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choco4life:
As a male myself, i don't expect my girlfriend to hang in there for seven years with
the situation being the same and with no hope of it changing in the future.
And worst of all not having a game plan.
I am sorry to say, but that sucks totally.
As said in my earlier post, pick up your shoes and start the race and like Lot's wife don't LOOK back.

ROFL
forward ever

stalker:
Abeg help me tell am.

true word.

@poster

Please don't run, stay u hear, In no time you would have the award winning post in the thread "Whats the worst thing your boyfriend/girlfriend has ever done to you". true love and other heartbreak mags will beg seun to get them interviews with you. abi u need prophet to tell u in what direction u should be running? i fit buy u compass!

ROFL
@ the poster,if he lives in Lagos,run towards Benin Republic
If he's in Abuja,run towards Chad.
If he's in the Port Harcourt or Aba area run towards Cameroon

hotfunmi:
@michelin,
There must be a captain in any ship, so goes the marriage. Headship in households by men came by ordination from God and not by their own making. It has nothing to do with men wielding powers over women. The beautiful thing about the bible is that it gave a space for those that will not like to abide by the rules of marriage to stay single.

I am a woman and will never ever try to emasculate my husband because I suddenly became successful financially more than him.

Have you askde yourself why we women always bring these issues whenever we hold the financil key? why do men always keep quiet whenever they provide for their homes but we women will turn around to bite and shout in only six months of our providing for our household.

The truth is that this generation is doing everything possible to remove the ' for better for worse' in the marriage clause. God help us from this impending doom.

Sister,I know you were not referring to me.
I agree 100% with you but this analysis does not fit the man in this thread.
The poster says he was suspended from his job,they called him back after 3 months,he refused to go back because of pride,is not actively looking for a job and has been sitting at home for a whole 4 years nagging the poor woman to death and jumping up and down about his manhood.
This one is no head of the household.
He ought to be washing dishes and fetching water.

Bolarge:
@+osisi
I really must thank you for bringing to light a very, very important issue. This is prolly one of the most interesting and thought-provoking threads I've come across in a while. I also want to commend the quality of contributions hitherto. I must say I'm seeing the best of Nairaland once again. Keep it up people.
Folks like iyes have said it all. We're embroiled in a crass conflict of religion and tradition, a direct consequence of the imposition of alien cultures on ours.
Like an earlier poster hinted at, and it bears repetition: Our culture is rich. Too rich. I speak as a bonafide Yorubaman.
Everything depicted in our traditional wedding is of immense substantial import. The way we honor our parents, the way the bride honors the groom, the way the groom's family honors the the bride's and vice-versa, the way we display our willingness to cross the seven seas, do everything doable just to pluck that exotic flower in the bride's family's lush garden. . . . People, it's beautiful! and guess what? God gave us!He recognises and consents to it 100%.
Personally, I would embark on a "white wedding" just to please my fiancee knowing fully well that our ladies have been totally reprogrammed to believe in the white wedding (gown) trend.
White wedding ko, indigo wedding ni.
Very soon your wedding won't be valid unless Ovation magazine covers it, at least so they say in their ad.
Madness.

You're welcome my dear.I've always thought about this
And my own experience of my mother inlaw making sure that my husband and I didn't t sleep in the same room after the trado marriage got me thinking.
She forgot that we'd both travelled from the US for the marriage and No we were not living together.
The responses here have been an eye opener.

I do agree with yemivictor.
Court,trado and church weddings are all valid in God's eyes as marriages
However,a couple that wants to do the Church wedding should hold out till it's done before the chopping begins.

I believe emphatically that a man is the head of the home.
However,a jobless man that keeps shoving down that fact down his wife's throat is a sorry excuse for a man.
He is both insecure and little.

A real man doesn't have to repeat that phrase "I am the head"
He just is.
Efuah you neighbors of this "efulefu" man ought to take up a collection and buy him a couple of skirts and blouses

choco4life says you should take to your heels,I agree totally.
On your marks,set,goooooooooooooo

You people are  funny with all your  posts.
But come o,did she say 7 years or 7 weeks?

_checking

Tufiakwa!!!!! 7 years it is.

