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Hate or love us, the real love is with the men.

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

Yes na
Funny enough if you see them dey display thier fake love to each other for public ehnn. You go think say them really love themselves
Them Sabi jealous each other
Imagine a phone call between two girls
Jennifer: sweet heart, how are you
Sandra: Am fine honey
Jennifer : are you at home?
Sandra : yes. Am at home
Jennifer: am coming to your place. Prepare something
Sandra: yes, yes. My baby girl is coming to see me. I will prepare rice
Jennifer: alright....am coming
Call ends. Sandra is like oh! God this witch don dey come again

But if na niggarrrz. You go think say them hate each other from their communication whereas them love each other.
You go hear

Kelvin: idiot, how far
Jerry : your father!
Kelvin: you dey house. I dey come your side. You Cook? I just weak. Arsenal just cut my ticket
Jerry: you see your life. I nor say make you nor carry arsenal yesterday. I nor Cook anything. Na even Garry I drink sleep yesterday but come first two hundred naira dey with me make we buy two cup of rice take arrange oil jollof

If he did it, I really hope a thorough and transparent investigation will be conducted this time around. Nigeria needs a poster child of punishment for rape. It is soooo soooo scary to think that it is this widespread. And I believe the reason why it is this much is because no one is getting punished, and in few cases where the victim manage to bravely speak up it is often submerged under the silly cultural practice of accepting a 'sorry' and perhaps some few coins as sufficient reparation.

No more sorry-s. No more apologies. We need the criminals removed permanently from amidst us.

Amotolongbo:
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Nigerians and too much turenchi for a matter so simple. No wonder we have never moved forward as a society. Bring a societal problem up for debate and all you see is frantic exchange of blames...

Yorubas are the problem... No, it is the Igbos... Oh no, it is the Hausas.... Come of it, it's Lord Luggard... Actually it is the Devil...

In this thread some have managed to make it a blame game. Some have turned it into a moral discussion, some have deceitfully preached their religion by it.

When we are speaking of the person who directly bears the biological consequences (100%), some even said the responsibility for the woman's biologically ordained vulnerability to the debilitating effect of pregnancy (planned or unplanned) must be equally shared by both men and women.

Funny. Those of you who have been pregnant (and perhaps aborted) and those who will be, I am sure you can provide us with the insight of how

>the morning sickness,
>the health challenges,
>the miscarriage scare or even the miscarriage,
>the psychological trauma of getting pregnant when you don't want it,
>the psychological and neurosomatic trauma of going through D&C/drug-induced abortion,
>those of you that had to fvck a quack before procuring abortion,
>those that suffer complications of post- infections, uterine rupture or those who have had their entire uterus removed,
>those who have lost subsequent marriages as a result of this information coming out,
>those who have lost their lives either procuring an abortion or while legitimately giving birth to their babies (planned or unplanned),
>those who have lost jobs and productive work hours because of pregnancy,
>those who have lost opportunities including schooling
>those whose careers have ended because of pregnancy and raising the babies,
>those who have to breastfeed and all....

perhaps you should explain to us how men share directly in any of these. Yes, you will educate the men to be responsible which is the ideal scenario, but then in reality with or without education men will want to fvck. Yes, we will educate the women to be responsible, which is also the ideal case, but in reality education or not women will want to fvck. And when that happens who is directly at risk with respect to pregnancy?

If you like argue blindly, but no amount of the twisted erudition shown by some of you trying too hard to make men sure in this peculiar liability will suddenly make men develop a womb. Those of you who also live abroad will understand that it is mostly the ladies that is eventually responsible for her own body.

The best you will get from a man is financial and emotional support, neither of which will reduce the biological burden that belongs to women. If you are tired using English grammar to argue with that, you can try Chinese or even Arabic, the womb inside a woman and her peculiar hormonal profiles will make you understand that you simply don't argue nature away... And next time you're pregnant, remember to share all the pain with the man, along with the responsibilities and the blames.

Take it or leave it, the woman bears directly 100% the biological consequences of pregnancy and abortion. For this reason she must take ownership of her body. She must decide if and when she wants to get pregnant. And this alone puts the responsibility on her to tell a man to either use a condom or fvck off....even when she wants the sex.

On a lighter note bukatyne deserves to be given an award today. Your contributions have been indeed very insightful.

bukatyne:
Let me just dub today 'my NL day'

Sighs.

Here

mrfranky:
Please Mods help push this to front page i need more advise please...

