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jp philips: I was almost lost reading his post, how can you wish to get rich just to impress women or probably improve on the status of the kinda women you roll with? i don't get.
what about the luxuries of life? what about being in a position of respect and regard, what about the praise singing (from people you help and their prayers), sycophants.
I don't need to change my girlfriend because i made money, but i sure enjoy the attention money brings.
[b]lol, I just like it when men who are older than you call you "chairman" [/b]and shake you with both hands, now, that feels like heaven to me.

What of Area Fada, Baba ke, Alaye, Go on soun, Nothing Spoil,

[quote author=Nonso23]I don't have the the power (mobile) to type elaborate arguments now but DailyNews; read your initial posts and your recent posts. I believe it is obvious (even to you) [b]that you have -though subtlely but steadily- shifted ground.[/[/b]quote]

GBAM..now from money he is talking of comportment

Stop crapping dude


what i read from what youve written initially and even with your exchange with the High Priest is not about carriage and comportment.
Ogugua now making it about comportment and all is really backtracking from her initial post after seeing she may have made an epic fail endorsing your initial post

Why shd a chic date a homeless guy

Even poor folks know to clean up before they woo a lady

You were focussed on the money... that is transient
Money that a medical problem can wipe off in an instant



Your post was: IF YOU DONT HAVE THE MONEY FOR THE BABE, GET THE MONEY TO GET THE BABE
i GET MY MONEY FOR ME; NOT FOR SOME BABE

DailyNews: BEAUTIFUL!!! Ogugua you are intelligent! This is exactly what I was trying to advice guys- be what u would like to get and stop trying to cut corners.

How would u feel as a guy, u dressed up so fine, wore your best outfit, best wrist, and may put on some designers perf...and while strolling down the road feeling fly, one ugly, unkempt girl from nowhere just ran up to you and said: hello brother, I just saw you and fell in love with you, can u pls give me a chance to be your girlfriend, your love, and your everything

Guys, pls let's try and be realistic...life is unfair I know....but let's try....all hope isn't lost okay?

@idowuogbo

ID Noble, you are needed here ..
https://www.nairaland.com/1522558/tehns-2nd-annual-end-year

in addition is it possible for your wife to trnsfer to a branch close to home
Less glamourous but she will be closer to home

nice one....

we are all innocent

blog tinz

Royal Roy: She did reply me this morning.

She is owkay and fine.

nice one

CC yii sha .. you sef dey yab person strongly with style..

CFCfan: The Mods put a separate thread for the Portugal v Sweden game last week, so I decided to create this separate one as well.
Don't worry, the WC Draws thread is still alive.

no wahala

kimco: kora from avatar season two

haaa.. someoone that cant blood bend

abegii... i gave sennin naruto top spot

bleachigo will beat normal naruto

@bluu

can you tell us more about your bf/fiance

What else can you tell us about him
Aside the threats of some measure of violence if sex is deprived.. has he made other threats
Is he invested in your life

There has to be more

Anger vs Abuse - the dichotomy is back ...

Just something i saw online
Some links

http://cliniciansjournal..com/2005/11/anger-mgmt-vs-partner-abuse_22.html

http://www.robynsnest.com/abuse2.htm

Many people confuse the difference between anger and abuse. It's an important distinction for anyone wishing to address problem behaviors in either area.

Anger is an emotion, usually layered on top of other emotions and often resulting from a fear or threat. Although it often gets a bad rap, anger is a normal human emotion that everyone experiences and is actually healthy.

Trying to avoid anger altogether usually just leads to "bottling" emotions that eventually explode.

Effective anger management focuses on identifying and understanding the emotions underlying the anger, processing those emotions, and getting the majority of one's emotional needs met in a way that is constructive, rather than destructive, to either the person experiencing them or others.

Abuse is a behavior that is often associated with anger, but is actually rooted in the desire to gain power and control, rather than an anger management problem.

Most people who are abusive to others -- whether the abuse takes the form of physical, emotional, sexual aggression (or all of the above) -- are actually acting with a great deal of control, rather than being out of control. They may believe their gender, status, race or belief system entitles them to more power than the other person or group of people. Or they may feel such a lack of power and control on a personal level that they try to compensate by stealing someone else's power and control.

People who are abusive usually behave this way only to people who fit into certain categories - for example, intimate partners, children, people of different races, religions or sexual orientations. These are categories of people who generally have less power, either in the home or in society, than they do, and so their abusive behavior is either condoned, ignored, or has minimal consequences. They may genuinely be angry at these people, but they are choosing to act on their anger through abusive tactics, whereas they are able to "manage" their anger toward people who they perceive as having equal or greater status or when there will be serious consequences to their behavior.

I believe that most people who have a genuine desire and motivation to change their behavior can do so. However it is important that they first be able to distinguish between their anger and other emotions, abusive behavior, and non-abusive methods of conflict resolution.

http://www.robynsnest.com/abuse2.htm

why did u create a dedicated thread
I thought we had a general thread for the play offs

who is the chic under ichigo

Well done tehn.....

