Why marry when you can't even be faithful? People throw caution to the wind with no care for how their partner feels.

Work hard and smart then clear your loan.

It is what we make it, in my opinion.

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Nowadays, marriages are no longer the way they were in the past. In the past, Love and intimacy were really genuine. The word Love, marriage or intimacy is gradually dying. Nowadays, many people get married to just to bear children, some just For the sex or to satisfy their sexual desire, some just for the money, etc. Sadly after achieving all these above, marriages becomes so dull. If someone says Love or marriage is a scam or it doesn't exist, i may say the person is right because of what marriages are like, nowadays. If u have anything to say, take this mic.

I can't remember the last time I wore makeup. I feel more comfortable with my natural look. Honestly, I don't see the magic makeup does because most people who aren't easy on the eyes I know still look same even on heavy makeup.

I know many people are enjoying their marriages but wouldn't say shit before script rewriters ruin things for them so they join in and say marriage is a scam. Do not be deceived.

Wait for the bashings cos they are coming for you.

cutecommend:
Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...

He is better dealt with in wisdom but also ignored at the same time. You owe him nothing. Let his children and their spouses take care of him.

Nico sweet
Bàbá dúdú
Balewa
Coconut biscuit
The chewing gum with tattoo stickers
Banana chewing gum
Paper wrapped milk candy that is sometimes too hard or melting already
There's this fake ice-cream made with sugar and colouring I love back in primary school.

finishmatter:

What if I prove my point to be true, will you still hold on to your thought?

Please, do.

This is nice.

This is ridiculous and funny all at once. I don't know people really do think like this though.

I'm here to read comments and learn. Please, don't derail this thread.

Chase your dreams passionately. You will be the better for it and it would also open you up to better people. Forget about your age right now and get the right thing right first. Make that move and travel, explore better opportunities. Na girls go dey rush you eventually.

Toh

Ghosting someone is just rude and unnecessary in my opinion. I would prefer to be told expressly whatever the reasons are and even if there are no reasons at all. I really like honest people because honestly saves everyone's time.

b3llo:
Ability to fart or poo without stress. I wont forget the night that I couldnt poo for over 2 hours because of constipation. Blood and mucous was flowing out from my anus and the pain was undescribables. I could feel the mass of the poo in my rectum but I couldnt drop it. It was hell but thanks to God its over

I can relate. I couldn't fart or belch for more than a year. My stomach was always bloated. The pain during this period cannot be described. I'm grateful for healing.

Favfables1:

Daddy G.O don post nude for church WhatsApp group on Saturday when na him supposed preach on Sunday...

Well...
If na me...
I for preach about sexual immorality...
It'll be something like this...

"Some of you here ya posting nude people picture, sending it to various people every where...
IT IS WRONG!!!
And just in case you don't know what nude picture is, go to the WhatsApp group and see an example....

I had to be very PRACTICAL that's why I posted one, please refer

Damn!!! That's smooth but he will be caught.

The only way you won't have regrets from this issue is that you be clear with her. Let her know your stand (and mean it) because until she does, she will keep disturbing you. This is how some marriages get destroyed. If you love your family, do the right thing.

You weren't good for her after 7 years together so what should make you good now. Has she seen otherwise? Regardless, she is married and you are married too. Let each face his family.

Ahmed0336:
Damn!!

This is why it is hard to trust when all you have from the past is evidence why you shouldn't.

It's hard really.

It's hard to say the things responsible for this kind of behavior from relatives. I would not expect my siblings to ghost me for unjustified reasons especially with all we have being through together. That would be reckless and irresponsible of them all or whoever chooses to do that.

I wouldn't want to judge too because we do not know in full detail what is obtained in your family. These things don't just happen. I believe it's a build up of or from something, regardless of what that is.

Be thankful you all are doing well and not dependent on them. If it however matters to you, discuss with them and see if there would be changes. I would have assumed siblings from the same mother love each other more but it is what it is

Denvacandy:
I was born into the family of 8, 4 boys and 4 girls.

The other 4 was for different father and almost everyday i regret belonging into that kind of family, Tho i really love my mum for her care.

I really don't think family is worth dying for as 3 of my siblings are in europe london, and they have refused to uplift any of us here in nigeria, we act like strangers and its been ages we talk, they dont care about our well being and i assure you, they are really doing well, with the properties they have bought in nigeria, but not and single 5k they cant give you in 2 years.

nobody is even asking them for money, becoz we are all doing fine, but imagine they shut all doors against thier own and , they keep helping outsiders.

I believe this is like a curse or something

I'm still in recovering and building capacity especially my finances. I don't want to marry without a stable source of income, a standing side hustle. I won't be a burden to anyone whosover. Until then, we are healing, single and satisfied.

Thought provoking!!!

It is possible but it would mostly depend on you because your MIL will most likely not accept certain things and might be very expressiveness about the. Now, how you handle such situations determines how things will go from there. It's not easy but it's not difficult.

Lamanii22:
It is possible to love your mother-in-law.... regarding fights, one can only try... I currently live with my mother-in-law, it's been almost a year, we've never had any altercations or arguments.... She's an amazing person, she helps with my baby, she cooks and all... we sometimes don't agree on some certain things but that wouldn't make me shout on her or anything. I would just stay quiet and fight the wars in my mind lol.....

