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Atiku, that means you've got nothing to say
That means we have people as leaders who are bereft of ideas and solution, that's why we are where we are.

obiak4:
Sorry are same, Just asking because you sound like the wife sister or mother
Op if you take advice from people like this prepare for your obituary in 2weeks
If she get to have an infinitesimal idea that you have heard that recording you are dead pls believe me because from your narrative the whole family is against you,
Your best bet is get a copy of the recordings tell your family members and her family members you want to celebrate your union back if you have strong men hired to restrain her family members because They might get violence during the meeting
Play the recordings everyone would know where he stands

After playing it to all family members, then what next? Fighting, quarrelling and divorce. Thait is too childish, and such a man is not to enter marriage less so being called a man.
My job enables me to know issues about lots of marriage, and I see great marriage is actually a decision. A decision to love and stay together'. A you've got to be committed to that decision.
People in marriage have said worst things and done worst thing yet they weathered the storm of marriage. I tell you this iis a minor issue it can be easily resolved

I feel very sorry for you, but a man got to be a man
Firstly I don't know the real sickness and precise age of your daughter but one thing you must know is it is not good for a wife to have too much free time as it is a veritable devils workshop you ought to ensure she is working; open a shop for her or impregnate her so she continue baby nursing,

Now to your findings first of all copy it somewhere else like your phone and then confront her with it, play everything to her hearing, pause at intervals to ask her what you've done wrong, please don't be aggressive or angry; control your emotions. Ask her what she has to say.

Let her know it is betrayal, threaten her you will summon a family meeting of both family and see her reaction.
If or not she apologies don't tell anybody either your family or her. NEVER.. It must not come from your mouth.
But make a stand none of her family members should have your respect. They must never come to your house. Don't give reasons, don't pick or answer their calls until you see full repentance in her. which must be after like a year. .it is her family that must bear the brunt and punishment Nothing more

Don't divorce her she is your wife, folly is in the mind of a woman. I know it will definitely leave a scar in your relationship, forgive her still and try to let go, call her from work and be a good father and husband.

If indeed he knelt down, then Oshimole is indeed a brilliant and wise man
Have you ever heard of ' she stoops to conquer,
Great men knows that formula, ask OBJ. A brilliant wife also knows. She agree that the man is he head but she is the neck. And guess what, the neck turns the head

Hmm I think you have tasted her, for you to know how good sexually.
Anyway that's by the way, you caused it all, you are the bridge between your parent and her, you ought to have told her all what your parent doesn't like. So when she is coming for visit you prep her. she wears a long skirt, fully cover her head, no painting of lips,no earring., no attachment, a big bible in her bag to be conspicuously noticed,
Anyway things never spoil too much, she can start doing all this. Tell them you've changed her to deeper life even before marriage and see how they will fall for.

But wait a minute if you eventually marry her please know It is what you wanted and you live with everything

The baker didn't get surface of the female genitals correctly. How about the labia majoris?

Oshi baba should pregnate this woman before living office o!
Me I've said my own.

slyfoxxjoe:
Why don't you counter his argument with your own facts instead of screaming unintelligible nonsense like a lunatic

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onegig:
...stop making statements without fact. Poverty induced by making bad decisions based on societal pressures cuts across all nationalities and race. I guess to you the word rat race is a word coined in the SW?

The op has stated the basic fact that cultural and societal pressure is keeping most in poverty and it seems like a cycle. Just check societies with large populations world over and you would discover that they have the most level of poverty. The reason is not far fetched. Kids are huge liabilities and when you have them unplanned and without backup funds and insurance you would be wrecked financially and swim in poverty.

Any sane mind would know that if you have an income of 20k and someone gives you a G wagon that takes 50k to fuel per month, 100k per month to service and other associated unexpected expenses; you would run bankrupt before the end of 30days

The old ways of having lots of kids should be over by now as it does not give you any financial advantage in the society like in the past where they can help you in the farm and thus cut down labour costs and generate more income. Kids are very huge liabilities and if you're not buoyant enough trust me you would transfer that poverty to the next generation.

However, i slightly disagree with the opinion that young people shouldnt be encourage to get hitched. We should infact encourage them to marry but not with these our mindset of getting knocked up immediately and giving births to offspring when you aren't steady on your own. The premise of encouraging them stems from the fact of preventing them from engaging in immoral acts and the understanding that two good heads is better than one.

Wealth is created when you carve a part of your income and invest it into profitable ideals. It is easier for two people to pool resources together and make it a success than for one person to go it alone. A man who's married would definitely cut his cost in terms of feeding as it is more cheaper to cook healthy food at home than to buy unhealthy 1500 food from a retail outlet. He also has more productive time chasing other things instead of being bogged down by daily house chores as this responsibility is "SHARED" with his partner. Same way a lady who is married would not need to pay for yearly house rents, utility bills and other since she shares one with someone and these freed up funds can be used to invest in something and generate more income and thus MAY spun wealth. But the society comes in again and demands elaborate wedidings which infact most times set up the young couple to fail even before they get a chance to starting their lives.

I gave my opinion and you said I don't have facts
All this epistlle you wrote are they fact or your opinion?
The ops was trying to capture the paradox of our society in which I concur.

badohemmy:
true talk, it is serious, but wetin South West get to do wt am? @Pharmagba

This superstitious and erroneous belief is common there. I even remember my situation because I'm not married, a nurse whose mother asked my dad to look for job for her was called one day that a work is available.
The work according to my dad is to nurse his son and care for him that the blessing comes when a man is married

I have been privileged to travel round Nigeria and there is no where I her this more

This is indeed a serious matter. If you are not a Nigerian and probably from the south west you may not understand

Anytime I hear rebuttals from the senate I get this impression that they are very jittery

Why it is necessary to tie them in the suit is because they are a major beneficiary, and because of that, like for every suspect in crime there is a 'motive' , which in this case is the juicy senate president and vice seats. No other persons to my understanding benefited from the forgery.
Let it be known that this is not a case of somebody forging his own signature but it is a case of a joint account where there are more than two signatory, the signatures of all the signatory were forged and the money deposited into the account of one of them

Is it not a case of foul play.

rhyme12:
Everybody is born to be a leader, but not everybody have the spirit to be a lead

Please expand your point

ndcide:
And what if the senate president decides not to appear in court. I see these this from the angle of separation of powers and mutual respect.

