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Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 4:29pm On Jun 12, 2024
daveP:
We are stuck with him until u20 or u17 produce one better kid. For those saying make those one graduate small small, they don forget say na emergency situation be this. The 2019 midfield will all soon be gone.

Etebo
Ndidi loading
Iwobi one day

So which 3 go take over?
Eletu?
Hassan
Onyeka and Onyedika?
Anybody else?
Ebenezer Akinsanmiro u forgot
Tochukwu nnadi
Daniel daga
There is one foreign born in Aston villa ask komekn about that.
Yeah there is samson tijani
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 6:51pm On Jun 11, 2024
One problem we have is that we waste our friendlies.
We should use fring players like samson tijani, taminu, ismaila sodiq, olawoyin in friendlies to find out how good or bad they are. Instead, we use our full squad for our friendlies.
This is the major problem. Have a midfield of samson tijani, nwakali and Raohael onyedika an attack of arokodare olakunle olusegub (u17 guy from russia) and yira sor in a friendly. Let them play for 90 minutes and see what happens. In that way we can discover new talents and if a player is not good enough we will know.
OK in our next friendly let us try ebenezer akinsanmiro and victor eletu to see what they can do.
If we claim our experienced players are not serious then the best way to replace them is in a friendly not when it is 10 minutes to go , ieobi and osimhrn are playing nonsense and it seems nobody can do anything from the bench.Friendlies are important I. Order to see who is good who needs time and who is outright horrible.
WE SHOULD STOP WASTING OUR FRIENDLIES!!!!.
NOW I DONT Wnt Any nwakali debate.
GOOD PLAYERS ARE DISCOVERED IN FRIENDLIES NOT IN DESPERATE CIRCUMSTANCES
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 6:16pm On Jun 11, 2024
komekn:
Well this is what I like to hear, I am in complete agreement with your expectations. Success is built over the long term not the short term.

The English FA decided over a decade ago that the players being introduced into professional football ⚽. Through the academy systems were simply outdated, technically inept, lacking skill and creativity. Essentially kick 🦵🏿 and rush was obsolete.

As a consequence the English football academy needed to produce players who can play top level technical football and have the athletic ability to compete with players anywhere in the world 🌍

The whole youth training programme was changed and great emphasis placed on technical proficiency skill and athleticism.

Arsene Wenger once said if you don't have technical skill at 14 it's almost impossible to develop after that age.

What I am saying maybe the problem is much deeper, our football development has regressed very badly unfortunately. For how long have we been waiting for the next Jjay ,Finidi, Olise, etc
Stuff is Nigerian football had a coaching problem. From my observation the average Nigerian coach lacks knowledge of basic things in modern football.
Coaching is fundamental to football as teaching is to education. We don't coaching seriously.
Most Nigerian players are badly coached from their youth that's all. We need a coaching revolution.
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 1:05am On Jun 11, 2024
When I said our attack needed ighalos finishing someone here called me foolish. Now you can see what your other strikers can do. OK now
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 10:02am On Jun 09, 2024
Kog45:
It took Ighalo few years before he started delivering for eagles and really impressed during Afcon 2019 but the same Ighalo missed that chance against Argentina.
That's the point. He has learnt and grown and is ready made. It may take some of these young strikers time but ighali is ready now. I mean we have a mat h tomorrow.
20 minutes to go and we need to score against Benin, ifhalo will Bury it. That few years it took him is the experience he gained. He has the experience and we need him now
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 6:11am On Jun 09, 2024
Just a reminder.
We need ighaLos finishing in our attack.
Those chances moffi and Co misses ighalo will putnit away.
He may not be the best attacker but he is our best finisher
We should get him un the team now.
He has the experience and confidence to convert chances.
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 3:55am On Jun 08, 2024
dijon:
"Allow you do your job" has cost you a win in your first real official match. This mentality will not take him far in SE.

You dumped a very top player in Boniface that is ability is not in doubt on the bench and started a Onuachu that fans have never liked his football with SE and you have the temerity to tell fans to Allow you do your job. Nigeria coaches and that statement is like 5 and 6.

