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Odunayomi247:
he's not better than Arnold, but Arnold is sure not better than him

Arnold is the best RB in the world.


Wan bissaka will forever sit on the bench for emgland as long as Arnold is alive.

MrBrownJay1:
such woman will therefore ask:"can you care about me" and certainly not " can you take care of me"
thats the whole difference, and women know it... you dont "TAKE CARE" of someone emotionally, you CARE for them emotionally.

Please can you help us understand the difference between the two?

MrBrownJay1:
this is just me... i despise lazy people, just like i dislike rude/deceitful/disrespectful/untrustworthy/unfaithful people. IMHO, no matter how good a woman is, the minute she asks me to be responsible for her life needs, thats the minute she become USELESS to me. dont get me wrong, a good woman is an asset to any man, and when you meet her, then you share life with her...so my life is entangled with hers, my house is your house, we can make joint future plans together...but if you came in this union with a job and you were paying for your own needs, then dont suddenly expect me to be responsible for you. is she now a baby that i would now have to be responsible for this adult person's need?!? what respectable woman would even want you to do that?!

That is why I said, when you love someone in the pure sense, try to reduce your expectations to the barest minimum because if you have expectations, and the person fails to meet your expectations, it can make you question yourself and you find yourself being restless, uncomfortable and feeling cheated. Expectations are the root of heartache. If you love your partner, whether man or woman, help her grow and expect less from him/her. That way, your tolerance level increases. This is one of the things love does to us as a spiritual tool.

MrBrownJay1:
remember : there is nothing wrong with a man offering a gift/helping once in a while his woman....but dont make this a requirement for dating.

like I said, I'm talking about love as a concept and not from the Nigerian perspective which has selfishness and desire as its lens.

MrBrownJay1:
if you meet a gainfully employed woman, and you suddenly decide that because you guys are in a r/ship, you will pay for all her needs then you certainly aint helping that person, you only make that person depending on you...you are actually LOWERING that person. helping someone grow has absolutely nothing to do with taking care of her needs, and all to do with supporting whatever she is doing, being there for her emotionally and encouraging her in whatever she is doing...possibly advising her on what to do and how to do it....and even if it had anything to do with money, then it should SOLELY be a man's decision and certainly not a requirement for her to be with you.

As as adult, you should know what your woman needs to grow. I have a partner that I try to love. If she talks to me about shopping or outing, I turn her down because those are not needed for her to grow. But while arranging to further my education or getting a new skill/certification, I make plans for her too. If i read a life changing book, I forward to her. That's the agreement we had from the beginning. I'll turn her down if she asks me for money for hair or money for cream. Making new hair or rubbing new cream cannot help you grow. Her trivialities are not my concern.

MrBrownJay1:
anyone who uses money as a tool to value love matters doesnt know what love is...

You are misunderstanding me.

When you say you love someone, there's already an obligation. Whether she asks or not, doesn't matter. If you have to walk away because she asked, then you don't love her. You have to prove your claim that you love her by caring and helping her grow. And most times, money is needed for it.

Only fools believe NASA has gone into space or landed on the moon. The van Allen belt is impregnable.

Correct me if I'm wrong but I think in a parliamentary system, the legislators double as the executives i.e the lawmakers are also the ministers, DG of agencies etc.

If so, we need to scrap this nonsense presidential system to reduce cost of governance. The fact that the people cannot select the members of the executive arm, except the president, is enough to scrap it. In this form of government, the ruling class simply appoint the members of the executive to protect their interest and the people are powerless.

Nigerians, through the legislative arm, should be able to choose who heads the NNPC, EFCC, DSS and other agencies and ministries. Not that some military criminals would sit in their homes and appoint people who'd head agencies on behalf of the whole Nigerians.

MrBrownJay1:
i think you misunderstand CARING for someone and TAKING CARE of someone... which are two different things. just because a man takes care of someone, DOES NOT mean he loves her. caring for someone emotionally has absolutely nothing to do with money. taking care of someone has all to do with money.



i fully disagree... LOVE doesnt mean that man should suddenly act like a mumu... this babe was taking care of herself before you met her (and will do so after you leave her life) therefore why should you take care of her (like a baby) because you guys are dating?! is she handicapped? will she stop working now that she is dating you? will you now pay her rent/school fees/ clothes/brazilian hair etc?!

love is a two way street, and although you may offer gifts to your woman (when you believe/decide she deserves one), love certainly doesnt mean that someone's life is now your responsibility.