Please if you know him personally, tell him not to try it o!
Eehn! Just as in the senate chamber that the senate president wields his utmost powers, in the courtroom the judge is termed LORD . In his case with CCT, Saraki must refer to small Danladi as LORD. If the president of Nigeria enters the senate he bows.
He has no option here no matter how small the judge if he doesn't want to be disgraced.

Another error by the senators.
Just hope they will not be embarrassed by the AGF. All he need to tell them in answer to any question is that 'the matter is already in court. Let the court decide.

doctokwus:
Uhmm, tell us another story.
So,after knocking without answer from her,u went down and came back with a receptionist,presumably with a spare key.U opened d door, u and d receptionist didn't bother to find out why she didn't open d door,despite your persistent knock.U then comfortably stayed on d fone for almost an hour without her moving a limb, and only felt concerned when u had finished your long call.
Again,usually,hotel door keys are left at the door mouth.
So how could u pple av been able to slot the spare key in,without forcing open d door, which wud av created a large noise and immediately got the mgt calling d police, wen she was discovered motionless, despite din.
The pastor maynot have intentionally killed d lady, but it's looking she wasn't in too good a health,sth then went down btw them both that caused the lady's death and having not been able to substantiate a murder charge,the police was sufficiently greased to fully exonerate d pastor.
But as for this his story,he should formulate another one because this one has plenty holes and gaps in it.

Good one my brother, I love the detective mind.
I agree with you on your theory, but one thing must be established in a case like this 'motive'
What could be the pastor's motive

I don't know about their training, but in Nigeria, what you see on the field cannot be envisaged in a classroom or textbook or syllabus!

We all know Tinubu, when he put a man in any position he never comes out to say it even if he his.
Check out his antecedents with all south west governors.

Permit me to say, all what he wrote are conjecture of admission of guilt and subtle plea, Hear him:

that public officer should never subvert the foundations of democracy by prioritising the rule of man over the rule of law.

that are on trial are rather the hallowed democratic principles of separation of powers,
rule of law, the legislature, and indeed democracy itself are on a ridiculous trial.

Is the whole deputy senate president relegating the judiciary to inconsequential? Is it not said this is the last hope for the common man? Now for the powerful and mighty the judiciary is ridiculous.

No condition is permanent and nothing lasts forever.
Cheap and idle threat.

It is disheartening to know that these are the people we have in the senate. Senator Ekweremadu a lawyer and a PHD holder really disappointed me. I expected a more cerebral presentation of facts and law but lo admission of guilt and whipping of sentiment.
What a shame

I think the executive have behaved matured so far. Unlike their legislative counterpart who feel they owe nobody anything moreover they feel they are accountable to no one
If I say, some cabal in the senate altered the senate rule and make Saraki the senate president, will I be right? And these cabal are still the ones holding Saraki to his seat

A document was altered without due process, and he is a major beneficiary. He should defend himself. Simple.

When you alter an election guideline without the due process, to favour yourself is that not forgery? Are you not the one threatening our democracy?

Please Saraki, the reason I want you in jail is to be able to tell my children that, CRIME DOES NOT PAY, YOU COMMIT CRIME AND GO TO JAIL. NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE.

I have no example to show them yet in this country

He normally empties people bin for them. He had to rinse them well with water

thecrush:
did u say prostrate? Are u okay?
That is extremity mehn.... whixh yoruba still dey put stomach for ground these days....

This kneeling down too much sef

You a 'proud igbo youth' -check your earlier post
You don't understand the yoruba culture. Don't try to dabble on things you don't know rather read and learn
Learn to Talk with civility on public forum

I really much doubted it. If he was begging Fayose, as a yoruba man he is more likely to prostrate.

Kneeling down shows he is likely to be compelled to do so either by zenith Bank or Fayose

I got confused by your grammer

I wish to know what the Landlord is planning to do about the pregnancy.
I also wish to know what your husband is planning for the pregnancy
Your husby acted irresponsibly.
You've been owing for a long time ? what are you still doing in the house and where do you think the money will come from?
I don't know the kind of marriage you did that is giving you the impression of I can jump out.

What to do.
If not a true marriage, you know what I mean, pull out
If you've been sleeping with the landlord pull out, for young couple that crack will stay for a long tome
If you did a church marriage, and you didn't sleep woth the landlord, give him some space

Well done ops
Arguably the best write up I have read on this issue. Well chronicled and insightful.
My takeaway and food for thought for all of us
1-they want to be pension mates with the head of the executive heads and judiciary
2-they hypothesis that the strength of ‘the institution’ of the Nigerian legislature is a function of the payment of pension
3- that they would be doing us a favour by accepting that token

Conclusion, I beg to submit that our senators are morally bankrupt and corrupt.

When gray hair lawyers fights
Who will settle the matter

frankgreat:
My father's fault...He should stop given me money let me generate my own money and give him 10 percent..."federalism"

Ok for now the family tradition is that the father must be dishing out money.
Until the elders and wisemen in the family sit down to say otherwise.
Nevertheless despite he is giving you money, he is not stoping you in anyway from making money for yourself