@ the poster,run run run.
Someone asked you to pray,I advise you to pray while running.
If you make the mistake of marrying this man,in the next 7 years,you'll be the mother of 7 kids
asking for hand outs from relatives to support them since it seems the only thing this your man has going for him may be his sexual prowess.
dump the zero and get you a hero

The poster may have said Yorubas do it more because he/she happens to be Yoruba and is sorrounded by Yorubas.
The question should be why do black people bleach their skin ?
Igbos,Jamaicans,African Americans,Calabar and Urhobos bleach their skin.
And it's not only females,some males bleach too.
It's digusting,unhealthy and unsightly.
A fair skinned woman with a black butt,black hands and feet.

ono:
Osisi, that pic is truly grizzly. Could you please take it down. Damn!

How much will you pay me?
You're talking to a lady from a long lineage of traders ROFL

olabowale:
@Focused: Soaking in a blood. Is that healthy or hygienic? Dr., we need you here. It seems as if Focused has a container of blood in his house. Could you tell him how to preserve it, before it becomes to degrade and all kind of things stench and crawling things are happening inside it.

My people, your faith did not take you back to true meaning of dreams. You should have gone back to dreams which involved prophet(s), and there were foods and eating in it/them. I know Christendom does not have a clue, because everything is Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, forgeting anything about his Creator! (Did anyone remember Marshall, of the Brady bunch TV fame?). If you go back to the dreams told to Prophet Yusuf (Joseph for you the Christian), it did not necessary mean that all the participant in the dream had something evil happening to them. True dreams come from God Allah the Almighty, to guide the dreamer(s). For example the King of Egypt was able to resolve the fermine condition that was to come in the future, by preparing for it, in the period of plenty that occurred before the hard time ahead. Yusuf (as) was able to ascend to prominence by it and at the same time cleared his name about intended fornication levelled against him by the potential adulterer woman, the wife of the minister, who had purchased him as a slave.

The two servants in the prison/jail with Prophet Yusuf (as), were able to know there fates. One was beheaded and experienced humiliation, while the other was restored back into position of honor and dignity, where he was able to present Prophet Yusuf (as), as the one to solve the dream that the King dreamt. So, it is not always that there is some calamity to befall a person, in a dream where there is any food being consumed. God himself can feed a person who is fasting, in the dream. But of course, Christianity has no clue to anything. Christians never are good dreamers or dream good dreams.

Remember, Ibrahim (as) about his dream of slaughter of his son, Ismail (as)? I am expecting the locust to swamp my comments without thinking and having any tangible response,except, according to ' .' Think about that dream. He was tested because he said that he was a true believer, whereby he disbelieved every other thing that is against the Oneness and Worship of the True God the Creator. Think about it, and when you wake up from your dream, purity yourself and pray to God, asking Him to give you any and all goods that is that dream and protecting you from any and all evil in that dream.

In Islam, this is what we do. We wake up, make ablutions. Then we make two Rakah and supplicate for good and against evil of the dream.

Joseph was a prophet and Abraham was asked to slaughter Ishmael
Mohammed should have paid more attention his neighbour read him the Torah so that he would have at least gotten the stories right.
The same way he said trinity was father son and virgin Mary
and Mary the mother of Christ was the sister of Aaron.

All we ask is that the slaves of allah stop holding the world hostage.
Believe me if they just practised their religion abrogating the violent examples of Mohammed
The world would not even have the word Islam on it's lips.

davidylan:
i never saw u hypocrites criticize abu Hamza.

who the fried fish is Hamza ?

Tornadoz:
@+osisi
Do you have any views other than derogatory remarks towards moslems? I hate to say this but grand mama osisi you're fast becoming to christianity what Abu Hamza is to moslems>hate preacher.

If you're in the habit of referring to ladies who whip you as your grandma,I take that as a compliment

If a picture of a beheaded man causes  you to express an anger towards the poster than towards the beheader,you need to check into Yaba Psychia

bless you pilgrim.
I'll like to start a thread on what Muslim kids are taught.
I need your inputs there
I want to get an insight to the teachings that breed terrorists and turn Gombe children to kill an innocent teacher.

olabowale:
@+Osisi: I just can not resist just this once; +Osisi, if what you just said about the followers of Jesus is true, they are either disbelievers in the messengership of Jesus, while he was with them. They must have been bunch of hypocrites! Lack sincerity! If the followers did not believe, then you must have been taking the story from the mouth of these disbelievers to mean something. The book they produced as eye witnesses must be filled with lies and deceits and fallacies. No wonder Qur'an says that it is corrupted. It is from corrupt people! No wonder the larger body of Jewry did not follow nor believe Jesus.