You started kelechi that is terribly off form...I can't remember if Kelechi has played upto 4 matches this year 2024 with Leicester City.

You took Tanimunu to play central defence, and Bassey to play left back so as to please your bosses that want to sell players and when it boomerang on you, you switched Tanminu ro right back, Osayi to left back and turned SA to prime Brazil in the first half.

Finidi is not the manager that will qualify SE to the world cup. Directionless NFF should relive him now before it's too late...too many elementary decision making in playing selection and formation.

I predicted maximum 2 point in the two matches because of all what I have seen and observe from the end of Afcon mid February to the 30th of April 2024.

SE will not beat Benin with Finidi in charge...he does not have it all...too inexperienced. He is already cracking.
The surprising thing is that he has been with that team for 2 years yet he does not know how to use his players.
Finidi is simply horrible. If it was a new coach one will understand he has not known his players but he is not new. He needs to up his game or he may be fired.
If he does not win against Benin he may be fired. Most of these usa 94 generation are not good in coaching. Only siasia, eguavon and ammunika are ok among them.
Why not call igbo ogbu and jamilu collins to beef up the defence.
I'm not watching our next match. I don't care anymore. I'm tired
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 10:01pm On Jun 07, 2024
Odunayaw:
Finidi gets a B rating for this game

Only up from here
Finidi should be sacked today. The man is a load of rubbish.
With Finidi as coach we will not win against Benin. Sack him before tomorrow morning.
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 5:58pm On Jun 07, 2024
We are winning g the match 40
And we will beat brnin two nil.
BY the grace of God we will qualify for the world cup
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 4:32pm On Jun 05, 2024
7demons:
That is my wish bro, but considering the fact that this is a high profile match and th SAn's are not coming here to play but for revenge and break the jinx, they will surely give it all.
Remember also your team key players are down with injuries coupled with the shabby selections of Finidi.
Ibrahim olawoyin, dele Bashir, iheanacho, visitor bonifae etc are good to go not to mention moffi and ademola lookman.
We have the forwards, also olawoyin and dele Bashir can play in midfield
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 3:18pm On Jun 05, 2024
7demons:
Our game against SA & Benin might end in draw. That of SA I'm sure.
Thus sayers the Lord the Holy one of Israel, we shall defeat South Africa and Benin and qualify for the world cup.
I wanted to hesitate when the Universe told me to write it. I pray sometimes and God hears me Amen
Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Philosopher1979: 10:46pm On Jun 02, 2024
Agelastus:
This is not just a movie. Brian Banks was a real life character. Dude's life got ruined by a false rape allegation.
You should google search and read up his story.
As a guy have you ever had sex with a low class girl and regretted it. Like having sex with a street hawker and feeling disappointed with yourself. Well, it also happens with girls. If they make a mistake and sex a guy they normally won't eg maybe a university graduate has a fling with a bus conductor. If the lady regrets it, she will lie she was raped just not to feel bad about her mistake.
The gender can lie about rape if they just get down with the wrong person in a careless way. That's oart of the reason for false rape accusations.
This gender can be silly
Romance › Re: As A Married Woman, I'm Tired Of Sleeping With Different Men by Philosopher1979: 8:16pm On Jun 02, 2024
tomdon:
According to the law of who??
This is a question for social scientists.
The patraichy and marriage actually evolved to control and curb female sexuality. Also it evolved to create a patriarchal society. I mean if acwoman has sex with 3 men who is the mother of the child.
Actually the human female is very promiscuous and in the ancient past the patraichy evolved things like female circumcision, marriage, social shamming structures etc to curb female sexuality.
Society cannot really survive if women get too liberal with their sexuality.
Our forefathers cannot conquer nations, invent agriculture etc only to father another man's child.
Marriage is needed to keep society in harmony and so female sexuneeds to be curbed.
Ancient men realised this but in modern society we think we are wiser.
Also, most of themes sexual liberalists views are somewhat rooted in atheism. If you are not an atheist you will realize that Marrwas invented by God.
We talk about all this in the nairaland redpill movement which people croticize
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 1:39am On Jun 02, 2024
Philosopher1979:
Yeah u are right. Westerhoof noticed it decades ago but we didn't get what he was trying to tell us. Hang we just need a coach who understands us that's all.
Even finidi might go far if he can be tactically sound.
To solve this administrative issue, maybe we can get emmanalo the former chelsea guy to assume an administrative capacity in our football. Maybe be in charge of our league. Someone should reach out to him.
We are one good administrator and coach away from winning the world cup. We just have administrative issues. OK France won the world cup with a lot of black African players.
We blacks are very talented but raw. Then we should take coach seriously. Africans play with raw talent without any input from coaches. The way osimhen does not keep himself onside makes me wonder if the coaches in his academy taught him basic things.
Again don't let us waste this human resource called emmenalo. I'm surpwe are not trying to harness his administrative skills. It's foolish of us
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 1:37am On Jun 02, 2024
Napoleon55:
What do u mean by facilities and tactics?
The Europeans are far more advanced and tactical than than South Americans yet it is Brazil that has won world cup the more.

