Sweetlemon:
Pls don't be surprised when strange things start happening to you.

Sweetlemon:
Pls don't be surprised if strange things start happening to you.
And to anyone else wants to dare the power of what I have said here, I have the same to say to you. Since advicing sweetlemon guarantees your next meal, go ahead.
This is the last I will say to you.
He who has ears let him hear.

2sexy: You wan go metaphysical? do you? do you want dare it?

SHAKING MY HEAD. This thread is creepy. Do people still utter such threats in this day and age?

And this exchange of words between Seun and Sexkills ought to take place offline. What is the use of PM if you guys don't make use of it?
Please avoid correcting each other on threads.

oh dear,this bed guy could end up turning you into a bitter lemon if after all these arguments,he ends up giving you a photo of a bed.
nway some advices dished out are pretty good.

Sweetlemon:
He usually tells me "I'm going crazy with the thought of taking you here and now. But I don't know if I will keep on liking you this much if we have sex cos sex is no big deal to me. So I want to wait till I buy a bed"

If a guy said that to me,I would take a back seat and evaluate the relationship.It doesn't sound right.Sex with the person you truly love ought to be a big deal.
If he goes ahead to equate our lovemaking with the previous ones he's had then I would view that as a raw deal.Means our sex is not special.
My view of sex is beyond physical.If there is no emotional connection, then I simply classify it as a fusion of sexual organs which wild animals do as well.
Whether he does it with you or not is not the issue. After the double decker,water bed or whatever bed has been bought,and you guys proceed to do it,will the desire vanish? since it's not a big deal?

What to do?
They are both competing to shower her with lovemoney.
Worst bit is the fact that no one is interested in showing her how to invest wisely.It's spend spend and spend.
But what a lazy brat.A 5 star hotel in comparison to her house? yet she can dine and wine,have everything done for her in the comfort and privacy of her home.
Happy new year.

onila:

1. there is nothing really so special about men that u cant avoid temptation. . .I have turned down very rich, handsome guys every girl wants because they are not worth opening my legs for or giving up my pride and dignity

ladies know yr worth,

Your thread's title reads 'ladies how to control yourself from sleeping around.

I am sure many ladies would have given reasonable answers.But you diverted it with your post above.
I do not see any connection.

seedord247: ..


Aunty... Aint U ready to become one?

ah ah.This needs dedication,commitment and a million other things whose grace I lack.

Idowuogbo: See dem o! Dem wan dethrone my son! Impossicant! Madam, go moderate ur room & parlour! As for romance sect? Wait till grey hair starts growing in my son's private region.

holy moly!

Tough and demanding,but hey where there is a will there is a way.
keep on doing ur thing and I shall vote based on your capabality and availability when the time comes.

CONGRATS

Do not despise the days of small beginnings.You deserve it.

sweetcheecks: Hi all, ( this is long but gives a good background to the problem).
I have been dating this guy for over a year now. We both seemed to care a lot about each other. Had a challenge with a jealous friend who happen to be a mutual friend. I broke ties with her, he did not. We had a break of two months and I thought it was over but we reconciled. I suspect during that period he might have travelled overseas with our friend ( she travells the route often) to buy house remodelling material but he never told me and I never really asked. I had not really given this relationship the best attention becouse I have been going through tough times in my businesses and had plummetted into a financial crisis. I had never asked and shared my true financial situation with him. He would always ask me how things were and I would always tell him things are fine. I have been through the worst ever times of my life financially but have find it most difficult asking for help from friends and family.

I was just working hard on my business to try and turn things around. I always thought I do not want him to think I want his money. But now we are growing apart becouse I have been soo consumed by my situation and found it difficult to share it with him.

I planned visiting him after a had finished a project to take a breather and just spend time with him. I called him and left messages when i could not get him. The night before my flight to visit him he called and said he was not available that weekend and that i did not talk to him about the visit. What was supprising he always asks me why am I not visiting anymore. And now when I plan this visits he acts up. I was angry and told him that I am not interested to visit someone who does not want me around him and I would never force a visit on him.

When I ask him why he would not be available and if he is seeing someone he gets angry and says that its non of my
business. I told him, that it was ok I was cancelling the visit.

I later sent him a message just expressing my feelings about his behaviour and apologising for getting him angry.

He tried calling the following day but i was very upset and had switched off my phones. And if he got thru I would not answer. He called more than 12times and I just could not bring myself to talking to him, I was still very much upset. He sent messages begging me to call him back but I would not.

Now we chat but I cannot help but feel distance is tearing us apart and my inability to share my financial woes is
presenting itself as if i do not care about him.

I had promised to do some work for his business to help build his business brand and profile to earn some more money than ask him for money. But becouse of my situation I had to focus on my staff first.

I care about him a lot. I know we could be great together. But I need more than just a relationship. What complicates things to me even more is that a prophet told me I am going to marry someone else not him. Now with the way he is I am wondering if I should fight for this or just let go?

Over to you, NLers.

Please not dumb comments, just do not comment if you not in a good space right now

You have issues to address in your relationship first. Better not to lump them together cz you are getting all confused and losing direction.

1. Mistrust>>You are trying to make this work with the knowledge that there could be 3 people involved here. His[b]'it's non of your business'[/b] answer scared you off and made you apologise for making him angry?? seriously? of course it's your business if you two are serious.
Don't play door mat and keep apologising in vain.