There's no difference between caring for someone and taking care of someone. Also, women these days have been empowered and are doing well as men. Some take care of themselves and are very comfortable. All they need is companionship and emotional support which she might term CARE. Evening giving your partner attention and listening ears might be what some women term CARE.

If you want a woman and you make her an offer, she has the right to negotiate and demand care as her own term. That's why I said it depends on what you want. Most women are obsessed with their newly gotten freedom. This freedom has caused a loss of certain core societal values in our women. Chastity, discipline, Honesty, tolerance etc are now scarce in our women. Now, if you meet a woman who possesses these values, these scarce traits, are you saying you'd walk away just because she asked that you take care of her?


Also, like I said, love is an act of selflessness, an extension of the self for the purpose of the growth of oneself or another person. If you love someone, the only thing you should be concerned about is the growth of that person. And How can you help your partner grow without taking care of her? Charity is one major half of love. If you are not ready to give, to help, you shouldn't be talking about love. If you love your partner, you should try as much as possible to reduce your expectations to the barest minimum so that you can love her effectively.

Next time you want to talk about what you people of today are practicing, don't call it love. Call it what it is. Cathexis.

MrBrownJay1:
whether she is the best woman in the world or not, its irrelevant... the minute she asks that question then she becomes a useless woman IMHO.
i believe that NO MAN should take care of a woman, let alone one he is dating... because even if that woman doesnt care about you, she will stay with you for the lazy life you are offering her.

Taking care might mean anything. As a purist, I'd like to think of taking care of a woman as an act of love. If you meet a strong, ambitious, hardworking woman who makes her own money, Her talkiglng about care might mean emotional security.


If you claim to love a woman, you should have no problem with taking care of her because love is an act of selflessness.

Depends on the qualities of the woman.

If she's got every virtue, characteristics my ideal woman should possess, I'll double-take care of her.

But if na one materialistic, entitled woman wey use weavon cover her empty head, I go ask am if her father wey suppose take care of am, don die.

Sleekfingers:
u are on point. But pls dont forget that most commenting on this platform are kids. Nada in their heads.....i am not surprise

You that is an old man, shouldn't you be ashamed of your punctuations and grammar?

Nwa Biafra

See womanchester urinated fans rooting for Liverpool to beat Chelsea so that they can go to champions league.


The same urinated fans that were saying they'd rather lose to city and go to Europa than watch Liverpool win the league.

Now their hopes of qualifying is in the hands of Liverpool.

Is God not a wonderful God?

Some people's amala and ewedu will taste bitter today.

muykem:
IPOB is operating online country, can't you understand.

your Nigeria that is offline, how far?

This is 2020. Do you now have clean water and constant electricity? Is your life safe in your offline country?

SweetCunt97:
Look, you alone can make yourself happy. Stigma? Shame? You need to be strong. Draw strength and joy from ur kid.. Let others go fvck demselves

I just followed you.

The yorubas brought this evil upon southern Nigeria by electing a coup-plotter and jihadist.

omenka:
[s]Someone should drum it into the thick skulls of pdp and her supporters that that "Igbo must be president" prevarication isn't selling to anyone with hindsight.

We all know the plot- a plot for APC to cede power to pdp on a silver platter.

Why cant these idiots simply say something as simple as PDP must cede their party's ticket to an igbo man? Would the heavens collapse if they do? [/s]

Foolish talk.

Ogbonnaya onu and rochas both have stakes in APC.

BabaRamota1980:
Its never possible for Yorubamannto be in iboland. Whats he looking for? Thats impossible. I will believe a Yorubaman with Trump, but not in iboland.

Your sisters and mothers are littered here selling agbo.

During the 100year war of the Oyo empire, at least half of their alaafins died by suicide.

Do you why?

Because oduduwa himself attempted suicide by jumping down from the sky.

Bump

DuwaRepublic:
Yeah that’s typical of all empires. Study all the prominent empires in history and you will see a great deal of treachery, hate and cowardice, among stories of kindness, love, courage, power, strength, innovation, wealth! etc something you people lack because.....

YOU HAVE NO HISTORY; NO CONQUEST.

You didn’t collectively resist the British for 30 years, no you were under the superstitions of arochukwu cave shrine, once that shrine was destroyed you people were easy pickings, prior to that sef you had already been easy pickings by the fulanis and people like Nwaubani Ogogo

Go and sit down with your concocted lies.

Go and read your history.

At least jaja of opobo, oba of benin etc resisted the British.

I repeat what I said. There is nowhere in Yoruba history that points at British resistance. Yorubaland is the only place the british majestically walked in. You are cowards and you will forever be slaves because you are cursed by your alaafin aole who committed suicide because of the treachery of his people.

