₦airaland Forum

saphiere:
Story.

That's the fact...I know 70% of rape offenders are men...However, rape issue should be viewed as societal problem rather than male problem

saphiere:
Let's use Nairaland as a case study.
In a day, at least there are 5 rape cases on the front page of Nairaland. How many of those cases are women the culprit?

Cos male rape victims are usually minor who can't complain until 18 years or so latter

saphiere:
Rape is bad. Dear men please Shun this act.
A male child is a disgrace awaiting to happen.

You have problem... I dnt support rape... But hating in men will only make you end up bittee and lonely in life... If women are given physical superiority and dominance by nature like men... Women will do worse... The problem is human race not specific gender..

BTW. Everyone needs to condemn rape in any form... As a man u should imagine a bigger stronger gay man over powering you n puting his pen*is in ur anusS. aw will you feel for days or even months... That's aw women feel wen u rape them....leta do better folks

kingxsamz:
What next?
I would watch a documentary about heaven, hell and Angels?

You are not an Intresting person to have conversation with...u can't even give me facts, articles or theory to prove ur position... I'll stop here n leave u.. Enjoy

BTW, for your entertainment watch this

https://www.facebook.com/100015636661320/posts/1025210518010161/?sfnsn=scwspwa

I won't answer ur comment again by theway... U waste my time

kingxsamz:
Coming from a supposed intelligent person. one should live a life full of delusions and fairy tales because of the hope for an after life which no one has been able to prove.
And by after life, I'm guessing it's the Christian version of Heaven. Funny guy.

Have you watched my proposed documentary on consciousness after death....

You can come back and analyze it logically to me then we can talk

kingxsamz:
I don't need lectures from someone who says the universe has feelings. Sounds very unintelligent to me.

you see why I say you sound unintelligent ...Sorry I don't mean to insult you...There was an article i posted which was said to be findings from some scientists...You are here quoting that I said so...anyways...enjoy ur day....believe in what you believe, its no body's business.....

But remember, Its better for you to live ur life as if there is life after death and discover there is none after you die than not living ur life accordingly only for you to discover there is one....

I wish you well knowing I was once like you...but that was in my teens into 20s

kingxsamz:
With all these things which you have mentioned and described, wouldn't it take another higher intelligent being to create your god? You said science has only discovered 1% of things in the universe but yet you've discovered that there's a god and this god is a male? Funny guy.

I never said God is male, I need u to study space science, platnetary and galaxy discovery on youtube ...Things recently discovered in outside galaxy are mind blowing...

Read the article below...This is not emotion. This is science discovery that the universe itself is a being...it has feelings etc...So before u make some statement on public forum use ur brain and think...even though you dnt sound intelligent to me

https://www.menshealth.com/technology-gear/a36705498/is-the-universe-conscious/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=news_tab&utm_content=algorithm

Workch:
The Christian concept of a god has failed all test and if everyone should be sincere, we know he doesn’t exist. They are just trying hard to hold on to the lies in the stories by concocting more lies.

People will always feel threatened when you tell them their god doesn’t exist even when you present overwhelming evidence. That’s how dogmatism work.

The Christian description of a god is laughable, illogical, ridiculous and overwhelmingly irrational. It doesn’t agree with anything in reality.

...

you mean the survival instinct and design of living thing were all fluke and there was no designer nehing it?

I laugh in swahili....

Look at the universe, science has not even discovered 1% of things in existence and you are here talking with your small mind which can not even comprehend only 1% of what science has discovered....Ordinary bird was perfectly designed in such a way to make them exist...Humans even have scrotum exist outside their body just to maintain perfect temperature for procreation and sperm cell survival....and ure here saying all those designs were just fluke? How many species have existed in the past...how many are still in existence (the answer is a good number if them)...principle of selection is flawed if a sizable number of species that exist for 5billion years agi are still around today and still intact with thier survival attribute....Go and watch consciousness after death on netflix...you can then come n back here to debate me about non existence of a supreme being or spiritual realm...Or do yourself a better deal...google consciousness after death

Lukgaf:
Sound confusing sir. Can you also read this over again and see how it sounds smelling and confusing

Yes, let me explain it to you... Are you human?

The answer is yes... Is your father Human?

The answer is yes... Your father who is human will definitely have a male son who is human not goat or pig or any other SPECIE but human..