And do u really think we can never get it right one day?
All it takes is to have one competent FA chairman who would do the right things and employ a decent coach.
Without quality talents,ur tactics will amount to nothing.
Nigeria is blessed enough to produce quality talents to rule the world,leadership is our problem, and that can change at any time.

Super eagles as team has defeated a world class team like Spain even with a wack coach like Bora Milutinovic,
what do u think they would do with a world class coach?
Yeah u are right. Westerhoof noticed it decades ago but we didn't get what he was trying to tell us. Hang we just need a coach who understands us that's all.
Even finidi might go far if he can be tactically sound.
To solve this administrative issue, maybe we can get emmanalo the former chelsea guy to assume an administrative capacity in our football. Maybe be in charge of our league. Someone should reach out to him.
We are one good administrator and coach away from winning the world cup. We just have administrative issues. OK France won the world cup with a lot of black African players.
We blacks are very talented but raw. Then we should take coach seriously. Africans play with raw talent without any input from coaches. The way osimhen does not keep himself onside makes me wonder if the coaches in his academy taught him basic things.
Again don't let us waste this human resource called emmenalo. I'm surpwe are not trying to harness his administrative skills. It's foolish of us
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 10:26am On May 31, 2024
komekn:
KC has just had a season to forget he was supposed to tear the championship apart but rather he got torn apart and whipped in the Championship.

He is not in form should not even be in the team.

Striking technique and has scored 5 goals from 23 games in the Championship.

They should find a NPFL player to come in, it seems Aribo is not in the team so where is the creativity and invention in midfield going to come from. It seems all creativity and invention will rest on Iwobi 😳

SA forget the players are a very good team with outstanding cohesion and team understanding they are technically good if we underestimate them we will cry 😭
Aribo cannot create anything from midfield. He is at best a forward. He is just there. It's either he plays as a forward or he is dropped from the team
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 8:36pm On May 30, 2024
lbrichman2:
So many big jobs were available and no one seemed to want Mourinho..
Na wa o
Na Guardiola boys full everywhere
Even Wayne Rooney got a job before Mourinho!!
Strange..
Maurinho does not make a player or team better. He just wins.
He does not change football at a fundamental level. His does not 8mprove a players tactical intelligence or technique. His players are like robots just following instructions to win.
Guardiola on the other hand makes a player intelligent and actually improves a team. Guardiola is not just winning trophies he is revolutionising football. Introducing new and innovative ideas like the inverted fullback.
Anybody can park the bus like maurinho but Guardiola view if football is more expansive and varied and intelligent.
Guardiola is a footballing institution and not just a medal winner.
Some coaches are popular not just because they win tropbut because they introduce innovations. If Guardiola does not win trophies he will still be respected for his innovations. Guardiolas vision of football goes beyond the simplistic need to win trophies. He is a visionary and innovator and he is re inagining football
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 3:27am On May 29, 2024
TheSuperNerd:
From this team so far judging by their Wafu B performances, I would have to say Forward, Abdulmuiz Adeleke (#13) and Midfielder Simon Cletus (#10) are sure standouts. Not exactly Iheanacho/Nwakali/Osimhen/Yahaya-kinda standouts but those two truly are the top talents of this team so far.