Have been caught up in a difficult situation. I have been dating this my lovely girlfriend for more than a year now. She is beautiful, humble, kind and a good girl. She is from a good family too. The parents are not too rich just average and doing very well. They are 2 girls and 3 boys and the elder sis is more of a slay queen i.e so beautiful and refuses to marry so the mother is hoping on this my girl to settle down, always encouraging her to settle down.

Now I am 29 years and I really love this girl and she loves me more than i actually love her, always ready to do my biding. She is just 22 and I wish to marry her someday but my finances are low. I have met the father and he said he doesn't need anything from me only things for the kinsmen or whatever but my parents are the opposite. Infact my dad won't even entertain my thought of getting married now because despite am staying alone, i still get small stipends from him monthly so he knows am not financially independent.

To cut the long story short.. My girl is pregnant again after several abortions in the past and she is refusing to take pills. She wants to keep this one and is urging me to come pay her bride price so we can move in together. This was not my dream way of getting married. I don't have a problem with her keeping the child but I just cannot marry now with my monthly salary of 40k which am struggling to feed and pay bills.

Please I need advice.
Pls no insult I knw the abortion act is wrong n never intended for her to take in again but it keeps happening...

Help me please i dont want to lose this lovely princess because she promise to end the relationship if she has to take another pill.
https://www.nairaland.com/5932549/girlfriend-threatened-break-up-dont

sassysure:
Abeg, show me the link to that thread. Seems this is the continuation from it.

Spot on!

sassysure:
They do. Be it single or married. It's coded.
Also married women do abortion more in Nigeria.
Do you know that?
Ask any naija Dr around you who agree he does abortion cos most of them also pretend they don't do that.

Infact, in some private hospitals, if u agree to do abortion, u will be paid double the salary you receive.
Most females don't agree but men, u know how far

Abortion is the quickest and easiest way to make money in our private hospitals.

A very known secret. North has the highest abortion clinics.

I believe this is an open discussion regardless of what you had perceived the intention of the Op (me) to be. And there's nothing stopping you from including men in the topic of prevention. You should notice that I wrote that exclusively from the point of view of a lady (from another thread) so readily agreeing to abort (severally) for an irresponsible man who preferred to have unprotected sex with her.

That was my alarm. And yes, I have seen several such cases that had ended badly for the woman. I cannot begin to count how many women (married and single) that I had had this discussion with trying to educate them that their body belonged to them and not some irresponsible men whose only concern is having sex raw.

You would ask me why it wasn't men I was so educating. That's simply because once pregnancy happens you almost never find men accompanying their women in search of solution (whatever we might want to describe as solution). And yes, I had worked for years in this area in Nigeria. Kindly ask anyone in the health sector in Nigeria who deal with such cases and try asking them to include men in blame sharing and topic of prevention... You will immediately realize how impossible that is, because even in marriage too many men are so irresponsible that they refuse to accompany their women to antenatal care... That is the reality in a lot of cases in Nigeria. And apologies to men and women who have functional relationship where the man is on top of his game. This post is not about such exceptions.

So, yes, men should be included in the topic of prevention except that will still not change the fact that women should take ownership of their bodies.

cococandy:
You’re trying to use analogies to drive a point home that I already stated to you that I got. Not necessary.

The only thing I wanted to verify is why it’s so controversial to include men in the topic of prevention.

Actually it was that other thread that you alluded to that made me start this. After reading that the lady had aborted severally for that irresponsible man (irresponsible even at 29) I kept wondering what she would have gained if any of the abortion had gone the wrong way. And to think that a woman would so submit her body to be toiled with at will to a man never ceases to surprise. I think we have established the fact that men having unprotected sex when we are not ready to be father is irresponsible and we have courts and social instruments to make the man own his responsibility in such a situation... Even then there are men who are unable to stand up to their bukata in such situation.

Take that other post for instance, getting pregnant for a man who cannot even fend for himself, the shame of a man who still lives on his father's hand-outs, must be a nasty experience for a mother-to-be.

But then all that will not remove the fact that the morbidity and mortality associated with getting pregnant (planned or not) belongs exclusively to a woman, and because of that alone the woman should have the final say when it comes to getting pregnant (planned or not).

bukatyne:
Keep cancelling my posts.

Your friend is giving her boyfriend ultimatum in the other thread to marry her after several abortions.

The pregnancy is hers; the baby is theirs.

No specie is as confused as you 21st century people who want to eat their cake and have it or not take responsibility for your actions.

None.