This, Jesus is Son of God, then he is God

Hopefully that sounds logical to you

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Xilsbridalhouse:
Pray

My dear, do not marry just anyone all because you are due for marriage, otherwise you’d see anyhow.
Before accepting to marry anyone, please and please involve the Author of marriage and our creator who knows the person you want to be with 100% and while doing this, work on yourself as well and pray to be a better spouse for your partner.

1. Do not fornicate with your partner before going into that marriage o! The accuser is always looking for opened doors to accuse you before God. Thank God we are serving a Merciful God but He is also a Consuming Fire.

2. God is not an author of confusion, so He won’t give you someone you are not compatible with! Watch out for compatibility as this would be necessary for peace to reign in your home.

For instance, I wouldn’t advise an introvert to marry an extrovert if you can’t handle his or her moving around, just stay off!

3. Ladies be submissive and respectful o! Dump all those feminists talks at your father’s house as no man will tolerate your rudeness, being disrespectful and nagging like wetin I no know!
Treat your husband like a King, trust me that is his MuMu Button o! Treat him like a king and he’d be willing to do just about anything for you.

4. Pray! This should be like your top most priority in that marriage. Don’t be on social media all day, go down on your knees for few hours and pray as a couple. Pray together please, as this is the unity the devil is fearful of. When two or more people....you know the rest. Pray together o!

5. Kill pride and be extremely humble. Stories like, he offended me so he has to apologize first should be left in your church bin after the ceremony biko! Don’t keep malice oooo...I repeat, do not and never keep malice! Forget pride, just walk to hubby or wife and start bombarding him or her with kisses and hugs, whether you are at fault or not. Be childish, tell Your spouse to carry you like a baby, pull a childish stunt to get your spouse attention and let peace reign. It is for your own good o! Don’t be forming I can keep malice for 200 years, na bitterness and sadness go finish you.
Also learn to forgive like a child. Don’t say things like, I need time to forgive you...which time biko? Unless of course he is a cheat and a wife beater, then you might forgive but I understand emotionally things can’t go back to normal. But once you pray for the right spouse, God will fight for you.

6. No room for Laziness in marriage darlings! You are Lazy? Dirty? Go work on yourselves now! You can’t enjoy such marriage. Also assist each other, wives are not slaves so men do what you have to do as a loving husband and how a king treats his queen.

7. Ehhhhh!!!! Third party Hian! Don’t try it!!! Erm “ I’ll report you to your Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Friend etc ...” eh! Don’t try it o! You only need God to resolve your issues. No single outsider should know what is going on in your marriage o! Quickly settle things before it gets out of hands.

8. Erm “My best friend is coming, My friends are coming “ ughhhh! Which nonsense friends? Better shut your home against friends if you want peace of mind. Not literally in a rude way, but there should be no form of closeness again, you are now married! Men! I understand you like to hang out with your friends but limit this as you are no longer a boy! You are now a man with responsibilities, so spend your time on productive things.

9. Be a good example. Treat each other in a way that you’d be grateful to God for bringing you two together. Communicate often, be each other’s best friend, look at situations from two angles and not just yours, correct each other with love, Study the word of God together and discuss your flaws and how to work on your flaws together. Laugh more and frown little or at all. Be an example of how a Christian home should be.

10. Don’t cheat on your spouse as all I have stated would totally be a waste of time if you do this. You won’t even escape God’s punishment and your life would remain sour unless you repent.
Don’t cheat on your spouse o!

10b. Ahhhh Finance! How could I have skipped this Ladies and Gentlemen, this is one of the major Koko in marriage o! Wives be like “ I can’t spend my money o” mostly after getting sick advice and Lori iro advice from fake friends! Hubby be like, “pay me back that money you borrowed from me” shior! Mtchew!!!!
If you can’t handle having a joint account, not with a cheat o! Those cheats will spend your money on side chicks and side boos, that’s why it’s essential you pray like Elijah before accepting to marry anyone biko! Nothing is more sweet like having a joint account with your spouse with super understanding and same spending lifestyles! You will so enjoy this marriage ehn! Especially if you both are not materialistic and would rather invest than buy overrated Aso ebis!
Ladies, this is majorly for you! Who told you that man is your ATM? You work, he works but your money is for yourself in particular ? What happened to being joined as ONE? Why would you watch your hubby suffer while you have more than enough to support him with even if you don’t want a joint account. I’m begging you please, do not leave financial responsibilities to men only! They are not robots na! Work hard, improve on yourselves, pray to God for creation of wealth opportunities, Be each other’s support pillar, don’t frustrate and fight over money issues. You must understand that you are no longer different individuals but now ONE.
Men if your spouse agreed to submit her salary or profits to you, and you spend such money on useless things like giving one side chick girl that is playing mind tricks on you or you trying to get in her pants....I hope you know God will forget you and no one will help you.
Don’t fight over finance please, and if you need to do things 50-50, do it peacefully and if you as a husband you are capable of shouldering all the responsibilities please do it without feeling like a god.