Now if the followers obeyed him, then you have embelished to the point that you bent the rule of truth. I do not want to say that you are telling bold face lies. I do not want any woman to be angry at me! Either way, Mrs., there is a bit of a whale of a whopper here. I think the overwhelming power of the Mob that came for Jesus was just the reason the Sword purchased did not amount to anything. If the 12 apostles, less Iscariot had put up any struggle, they would have crushed like flies! But God's plan was to extracated Jesus the way He did, so that can come back to fight the Anti Christ and 'the Jews in the battle of Amageddon.' Good night! Everyone is casting Pearls. When will some dame wear a good strand?

Chei Mr alhaji,when will you get it ?
That question was meant to juggle your mind and see the foolishness in gists post.
anyway,wasn't you that told me onward christian soldiers was a war anthem for Christian jihad?
I no go die

graphic,allah's command is carried out by his foot soldier.
allahu arched bar

Kobojunkie:
WOW, I always wonder why anyone would want to go to saudi arabia though knowing the law there is as hard as it is, let alone actual people commiting crime. Sort of like a gay dude moving out to Saudi Arabia. There are some things you just do not do and this is one of them.

well the trafickers go where the market is abi.
When a Saudi prince was putting his sim card on a fellow man aboard a yatcht on the high seas.
Gays are everywhere.

bicey:
Please don't take my observation as been BIASED.

I have observed with great disappointment  the way xtians go about buses preaching. It is not a bad thing if the occupants of the bus are all christians but at times you get tired of different people imposing their religious belief on you.

For about a week now that i have been going to and fro on commercial buses to the Island i have encountered on daily basis several situations where one person will just stand up and start preaching without considering other people.

On the other day i was coming back a driver played a Muslim song. He was shouted down by majority of the occupants saying he is making noise. But since i don't engage in Religious debate i just kept mute and wondered how selfish people can be. The most annoying situation was in one morning when d so called preacher PASTOR was been anti ISLAM and nearly caused a mayhem.

I believe we could be cautious of the fact that its not everyone that is a christain and that if everybody wants to preach in buses  babalawo's will  one day start patronising buses.

I love christainity, my friends, relatives are christians but as a Muslim i always respect their religious opinions. So I think Christian Brothers and sisters should try and stop forcing their preachings on people as they have turned commercial buses in lagos to Evagelical testing ground for upcoming PASTORS.
Peace!

This is the biggest load of crap I've ever heard.
You said commercial buses right?
If the drivers and conductors or owners of the business allowed them to preach in their buses,you,an ordinary passenger has no right whatsoever to object afterall you were not forced to ride the bus.
It is called freedom of speech and freedom of religion.
What they did was preach,they did not force anyone to shout Halleluia neither did they convert and baptize anyone against their will in a moving molue.

How would you feel If I told you the Muslim call for prayer was offensive to me,yet I'm obliged to endure it when I hear it blaring out towards my hotel window in Lagos.
What do you say when I tell you the ladies dressed in ojuju calabar outfits with peep holes as eyes scares me?
Do I have a right to demand they take off the mask and show me their faces ?
No, I don't.
I deal with it or run away if I choose to.
It's called tolerance and learning to be at peace with your neighbors.

How about Christian girls in nothern Nigeria that are forced in some quarters to dress like Muslims?
Have you carried out a demonstration on their behalf ?
Why are you people perpetually offended by every tiny little thing ?

My dear since it's not illegal to preach in Nigerian buses as at now,you have some good options.

1.Climb down when a preachers comes on and board another bus.

2.Ride only buses operated by known Muslims or Sango worshippers that may not allow a Christian preach

3.Buy ear plugs and use them on the buses before they convert you

4.Charter a taxi for all your trips(,hopefully the cab driver doesn't start preaching)

5.Buy a car and be done with the preachers forever.

