₦airaland Forum

anonimi:
Is the food budget really N4billion
Do you have

- reading problem
- comprehension problem
- both

Perhaps you simply need to change your source of news!

I usually don't respond to lackeys. But as your paymaster GEJ is in a sinking boat, u might need to change your source of crumb catching .
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These weddings must be part of d 7-point agenda of Messrs Yaradua/Jonathan. 3 Yaradua girls wedded in quick succession during their father's regime, now its d turn of d Jonah girls. I hope d expenses for this wedding was d reason GEJ's food budget for 2015 rose to N4billion. And it must be a free-for-all event....Afterall d money belongs to all of us
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zoeee:
Doesn't that also mean that one is not interested in the conversation ATM?

Oho, tell him oh. Silence or monosyllabic responses are merely signs that d girl isn't that much into that line of communication.
Will some guys ever learn to read women's unspoken words? Boring ko, boxing ni
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Op, it's not every phrase that's appropriate in every situation or to every person u meet. Perception is a very vital factor in interpersonal relationship. In our clime, u need to choose who u say certain phrases to e.g. I love u, I miss u, Give me a kiss/hug, etc.
Choose your words carefully n avoid being seen in unpalatable light.
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My alma mater...UI the first n the best. But op, I'm also a notable nigerian that attended UI naa n a Queenite for that matter. Here in PH our alumni include late Sir Francis Ellah, Eze Gbakagbaka Frank Eke, Chief Andrew Uchendu, Chief Aguma, Sir Gabriel Toby, many lecturers in Uniport n UST as well as many industry players whose names I can't readily recollect now.
UI alumni are copiously present in most fields of endeavor in Nigeria. There's no denying d fact that d Institution produced many great and wonderful Nigerians (+foreigners) contributing their quota to our nation.
Great UI, Great People, Great Nation.
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She has to break d silence, apologise n ask for forgiveness esp since she's now remorseful. We are all prone to such mistakes....both men n women. But d husband's reaction is unusual n very deadly......he has a plan......to kill her with silence or physically or to retaliate in kind, or sth worse. She may have just given her husband d weapon n license to cheat without conscience.
She needs to get him to react n face d consequences. There's a punishment for bad behaviour.
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But why is Lola so unfortunate with men? She needs to relax, take her time, look well before venturing into another marriage. Abi how many husband will she marry in one lifetime? As for Becky, what goes around comes around. Whatever does not belong to u will not stay with u.
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agabaI23:
Are you married? If no, do not follow your advice.

Yes I am....and I DO follow my own advice. U should too.
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deleyi20:
Thanks for your comments. inasmuch as Love is the first basic and compulsory requirement, I can confidently tell you it is not enough to sustain a happy/healthy relationship or marriage. You need knowledge and a proper understanding of Human Dynamics and how to relate with people successfully well. Feel free to share any doubts you have here. Take care dear.

Read my post again....Love, Understanding and Trust are what u need majorly but u must understand that these are broad spectra. There are no set rules for a happy marriage as most lists that appear on NL seem to suggest, without having these 3 things I enumerated above as d foundation.
Believe me, it's my line of profession and I am happily married..... I have been for decades. Take care too.
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Op I don't quite agree. Reaching orgasm is both physical n psychological. Rich or poor, a man who takes his time to study his woman's sensual body parts n her reaction to his touch can and will bring her to cloud 9 several times in any one encounter. The woman's disposition n her man's dexterity are all that's needed, not money or gifts or worries.
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The only commandment Christ gave is LOVE. Don't marry anyone u don't love and doesn't love u back. What d op wrote are psychological issues that can be managed where there's love.
Love, understanding and trust are all u need.
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My only job in d kitchen is d actual COOKING.....someone else needs to do every other thing! The worst is doing dishes.....no way oh!
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So wearing hijab now portends grave danger? Babanriga, agbada, boubou fall into d same category too.
I wonder why young girls are d current rave of suicide bombers.....what are they telling these girls?
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Odesko!

Such a shame. So what is NAPTIP doing? Even when d girls are deported, they are never rehabilitated instead they are back to d same (or even worse) situation that forced them out in d first place. Humans will do whatever it takes to survive in a harsh hostile clime like Nigeria.
But why so many from Benin city.....is it something in their genes or food?
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Well, much as I won't vote Buhari primarily because of his age n religious bigotry, I think his regime as HOS wasn't that bad....it made several faux pas but also recorded some successes. Buhari n Idiagbon tried to sanitize d environment after d excesses n rot of d second republic politicians. As a leader, he must take certain actions which will be unpopular n certainly he will make a few mistakes in d process but d situation at hand warrants d action taken.

Why won't Reuben ambush Buhari this way....d Press/Pressmen suffered under his regime but no worse than other military regimes IMO. What I criticize most about that regime was d backdating of d decree that resulted in d execution of d 3 drug pushers and the mystery of d 53 suitcases that bypassed airport security screening. Buhari also showed bias in his treatment of d politicians based on their Region of origin (Shagari under house arrest, his VP Ekwueme in jail).

