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If you stop searching for spirits you will not come across them.

one guest !ghost

Kails then just take it easy.Let the stalker sweat out instead but enjoy ur posting.

@ Kails.I am in a forum where one dude raised the same concern you are raising here.According him,there seemed to be a guest anytime he appeared to post.
There are two guests as I post this. I strongly believe that Ayanle is always among the guests but I never bother.
Anyway, one of the forum members told him that the guest was a Web crawler.
What it does is browse the World Wide Web in a methodical, automated manner.A type of bot. Web crawlers not only keep a copy of all the visited pages for later processing - for example by a search engine but also index these pages to make the search narrower.

I could be wrong but it's just my guess.

ayanle456: my god they are cleanin up the evidence of their obsession

smh.see what you caused now.are u happy? theres one guest watching.It must be you.
by the way dd we finish with the achievements on the other thread? ur guys are headed to puntland to disrupt the peace.
go there.

carefreewannabe: Dear Pendo,

thanks for your opinion. You're right, there's nothing wrong with freinds who care about you.
Maybe, I don't feel good about it because even though we have known each other for a very long time and even though I have always trusted him, I don't trust him in this case. Life has taught me that people don't do things for nothing. It's somewhat suspicious.

I know exactly what you are talking about.But here is the mistake.Life teaches us lessons but we must be careful not to let lessons stop us from progressing.
Not everybody does things with suspicious motive even though we may have met such people in life.A good friend esp a guy will go out of his way to treat you nice like a sister.He can be protective,caring and all that without expecting anything in return.
The only reason you should read motive, is if he has changed from what you knew him to be.
Don't push him away,cz it hurts to buy gifts for a friend and have them returned. Let him know that you are free to date other people and it will set your minds free as you receive whatever gift he gives you.
Romance grows like a seed.He may or may not be trying to make it grow so let nature take it's course.
And wait till you get the invite for a date.

You guys are childhood friends and have everything spelt out

He went on saying that he want's to spend on me AND that he doesn't expect ANYTHING in return, no sex, nothing.
He can't have you coz you don't love him.

In that case,what is wrong with a good friend buying you gifts and stuff? Friendship is about caring and sharing.
Is he doing wrong by treating you nice without expecting anything in return? I think most times we are used to friends who exploit and buy us through gifts, such that when we find a genuine one, we still read ill motive behind their good gestures.
Allow him the privilege to share with you what he wants without reading too much into it.Who knows?

rpt

[quote author=ayanle456

Dont blame urself. Even black americans worship us. The restafarians litterally worship ethiopians. Am a little jealous.
We Neeed to compete more with ethiopians by creatin a religion that worships us[/quote]smh Ayanle.You have your religion which you use to hurt people.majority of ethiopians are orthodox.peaceful.
You are one trouble maker.

pleep: Even after this dude has been trolling on this site for months... you ppl are still making threads worshiping east Africans. Ayanle even got one of you to fall in love with him! Whenever someone tells you guys how mentally ill you are you just dismiss it as racism. If you have learned nothing else, you should have learned how to respect yourselves..... or atleast pretend.

Really? Look here pleep.Go through NL and see how many threads are opened touching on other nationalities.Onila opens threads in good faith and uploads pics like teh one below. I don't see people nigerians or ivorians coming out to trash.or?
https://www.nairaland.com/1100945/ladies-lets-rate-ivorian-man
I don't see nothing wrong in admiring/appreciating other people no matter where they are from.
I only stepped in this thread to correct what he posted about somalis owning Kenya.Spreading false rumours online.

Ayanle must have noticed that you guys are obsessed with their women hence his outbursts.What should I say? Good for you? serves you right? Then stop uploading their pics and post yours!! Whenever you see a thread praising other nationalities be the first to condemn it before they come hard on you like Ayannle. Been on somalinet and I am yet to see pics of west african women.
And by the way,I don't take Ayanle seriously anymore.If he calls me negroid I laugh instead because hes trying to get me to react.Provocative.
So am at peace.
Has he found a sweetheart here?? Nice work.Congrats.

We shouldn't look forward to quarreling with that in mind.If it happens,your maturity,the argument at hand and frequency will determine if it will become stronger or weaker.
Persistent quarrells make the body weary.When weariness comes, stress follows and everything breaks down.
Avoid as much as you can for ur mind sake.

mmh the prodigal son.
good.

Hey! It's not the end of life man.Listen David sinned a big deal, but he was a man after God's own heart. This is not an excuse either.
Sin abounds, but there is something called the Grace of God.What you need to do is confess your sin to God first, not man.
Once you have settled it with God,your conscience is settled. Rem also that sin has consequences.God forgave David but he also warned him 'the sword shall never depart from your house.In short we are forgiven but reality stares us in the face and in your case the girl is pregnant! That is real and forgiveness won't get rid of the pregnancy.
Much was expected from you as a leader but you failed so you must accept what comes your way.
The worst you can do as a christian, is try to get rid of it.After all you had consented sex.
Look for a trusted couple in the church and approach them together.Let them be the ones to break the news to the pastor and advice him on the steps to take esp in your case as a leader. You must both be strong and supportive of each other cz that is what will help you bear this.
Be ready to be ostracised and spoken ill about.For sanity sake you may opt to fellowship elsewhere.
You are not bound to the girl either, because of the pregnancy.Marriage is a heavy responsibility and you ain't both ready for it.
She can have the baby as you pursue your own individual goals till life decides how it fares.
Start with the cross and then a middle party.Man up and face the consequence.That is life.

obowunmi: Why can't he be your friend? He is only interested in friendship. Don't read too much meaning into his "niceness."