I agree with you 100%. Abstinence is the most effective contraception but if we are being realistic we will also recognize that different people for various reasons will not be interested in abstinence, and neither can we force others (men and women alike) to abide by abstinence... But should others feel the need to have sex, then I think the woman should have the freedom and the exclusive right to decide if she is indeed willing to expose her body to implications of pregnancy. Even in marriage.

Sixfeetbelle:
@ the bold, I would push for abstinence since responsibility for actions is being thrown out of the window here but we can't always get what we want, can we?

Point is, sex would always have complications like pregnancy no matter how safe you are so what to do when such occurs should be the issue here. The responsibility for such actions shouldn't be looked down on like the society is doing or abandoned like the male folks are known to do.

You would be surprised how many married men and women procure abortions every year in the country. That some men and women are married doesn't automatically mean they have special access to good sense with respect to unplanned pregnancies. And it is always the same story of the man not wanting to use condom while at the same time not discussing contraceptive options with the wife.

For those that are interested in blaming men, yes such men though married are irresponsible and I offer no apologies for saying that.

What amazes me every single time is meeting individuals engaging in unprotected sex and claiming the ensuing pregnancy to be an accident, a mistake. For those interested in interpreting the initial post beyond the intention to draw out a debate that emphasizes the fact that the woman is 100% the owner of her body and should determine whether and when she gets pregnant, I have no need to sate your desire to turn this into a men-vs-women thing. You can continue, which is the beauty of this forum.

Yes, married men and women are highly involved in unwanted pregnancies and both the pregnancies and/or the abortion directly affects the woman more than the man. It is simple biology.


I am going to quote a research publication by the Guttmacher Institute that touches the matter here:

"An estimated 1.25 million induced abortions occurred in Nigeria in 2012, equivalent to a rate of 33 abortions per 1,000 women aged 15–49. The estimated unintended pregnancy rate was 59 per 1,000 women aged 15–49. Fifty-six percent of unintended pregnancies were resolved by abortion. About 212,000 women were treated for complications of unsafe abortion, representing a treatment rate of 5.6 per 1,000 women of reproductive age, and an additional 285,000 experienced serious health consequences but did not receive the treatment they needed.
Levels of unintended pregnancy and unsafe abortion continue to be high in Nigeria. Improvements in access to contraceptive services and in the provision of safe abortion and postabortion care services (as permitted by law) may help reduce maternal morbidity and mortality."

Reference: International Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, 2015, 41(4):170–181, doi:10.1363/4117015

Notice that it says maternal morbidity and mortality. Not paternal. Neither does it talk about who is to blame. The morbidity burden and the mortality burden of unplanned pregnancies are qualified with a gender-specific adjective maternal. I am not sure that the right approach to discuss this matter is by inviting men to share the blame (yes, they have a large portion of that already), but by recognizing that the woman suffers those two burdens exclusively and to recognize that they should own their bodies 100%. Even in marriage.

Unnerve:
Hmmm, how do married people avoid unwanted pregnancies while having regular sex?

I am sure you would agree that contraception reduces the risk of unwanted pregnancies.

And no one has the right or power to insist on how a woman's sexuality. Sexual expression will always remain the right of every woman (or man) and it is really scary when we start speaking of insisting on another person's right, even if you're the person's pastor/imam. Only the woman involved should have that right to so insist.

Lastly, we cannot say that since contraception doesn't completely remove the risk of unwanted pregnancy that we should avoid it in favor of unprotected sex.

Sixfeetbelle:
Unless abstinence is insisted, pregnancy cannot be totally avoided even with contraceptive pills and condoms in tow. In that scenario, would you blame the woman still?

It is amazing how you managed to give the discussion a moral hue.
Also expanding the consequences of abortion from the immediate effect on the person who got pregnant to secondary and tertiary effects on the society... Yes your points are valid here and without invalidating what primary consequences are on the woman (abortion/unwanted pregnancy).

Even with respect to wanted/planned pregnancy the woman carries personal risks that no sophisticated arguments will lessen.

liberalchick:
That’s just it, the sexual foundation is faulty. As a result we have young women with compromised fertility and life because of illegal abortion, we have unplanned children that causes a burden on our society, we have an abhorrent rape culture. No one is untouched, we ALL suffer.

But but but... it’s only ‘wayward’ women that suffer, as if.

Misogynistic indeed... you're finally giving vent to your personal hatred of me.

But then you have been noticed. You can not return to where ever you emerged from until next time there's another opportunity to post without sense.

kneehighbootz:
Please, dear women. Let's learn to quickly perceive misogynistic and women shaming topics and not give them the attention they desperately seek.

