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She is talking from experience. So there is not need to condemn her. Would you accept such advise from someone who has never been married before?

Rokiat:
When you married him he had sense but now
He don’t have sense ok.

Monkey

Corrinthians:
Afonja. Stop crying more than the bereaved. On the zoo election day, amu chineke will sit at home with their ofe nsala while any Sabo that goes out will be taught a lesson by our ever gallant angel Unknown Gunmen.

There shall be no election in biafraland.

I dey shame...

It's not a healthy relationship. All the close marking was totally unnecessary.
Are you people children?
You can not build a last marriage with this attitude of knowing everything.

Let her be cos the more you continue to persist, the more she hates you.

How can you call her boss? Man na wa for you o.

You are the reason for the toxic marriage. You are materialistic and very disrespectful to your man.
Change your ways and be submissive. That is the only way to save this marriage.
If you get the divorce you will regret it.

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

Until proven equity by a competent court of law, every one caught or chased by police is a suspect.

gidgiddy:
Ha

I find this news laughable

The Police said "suspected members of IPOB", meaning that the Police dont know for sure who did it, they only suspect

But this one has ran here to say that the Police definitely said it was IPOB

Congratulations... however, please what are your plans on wedding their mother?
Are you aware you are putting that woman and her family into disrepute?
Please do the needful in earnest.
Thank you.

Labour party will be worse than PDP and APC.
I pity some of you that don't understand the Nigerian politics.

The man is lonely. That is the simple and plain truth. We outside get serious depression out of loneliness.
Abroad is such a cruel place that you might not even see or know your next door neighbor.
He should not have lied initially, however, please forgive him. He is there just to mingle, his real love and attention is for you and no one else.

Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

Oh, our very dear Celine. One of the best ever.
May you get your healing. May this not take you away. Amen.

Yet we are told no remittance to the TSA.
It's a shame how a few people have made us poor in this country.

Unbelievable...pleasedivorce her and delete everything about her from your life. That woman is evil personified.
I am so heartbroken for your daughter and your mental health.

co787:
My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal.

She is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her. Here is the reason I got her arrested, during her stay in the village, her 14 years old brother raped my daughter. This is one of the reason she overstayed in the village. She didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison.

But because it is her own brother, she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever. I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter.

I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments.

Everyone must surely die alone before. No matter the help she renders, when she die no one will say dem wan die follow her.
[quoteauthor=dnawah post=118813110]eat alone and die alone.one day kwa we go come there and we go do like say we no know you. [/quote]

She is not a piece of furniture you can throw out. Don't use such phrase again. A marriage of over 2 decades is not beans.
If she has realized she was out of order and apologized, forgive her.
You can do something to spice up your lives as long time partners. I am sure that was what she was lacking and fell for that agent of the devil who was about destroying her home.
Please forgive her.

bokondogi:
Hello Nairalanders, I will appreciate your comments and advice on this post

I have been married with 2 grown up kids for more than 2 and half decades, 2 months ago my wife got in contact with one of her secondary school classmate, someone she has lost contact with since they left school 3 decades ago.

So they started calling each other, though my wife told me about him and sometimes they talked on phone in my presence but later my wife will go to her room to talk with the guy, most times in the night.

This calls always excite my wife that I could hear her laughing and I begin to get jealous and I decided to get to know what they usually talk about.

They later moved to chatting on WhatsApp and will be doing call at night. I noticed my wife started making sure her phone isn't within my reach, making sure she didn't leave her phone carelessly. We both know each others phone password, One day I get access to her phone and I open her whatsapp. I noticed that my wife is flirting with the guy, the guy wil be refering to my wife as his wife but my wife usually won't respond to this,
They were exchanging pictures, and admiring each others pictures.

The guy was proffesing love to my wife but wiffy won't reciprocate to this advances.
Once a while I use to check wiffy's phone for any new development, and I find out wiffy use to send both money and airtime for data to the guy (my wife is into a lucrative business and money isn't her problem).

So one day a friend of mine send me a short porn video which I showed to my wife, she requested me to forward it to her, (I was surprised by this her request because she usually frown at porn), I sent it to her on her Facebook messenger instantly, but I was suspicious of what she wanted to do with the porn video. 2 days later she called me that she wanted to send the video to a female friend of her on WhatsApp but she didn't know how to forward the video from messenger platform to whatsapp.

I now forwarded the porn video to her on WhatsApp because I was curious what she wanted to do with the porn video, lol and behold my wife forwarded the video to this guy with a vulgar comment. I can't imagine my wife using the word 'toto', I have never heard this word from her
I now find out that this guy has earlier sent to my wife a porn video which she later deleted. I was shocked by these discoveries. My wife that frowns at obscene words is now using one in a chat with a man and even exchanging porn with him.

Even some gift items I kept in the house, I discovered my wife gifted them to this guy.
After these discoveries, I confront my wife with the evidence but she find it hard to deny and she said that she didn't know what she was doing with the guy was wrong that she didn't know the implications,
She told me she did not have any sexual contact with the guy and she swear about this, but I find it hard to believe, though I didn't find any evidence of this in their chats,
I am heart broken, this is a woman I trust so much,
Though she begged me and told me she won't have contact with the guy again, but I find it hard to believe.

I plan to throw her out. Is this the best decision?

It's your mind set. It's definitely twisted.
Believe me, every southern Nigerian is happy with this news.
At least, you people up North will soon start to experience our pains over decades of oil exploration. Tit for tat. Besides till we regionalize the country, the oil is still for all Nigerians. The revenue for now will still be added to the federation account and shared by all. So we are not bitter. Rather we are happy. Una go soon understand our issues over the years.

