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OP, i know what you are going through. You are a nice guy who wanted to achieve as much as you can before dating. Your ambition is to get that one girl who will complement you and you will live happily ever after. You have achieved your material goals but when it comes to relationships, understand that you are dealing with a human being and not an object so you cannot predict reactions. I have been there but in my case, i am not obsessed. You have to know how to play your cards right and most times, the joker is to walk away. I can bet you she will come crawling back. Most ladies prefer good guys but pretend they don't hence the saying 'nice guys finish last'. My advice, don't settle for less, go after other girls. Learn the ropes and learn to beat them in their own game. Never let a girl know your weakness, be in charge of your emotions. All the best to you.

Call 911!!!

Please how far is 2023 from today? This administration, primitive policies only.

That with hardwork and determination, you will surely get there. And when you get there, your real problem with girls begins because suddenly, everybody wants you. Moral of the story: get a girl when you are broke cos definitely, she is d right one.

Dude, chase the money. The women will come later.

"You will always lose money, chasing women. But you will never lose women, chasing money".

Lol!!!!!

fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

OP, think for a second. What's the worst thing that could happen if you told her the way you felt? The worst is rejection and it has never killed anyone. Rather, the more you get rejected, the stronger and more matured you get cos guess what, the stakes get higher. You find yourself going after Girls that are out of your league.
My advise, go for it. Tell her everything you feel. Stammer if you want, Stare at the floor if you want but compel yourself to take that risk. You might eventually get rejected but i tell you, you will get that feeling of triumph because you would have gained an advantage over your fears.

Welcome to 2018 OP. I know i have read this news before. Please give us up to date information and stop recycling old news..

I don't do cheap!!!!

OP, let me shook mouth for your matter o before heartbreak go finish u for there.

Firstly, Boys have no bizness falling in love. When you become a Man, you won't need to fall in love, love will fall on u (If there is anything like that). The thing is that you are in school so focus on that goal, achieve it and move on. Free any Girl that does not like u. There is no law in Nigeria or anywhere else in the world that says a girl must like u or reciprocate ur good gestures. If u are not feeling equal vibes, move on unless u want to die young.

Conclusion - Move on and let the babe be. A better babe is ahead. You will never find her if you remain at this junction.

OP, let me lend my voice on this your matter. From my point of view, you like this Naija guy but you are saving him for later when you are like 28 years and unmarried and then you will be the one bugging the guy with calls and texts etc. The foreign guy you are dating now is confusing you but let me tell you 'all that glitters is not gold' and 'the grass is not alway green on the other side' so choose wisely. Remember, you are not the only Girl in the world. The competition is fierce now. What you call trash is another babe's treasure. Chop brain!!!

I will tell you what their problem is. Just dial my number on 080naija-for-life.....

RiyadhGoddess:
What about converting the 30k to 3 million if he's serious...
If he's an Igbo guy without even a Job, I will marry him. Give an Igbo poor man an opportunity and watch him become a multi billionaire in years to come but for my brothers, you will be hearing se won ma ra? Se o ma work? Kini awon eyan ma so, Iwo lo se na... I really do not understand what their problem is till date.


Read my signature...

Lol!!!

toprealman:
Is she a banker? Does her name start with J?
Is she from Imo state?

OP, take the Girl and run as far as possible and as fast as possible. Good Girls are hard to find. You find one, you marry her sharpally. Regret is a terrible thing. Tradition will forgive you once she takes in. I don't want to come back here in a few years to tell you 'I told you so" cos i'm telling you so now.

Hi!!!! Can i know you??

RiyadhGoddess:
Can I Know You?
You just slide into my DMs and say Hi, Can I know you
Hahahahahaha
U be olopa ni?
All these brothers that doesn't know how to package themselves that will just be dropping can I know you in my DMs. It can so much annoy me eh. First I'm not the type of person that knows how to write an essay abi na composition about "Myself". So when I see Hi, can I know you? I will just read and pass. Note when I said packaging, I wasn't talking about monetary packaging I meant oral packaging.
Brothers please take note- No more Hi, can I know you?
Thank you.
Read my signature

You really do get the gist. Congrats in advance on your new job. I tell people. Living in the UK alone is work experience in itself. It builds your work ethics. You can survive any life (not living) condition by merely living in the UK for one year. For those that believe foreign degree is a joke. I pray you get an opportunity to study in the UK and then come back and tell me if your certificate is Moi Moi.