Another interesting lad is Rapha Adams.
1 . Where are ebenezer akinsanmiro and victor eletu playing next season
2. What's the latest on ifeoluwa olowoporoku the u17 midfield kid
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 5:41pm On May 28, 2024
Goal equaliser. Nigeria equalises
Goal winn8ng Goal
3 2 to nigeria
Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Philosopher1979: 4:34pm On May 28, 2024
JESHAL007:
Chai
Only date, toast in fact befriend girls that appreciate you.
Look even your female friends that you don't s3x should at least appreciate you as a person and value your company.
Only try to seduce a lady that is at least friendly with you. Don't spend on someone who doesn't care about you. She us somewhat right. It's like the guy has been rejected and needs her validation. It's like low self esteem.
Women are human beings like you and me stop pedastlizing them.
Embrace the love of your family members, your friends and ladies that appreciate your company and type of person. Such a lady will even be the one to ask you for srx cause she likess you.
If you call a lady for a month and she does not reply delete her number.
You are a unique creation of the universe and a gift to your generation. You have unique talents that will help the world. Appreciate yourself first.
Develop your talents and personality and self confidence then girls that appreciate you will come your way.
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 9:57am On May 25, 2024
Truidstarr:
Of the top of your head… name just one NPFL player in the past 8 years that has gone on to play for SE and established himself in a top 7 league in Europe. It’s a waste of space.
Ibrahim olawoyin in Turkish league. At least it is a top 15 league in europe
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 3:20pm On May 23, 2024
Marjoribanks:
This your write up validate my point. You don't watch Milan!
I'm not a chukwueze fan but in the last 10 matches of the season he has improved.
He even had a match in which two goals were disallowed. He had an assist against inter milan but s5ats won't show it.
He floated a cross into the box 18 which lead to a headed pass the other person converted. His crossing did all the damage.
He is actually playing well l. Chukwueze on his day can look like some orld class freak.
For example in a 3 1 win over lecce, he created a 5 chances and had an assist. That was in April at the end of the season

More to come next season
Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Philosopher1979: 9:03pm On May 18, 2024
jayAjoku:
if you want to hurt a Nigerian man just fûck his wife , girlfriend or sister I promise you ,
you will drive a lot of them insane , especially their girlfriends. Nigerian men value sex more than the women they say they love. A large number of Nigerian men have low self esteem and no game. A lot of them don’t even know how to identify a woman that’s really into them. A lot of them don’t know how to maintain a relationship without money. It’s sad but I’ll be putting in the work to Fûck their girlfriends and wives on my free time
This because most of us in nigeria were not taught how to attract women by anybody around us. The only thing we are told is have money and dress well in order to attract women. The strategy is too simplistic to really work.
But on your part try and teach men game but the stuff is most nigerian men don't believe in game. It's just money. Maybe our upbringing or culture. I mean maybe our traditional culture believes in match making from childhood in that society chooses your spouse for you based on family connections so you marry a girl because your father knows her father. We are generally not romantic. I mean it's the white man that taught us how to kiss
Family › Re: 10 Years Of Marriage And 2 Kids, Wife Divorces Hubby Who Was A Dependant by Philosopher1979: 7:39pm On May 18, 2024
franchasofficia:
Western countries are no longer an ideal human habitat. They have distorted natural orders in their quest to make everything equal and to grant absolute freedom to all, which was not how nature built the world.


You can see this in how the West have endorsed men changing their gender to female or female changing their gender to male. You can also see how they have started the process or erasing gender identity so that humans will become genderless. These are artificial distortion introduced by extreme civilisation being practiced by the west and championed by the United State of America. They are not the ideal situations of life as built by nature.