Idowuogbo......where u dey oooooooo

Your people need you

Jmain: Good morning bruv, so your just waking up today . . . .

Yes oooooo....

We have to separate envy-driven words from abuse

Watch n observe

Let him know you cant accept such forceful words

Observe

I hope all is well wit her

ohhh.. bargaining chip


kalu d schemer

damn this klaus baby mama fit fight ooo

nice moves

showdown davina vs klaus - haba he did not have to kill tim naaa

alutacontinua: Her friend is not picking up, wld try calling her later in the day!

Nice one.....
Hope all is well wit her

Hi,, how is chenylove

alutacontinua: I am begging all of una, pls, pls and pls, let's not insult this babe and send her into a shell again.
Let's just pretend not to know that she's a lil bit on the 'not-too-smart' side and focus on how to help her!
The truth remains that it's not easy to end a relationship by mere posts on the internet. It'll take a lot of push to do that, so, once again, let's all make that our common goal, at least for now!


THANKS!

Word!

Have you heard from kenya

lol... you will be surprised the so called foreign charities are no better

Read up on the Haiti Earthquake charity issues

Or Susan KOmen foundation that spends so much money on awareness (everyone is already aware) and little on cancer research which is the meat

buchibabe: I dnt trust naija charities. I rada give it to charitiesa abroad dat know what it is for pple to be in need,take care of dem, and channEl d resources effectively to doise who need it.
MoSt naija NGO or charities are fraudsters ,who even collect frm d poor instead of giving dem

Really tragic though this is hard to fathom

Abusers can only hide their true nature in very few circumstances however this is not a forum to diissect the underlying causes but rather move forward

For now let her stay in her parents place and start getting her life (career, education etc) back on track
By virtue of abandonment the marriage can be dissolved
Consult a lawyer

tojos: She wouldn't have known since the guy appeared to be a nice fellow. Little did we know that he would turn out to be like this.

hmm... good points

Frankly i wish she can releaese that 'evidence' if she really has it

Her rep has been really damaged so she has to go the whole hog

coogar: ese that cannot even afford 3 square meals? hahahahaha - stop the jokes. who did adam oshiomole sue when his picture was splashed on the tabloids?

biko - this is nigeria!

Adams.... i heard hes in cahoots with one of the Big Brother contestants

In this I agree 100%.. This is Naija

me sef i trip oo

My peeps around me cannot fathom

If e show, na God do am...

Guess they are still traditional folks

Tgirl4real: I was shocked myself after I got married hearing married people talk about it like it's no biggie.

We had such a thread here where the hubby said their baby is yet to be 1 or just 1 and the wifey had aborted 3x cos they didn't want another baby yet. Lol

hahahahaha....

I am only particular on this.. if the allegations are true

Fato has lost his calling to be preaching and should restitute

coogar: he does not need such.
ese wants the attention - feeding her would let her achieve her primary objective. pastor biodun's golden silence must have hurt ese & this is why she's screaming like a rhesus monkey again & making fresh claims against another married man.

pastor biodun's reputation took a dent? last thing i heard was increase in the number of his congregation. he's not been kicked out of PFN and things are generally ticking for the pastor & his family. he's left ese walters for God to deal with.

If the incident did not happen and I happen to be an upstanding member of society like a pastor or a politician, i will throw the book at her
Her family will not finish paying the libel damages

The lull or stalemate is really as a result of our naija mentality where everything goes
In other climes where your name is key, sue first and find out later

See what happened in the tabloid that published Willn Kates pic in Europe, the french tabloid was ready to pay


Remi T/Mama Jonah may not respond to you because it may be true

dayokanu: So if you were, An unstable attention seeking girl comes to say she slept with you. E.g Kemi Olunloyo or Cossy Orjiakor and you have some reputation to protect, would you go and confront her?

Assuming I go online and start shouting how I slept with Remi Tinubu and Patience Jonathan do you think they would respond to me?

ok...

i think his reputation took a hit so he should get it back by throwing the book at her

He should make her pay if she is guilty

coogar: why dignify a career pröstitute with such attention? take her to a civil court & give her the attention she desperately craves? come on - the best way to put a pröstitute in her place is silence.



then let ese provide the evidence....
the onus is on her to prove pastor biodun is guilty. she's claimed she has got the evidence - why then is she withholding it? it's been 3 months. at least, monica lewinsky provided a blouse stained with bill clinton's sëmen. where is ese walter's compelling evidence?

Are you saying she did she not know he was an abuser prior to the union

tojos: My sister is someone of a decent character and not the type that fights or lashes at anyone. She admitted to walking away from him whenever he starts insulting her and our family, and that tends to infuriate him the more because he felt disrespected by that.