I have so much to say but I pray the Holy Spirit leads you right and help you to speak when you should, act right and stay mute when you should, also do not forget your in-laws are important! Treat them like your blood even if this is a bit stressful, God will definitely find a way to reward you and there is nothing we ask our Dear Father in Heaven that He won’t do. For instance you could say, “Daddy, I’m stressed could you please make my brother in-law to stop acting irresponsible “ and He will answer you.

God bless you as you invite Jesus into your home.

You deserve an award... Infact go and write a book on marriage u will sell... That humility as a mumu botton ehnn... Even I as a man know I av done many stupid things for wifey just because I know she is humble to fault... To even do her bad dey fear me...

harley88:
Hi guys,

Pls I need the advice of the public here.
I have been an ET with bank A for about 20 months now at the bank’s head office in a department I don’t like and that doesn’t have a career path. So I’d basically be doing the same thing for years to come. The pay is basically 200k which is quite comfortable monthly. I have tried changing departments within the bank all to no avail. I want to leave the Dept asap so I don’t get stuck there due to age. I’d be 25 later this year.

I started the Entry level recruitment for Bank B a month ago, maybe to start again as an ET probably in a better department with a better career outlook. Right now, I am almost into Bank B’s training school. Bank B pays lower than Bank A, but comes with better perks such as a car. But I’m worried about having to start again and lose 20 months of work experience. The issue is I’d have to be in Training school for some months and collect about 25% of my current salary monthly until TS is over. Also, I don’t know what Dept I’d be posted to assuming I take the Bank B job offer.

What advise can you give me pls?? Also note both banks are in the top four banks in the country.

Should i remain in Bank A and keep trying a change of department or a change of Bank as an experienced hire which is a very slim chance

Or

I take the ET job and start all over from Training school in bank B

Send me personal email.. Ill advise you as someone who spent 9 years in banking and rose to AM level before starting my own thing... Switchinbbanks pays but u av to be careful about it

colorsofrainbow:
Wildest dreams of a deluded drunkard

It's in the best interest of everybody

stanliwise:
Na your forum abi?

Mtchewww

E be like say head dey pain you??

Ab ' o ni stroke ni?

stanliwise:
How many of 200 million people
Stop all this “some people” saying

Will there ever be a time where some people are not making money?

Thread says why are “many” decent people single. The next thing you said is polygamy

Thant's my oppinion...Why do you have problem with that?


Hold on to your own oppinion and let me hold to mine oga...one side!

stanliwise:
Polygamy in this economy?
Have you priced pampas ?
Expect you want your children to be almajiri beggars

well, for thoswho have the means...some people are still making money in this economy

iampeterben:
1. They have high expectations of their other half. When looking for a life partner, decent people will see if the other half is a good match for them. There may be many partial matches, but few perfect matches.

2. There are few quality people they can take a fancy to. The better the person, the fewer people of the same quality are around her, and the chances of meeting someone of her own calibre and developing a relationship are significantly lower.

3. They have high expectations of themselves and their future. They have goals they want to achieve in life and want to find someone who can make things happen for each other, not someone who will be a burden to them and hold them back.

4. They think there are other things in life that are more important than being in a relationship. They may be obsessed with their career, learning new skills and developing new hobbies, while a relationship may be seen as a waste of time and life.

5. They will carefully judge the sunk cost of being in a relationship. They will carefully assess the risks and benefits of a relationship and choose their partner carefully and deliberately, rather than just getting together with someone else.

6. They may already have someone in mind. This person may be someone she can never be with, but she is unwilling to find someone else to replace that person, so she stays single.

7. The person they like does not like them. The decent person may like someone who is better than her, but that person doesn't like her, and in that person's eyes, she may be an extremely ordinary person. The one who is not willing to settle for anything else will just wait and stays single.

8. They may not know what kind of partner they want. They may be good at business, friendships and platonic relationships, but not at romantic relationships and love. They also need to keep learning to get out of being single.