The increased rate of divorce in the west and the gradual dislike for marriage and preference for gay practice and single motherhood known as babymama are all artificially induced by the West in a desperate effort to make things equal and flat which encourages more women to divorce their rich husbands in order to get more benefits and enjoy a single life away from any man's control. If the west didn't enact such bias divorce law in a bid to protect women, women wouldn't have ended up abusing it and in the process discourage younger male generation from getting married
I got it at last. It is the illuminati agenda
They wanted to perform such experiments on micheal jackson and that was what he was fighting against. They wanted to use him to spread their gender less and anti nature ideology but he was fighting back. Remember jackson was from a Christian african American family that believed in God and the natural kaws if the universe
Sports › Re: "The Super Eagles Thread: The Road To AFCON 2027, 2028 And 2030 World Cup by Philosopher1979: 6:21pm On May 17, 2024
Marjoribanks:
Without Osimhen we are not beating both SA and Benin!
If that us the case then we have horrible coaches who know nothing about tactics. What is terem moffi, dessert akpom etc doing.
A good coach always has plan b. So also
If iwobi is injured no midfield abu.
What of dele Bashir, ilawoyin etc
Something is wrong with our coaches
Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Philosopher1979: 11:13am On May 17, 2024
Philosopher1979:
Paternity fraud will expose all that nonsense. Honestly there is something wrong with this gender on a general level. I sometimes I don't blame bad boys for maltreatingbthem. They seem superficial, childish, selfish and average.
They deserved the bad boy that maltreatment them as they can be narcissistic
Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Philosopher1979: 11:10am On May 17, 2024
Smartb0y:
Bro the game is way deeper than that.

Women want both security and fun.

They always want to eat their cake and have it.

Not many men fall into the niche of having both the good and bad characteristics.
It's mostly either one or the other.

So women being women will always crave that bad guy once she's settled down.

Understand that most married women are bored and miserable. That's why they cheat alot.

You don't hear news about married women as much as men cuz they're supposed to be responsible in marriage else they lose their security/comfort.

She might secretly crave that bad young broke guy for fun because she already has security.

She doesn't need security from the broke guy just fun.

No man wants a slut for a wife,no man ever wants to share the Pvssy,hence why women hide and do their shit codedly else it's back to square one.

There's nothing a woman does that's not beneficial to her.
Paternity fraud will expose all that nonsense. Honestly there is something wrong with this gender on a general level. I sometimes I don't blame bad boys for maltreatingbthem. They seem superficial, childish, selfish and average.
They've served the bad boy that maltreatment them as they can be narcissistic
Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Philosopher1979: 12:35am On May 17, 2024
Uptheante:
This seems entirely true on paper, but in reality, women also Bleep those considered to be below them in status.
For example, a rich man's wife bleeping her gateman or driver, without her husband's notice.
Meanwhile, the rich husband with high status may be denied sex by her or he gets it from her reluctantly

I don't know if this picture I've painted invalidates or makes your assertion not to be entirely true.

Can you pls explain why this scenario happen?
The idea that high class women can't marry low is overrated. It depends on how low and it also depends on many factors.
A high class woman approaching menopause can marry low. Then poverty depends on entrepreneurial ability and intelligence not just inherited wealth.
A man who is intelligent and good in business can marry a high class woman and turn 5 million to 50 million naira. Eg I have a book that publishers are interested in. In fact they are thinking of making it into a movie. If I get a rich girl that puts money into it, it can make millions and then why not marry me. Ideas create lasting wealth.
The founder of Mercedes benz was intelligent but poor but his wife bought into his invention and created lasting wealth with Mercedes benz.
Wealth us created with the brain and not just inherited money alone.
There is looks hypergamy, intelll8gence hypergamy even penis hypergamy.
Things aren't this simple. Rich ladies too need sex and emotional connection.
In fact a rich lazy girl just has to marry a poor but Hardworking man and use his brain to make money and not work anymore
Real life is not this simplistic. Mohammed the prophet of Islam married a rich widow when she was 25.
Women and men are human beings with emotions and intelligence. Just relate well with women and everything will be fine
Don't u just get it. Intelligence creates wealth not money alone. I think mko abiola first wife was from a well to do family while he was poor.
Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Philosopher1979: 7:33pm On May 14, 2024
olamoses75:
In all you do, don't be this guy.
From redpill tutorials

