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Are u kidding me!!
I thought only mothers go around n.a.ked in the presence of their kids. It's odd a man is doing this, especially seeing he has grown up kids. Op, can't u subtly tell him (or what type of relationship do u have with your dad?). Or put it in writing anonymously or better still, tell your mum to rein in her husband. Just get d message across that his action is inappropriate n u are uncomfortable with it.
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Op, quality is preferable to quantity. No one knows when s/he will die. Many non sicklers die young too. If u truly love her as deeply as u convey and d feeling is mutual, then marry her, n hope for d best. Love her wholeheartedly, in good times n esp through d crises et al. Cherish every day u spend together n have a fulfilled life. It's not how long we live but how well. If God calls her too soon, at least u will be prepared to let go n d memories u have built will sustain u through d grief. God bless u.
Thank God u are AA so there's no problem with u both having children.
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For once i agree with ffk.....Tinubu d crackhead does have stinking breath, what do u expect from a doper!
Ffk your breath may not stink but your mouth leaks....put a lid on it pls.
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Op, they are married oh. And it was a big wedding that made headlines. Why say things u don't know
Dakore is a dream girl sha!
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It's ok oh.....u guys laughing now at your parents, your own lies would be worse. But children of nowadays are smarter than us sha! They won't wait till adulthood to crack open your lies.....via google!
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Op, u don't love her anymore.but u want to stay so u can continue to get contracts....where's your dignity? U are content collecting contracts from a frenemy, a backstabber....it's trade by barter naa...he gives u contracts n u give him your wife...why are u complaining?
Anyway u can't eat your cake n still have it. U know u have only two options: either leave both of them, take your kids n go start all over or as u have been advised, look d other way n forever remain silent. Either way u are in for some short term or long term suffering.....d choice is yours. By d way, have u independently verified d truth about d affair? Or it's all hearsay?
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Op, this your title sef. Is that not his first wife Kuburat with him in d 1st pix during d toast? Shade is d youngest n reigning wife no doubt but mama Kuburat holds d aces. Shade knows this n so she kowtows appropriately otherwise......hmmmm
I'm glad to see d man celebrating in native wear rather than d ridiculous funky jeans+Tshirt Shade used to make him wear.
Happy bday sir. More grease....
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Hmmm. Mama Peace looking t.ush! Make she carry her retinue of stylist go Otuoke oh
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U don't have to pray in church for God to answer. He hears u anywhere u pray. Just call on Him in spirit and in truth, live right, obey His commands n He will give u more than u ask.
BUT it is important to go to church, even if only once a week. U need to fellowship with God's people, if u belong to d body of Christ. U need to hear His words (yes I know u can read it in d bible) but sermons sometimes give u a fuller understanding than when u read on your own. For us Catholics, u need to receive communion regularly, go for confession, etc. U also need to contribute your time, efforts, talents to develop God's house n propagation of His Gospel. So there are many reasons why u need to go church.
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Op, u are so on point. I went to visit a colleague who just had her baby and I walked right upon two nurses harassing a young lady in labour. The shouting n insults hurled at her made me cringe....what's more, one nurse was holding a ruler. I walked past in pity for d lass, imagine going thru labour pangs n having to endure such cruel treatment from d very persons who should assist u. Are these nurses not supposed to be care givers? That's so not nice. When I reported to my colleague, she explained that d nurses do that to any woman who whines n cries instead of enduring d labour pains. What!!!
Those nurses need retraining, reorientation and strict code of conduct.
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It looks like tamarind but I can't be sure oh.
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Baseball, cricket and fencing....nothing can make me watch these sleepy sports. Long ago my friend thought maybe if I go n watch d Astros live at Minute Maid, I may grow a bit of interest. Grudgingly I agreed, oh boy, it was d most wasted precious minutes in my life. The only thing I enjoyed was d crowd roar and the refreshments. When I couldn't stand d charade anymore, I slipped my Walkman on. Didn't even realise when d game ended. My friend was so disappointed but hey, it is what it is.
If anyone finds me watching these sports, pls check me into rehab
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Op u never hear Gandoki's joke....while women pray never to be r.a.ped, men actually crave it