If the op can hold one gender accountable while exonerating the other (a toddler knows it takes two people to make a baby), just know that he's not actually looking for a balanced discussion but an excuse to abuse and vilify women.

Pay him no mind. Have a good day, ladies

I have always been impressed which how practical and wise you are in your comments. May your wisdom continue.

I am a man, and I know 100% that many men are irresponsible and all they are interested in is satisfying their sexual appetite. In fact they will promise heaven and earth just to get the tip in raw and discharge raw. As long as a woman consents to allowing that then it's not a crime even though we can to apportion blame. But in reality the woman suffers more, in fact almost exclusively. And because of that alone a woman needs to be "selfish" like you have rightly pointed out.

I can not count the number of ladies I have come across in Nigeria whose reason for getting unwanted pregnancy is simple because their men don't like to use condom. I am always always enraged whenever I hear this. And I always ask them why exactly they refused to make the use of condom the minimum requirement for sex...

Ladies need to be selfish! 100% selfish. This is not even about preaching abstinence, but safe sex.

pocohantas:
I guess the point is, while it is the responsibility of both to take pregnancies- one would suffer the effect of this irresponsibility, PHYSICALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY, FINANCIALLY and in whatever way we can think of.

Women need to learn to be “selfish”. Trust me, if men had wombs, humanity may have gone extinct. They are that selfish.

I hate blame games on things like this, so I am 100% selfish. The one I can do, I will do it. The one I can’t do, I will NEVER do it.

Wisdom and good sense is really difficult for the simple.

Some only want the psychological victory/validation that comes from pushing the blame to men, while they conveniently ignore who suffers the real consequence.

Thanks for capturing it so perfectly.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....So which is easier for you?

Guarding yourself against this so called irresponsible men and live your full life potentials

Or Competing to be at par with them and maybe get into trouble you might regret for the rest of your life?

That's just sad. But then many of us have different similar examples.

sassysure:
I lost 2 people to quack abortion.

Two cool babes. The guys are busy enjoying their lives.
Women use your head, no.
He gives me money, he is caring.
He will marry me.
I will trap him with pregnancy.

And here we are.
We end up becoming bitter baby mamas or wives that are trapped the men who wouldnt have proposed in the first place if not for pregnancy. Guy will be showing you he don't want you and u are there forcing yourself on him cos you have his kid.
No dignity.

Spot on! And it is a systemic failure of parenting in Nigeria.
My parents NEVER for once even mistakenly instructed me about sex, apart from warning me about getting a girl pregnant. I think as a country we have to start discussing these issues openly. Some of us that are busy turning this into a gender blame trade really needs to get acquainted with the number of lives being lost to covertly procured abortion...I offer no personal opinion about the legality of abortion, except that I believe a woman owns her body and should own the responsibility of what happens with it.

liberalchick:
Most Nigerian parents fail in their duty of giving their children comprehensive sex education.

“You will get pregnant if a man touches you” is not sex education.

Edit:
Also, take your teen girl to an obgyn for contraceptives (16+).

Thanks a lot for your insightful contribution. I believe it would be helpful if you start a discussion on various options available to women on this platform. Will you consider doing it please?

sassysure:
The truth is that majority of us don't know anything about how their system works.
Aside std, if u are not sure of how your system work, please go and buy CD yourself and keep at home. Inside that part of your handbag only you have access to.

All these schools nowadays don't teach girls preventive method.


I was introduced, educated on how to play safe in junior secondary by a gyneocologist that the state govt sent to girls school in my state then. It was like further maths then. Made no sense. By senior secondary, sharp babes started teaching us in dormitory. Before we left school we became pro at reading and understanding our individual cycles.
Today, that's what I rely on as a woman with a healthy sexual appetite.

Except std, u want to go raw, learn your body. Your partner should be the type that will accept no when u say u are not free.

But oir girls, the latest fashion, gossip, is what they prefer.
I haven't seen any post since I started using this site where girls teach themselves how billings method work. Rather, they are interested in buying postinor 2.
As for raw sex, it will continue till forever.
Why not educate yourself.

I took me not less than one yr monitoring my cycle and making mistakes to learn how to use it. I don't use any contraceptive. That book is every girl's bible.

Those who do sociology and or social work use that book.
Love and life ....By l mcsweeny. I don't know if I got it right.