1. She does not love him and is only marrying him for his money. Money is the only reaso why she is with him
2. She has another man somewhere that is sexing her.
3. If she marries him she will commit paternity fraud and still be sleeping with the man she really loves.
3. The red pill is a life saver and an emancipator
4. Women sometimes marry for financial security and not for love and it is dangerous.
5. He should lie to her that he does not have any money again and see what she does again
Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Philosopher1979: 8:24pm On May 12, 2024
olamoses75:
As a man, always be ahead of your game with a woman.


Back in 1994, Gabriel met Christina at a party and they really hit it off. They ended up getting married even though she was 30 years younger than him. They were happily married for 20 years.

However, Christina eventually decided that she wanted to get a divorce. But when she went to her lawyer, she was shocked to hear she was already divorced from Gabriel 20 years ago.

And this is because 4 months after their marriage, the couple went to Dominican Republic for a vacation and Gabriel divorced her there because that's the only country where one party can file for a divorce without informing the other party.

He said he did this because he knew one day Christina would divorce him and try to take his money. Who be fool?
There is something wrong with that gender.
Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Philosopher1979: 3:29pm On May 12, 2024
This is from the horses mouth. I mean a woman said this about simps.
Let me add. Its easy for a simp to rape a lady because they spend so much money and effort. Imagine a guy who sends a girl he barely knows 500,000 naira. The girl asks for more and after spending close to a million naira the girl comes to his house but says she doesn't want srx as she us not yet hus girlfriend. He could get angry and rape her.
So simping could lead to rape accusations. Putting so much money and effort into a woman leads to desperation anger and confusion.


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Decoding Whether He’s Simping or Sincerely Pursuing You
Despite their similarities, being pursued and being simped for couldn’t be more different.
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We’ll be honest: We, as women, really enjoy being pursued. We like knowing that the guy we’ve had our eye on is interested. We love feeling like the object of someone’s affection. We enjoy the thought of him deciding to ask us out, planning a romantic date, and opening a door for us. More than anything, we like to be pursued because it lets us know that we’re special, chosen, and sought after.

But maybe you’ve experienced a guy who was a little too eager to get on our radar, a bit on the desperate side for even a modicum of attention from us, to the point where it was a turn-off. There’s quite a fine line between being wooed and being groveled for — a world of difference between being chased after and being begged for.

After all, we all want a guy who’s willing to pursue us, charm us, and win us over, but a simp? That’s not for us. Hang on, what even is a simp?

What Is a Simp?
Simply put, a simp is a person who goes way above and beyond to impress, flatter, and placate someone they like, practically treating them like royalty. However, this treatment is one-sided, unreciprocated by their crush. When a guy is simping for a girl, he might shower her with compliments, buy her random gifts, send sweet texts, pay for her meals, bend over backward to impress her, or remain too available to her.

But wait… Some of that sounds like…normal flirting. So what’s the difference between a guy who’s pursuing you and a guy who’s simping for you?

He’ll Leave a Little to Your Imagination
A guy who’s simping for a girl will give her the complete boyfriend treatment, all without getting any sign of interest, commitment, or reciprocation from her. She won’t ever have to wonder what it’d be like to have him as her boyfriend because he’s already acting like it.

A guy who’s pursuing you will leave you wanting more attention, the kind he only offers to his girlfriend.

But when a guy is simply pursuing you, he’ll want to leave a little bit to your imagination. He’ll show you affection and give you special treatment, but he’ll withhold just enough that you’ll be left wanting more attention from him — attention that he only offers to someone he’s officially dating.

