What about the one they did during their birthday? Is there a difference?

Lol

MadamVanessa:



Lmao.... anytime I sent her money, it's like the window of heaven has opened, money will be dropping.

Me seriously thinking if I should start paying my tithe to this your girlfriend who doesn't like financial multiplication?

Back to the post, I am not in right position to advise you , but your heart is there. Follow it.

Carchoice:
Can I invest?

I want to send you 20k to give to her. When you receive 200k I’ll get 100k return while you keep the remaining 100k. How you see am?

Damn. You are starting a thrift or what?

Once you are convinced she is the one, then go right on. Too many breakfasts this year. We need weddings next year as succor

Steal his sperm na
But these are very serious issues that should have been discussed before you tie the knot, however, it is not too late to do that. Let him see reasons with you and vice-versa. I believe you guys can come to a favorable compromise.

Constantly counter his curses with positive confessions for yourself. I think you shouldn't hate him because by that, you have given him power over you which he doesn't deserve. Just see him as just another person. Just disconnect from him in every way that you need to.

Ayanwukoma:
The thing that upsets me more is when we start narrating our experiences of been dealt with toxic parenting from our fathers some people will be saying, we were products of manipulations of our mom. but that's a lie... they just don't know our pains.

here are the attributes of my father, don't know if it's redpill or not.


1) my father swear for us at any slightest provocation (he uses word like, YOU GO DIE, YOU GO USE YOUR MOUTH RUB GROUND, WITCH and so much more) imagine as a kid growing up till this day and this man still uses same languages on us his children.



2) HE'S CUNNY IN NATURE TOWARDS US HIS FAMILY.

You don't dare have an issue with a neighbor in the presence of my dad which he's aware of, because the next morning he be sitting with that same neighbor and talk ill about you in your presence ( how many times my mom has quarrelled with people because of him...but before we know it, him and them have reconciled. my mom would be the bad person in the town)


3) IS WITCH A GOOD NAME TO CALL YOUR CHILD?


This man has called us witch to the extent the whole area is looking at us as one, he has literally made us look bad in the presence of people. compare us with other people.
he has spoiled us with his bad tongue. full area gossiping telling people their papa self dey call them witch...belike them don confess before.
just because of my father toxic tongue.



4)MY FATHER HOLDS HIS BROTHERS CHILDREN IN HIGHER REGARDS THAN US.


you need to see the way he's happy whenever they come around, especially when they give him money like 5k, 3k ... prayers uphon prayers on them.
as soon as they go he starts the curses on us.. I don't know he just don't want us to succeed or not.

DO I HATE MY FATHER? I hate him with every blood in my veins yes, how can I love someone that abuses us immediately he sees us eating his food, looking at us like we are wrecking him from day one.

any small thing, COMOTH FOR MY HOUSE (you must hear that word)


honestly speaking I myself am in my mid 20s and with what I experience to this day it's affecting me in my life, you can never see me smile.
am always angry, even when am happy.
when I talk, my words are always hard.. except when I try to be nice sometimes.

I SWEAR ON MY LIFE, I REFUSED TO BE THE MAN MY FATHER IS, EVEN IN MY NEXT LIFE TO COME.





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mynd44

To each his own. I'm so happy I'm free to make my choices with guidance and counsel.

Deal with it this way: do not allow yourself to suffer more because of someone who doesn't even care about you anymore. There are men out there who would cherish you. Maybe you aren't good enough, too much or just enough but that's okay. Cry a little but also see through those tears.
I have been there but I didn't allow myself to stay down. Eat, sleep and move. Work on yourself and you will attract the man of your dream.
You've got time but it's not to brood.

Right.

xeju:

Yea, it could seen as a decision. Decision to be kind, merciful, compromise, be slow to anger, forgive, etc. Not everyone is capable of these characters because love is hard, hence they say perfect love doesn't exist either in heaven or hell or earth

OLAADEGBU:


What forms your idea about sexual compatibility? Do you have the same moral compass to start with? Discussion will identify where you share the same interests and what you enjoy doing. Family values, background and upbringing contributes to what we find acceptable. Do you really have to be compatible?

Right but this last question though. I think it's important that partners are compatible in those important ways and then they can be compromises too as need be. I personally cannot marry someone who can't resolve issues with dialogue or one who shout because I can't stand it.

Ayo081:


I don't know if there's a celebration disorder or something, we planned an hangout with friends, I didn't go. I celebrate people tho.

I'm also on this table sometimes. Getting dress and then just lost interest in going. And, most people like that you show up for their events or hang out. I hope to do better moving forward.

OLAADEGBU:


That's the main reason for opening this thread because folks usually take this subject for granted.

But how do we even know for those who are celibate because it's a bit difficult to know exactly what and who suits you sexual in detail except you have, at some point, been sexually active.

Up blues.

It's a serious issue in marriage fa.

Mercychen:


I already did. The bank couldn't help.
My service provider said they can't accept the airtime back and gave me a code to sell it. I couldn't sell it so I've been using it.

Thanks.

Ohkay. It's all right.
You are welcome.

I bet you have also lied to her before but that not the issue here. Most people lack honesty and truthfulness and this is not even limited to man-wife relationships. You see this everywhere

A whole lot so I can't begin to count.

Your wife is just being emotional so please ignore. You both should put hands together and deal with the externals.

Ayo081:
I think I don't appreciate things enough until I suffer or have a problem with what I usually do seamlessly.

I also don't document little wins like the OP said in the first paraphras.

My problem is maybe I don't care or I usually forget or I have a problem celebrating. I also don't like celebration

Hmmmmm

He's too old for that na. How can a man as old as this be a slave to that?

Romantic. It's a nice idea once in a while for people who don't like going out. Me like

I don't but it would probably make no difference. I still made it out and that's what really matters.

xeju:

Love isn't actually a thing on its own, it's the the compilation of good characters shown toward others

You do have a point. We do most of these things because of love but you should also note that not everyone is capable of these things mentioned.

For me, love is a decision. Now, what that decision is for everyone would be different.

AderonkeOlaniyi:


You better shut up there!!!

Olosho no be work, na manage dem dey manage am

Learn how to address issues objectively. Until then, keep off my mention.

This thing dey Naijiria too. Nice

80years fa

I'm too trusting and it has cost me a lot so I will lock up a bit.
Not going for the things I know I can do and holding back because of fear. I'm putting the whole of myself out there this year. These dreams won't achieve themselves.

I have similar issue with my father and honestly I still don't want to have anything to do with him. Unlike most people who hold grudges against their 'unavailable and bachelor' dads, I feel nothing whatsoever for or against him.
If he wants anything with you, he would have made the effort so that's where your answer lies.

Do your part here to make things better, don't pull people down, prioritize your peace of mind.
Life's essence is in the things we do every passing day.

You will be fine. Mercy Johnson too did the same except your fears are based on finances and even at that, you will find a way around it. Don't think abortion. Have it and go for family planning.

As much as I would want to believe this, the motive behind this post might not just be pure. Every opportunity to bash women and spit trash is always celebrated and explored by the same men who themselves are partners in crime with these women. Hypocrisy on the high right here.