Maybe your next thread will be to ban billboards advertizing churches and their crusades or have people wearing crosses arrested.
Lord have mercy.

gists:
Sallam Babs, don't go that far to the OT because most xtians have already denied it! (what hypocracy!) . I'll rather ask them to read the NT (already proven to be corrupt) which they hold dear to their hearts. Matthew 15:1-9. What did Jesus meant in verse 4 ,,,,,,,'Anyone who curses his father or mother MUST be put to DEATH.' (New International Version).

And exactly how many Christians have been put to death for cursing their parents?
You don't have the Spirit of God and try as you may,you'll never understand the Bible.
It's not a koran
Pearls are not cast to swines.

Most muslims in the world are law abiding but these xtian guys only want to see us by the action of the very few bad ones while they (xtians) are the chief terrorists. for example I clicked on this link because of  the title and what do I see? We can't even hold a peaceful disscussion without being Bombarded.

Yes, most are peace loving until they decide to be like Muhammad and live like he lived.
Christians who decide to be Christ like become like him,a man of peace but Muslims who want to follow the footsteps of Muhammad turn into oppressors of women and become intolerant of others and would kill with no remorse like he did.

You like to pride yourselves that there are 1.5 billion Muslims.
If just 20% are violent,of course most are "peaceful" but do the math.
What is 20% of 1.5 billion?
What do you call peaceful when your sharia says you kill apostates of Islam,women who are "found guilty" of adultery by a group of women haters and "desecrators" of the manual of hate/ tales by moonlight called a Koran?
That alone makes Islam evil no matter what you say.

gists:
And don't be suprised babs if they start telling us that Jesus (ASW) was talking about putting to death by/in the MIND just like they interpreted LUKE 22vs36 as sword of the mind when Jesus (ASW) asked the desciples to sell their cloak and buy a sword (I wonder how a thing of the mind can be bought with the proceeds from the sale of a material thing i.e a cloak). If he was arround 2day, he would have asked them to get an AK-47 or rocket launcher-of the mind of course

Now have you sat to ask yourself this very simple question.

How come Jesus asked his followers to buy a physical sword,they did not heed that command instead the Muslims not only bought swords but use it to snap the necks of their neighbours?

I apologise dear.

davidylan:
more nonsense. When the bible accuses the Jews of unbelief it gives clear reasons. Such unbelief was even more evident in the gospels, the book of acts and in the ministeries of the apostles.

When the quran makes bogus claims that the jews and christians are unbelievers it gives NO proof at all neither does it attempt to explain what this unbelief is all about.

Look alhaji, the bible does not need to make too much noise calling the muslims unbelievers. It can stand on its own . . . unfortunately the only way islam can claim credibility is by undermining christianity which is why muslims spend 90% of their time struggling to prove the bible is false or trying to insert mohammed into it. Can islam not stand on its own? Why the overwhelming need to prove the christians wrong?

Can there be a counterfeit without an original?

kaecy,my brother,your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.
Smoking marijuana,drinking smirnoff may not be written in black and white.
Neither did the Bible say "don't marry an Ifa priestess"
If indeed you are led by Spirit,allow Him to teach you all things.
Let our conduct bring glory to God.

let's stop the nastiness @ Iyes and lady,this thing is not by force.
Many of you men have been inserting your sim cards into Iyabo,Titi,Nneka,Aisha and Laraba and thunder hasn't fired you yet
let's not insult one another over this issue.

mazaje:
Talk is cheap a very close look at the koran will tell you that all what you have stated are not in line with the principles of the koran. infidels are the enemies of allah it is clearly written in the koran, unserious moslems will like to believe and behave like you but the serious minded ones always know that the infidels are disliked by allah and don't deserve any thing good in life. I know very well what i am saying as a former muslim. because i have lived the life.