I like this and I think its true.But don't allow yourself to be used as a spare tyre.
Set boundaries and define the relationship so that you both benefit out of it.
By the way,one mistake single ladies do, is telling their partners that their kids come first.Of course kids do matter, but there is the other part of your life he wants to attach himself to.His intention is not to replace the kid.Watch out next time so that you don't scare potential guys.
Be his friend.

Bring it closer home to your doorstep.

If it happened to your sister, would you advice her to keep it?
What if some gangsters got your mum pregnant and she is traumatised by it,will you embrace the lil one as sibling?
Okay suppose it happened your own precious daughter. Will you see her go through depression with the evidence manifest?

I am anti-abortion but some situations? pretty difficult to handle.

i havent read the post.but ur title is worrying

Why do people like saying 'End times anytime something out of the ordinary happens?
this is nothing!! people need to chill.

Nanying wrong in marrying from Broking home.
There are lots of broking people from stable homes.

sober balanced preachers

Joel osteen
Td jakes
Joyce meyer.

I hate too much dramatised sermons revolving around deliverance and prophesies.
Preach the word in a way that is relevant and applicable.

*dead*! omg!! my heart will stop

but no big deal.humans are also born with defects,but i know ppl will attribute it to witchcraft.

oh yeah a lot.
Ayanle opened my eyes to some stuff.One a hilarious racist.

freecocoa: OMG pendo I thought only my mum and I are like this.
I get easily shocked too that my dad had to ban my siblings from doing anything that would trigger shock even as little as walking in on me without making a sound.
Mehn mine is so bad that I even feel ashamed when I find myself in such situations sometimes.
A fly perching on me without me seeing it can make my heart literally stop for a minute.
My mum was like that too and it makes me wonder if such things can be hereditary.

I suffer too much as a result of this.My boss suddenly appeared while I was gazing out of the window and I screamed so loud the whole office heard.He was also shocked and thought I was insane.I warned him.I have made people pour coffee on themselves when they suddenly show up on my desk without me noticing.People don't believe when I warn them so they try pranks on me and they never repeat it again. I HATE it with a passion because it takes me to recover,at times I cry.
Explosions,banging sounds also shock me to tears.

What else?
-I MUST carry wet wipes around cz I hate touching public places.I have a fear of germs. >mild ocd.
-I don't function well in a disorganised/dirty environment.The disorganisation affects my mind so much I freeze. I must clean up, get everything organised and in their righful place before I get down to doing what I need to do.

some posts!!

yeah good lesson. let everybody stick to their own.
very entertaining fellow ayanle is.

very tricky.
How many ladies would abort if JZ molested them or any other famous and admired world celeb?
I am sure many would abort because the molester is a useless pathetic nobody and so the baby is viewed as such.
I can't tell.

ayanle456: I heard stories of kenyan negroid women trying to buy somali womens hair


our beutiful hair is not for sale.

see why ur crazy? No body buys somali hair because they are full of lice.You are so wrong because they don't even shave.
Trust me,no health conscious lady frequents salons where they go because their hair smells a lot and lice crawl all over the place when the buibui comes off.
They don't wash their hair daily,all they apply is smelly oil with the sweat yuck, the end result is it killing all pests within the vicinity once the buibui comes off.
Please keep your beautiful dirty hair covered always because they are an environmental hazard.

ayanle456: is someone coming out of the closet?

smh. I knew your shadow was lurking in the background.yes those in towns are healthy. anythng else?

Ask yourself this.Are you both being realistic? Will it work? Is there a future here?
Love calls for lots of sacrifice,but not all sacrifice is wise, esp if you haven't said I do.Open your minds and lay facts on the table, cz the things we ignore (dreams,goals)will not go away, but will transform into blame and finger pointing when you disagree in marriage.
You can never satisfy your partner, if you are not fully satisfied yourself.You will become a burden instead.
So my advice is go ahead and pursue your individual goals first.Let love find you doing that and in due time a direction will emerge.
Something tells me it's heading nowhere cz you labelled him as childish.

lefulefu forget about those refugees you see on media.Somali women are very fat and healthy,Wish you saw them live.

lol.I was a tough lil fighter during my growing years.I was very tiny, so I had to prove that I had muscles to be heard.
The funny thing,my DAD of all people used to encourage me not to take in bullshit.He would tell me fight for your rights don't let anyone belittle you and that I did very well .I would go home with scars and swollen parts.
How long was that? I was less than 12 yrs.

I laugh like crazy.My friends/family associate me with laughter,Intros at functions often go like 'beware of pendo cz she laughs nonstop.
Am very bad at quiet places with funny events happening. God knows how many times people have stopped to ask why I am laughing alone.

The worst bit is getting shocked easily.I can't take it when somebody suddenly appears behind me.Not during the day or night,not in the workplace or home.
My heart literally stops and I scream in shock.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]88% of NL chatters are from broken homes...so why the fakeness[/quote]lolest chima. ur funny in a crazy way

If she is not broken herself I see no big deal.

This thread revolves around abuse caused by verbal provocation.
But there are other reasons as to why a man would hit a woman, without the least provocation.
Abuse is not a one day affair.By the time one gets to hear of the physical effects,a lot of emotional abuse has taken place over a long period of time.
So when that hit comes,it's normally as a result of accumulated tension,anger and possibly revenge meaning the man/woman don't know how to resolve conflict and their only way is to hit.
What abusive men fail to realise is that women can at times be like yoyos.She will explode now and be calm the next min,so reacting to her emotional outburst and blaming her for having provoked you is pretty silly.Click ignore if you can and walk away because she will have calmed down by the time you get back.
Is she standing akimbo on the doorway? well push her aside and go,but please do not hit cz that is soo animalistic

Abuse mutates so I wouldn't stay.

By the way we are only hearing of women, what about men? Would they stay if they have an abusive Beyonce look alike?