DanXplore:
I think running abroad to advance your studies just to increase your employment potential is a wrong motiivation. Rather, there should be genuine passion for knowledge and skill acquisition. When the motive is right, other things would automatically fall into place. I learnt more during my 1year plus at the University of Manchester(Msc.) than the 5years spent during my undergrads in Nigeria (lol). Honestly after my Msc., I understood why most multinationals are biased towards foreign degrees especially in engineering. You are taught rigorouosly in good schools abroad. You are taught to be problem solvers and innovators - not just memorisers of theorems, irrelevancies and other inert mass of confusing and outdated knowledge. (especially in engineering).

I returned from the UK early this year and have gotten three job offers so far (rejected two), about to undergo medical examination for the third (might reject it though) and the last offer which is the one I am most interest in should come through by october/november. That is roughly 4 offers this year alone.

It is very clear you didn't read my submission before attacking. Please go over it again and find where i gave an advise. I know many UK degree holders unemployed. You know why The "Feel-Big Syndrom". I can't do this job or that job. Keep waiting for that big job. It will come eventually when you are 90 Years. That is what has happened to many of our youths. I am not saying a foreign degree is a panacea. You just have to be creative with it. Know where you are going and how to get there. If you keep waiting for the environment to be right before you launch out, you will remain there forever. Please go over the text again and let me have my Peaceagain!!!!

Tina26:
are you employed for recognition purposes If only you know how many uk degree holders are jobless

Wo, one Moet for u. I mean complete trash!

Ugosample:
there is no basis for comparison

schooling in NiggerArea is trash

especially if you are not updating yourself with personal studies and personal research
the lecturers don't know shit, act like demi gods, corrupt the system and are frustrated bastards


schooling abroad will expose you to a world that a Nigerian yrained graduate can't even dream about

Tina26:
your assumption is a fallacy. That is what he is addressing. Even with uk masters u still have to do shl gmat and other tests(many uk based could not even pass the test so as 9ja ones). No one will employ you these days because you studied abroad . I worked in a big 4 for 2 years. The performers were from places like lasu and osu. Not leeds university.

First of all, before you challenge me rudely. You should go back to elementary school to learn comprehension. I talked about recognition not performance. Performance is an individual thing not a result of your degree or the schools you attended. Even if you have a degree from Harvad but you are as lazy as a Tortoise, guess what. You will not advance. Performance is an individual thing.

Dear OP, this is purely your own opinion and one side of the matter. Truth be told, you haven't set foot in a foreign university that is why you made such a submission. As much as i agree with you that in Nigeria, a foreign degree has little or no edge over a local degree purely due to few opportunities available to all. Largely, a foreign degree still has an edge over local because your market now expands beyond local reach. Lets say i have an MSc from the University of Manchester in the UK and you have same from any nice Uni in Nigeria and we both apply for a multinational employment. Guess who would be recognised first. Yep, i thought as much!! If you know your onions, you will not be dragging job in Naija. Get a job relevant to your profession no matter how much it pays. Learn the ropes for a year or two and look for an international job. End of story.

I will suggest you try out a short course outside of Naija especially in the UK even if for a week or a month and then come back to write this essay again. The difference is clear. You will hardly get such tutelage anywhere in Naija.

I will suggest you look for a lady that is way out of your league. Who knows, you might just hit jackpot. No risk no reward. And never let a 'no' affect your self esteem. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Take it as a challenge and keep moving forward. Your Cindarella might just be the next one. All the best in your search.

You should go back and read through. The guy actually writes well. OP, i think you should take writing as part of your hobby..


Tbh i didn't actually read through
But i realized you spoke out of pain
Just take heart bro
Dont give up[/quote]

And who is to blame Mr Senator? God will judge you all. Its just a matter of time.

If our president cannot take criticisms, then he is not fit to be a leader. He should address all issues raised to save us from this mess..

Unknown!!!

Did i?

it is not a must to live in another man's country. If your presence is not appreciated, then allow them taste your absence. And for the love of God, Ghana? A tiny winny country. In my mind, it's still Ghana must go.

]Forget it.. She make sense

But how in the world will she sit in that dress? Too short