PLease tell us more.
What were you taught?

slimlady:
[b]i just read an article about islam and it greatly disturbed me. i think the problem is that christians have a misconception about islam and the muslims about christianity. we are fed alot of stories that make us hate the other but i am a muslim with alot of christian frendz, in all these i have found a way to keep an open mind and get to know the person as an individual before making my judgement. there are bad christians and bad muslims, simply put there are bad people!
that muslims in the north kill christians it is just a matter of ignorant people taking a slight chance to create disorder and distort peace. most of them are not even educated islamically or even other wise. they just take the upportunity to kill rob rape and loot. amidst all these there are muslims who when such crisis are taking place do hide non muslims in their house to protect them from all that!!! my family has done that in so many cases. who said even muslims don't get killed in such occurences? some even loose their life because they are hiding non muslims in their house and are discovered!!
the bombings that take place in the woprld are just a case of people taking verses from the quran and interpreting them to suit their own purpose they are mostly ignorant!!!! as i am sure even in christianity there are people that interpret the bible to suit their personal purpose though they undoubtedly don't kill or bomb up innocent people.
i'd just like to state for the record that islam is a religion of peace that does not encourage such acts. we need to drop all these and learn to live with eachother as individuals. islam does not encourage us to force people`to believe in ALLAH it is a decision that needs to be made voluntarily. i believe in islam u believe in christianity so what? why can't we just live together harmoniously and without prejudice?[/b] [/b]

Politically correct Islam. Praise God

I pray this message of Islamodeeperlife spreads like wildfire.
We are tired of burying innocent people cut down as allahs name is chanted by his foot soldiers.

olabowale:
@+Osisi: My darling +Osisi, sometimes you fell like nuts! This is my Almond joy moments. I have time to kill between business engagements. Every Prophet, is always knocking at the door of my heart. They are means of reminding me of my Lord the Creator. So I stick with the last of them, whose message abrogated what ever it abrogated in the previous messages of the prophets before him (AS jami'a). I do not kneel beside any bed, unless there is a war going on and i do not take prisoner! All my kneeling is done when I make salah: Inna salatul wa nusuki, wa mayay wa mamat, lillahi rabbil allamiin, Laa sherikallah, wa bi zhalika humirtu wa anna awalul Muslimi. I am a pure Muslim, my soul, my heart and the whole of my body testify to the Oneness of my Creator and I submit my will, willingly to Him. Then I continue to seek His mercy. Supplicate to Him for guidance and success, in this life, in the grave and in the day that is certain!

Join me, you and your husband and your future children in worshipping this Supreme and Irresistible awesome Creator!

No sir,a big NO to allah who created nothing,a mere psychotic concoction in the head of Muhammad.
I found a more excellent way

now don't change the topic of this thread

Allah says Muslim wives that disobey their husbands get a one way ticket to hell that's after the demons have  peed in her eyes on earth.

check the votes,1/3rd said no chopping.

bolataiwo:
i want to hear from somebody who fell victim what did u do?

what do you want to hear?
There are no special prayers to recite,no burnt offerings involved.
Do the same things you ought to do daily as a Spirit led Christian.
wake up and call on the name of the Lord,praise and adore him,commit your ways to him,ask for his mercies in all your endeavours
meditate on his word,cover your ways with the blood of Jesus and go about your day.

olabowale:
+Osisi: Stop this 'sex' thing. Its all over the place. Seriously, now that you have separated God from Jesus, we know there are two (2), distinct entities. So from your statement I read that Christian should 'cover self with prayer and commitment to God,' because God is able to break every yoke. But immediately we read that 'whom the son sets free is free indeed!' Please explain the differences here. Who has more power, if we have to say that the power in question is absolute?

Finally, which one will you chose, if you have to chose one and not two? My dear, I want your direct answer and not Chinua Achebe Story line. Lets leave story telling to the literalists. I want facts.

Alhaji,it looks like Christ is knocking at the door of your heart.
You've been appearing at unrelated threads to ask off topic questions.
Just kneel beside your bed and say Yes to him.
He is ready to accept you today

How did a deist/atheist/confused jaguda become the subject of this thread ?
Is this a way of advertising ?

toshmann:
marriage documents are important for legal purposes such as sharing of assets and divorce.

the documents are made with the expectation of a marital breakdown

That's right and without it in today's world,there is no contract between the 2 parties.
I don't care what any man says
baby I love you,you're the only mosquito in my net.
If he doesn't sign on the dotted lines,my sisters,carry your ghana must go and go
Marriage is serious business for serious minded folks only.