Several alaafins, including sango, cursed the Yoruba race for their treachery, before committing suicide.

So, don't get mad when you see your brothers littered around Lagos begging for owo mi DA in your lands while the fulanis control the seaport and the wealth in your land. We historians perfectly understand what is happening. You have been cursed by your ancestors to be slaves of the Fulanis.

Bye! Cursed man.


https://www.nairaland.com/5261015/rare-history-afonja-alaafin-aole

DuwaRepublic:
Lol your people hate each other so much you didn’t sell each other for money, you simply just tag each other OSU, then sell yourselves out to your slave masters for free, bunch of idiots.

The war that nearly lasted 100 years wasn’t a war btw one tribe, it was a war between multiple tribes in what is now known as the Yoruba nation, the word “Yoruba” never existed back then you dimwit.

This was during the period of conquest, something you stone eaters and numbskulls will never know anything about, you never dealt in conquest you are the conquered, and your territory is the smallest among all the major tribes in Nigeria.

Look, you can fool yourself but you can't fool me.

Simple reasoning. How can you, who fought yourselves and sold yourselves as slaves open your filthy shithole and claim a tribe who collectively resisted the British for 30years and collectly defended themselves for 3 year, don't love themselves? What kind of fool are you?


There is no where in your history that says you resisted the British, infact, because of the internal conflicts and the invading jihadsts, you fools begged and invited the British to come and rule you.

Your history is a story of treachery, hate and cowardice.

omenka:
Didn't read whatever epistolic gibberish you typed there. Direct whatever you have to say to Athur Eze.

Thank you.

This is over 5years and you are still obsessed with the igbos.



I want you to know that you will never get better because you are suffering from foolishness and foolishness has no cure.

Sorry for you.

DuwaRepublic:
Igbos kill each other over a mango, please this long epistle isn’t necessary, the evil in their hearts knows no bounds, especially when money is involved.

Why is there a statue of a slavetrader In your land?

Why did you idiots sell off each other to buy horses before the whiteman tamed you savages?

In Nigeria, there is no tribe that has had internal conflicts for more than 5 years.
You idiots fought each other for 100years.

Shameless people.

If you're a Chelsea fan reading this, I want you to know that you have a higher chance losing to Norwich than losing to Liverpool.

We Liverpool fans will celebrate with you while you score us at anfield.

The goal is to send yoonited to Europa so that they can play on the patchy, dusty pitches in Kazakhstan and Belarus while we use super story to relax on Thursday after playing champions league football on Tuesday and Wednesday.

CapitalCee:
Even when they saw that Williams was out injured and we are playing with 10 men, they were still attacking us. We will definitely repay Southampton for this, they will battle relegation next season needing us and we will beat them to ssend them down.

You don't know hazeputel.


That man alongside graham potter of brighton are low-key tacticians.

When last did a team constantly play a high defense line and keep the ball in your own half almost throughout a match at old-trafford?

Ellizsandra:
The funniest thing Chelsea is not even your problem overtake Leicester first

I'm a Liverpool fan.

mvem:
Win Liverpool in Anfield ?

Liverpool will deliberately lose to Chelsea at anfield.

In 2009, Gerrard deliberately passed the ball to drogba to score against Liverpool. That match was what sealed the league for Chelsea. Old Trafford caught fire that day.


Mark my words. Liverpool will lose to Chelsea because they know that if man utd qualifies for champions league, they will attract and buy more quality players. But if man utd fails to qualify, quality players will refuse to go to man utd.

Anybody who understands the hatred between Liverpool and man utd will know that Liverpool will lose against Chelsea so that Chelsea can qualify for champions league ahead of man utd.

Strict, inhumane laws and education.

aremuforlife:
What us the ideology of Iba Gani? Most of us don't know what restructure means, we are new to the term and we believe is something we want. The federal government just gave the the local government and judiciary autonomy, the executive refused it, and nobody raises alarm. Restructure is like the subsidy removal we just witness, everybody want it but we don't want the aftermath.
Most of them attacking Tinubu has not done 10% what he has done. Interests or no interest, we all aim for our interests.

Gain Adams asked a question.


Mention 3 things that tinubu has done for the yorubas that the common Yoruba man has benefited from....

It's possible for you to be in igboland.

It's even possible for you to be seated with trump in the whitehouse.

Anything is possible when you lie.

Your oppressors have hijacked the police and the military. Our security system has become an oppressive tool


Get yourself guns. Strategize.

If the police shoot at you, you shoot back.

Let the country scatter.

If the country cannot be shared by all, let no one own it..