On a serious note, men can and do get molested. As u aptly defined d act, "forceful" s.ekz as opposed to "consensual" s.ekz....that u are a man does not mean u want to get down with any kind of woman naa. I can't imagine d man will be able to maintain an e.rec.tion nor e.ja.cul.ate.
For a man, d worst form is being molested by a fellow man, sodomy! Awful awful.....it leaves scars, physical n psychological. It may be rare in our clime but it sure happens
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I don't believe this report. £14m on what...where's d breakdown?
I do agree that d enforcement agencies should take a percentage of d loot recovered to cover d costs of prosecution but even that must have a limit. It should not be an avenue to steal from d loot.
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A farmer? I just love that Nigerians can stand up in pursuance of their rights. The cert issue is now in court....let d judge look at d merits of d case or cases n then decide. And both sides better be ready to accept d verdict. People like me crave an end to this BS.
Btw, why should d judge adjourn till 2 days before d election? By d time d trial is over, d election would have held n a winner emerged. If it's GMB n d verdict is against him, what then happens...another round of controversy n upheaval?
So Judge pls expedite d hearing n give your verdict well before d elections! Abeg. Let's move away from this distracting cert issue!
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Op your problem is more psychological/spiritual than physical. U say u have a bf, why do u still self service....doesn't he satisfy u well? If so, then teach him how to pleasure u so u don't need to make it up later. A habit is usually difficult to break, that's why it's better not to even cultivate it in d first place. Since u have recognized u have this problem n u desire a change, then seek professional help on how to break this habit. It's not going to be easy but I believe with determination u can do it.
I don't think this act is d cause of yr weight gain in those areas of yr body...perhaps u are developing cellulite. Check this out with a GP.
Good luck!
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Oh Lawd! Much as a hotdog is desirable, a giant salami might just be too much....who needs a boa constrictor
Pls Judge, dissolve that marriage oh before u preside over a murder trial.....how will they reach a reconciliation naa.....chai!
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I saw this on LIB n couldn't stop laughing. It's amazing how gullible Nigerians are. Prof Benny is a professional colleague of Prof Jega naa.....prof prof......he has correct contacts oh. I recommend GEJ to him
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Someone pls remind me what ffk's job description is? Am so tired of his antics n those of Fayose. Bashing of persons in APC is really getting boring. It's like both of them have lost sleep n all they do is lie in wait to pounce on anything APC? Can they pls expend this energy to focus on selling their own candidate to woo voters? I want to read what candidates from both parties have to offer, not sob tales n tissues of lies...abeg, enough already.
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Didn't I read somewhere that this same yuguda is in secret talks with APC. God help these our politicians n double speak!
And why should his position as governor influence voting results...or what is he tryna say? Rigging tinz?
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Serves d governor right! Good for Abians to voice their resentment n rejection of him!
Same thing happened early last year when I attended a burial somewhere close to Umuahia. The moment TA entered d church, I could hear d loud rumblings. To make matters worse, d Anglican bishop who gave d sermon began extolling d governor's virtues as though he had performed wonders in Abia state. The rumblings only grew louder. When d bishop refused to stop, people stood up n shouted him down. Being a foreigner in their midst, I was quite taken aback but I applauded their action. Let's hold our leaders accountable, n get rid of Lilliputian non performers, keeping us in bondage.
And to think TA wants to go to d senate....may God arrest that futile ambition....for Abians' sake.
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The worst man a lady is unfortunate enough to date is that immature "boy" parading himself like a man, regardless of his age. It's tough for a woman having to deal with a man who exhibits many of d traits enumerated by d op. I especially dislike men who nag ceaselessly n who disrespect others. A man who can't maintain decorum n restraint in d face of challenging situations is not a real man....just a mere boy, no matter his pedigree!
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irridemi:
he just said whatever we have, he can add up to make our applications faster. He is a very reliable brother (he even assisted my sis in law too). My father in law was the one that trained him, so he is always ready to help.