Perhaps you're already knocked up and your painment is currently unbearable. Next time don't just fling your thighs open anyhow at sound of candy, coins and chin-chin. While you're at it, also stop transferring your painment to me.

I'm not responsible for your misery Rapidcunt97. Find other people to bite today.

SweetCunt97:
Guy this your talk is simply useless. There was Abortions during our mothers time and it will continue to be even after we gone. So pls carry ur archaic moral standing and shove up ur ass.

God will bless you Sir!
That is my point. Unfortunately and as expected some people like to seize the opportunity to trade blames and attack men.

I have seen and heard so many heart-rending cases involving abortion and unwanted pregnancies...In all of these cases the women were the ones who bear the full brunt! In all of the cases.

A woman owns her body. Whether you're a random lady, girlfriend, or wife. The woman owns her body 100% and should exert the right to protect it. That right will definitely include insisting on protection before/during/after sex. This obviously excludes ladies who try to tie men down by getting pregnant...and I have no pity for such sill.y men so tied down.

Justbehave:
The op is very correct. The issue is not who you are passing the blame to but who is bearing the consequence.Who dies during abortion? The woman. Who suffer and take care of the baby if the stupid boy runs away! The woman. Who gets a damaged womb and might not be able to give birth in future due to failed abortion? The woman.Op is simply advising ladies to stop having sex with irresponsible men. Period.

That is correct. A man should take responsibility....unfortunately several chop-and-go men litter our country.

Tonymegabush1:
I got your point bro but I must admit, not every sex ends with pregnancy, whereas sex is a gateway to be pregnant, kudos when a man is not 100% in support of pregnancy he should device protective majors instead of ruining a young lady future.. I don't support abortion.

I agree 100% with your points. 100%.
This is the more reason why we should do something about the cultural restriction in Nigeria. Our women should have complete ownership of their bodies, whether to be pregnant or not. Both abortion and pregnancy take direct toll on a woman's body and that decision should never be up to a man who might have zero participation in the ensuing consequences.

Yes our women may be culturally restricted from openly procuring contraception, but a woman can insist that the man who wants to have sex with her uses protection. If he is not willing, then he should zip up. The message is clear, she is interested in having sex with him but she is insisting on him doing it responsibly.

missjo:
This is dependent on the society a woman lives in.
I believe single women in Nigeria are too culturally restricted when it comes to the issue of sex, this can make them feel embarrassed if they need to walk into pharmacies or see doctors to get birth control options.

I've been getting access to birth control since I turned 21. Waking into any pharmacy here for these things is quite normal and no one looks at you funny. Bought male condoms sometimes as well, to ensure he does not come with an excuse of not having one. Getting pregnant or not getting pregnant is my decision.

Both are to blame? Definitely. 100%
But who bears the consequences? The woman. Your story just perfectly illustrated the point. If she had damaged her womb she would have lived with it for the rest of her life.

At the same time it is a reckless man who has unprotected sex with a woman when he is not ready to be a father.

Few years ago I was home visiting and this long time female friend who heard that I was around decided to visit me at the hotel where I was lodged. She arrived when I was down in the hotel's conference room holding an important business meeting with some people. I had told her over the phone about the meeting that it would take long and we would be finishing later in the evening, that she probably should wait for my next visit to the country. She said no, that she wouldn't mind sleeping over. She came over, was taken to my room and she waited till I was done.

Later that night after every every, the water started getting warm and the steam rising, the cloths falling to the ground, the bodies touching, the lungs expanding, the muscles tightening.... all the sherenren...time to dig in, I removed condom, tore it and was about wearing it... then this babe held my hand and said No. That she wanted it raw. Wanted to feel everything... Shooooo! A babe I hadn't seen in more than 2 years! Shooo! Too much discussion would kill the vibe, but i had to tell I never have sex without condom...She asked if I didn't trust her. Emotional blackmail. I said it's not about trust.... Accused me of rejecting her ...blah blah blah.... To cut the story short, we didn't have sex that night. If I had allowed myself to be cajoled I am 100% certain it would have ended in tears.

donbachi:
The both are to blame.if she wants it raw,tell her off.dont try to impress her with withdrawal method.dis method is the major cause of abortions..in my uni days.my girl took in.and the moment any girl takes in,the guy must have financial challenge.so,since we ran out of cash and luck.the innocent girl spoke with her friends,and she was asked to mix small stout,negro pepper,lipton,dry pepper and boil all together.we did as instructed.just 5mins after consumption,bleeding started..person pikin don dey die dey go..i rushed her to student abortion place..yes,we all had one and u do..injections and oral treatments were administered..and she survived it.today,i'm married to another woman.imagine if her womb was damaged from dat mixture..another man for dey suffer am today..say to abortion..use protections.

