up to any man.

4. Where there is a will there is a way.

5. I am the beholder of my destiny.

6. We are flowers fading, here today gone tomorrow. Live life to the Fullest.

I have so much more.

Personally i would listen to Nas' new album(which is a deemed classic) over slim shady's "Marshal Mathers" any day of the week.

Compliment in the sense you understand what most women go through on a day to day basis.
Insult in a sense when you were all "i would never want to be in the place of a woman". Sort of makes is sound like it is the worst thing or the worst job.

Horoscope ko relationships ni. Stars can't tell you if the one you are with is compatible for you.

ChinenyeN:
Okay. I understand what you're saying and I agree. Women (generally speaking) do bear most of the burden. That's why I am thankful that I came out as a male and I would never want to be in the place of a woman.

Strangely i find that as a compliment and an insult. That is why i would accept the offer to switch places. It would be like a vacation from everyday life. Just go to work, pay bills, yada yada.

Give it up Hannibal. Your slim shady is good but he aint that good. Until he comes up with a new album that can even compare to Nas' "Slave and the Master" or "N*****" then he is just another rapper who was good in the past,

Raymond88:
We're all God's children but it pisses me off when one tries to play God's favorite, christian E- Fellowship? ugh come on.

Who is playing God's favorite? We are all the loving children of God.

huxley:
Your bible has been wrong about many many many many things. Why should we turn to it for anything given its dismal track record.

So we should turn onto you abi?

Raymond88:
Of course! so take thy holier than thou attitude somewhere elseth!

May God Be With You.