Ah, so he only wants to help with d application n relocation. Meaning by d time u get to Canada u are on your own. What will u live on there when u both can't work? Will u have enough money after selling off all your properties? And don't forget you have a baby to think about....extra expenses? Pls give this issue a lot of thought....over there, they have laws n they enforce them unlike here in Nigeria. And u shouldn't rely on getting help from our so called brothers n sisters in diaspora....they are usually very unhelpful in d area of finances oh.
Anyway if it's God's will for you, He will make a way. But whatever u guys decide, consider d baby too!
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BRF way to go! Ever so articulate, dogged, focused n meticulous. I wish he is running for President instead of these handicapped candidates we are stuck to choose from!
But pls take it easy on JK......he may be inexperienced but I prefer him to that Ambode.......it's just my gut feeling that he wl do well. Sorry my guy, but I'm voting JK!
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Op, I feel u. Ordinarily I encourage married couples to live together in same city so wherever your husband goes, u go. But relocating to another country is very dicey....it's not as rosy as people think, esp in your kind of situation. I'm not very familiar with Canada but if it's similar to d US, I'm afraid if u accompany your husband while he's schooling there, u will not be allowed to work regardless of your qualification. If u both go to school, where will d living expenses come from, since your relocation will eat up everything u have? U didn't specify d type of help his uncle is promising.....but will d promise hold out?
My candid advice would be for u to remain here while your husband goes for his course, n hopefully gets a job afterwards, then u n d baby can go join him when things settle. This ensures u can continue to save money from your salary n u don't need to sell off your properties yet. Talk to your hubby again or get someone he truly respects to also explain things to him. Sometimes decisions taken when under pressure may end up badly. That's my fear for u both. Continue praying about it too. God will show u d right path.
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Op, Kai....u are funny. Thank u ..... for what naa?
I must insist on my man to start thanking me oh.......interesting.
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booket:
i tink dt only lazy men crave for independent ladies.

To some extent, yes. Though I have seen some men who actually love independent women, just because she can hold her own in d relationship, and is not overtly dependent on him. Different strokes for different folks.
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blublahd:
your reasoning is so shallow and biased.
Have you bothered to ask why men stay away from women who are more successful than the men?
How familiar are you with such women and their attitude?

By their words u shall know them. Your reasoning is beyond shallow, it's nauseating. U are asking me how familiar I am with such women...so I must be a man to know, kwo? If u must know, I am a trained experienced n successful psychologist n counsellor. Don't ask stupid questions on social media....u can't be sure who u are talking to. And next time, mind your language!
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Op that's a no- brainier. The fear of an independent woman scares some Naija men silly.....it shrinks their joysticks.
And their response is to attack everything about her.......her upbringing and background are denigrated, her source of wealth becomes suspect, her prospects as a good wife becomes suspect. Most men can't even approach her. The bold ones would want to hit her and run.....no longterm intentions.

But it's not entirely their fault. Our society ingrains that air of superiority in our men that some have forgotten that the world is changing fast. Women are now recording more exploits than they are thought capable of. So men, loosen up and wisen up!
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Boss13:
How can she be abimbola and still come from Edo state? I watched the video, she actually said her name is Abi spelt A.B.I and she spoke Yoruba.

Some parts of Eco state bear yoruba names...Dele Momodu hails from Edo state. In addition many non Yorubas do speak that language fluently. Anyway her name is Abi Sonde not soleye n she's a notorious hustler.
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Eeeya....this woman still lacks comprehension. I need to get her a dictionary on her next bday.
And why disparage the bus conductor's profession.....isn't there dignity in labour? Clownish PEJ!
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