In general, finding a partner is not like finding a job, and many people want to wait until they are good enough to find a good person to spend their lives with. But the reality is that by the time you are good enough, you will have missed the right person and will not be able to find another one.

By:
Marcus Okoebor

Solution is polygamy..Africa needs to wake up and know monogamy has never paid its society.....

okine4real:
I believe you are wrong here. When you marry your woman, I mean your own ordained wife, she know need to dey pester you to reveal how much you earn. Na you go see say this woman fit manage the secret when you won reveal. Eg you told her you earn 100K but you earn 200k, but the woman know even if manage 50k say make una use am plan for a month, in this case, while would I reveal say I dey earn 200k? But if I tell her say I dey earn 100k instead of 200k and I tell am say make we dey manage 59k per month and she call me say whether I dey mad nii, say 50k too much and make we dey rough 40k, and we have been leaving on 40k for long and she know blink, then I can even be giving her my salary to manage. Men are not fools, men always want the female gender to lead then dey would follow.

Let me use myself as example all my investment, dey pay to my wife acc. I tell am say make she use the money pay all my children school fee, buy cloths for them and herself, I tell her say, intact I have solve all your problems just leave me alone this woman, am talking of money running into Millions, I swear na only school fee money this woman dey pay inside, all the rest she say na me go still go dey do am, say that money we go still use am for investment, inside me I go dey vex say she this woman won kill me nii, so na work I come for inside this marriage ohh, but atvtge same time am happy say, my wife nor be like some babes when them see money, na Gold, lace, car go they there mind. Mind you my wife know be local girl ohh, she be full chick I swear, even me I be confirm learner for Igboro for were she dey, but we dey run things well.

Guys open your eyes when you won marry.

Well I wont argue with you...My approach has worked perfectly for my 8 years of marriage with no issue...chose your poison and let other do thiers...Selah!

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

The only solution you need is discloure...Let your wife know aw much you earn and show her the proof...Someone you go necked for, you are hidding your salary...O boy ure on a long thing...Let her know ur true picture and show her aw u spend ur money monthly...trust me, it works for me....Why having secret for someone u call ur rib bone...Women will alway assume u av money wen u dont dislcose ur earning to them....

As a guy...No follow them yab the girl oh....Just double your hustle and know that the world forgives rich people easily....and with money u can find love anywhere and anyaw...young or old

DontBullshitMe:
10 years of captivity.

No late nights. . .

No multiple girlfriends. . .

No privacy. . .

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You think Multiple girlfriends is fun.?..some of us have tried it...Its not fun...takes ur time ur money and possibly ur health....Maintain one woman and encourage her to imrpove

UncleKoboko:
This lousy morón!
Are you so jobless?
I pity your parents...
Ọmọ irankiran.

hahahahahah...you have nothing to say again...go and read your book werey omo

UncleKoboko:
Lol!
You suck!

hahaha...akin dani dani...you just made it obvious that you are dull but you think you are smart....Woh...o boy pack one side jor, no be everyone you see on Nairaland you can abuse and go scot free... some of us are too mature to unleash words on people even though we av it ready when you deserve it...get a life...focus on ur school lad!

UncleKoboko:
Ọdẹ
Fulani ass licker slave.
Continue to support evil and hypocrisies.
It will never be well with you.
Ọmọ ale jati jati

Awon Iran e lo 'mo ale...where did u see me lick fulani ass...slowpoke like u...just keep assuming......Olo rii bu Omo ako igba...Agoju logun

UncleKoboko:
Oò'ni ṣorire
Ọmọ ofo jatijati

You see, its getting obvious that you av no brain at all...nothing to say again and resorted to curse?........ You have an extremely low intelect....Arinding akin dani dani alainironu...I wo to ye kan ti fi to'Je

Sho lo mad ni?
Ati ni Laari e o daye atunwa....F* ckin pig shit!!

EkenmaPeter:
How do you over come laziness and dizziness when working
Just as the topic stated , i will like us to share experience how you over come laziness and also dizziness when working on a client project, task or a pet project.

Laziness can be as a result of an easy task that you can implement in some minute or hours but took you 2 days to do, and dizziness is when you have to stay awake all night mostly for remote guys working for foreign client with different time zone.

How do you manage to balance sacrifice, discipline and commitment when working?

start running on weekends Saturday morning and thank me latter...

UncleKoboko:
dear m0ron, it's obvious that you are.

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Your brain need to be examined......keep being delusional behaving like a lice infected dog on online forum, typing like an a*shole thinking you av monopoly of craze....If you get to my mention again ...Ile a ga ju e lo...asinwin omo alia ni ran oshi!