Although you took too long (way too long actually) to inform her, this is still the right thing to do. It's better than just keeping her there knowing that you don't want her. It's better than being just neighbors. It's better than marrying and divorcing.

You should apologize to her and mean it because heartbreaks are not pretty experiences. Some people are not strong enough to handle late rejections like this. Also,that there wasn't much communication doesn't mean she doesn't love you although I'm not sure how that works.

Next time, stop dating or remaining in relationship out of pity, you will still end up breaking the person's heart and by then it would be too damaging.

Princeadebayo11:
Salute fellow Nairalander, hope you are staying safe and I hope you are all good.
This is the first time I will be breaking a lady's heart ever since I've started dating, it was them that normally end the relationship themselves. But this time around my recent relationship the break up came from me and ever since I told this girl the relationship is not working that we should give it a break she has called 2 times after that accusing me that I wasted her time for almost 4 years which, I tried to let her know that during that 4 years of courtship we only saw each other 10times because it was distance relationship.
Though this girl was the one that woo (toast) me herself back in 2017 but I just had to accept her because I don't want her to feel dejected or embarrassed, I just accepted the proposal out of pity thinking that as times goes on I will develop feelings in the relationship, but the fact is that the feelings normally come anytime we had sex and once she travelled back I will start seeing myself as a single guy. She was the one that normally calls all the time, it's just like she was the only one in the relationship, and she is 24 years old while I am 26. Last week I just decided to advise her that the way this relationship is going it's just like we are wasting our time that she should have plan B in case if things doesn't work out between us, but it seems she didn't understand because she just flared up immediately I said that and started shouting God will judge me for doing that to her. The reason why I ended the relationship was because we can go for like a month without communicating and Both of us will be fine about it and she is planning to settle down next 2 years which I don't see myself in any marriage in 2023. But ever since then I've been having this guilty conscience that even I hardly sleep throughout yesterday night and I have been calling her that ending the relationship doesn't mean we've become enemy that we can still be friends after that but she didn't pick. To be sincere I want to get married to someone I love not someone I will be managing, because marriage is a long journey.
Just that I need to let her know my stands that I am no longer in relationship before it's too late for her to get a perfect man.
I know some people will abuse me that I am still a kid, no problem. I know because I am 26 years old

Ayietim:
The man is great, the woman is super,
the woman who is pursuing a career, is truly super,

she has to compete with the men to get ahead,
play the politics in the boardroom better, in order, to get her way.
For today’s woman, beauty alone is not enough,
it’s a combination of beauty, brains and tenacity to fight on.
At home, with her family, she takes care of everybody,
the man, the kids, correctly anticipating their needs to make everybody happy.
So she should be respected more, cherished more and loved more.
This is a celebration of the great job you are doing, woman,
but don’t forget, it would have been almost impossible without the man.


https://ayietim.com/2015/07/04/the-job-of-a-woman-is-not-easy/

There are pressures, demands on women from every angle just as men although in different ways and measures. Torn between the need to be and meeting the expectations of those important to us.

I appreciate women who against all odds still fight fair and hold their head up high. That is something that is difficult to do here considering a lot of things already set up to ensure failure.

To every woman out there doing the needful, I celebrate you.

Lanson

We are not using or properly managing the things we were given and those at our disposal.

Datboredberry:
Is there a relative or friend that you had to cut-off? And the reason?

There's alot of people who would tell you that life's too short to distance yourself from others...that you should learn to move on from the past, forgive and forget... But that's all toxic positivity...

Most often, it's better... For our body, mind and soul... Blood ties alone aren't enough to pledge ourselves to those who aren't deserving of our affections and loyalty and trust.

Mine: my father, paternal relatives...

Any one you've deliberately let go off?

Mynd44
Lalasiclala
Seun

Same here. I had to stop communicating with him because he is a bachelor for life. I don't know how on earth my mother got herself involved with such a man. Honestly, I feel sorry for her.

My father doesn't give a damn about anybody. He only lives for fun and what little thing he does must be announced to everyone who cares to listen. He has brought so much problem and burden into our lives that I wish my mother had done the needful years back.

360clips:
People say you go to hell when you die, but they don't know we're all already in hell which is earth and men are its demons.

And who are you leaving this country for. We are in it together and we moovvvee

thinksquad:
if the pastor was your brother and you know something like that about the wife to be , will you wish them well and look away?? Na jus question ooo

Honestly, this your thought process is baffling. If the lady were your sister, would you blow her out? Because she had an abortion or what? You will only be deceiving yourself if you think everyone you will meet is a saint. This is why most people find it hard to open up about their past.

Just what if she has told the guy in question, how will this ex look telling him what he already knows. His thought most likely would be that he wants to ruin their relationship. When you are dealing with people, you have to be careful and learn.

I will advise you read my comment again, understand it before you type anything. Throw the first stone if you haven't sinned before.

OLUPET009:
am zipping up my mouth.

Please, do.

Most relationships this days are so messy