But I wish WAI will be reintroduced and will have d same effect as it did in those days. Nigerians in general are too lawless!
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So op, u want RMD to show appreciation by cleaning d grave, going there to spend time n even shed a few tears several times a year or monthly? Well that's not gonna happen...why? They were married for just a few years, no children uniting them, he now has a wife n children, he has bigger responsibilities, etc. The truth is when loved ones die, we are left only with d memories n over time, d intensity fades too.
Onome should pay to keep her mum's grave clean.....when d chips are down, she's d only one responsible.
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That's a wise man....supporting n elevating his wife. Unlike d symptomatic Naija men who boast of how they are d "Head" of d manor n their wife is reduced to a glorified house help. I just love men who honour n cherish their wives. Hopefully BM isn't lying here oh...u never know when these comedians are joking or being serious.
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Nicknames I heard my brothers and cousins being called are Headbutt, Danger, Skippo, Bulldozer. I guess it's because they were athletic.
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Op, rather than concentrate on d news info, your eyes were roving to forbidden territory. Who told u she's not wearing a bra? T.it..s do show up with some soft fabrics.
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Delafruita:
I understand your point but voting is a personal thing.I like the APC but I don't believe in a buhari presidency.I don't think the APC should have limited its options to the north just as I don't think buhari is the best the APC has to offer.I can't vote buhari simply because I want ebele dislodged.I can't vote a candidate I don't believe in.I was hoping the APC will present a fashola as VP at the least.or even amechi or kwakwanso.i'd rather abstain from voting than voting a candidate who doesn't appear to have a clear cut agenda

U da bomb! My sentiments exactly. I vote credible individuals, regardless of d party
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What's this epistle this Ojuyobo ole is yarning? Who needs a crackhead as VP......d SW funds never do him, he wan graduate his thievery to d national purse. APC is better off picking Osinbajo. But what's my business sef. APC, PDP are identical twins anyway....their ideology is stealing.
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Ok oh. But d sanitizers placed at d entrance of my church will continue and everyone must use it before entering d church. Hand borne diseases still abound, it's not only for Ebola. Sometime ago as d Priest was saying Let us offer each other d sign of peace, the guy next to me coughed right into his palms. I refused to shake him oh....abeg
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I was glad Tayo didn't win.....he was too abrasive n garrulous in d house...always boasting n throwing tantrums...not a good winning strategy IMO. Smelling d money but not touching it deflated his overblown ego n I hope he learnt a good lesson from this experience!
If that's his gf where's d baby?
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It's good to see Nigerians sacrificing to help others...we are usually a selfish lot! May God grant them success and a safe n healthy return.
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Suzyky4u:
Yea and being friends with your children also helps in such situations. They quickly run to you as a parent when such "advances" start.

And the parent should listen carefully to what d child is saying. Equally important is for a parent to probe your child frequently esp if your intuition tells u something is amiss. Watch out for signs of withdrawal or unusual behaviour in your child and investigate the causes. Thank God that children of nowadays aren't afraid to talk esp when they know d parent will listen and take action. All is well.
Our laws also need to be strengthened to help victims get justice.
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Suzyky4u:
You are right. Even recently when I tried to speak up about my experience with my teacher back then, a guy said I was being childish. Imagine! They will continue to be exposed. God forbid that I allow "uncles", gatemen, drivers or male teachers too close to my daughters or even sons sef. Some of them are gay.

Yes oh..in this day n age, parents need to keep an eye on their young boys too. Predators come in all shapes n sizes n gender nowadays
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If I was in d wrong, I would respect myself n leave. But God help that usher if there was nothing to indicate that d seat was even reserved in d first place, I won't move (I'm stubborn like that) but I won't get into any arguments with her. Anyway, d way u comport yourself (appearance and manner of talking) determines how people approach u.
My experience: I was on a plane seated comfortably beside my man gisting. Few minutes later, this guy barks at me that I was occupying his seat. His choice of words n tone just stirred my utmost anger. When I gave my carefully worded stinging response, the guy's eyes popped out of their sockets and rendered him speechless. He recovered n summoned d air hostess who asked for his boarding pass n politely motioned him to d other side of d aisle. It turned out he had made a mistake. He looked my way to apologise but I just ignored him n looked d other way. My man later asked me if I didn't recognize the guy....turned out he is a well known Chief of staff to one serving Governor....like I care!
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Kudos Lola for speaking up! The reality is that most nigerian women, while growing up, were molested one way or d other by a nearby male, usually a family member or domestic help....either she's touched inappropriately or actually penetrated. The saddest thing about it is that our society makes it extremely difficult for many victims to speak out. When even her parents won't believe her, who does she turn to? The degree and frequency of molestation leaves long lasting scars that affect her well being and most esp her relationship with men. The unfortunate thing is that even now, the situation has only improved slightly....with the information out there, many parents are still carefree and negligent with their young daughters. But let's encourage ladies to speak out against these condemnable acts!
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It simply shows boy n girl were not on d same page about their relationship. No woman should be getting preggy unless with mutual consent. Ladies, protect yourself....no condom, no show. And don't think u can trap d man into marriage thru such method....it will backfire.
Men, when will u learn? Forever it is settled that women will be one up on u....be wise. Some of u refuse to condonise then u begin to cry foul....just claim your child, d reward of your moment of sweet insanity!
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Op, not all second chances are desirable. Though I enjoyed my NYSC (in those days it was something graduates looked forward to) but I don't think I want to relive it. I remember that I actually turned down d job offers I had gotten even before d end of d service because none was located in Lagos...imagine that!
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Why would u want to withhold expressing your feelings to your other half? I don't get that!
Hiding your true feelings can actually ruin d romance, which is not what you really intended. I'm not of d school of thought that thinks its weak to express your feelings, be it man or woman.....if u feel it, live it, show it! Delight in your love interest, unless it's not there oh.
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