By having a gaslight or gaslighter detector and activating anti gaslight mode once you have detected one.

I'm here for you with listening ears.

Please, go see a therapist and I strongly advice a male one. It's an addiction already and you have to consciously work on it and deal with it.

ezana1:


I'm not a rich guy, having an industrious girl is an advantage, meanwhile I can't cook and do house chore. That's were the confusion came in

Then, see how you can help both of them grow and develop these skills and then the choice can be clearer. So, even if you eventually don't go with either of them you would know you contributed to their growth and they would be better for it.

We don't know exactly what you want in a woman, you do. Also, you have been with them and there are little things that matter which you must have noticed so decide, get Asoebi and invite us for the wedding. You are lucky to have 2 good ones with you both what will be the fate of the other lady?

zexy2030:
Whatever you find an adult doing, you may not understand until you get to their age n stage then it will go down well.

You are so right.

Nwaotu10:
Me too bro.
I've been in this situation for years now.

You see, i want to start believing that there's an excuse for crime. I can't continue to live like this. After years of graduation, no job. People where like go learn a skill blabla blabla, I learnt the skill, no capital to take start am. My life's in auto pilot now.

Keep pushing. It will all make sense in the end. But, don't make excuses for crime. Make money you can spend with peace of mind. And remember, nothing lasts forever especially what you are passing through right now.

yuping:
Make una talk make I learn.

Talk your own What are you grateful for?

Most of us are always waiting on some big breakthrough, breathtaking achievement before we celebrate. We assume that if it's not making news it's not worth it. Let's learn to enjoy even the little things around that we overlook while waiting for our big celebrations. Let's make sure we live, every moment without hesitation.

For me, the welcoming smile on kids faces makes me remember my childhood, and how much and far I have come.
I'm grateful for true family and sound health. In the last two years, I suffered serious health decline that I couldn't even swallow saliva. I take every meal with a sense of gratitude now.

What are the little things about life you don't take for granted?

Most people can't even make it through 2 of those things on the list.

I'm grateful for life, growth and for true family.

Innocence of childhood and the free spirit living. Now, we live with so much consciousness and worry about everything.

I miss bathing outside when it rains. We dance in the rain with no cares or worries, throwing our hands in the air like nothing else matters. We were happy, genuinely and pure and beautiful in our souls. Adulthood has robbed most people of their innocence.

MufasaLion:


I don't know what really happened to you, but I think maybe you just weren't doing things the right way. It might not be the herbalist shit.

I know what I'm doing and she indirectly confirmed it. I usually don't really believe these things before until recently.

In seeking opinion from a third party, be sincere and objective with your narration, and be sure this person is also someone who has values, whose opinions can to some extent be trusted.

Why have you concluded that you won't be faithful?

There was this friend of actually went to consult an herbalist because of me and I didn't know. When I eventually found out, a lot of damage had been done considering I kept updating her on the situation of things.

I still find it difficult to believe up till today and I was so hurt I took her matter to God. Later I just started releasing her from my mind but it was difficult.

It's the bullshit that would work on someone who is still hung on their ex. I cannot be your friend because our friendship ended with the relationship.

Guys and ladies say and do that for selfish reasons.

Envy, jealousy, greed and covetousness is innate to some people and they can't help it. I don't know why you will be angry your friend is getting married or got a job when she didn't steal it from you.

I will never understand why you would be okay if an unknown person gets something good instead of your friends. Many are truly mad.

I don't want the generation I will raise to smell the other side of good life plus I think I can do some good for those around me.

I really want to travel the world and I need good money to do that.

I cannot depend on a man especially financially and this is not out of pride but experience.

LadyD22:


Are you referring to yourself ? What do you mean by a sexually active lady can't go a week without sex , they can even go years just to make sure that they don't go and waste body count , its men that find it hard to stay without sex for a week , both married and single , I mean look at the person complaining , no be man ?

Thank you.

This is what most people will never agree to especially men on this platform. Money is important but they are other things that are much much important than it.

This is a goat from another planet. Tread with caution

bigpicture001:
Nobody knows... Ladies will flying away from u nomata the stuffs u guyz go through once they sight a richer man...

Those people are not humans.. they are items money can buy off the self!

Guys are also guilty of this.

The things love blinds people from seeing can only become clear after breakup.

I don't see anything wrong in a woman wanting to retain her maiden name. I for one would most likely not change my name as long as my partner is okay with it.

They can

You benefit the most from forgiving because there is no weight of anger, resentment or revenge holding you down. I can't be mad at someone who doesn't even know or care if I'm angry.

My ex will always chat with me and expecting me to explode on his face. He couldn't understand why I wouldn't be angry with him for breaking up with me 8years into the relationship, when we were already making wedding plans.

Good looks is the first point of attraction, intelligence builds your interest then, character, values and world views determines the rest.

For me, intelligence, good values and character are very important. I'm a sucker for intelligent people. We can't last if you are not.

We cannot conclude with just that information or experience. There might have been serious family issues that have constrained him from helping his cousin. It's easy to pass judgment only when we have all the facts.

Imagine a younger sister who does not wish her elder sister well. No matter how good you are, you will want to distant yourself from that person and her children (this is no fable).

Once you have experienced serious wickedness and betrayal from friends and/or family, you become too careful and hold a guage of suspicion over everyone.

Some people however are just wicked, wanting to be the only one who has money or connections. These ones are a different breed.

Sharp!!!

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