Arrewa:
Check the thread... People are angry and bitter!!

Why oil in the north?? We want to maintain the Right to keep calling the north poor, backward and a desert...

But the cosmic law has it's own way of maintaining balance to the universe...

The north shall rise...

The north shall grow...

And the north shall be stronger than ever before!

No amount of Hate can stop the north!!

How is life treating you, I hope everything is alright?

sonature1:
Meet Goodluck Jonathan, a clueless weakling who married a gorilla.

This man has no bold and fearless traits of Niger Delta in him.

Happy birthday to him though.

My dear young friend, before you have that silly thought of suicide, just know one thing, there is no married man dead or alive who at one point or the other have not regretted marrying the wife they married. So just keep trying to make her improve in one aspect at a time. Things will improve gradually.

nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.

Mexico '86.
But full awareness was Italia '90.

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You too talk, you be parrot? Calm down. A visit is not an indication he is voting for them based on his personal interests you claim.

Charisco:
Jonathan should respect himself and support Southern President. I don't know what's wrong with him despite what we experienced 2015, he still want to vote for another Fulani man, Northern person that condemned him that year and was in power for 8yrs. The kind of poverty in Bayelsa where he came from is too much despite the oil in that state. One flyover in the whole State nawaooo.... Slaves all over South and East just because of personal interest. God have mercy on us and give a good leader like Peter Obi. Let's push for a better nation please

Pure and unadulterated truth.

advanceDNA:
Na 50/50....
If it works out as u want...good...
If she change and follow another man with settled status then ghost you....no vex... humans can be unpredictable..understand say na survival mode she switch to...

Wateva happens, u go dey alright las las .but no overthink the matter right now...

Its actually important to ask for a whole lot of reasons.

kelvine:
Can we ask how he died or we should just say RIP and shut up.

Nothing but the truth.
He way Igbo people hate other tribes and even themselvesas you mentioned is epic.

lhordspy:
Exact same thing former governor of Enugu state, Chimaroke Nnanmani said few days ago. This is same thing Soludo is saying again. Without having a prophet to tell us, we know how the igbos will react as usual to the truth; Anger, insult, abuses ,curses, hate, and aggresivenss towards the person but not the message. So sad and very unfortunate

it is very obvious The igbos never learn or maybe they dont want to learn or maybe they have a phobia for learning.

How can you do same thing all over again and want to achieve different result. Over the past years, the igbos has been sidelined and marginalised politically and nationally as a result of nothing but their inbuilt and nurtured hatred and envy for everyone even to they themselves. It is only from igbos that you will begin to hear this one is not real igbo, he is ika, he is ikwere - they are not igbos. So pathetic.

Politics is played by making alliances, friendship, building bridges with other people from other regions not by 'Gbas-gbas' everytime. Insulting, abusing, cursing everyone against your ambition. May i need to remind igbos that elections are won through voting NOT on a platter of sympathy that 'it is our region turn to rule' ...

With the recent happening, the whole of Nigeria have seen the igbos for who they really are. Nothing but uncultured disrespectful angry birds .

Peter obi political career has been completely destroyed. After 2023 the man is done. You people have complete set the ambition of a promising man, Peter obi on fire through Nzogbu Nzogbu disgusting politics you are playing.

Some even went as far as going after the life of Soludo, his family and even extended it to his village, just because he was forced by Seu.n of Channel TV into talking about Investment that has to do with Peter Obi.

What is all these for christ sake?

I am privileged to be in Doha.
Any 9ja visiting Qatar and in need of assistance please don't hesitate to ask.

Heated argument with her fiance and then immediately and spontaneously took the decision to end her life?
If that's what happened then what happened to all the training she recieved as a DSS noncombative INSTRUCTOR?
That alone is enough to make anyone bear any BS or stress.
Then she became an instructor herself.
I don't get it at all.

Hehehe, IPOB

Tinubuadvocate:
Ipob are coming for you. Upon all the support they gave you during your reelection this is what you want to use to pay them back..

The police is supposed to raise that money and lay an ambush.
Citizens who find themselves in such a situation should not be loosing their life properties as if we are in a banana republic.

EmmaJnr1:
A father-of-two, whose two children were kidnapped in Kwara, has started selling his belongings to raise the N8m demanded by his children’s adductors.

The embattled father, Lukman Aliyu, a scrap dealer in the state, has sold his car and is now putting his house up for sale to raise the ransom.



https://saharareporters.com/2022/10/17/nigerian-man-puts-house-sale-raise-n8million-demanded-ransom-his-two-kidnapped-children

Very silly set of deluded and brainless human beings.

NgeneUkwenu:
Just few months back, Ipob vandals were all over the place, praising Ghana and cursing their country.

Useless bunch of kanu urine drinkers.

It's poverty alleviation. They are Rivers people.

God1000:
Why such move when he's about to leave office and knowing full well that another administration will sack them.

Spare a thought for the one we lost. Not everything is politics and abuses.
Do you guys derive e satisfactionfrom attacking and insulting people?

Urheadmaster:
Agbadorian urchins we begin blame one innocent man because of these heartless woman

You should be very concerned about your state and LG leaders. It's actually very important even more than the President.

oluseyiforjesus:
I don't knw if it's only me..........
Becos I'm less concern about state elections wat really matter now is Also rock , the major reason is because I'm OBIdent.
May people will join LP after general election if Obi didn't behave like mimiko...........LP brought him to power later went back to PDP........

Peace pact have nothing to do with an election been free and fair.

slimfit1:
Don't sign anything that doesn't guarantee free and fair elections.