2. Financial stress>> Finances and matters related can break or make a relationship no matter how good.
Look here,you need all the energy to get that business running if it's your only source of income.But read what you just typed 'I had promised to do some work for his business to help build his business brand and profile to earn some more money than ask him for money.'
That to me is a big mistake for now.You are only dating not married. It's amazing how willing you are to make this guy's business work,when yours is going down the drain.What is worse? You can't even trust him with your mutual friend? mistrust prevails here and so whatever you do will most likely fail because of arguments.
And why would you even wish to build his brand,when he already told you to keep off his business? Girl that is blind love.It won't make him love you more if his mind is already made up.

3. Playing victim>>We girls like apologising in vain.He gets angry because you asked an honest question,so you apologise? You know what you are doing? watering the seed of abuse.Stand for what you know is true and be firm.Don't be too desperate to win his love and attention by doing crazy/silly stuff to cover for his pride.It only makes you weak and prone to manipulation and emotional stress.

If you cannot share your financial woes with somebody you 'love' then there is a problem.
Look here,one may not offer the finances needed to boost you,but he can give you helpful tips and advice.That is support.
Put it to test.Sit and talk about your business and get his reaction.If he can't be there to at least listen and advice,then he's just a burden.


So here is my summary.You are trying too hard to make it work yet you could be his spare part hence the insensitivity.
Shake your head,get the prophet out of it and get down to building your biz since it's your source of satisfaction.
You seem a bit distracted by the guy who's only draining you emotionally instead of offering a shoulder.Allow him to come chasing and use that energy you got to think biz till things stabilize.
wish you the best

Learn to love again gal.
An abusive relationship leaves one's self image in tatters.It takes a lot of energy and time to start loving oneself again.
5 years is enough time and it's a your choice really if you wanna get married or not.
All I can tell you is, be encouraged.You haven't met a man who will sweep you off your feet.And they are there.
You have confidence, I can tell from ur post, but it gets shaken when you are alone.
Try and establish good relationships with the opposite sex and stop viewing them through former shadows of abuse and mistreatment.
No man can make you happy if you are not happy.No man can bring you satisfaction if you don't feel satisfied with yourself.
Yearn,desire,seek love and you shall find it.
We all deserve to be loved and love in return, don't you want to love? you can't be loved if you don't love.Please don't let your heart grow cold to such a lovely feeling just because of one man who's already living his life to the fullest.
Open a fresh chapter,refuse to be taken advantage of.
Then find a man of SUBSTANCE.One that adds value and viceversa, not a pest or a parasite.Meaning go mingle with like minded men.
A good relationship adds value,it doesn't leave you drained,dry,stressed and broke.
wish you the best.

I missed this but Yeah Achukwunet stood out.She was the winner right from start.

To Achukwunet.

ok.

Mynd_44:
real tight but you can ease the tension. Do the right and correct thing

Better do it fast cz before the red stamp.

First runner up >>Sweet lemon
Miss NL 2012>> Achukwunet.
bye gals and congrats.

oops I forgot this thing was still on.
congrats modella.

Tight race between Sweetlemon and Achukwunet now.
You both very pretty.

I am gonna do Inky pinky between itsmodella and Tashmania.

Itsmodella

boosts online ego? whatever not my worry.

190-the-clown:
The holy book says No sleep for the wicked
And there are a lot of Non sleepers on this thread including you
So I decided 2 sprinkle holy water since its obvious they я waiting for their meetings

roflol.

[quote author=dammytex
Something tells me that is not Jenny20's real picture (I have my reasons)
Tash, I'm sorry.
Roki, I'm so so very very sorry. Ma binu so gbo, pele my dear.....

Jenny once posted her full pics here together with her mum and gave a bit of her history.Lively gal I must say.She has nigerian blood.
Its her.

sexkillz: Can't have a tie.

Group 1 and 4 are tight.

ok here then

1. SWEET LEMON and jenny20 >
2. TASHAMANIA
3. LIVIALIVES
4. ACHUKWUNET AND NUBIAN QUEEN( CANT PICK ONE)
5 ITSMODELLA.

Now here is my guess.

Finals

Sweet lemon
Achukwunet
Nubianqueen
LL

1nd runner up Achukwunet.
Winner... tadaaa.

where have I been? I am discombobulated by beauty These girls are pretty!!
lemie go back again

Sexkillz WAIT dont lock

CNN kristian almabinpour

what a thread.

Yes, if it's the hen kind of relationship.

Jehhny20
Sweetlemon
Nubian queen
Achukwunet
Itsmodella
Florena
t-luv

The winner comes from among these.

sexkillz sure has taste!!

Leadn:

Not this current one... she must have taken it down... It was so not cool, unkempt hair and wrong facial expression... She must have taken it when she woke

ahaa.that one was crazy,boyish, ,I almost changed my mind.Shes young.Depends on what you are judging anyway.
I am not after a 'city modern look'.I am after beauty in its raw form

Leadn:

Take down that current pic,,, doesn't look the least bit good,,, to put it plain... it's appalling, repelling and very 'village-like'

check out that face properly.
see the perfect dental set, cheek bones,smile,shapely lips,eyebrows,smiling eyes,look at her arms,well shaped ears? african nose in its right place,I can play judge.Forget the dress and wall.See natural hair?
I love that face.Its called black beauty

Idowuogbo:
Yea Florenza! U must chop my money... Ojigbijigbi! My head dey swell like yellow garri o! See princess!