He Won’t Be Afraid of Boundaries
The number one sign of a guy who’s simping is his lack of boundaries. If the object of his affection tells him to jump, he’ll ask how high. There’s nothing he won’t do to be in her good graces, even if everyone else around him is discouraging his behavior or he’s borderline embarrassing himself or she’s openly dating other guys. There is essentially nothing she could do wrong in his eyes.

But for a guy who’s pursuing you? Of course, being in your good graces is also a priority of his, but not at the sake of his boundaries, dignity, and self-respect. He might go out of his way to surprise you with your favorite iced coffee or always make sure to send a cute “good morning” text, but he won’t let someone walk all over him. And you’ll be capable of doing something wrong in his eyes (which, by the way, is the sign of a healthy guy).

He’ll Let You Hit the Ball Back
A guy who’s simping for a girl will be in a completely one-sided relationship, giving her all the affection, attention, and adoration he can muster, thinking this will get her to finally realize that it’s been him all along. But he’ll do all of this without even waiting for her to show interest back or give him a reason to show her this kind of treatment.

A huge part of the courting process is like a dance, with one person making a move, and the other moving in kind. When a guy is chasing with you, he’ll be waiting for you to hit the ball back — to be the one to text first sometimes, or to initiate a hand-hold, or to offer him evidence that his efforts aren’t in vain.

He’ll Want To Be Impressed Too
A simping guy will go above and beyond to impress the girl he’s hoping to win over. He’ll constantly be talking himself up, making his job sound more important than it is, or dress to the high nines just for her. He’ll do all of this without ever wanting to be impressed himself.

A guy who’s pursuing you will want to know that you’re a catch as well.

But when it comes to dating, guys aren’t the only ones who should impress, and a guy who’s simply pursuing you will know that. He’ll obviously talk his best game on the first few dates, wanting to set himself apart from any other guys who might want your attention. But he’ll be waiting for you to impress him, too — to tell him about your aspirations, lifestyle, job, or anything else. He’ll want to know that you’re a catch as well.

He Won’t Feel Entitled To Anything
Perhaps the worst part of a simping guy is that underneath all of the compliments, the free meals, the friendship, and the hangouts, he’ll feel entitled to more from his crush, even if she’s never shown any signs of interest. He’ll secretly believe that if he jumps through enough hoops, she’ll have to date him eventually. Every “kind” act of his comes with an ulterior motive.

Obviously, if a guy is pursuing you, he’s hoping the relationship will grow into something more. The difference is that because his pursuit isn’t totally one-sided, he won’t feel entitled to commitment or intimacy — he’s simply exploring whether a relationship between the two of you is in the cards. The motive behind his kindness is to see where the relationship can go, not to build up brownie points that he’ll one day use against you.

While simping and pursuing can have some overlap, they ultimately couldn’t be more different in how they’re executed, how they come across, and their intentions.

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Romance › Re: Reality Every Guy Need To Know ( STRICTLY REDPILL) ... by Philosopher1979: 2:43pm On May 12, 2024
Karlifate:
Dear [young] men,

Displaying physiological effort when speaking to woman turns her off...

It makes you look “try hard”

The key is to exert an IDGAF mentality.


You aren’t afraid to offend her, get sexual, and display authority over her.

This is what lotsa men fail to do.



In summary: Put yourself on the pedestal, not her. 👌
U see if you discover your purpose, destiny and talent in life you won't simp for any girl. Great men live for their dreams and not pussy.
If you understand how unique you are you won't put any lady or person on a pedestal in the first place.
Zuckerberg invented Facebook, Newton discover gravity, Bill Gates became the world richest man, victor osimhen great footballer.
If you ate pursuing your passion and you feel important women will look like feaces shit to you. In fact you will be so arrogant that they will complain that you are proud. Imagine working on a cure for cancer and a girl is wasting your time. If you understand your destiny you might slap her. I n fact, you are doi g her a favour by Bern around her for sex or anything. Time is precious men.
It's not only about sex but saying what is on your mind. Just say whatever.
I like philosophy and I can tell any woman around me that the universe is vibrating without caring if she likes it or not. She us not the queen of England or sime goddess.

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