UncleKoboko:
Save your miserable N200 for the millions of your almajiri people and the 95% beggars we have in this country that consists of Hausa-fulani tribe

Is it not shameful that even as 60% of the rulers of this country, 70% owner of oil blocs in Nige Delta, Dangote, Danjuma ETC with all the stolen money, YOU PEOPLE ARE STILL BEGGARS AND ALMAJIRI!


VERY PATHETIC!

Crass!! How do you assume I am Hausa, You see why I said ure an idiot?? read my responses again and I use ur brain to know which tribe I am....jobless cunt!!...Online slowpoke!

UncleKoboko:
Hehehehehe
This e-nomardic savage animal is still feeling funky o. Painting dreaming of world tour through his phone you really wish

Now I understand some things are too big for your small mind to comprehend...i am sure you are probably looking for who is gonna give you 200Naira to eat dinner tonight......Low lifer like you.....Akindanidani ...empty skull ....shut ur gotta mouth u dnt belong amoung humans. I see you posting like a loose dog all over nairaland... common question on economy to sustain ur useless Oduduwa republic u cant answer...ure here barking a rabis infected dog all over nairaland...

UncleKoboko:
Lol
dumbfuck feeling funky
Continue to travel around the world through your phone !!!!!!!!!

Lol,,,you wish...slow spoke....keep believing everyone is miserable like you....nincompoop...arindin...shior!

UncleKoboko:
You are just a dolt with a parasitic and leach mentality? How many African countries have you been to, that makes you know that N800 groundnut costs N5000?
What stops your people from selling their groundnut for N10000 a cup?


Whether you people like it or not, THIS UNHOLY MARRIAGE OF A COUNTRY MUST BE DISSOLVED!

IT IS NOT BY FORCE TO PRACTICE ONE-NIGERIA.

Ill answer your question. since ure so foolish to know its not evenryoneon this forum that is stupid like you... FYI I go around Southern and Eastern Africa for IT consulting job ... And at least ive been to a handful West African country before leaving nigeria....so if you think everyone stuck in Nigeria like you OYO........u said Unholy nigeria...tell me one economic trategy your region has to survive economic downturn that will happen after the breakup... Go and ask countries like Yugoslavia and old USSR what happens after countries breakup...Likes of you will eat from dustbins for nothing less than 10 years before thing get back to half of what it is now......Keep beating drum of war thinking you will be exempted .....zero IQ individual.,,,

UncleKoboko:
Is that a contribution?
Are you okay?

Which region doesn't farm?

Do we get the food for free?

Are there no alternatives?

Does Dubai, Saudi etc grow anything? Yet, don't they eat the best foods?

Since you cant respond without being abusive.....ill give it back to you how i do to none entities like you....I guess ure so dump and stupid you do not know what they call commercial farming...You do not get free food but have you been to common places like Botswana, Namibia, and maybe UAE where food is imported. Then compare to cost of food in Nigeria? Sure you do not know that food is cheap in nigeria even with the current inflation rate...I'm sure you will argue with me since you don't leave shores of Nigeria

A typical groundnut you buy for 800NGN will cost 5,000NGN in those African countries i mentioned...Compare the cost of food in Dubai, raw organic food cost over 400% above that of Nigeria...Considering low income in Nigeria, ur likes will probably die of hunger on the street...sho l' ooni brain ni? Dindinrin

UncleKoboko:
Nigeria is surely drifting to SEPARATION, or restructuring at least.

It will happen very soon by peace, fire or force whether any tribe likes it or not.


The relationship between us is PARASITIC! Awusa - fool ani especially is barely contributing anything to the country but they are everywhere.

Go to any government establishment around the country and you'll confirm that they are just imposing themselves as rulers everywhere.
Illiterate animals with quota-system education.

They have stolen at least 70% of the oil blocs. Something that's supposed to be property of the state.
Even with all their greed, they are still the poorest.
95% of beggars in this country are them.
If they so like themselves and help themselves, why are the rich ones not helping their poor? Why are they shipping themselves to all parts of the states of the country to beg for halms?

How can a normanic savage animal come all the way from the north to own oil blocs in the Niger Delta?
IT WILL NEVER BE WELL WITH ONE-NIGERIA.

Are you sure Hausas are nt contributing lol? The onion, Tmato, Cowmeat, beans, groundnut,pepper u eat...where is it planted?