I think it boils down to the basics, if the man is not 100% in support of pregnancy then the two of you must discuss and stick to an effective contraception method. The point of the post is that whatever the story surrounding abortion it is the woman that bears 100% liability.

Tonymegabush1:
As a lady you should knw when your man is serious with you or just want to catch fun, I always admire lady's that stood their ground and deliver their baby at first it could a thing of shame but on the long run you will smile and Thank God for such strength and courage.


If you must collabo, collabo with sense

Omoge, your ability to export your failing to men is legendary.
Let's take the premise you painted...
1.) community pricks refusing to wear condoms: I would say this is common to reckless men with nothing to lose. Absolutely NOTHING to lose. But as a babe you have everything to lose. Absolutely EVERYTHING to lose. The man gains a few minutes (or even seconds) of orgasmic eruption from kpanshing raw. You the babe might NOT even gain the tiniest cum, while you are about to lose everything. That makes him the explorer and you the explored. Interestingly the water-well be explored belongs exclusively to you. In fact, you own both the well field and the water-well. Yet you refuse to mount guards and security around your field and water-well. And when the explorer approaches you, asking you to open your water-well that he wants a dip. Perhaps he offers you a candy or some lousy chinchin. So you open up and he dips, farts, and poops inside your well, and he leaves. You smell the fart and feel the poop but yet you refuse to do anything about it. And few weeks after you have disease break out you start accusing the explorer... or explorers depending on how generous you are towards explorers. Your well belongs to you. Lock up. If he must dip there must be protection. This should be no rocket science.... Men that have a lot to lose will never take the risk in the first place. Or perhaps, you try to use the well to trap the explorer.

2) who engage in the act of stealthing: if by this you allude to a criminal act then you are absolutely right, even though you seem a little too shy to call it rape. The perpetrator should not live in the society of men, should either be jailed or sho.t. That said, the woman still holds the responsibility to safeguard her health even in such situation. There is such thing called emergency contraception which may work for up to 3 days after unprotected sex.

Point 1 or 2, it takes an irresponsible woman to get unwanted pregnancy. Of course this excludes marriage/relationship gone sour.

MoodyQueen:
100% about women?

OP, are you suffering from selective amnesia?

Or is it just convenient to ignore the community pricks who refuse to wear condoms and those who engage in the act of stealthing??

I would think it means women are irresponsible or worse... Do men own your v-jay or your body? Who asked them to risk their lives 'necessarily'?

Stop deflecting. Ladies need to take more responsibility with their own body/health/life with respect to senseless and unplanned pregnancy. The fact that the abortion is usually procured in secret means the women bear all the negative consequences also. If she gets infection, ruptured womb or loses her life, she bears all consequences 100% while the men you branded 'not reliable' work free.

But why not, blame men again even for an irresponsibility clearly yours.

lalanice:
It means Nigeria men are not Reliable.

Nobody is happy to be risking their lives necessarily.

This is one-sided story. For all we know you were the one who messed up in the first place that made her dump your sorry ass.... Not accusing you in advance, just saying you left too many aspects of your story out.

Provide more details and our able panel of Nairaland judges will come to your aid.

Also include your age. There's a particular age when the players are highly impressionable and also likely to think that the love of a man/woman is the whole essence of their lives. If age is your challenge, our expert advice will be to ask you to wait few more years and allow experience to properly bake your perception to maturity.

Says the Oracle.

Samlix2f:
[color=#990000][/color]This is a really complicated issue cause I really don't even know what else to do

Like yorubas will say ( o so si mi lenu, o tu bu iyo so)
I used to be in a very serious relationship with my ex, we loved each other so much and nothing came between us but few months ago we had a really serious issue and parted ways. Really heartbreaking moment for me as I couldn't hold back the pain, twas unbearable and I thought I wouldn't be able to survive or come out of the truama.
I was surprised she could just leave me like that, after everything we shared and promises we made to each other.

Now to cut the long story short, we got in contact with each other again and she apologized to me.
Most surprising part is she said she wants me back. She's been trying to reach me for a long time now but I changed my number.
She was crying on the phone and asked me to help beg my mum so she can allow us to come together again but my mum already said she doesn't want me to date her anymore.

I love her so much and I miss her so much but I can't go against my mum's wish.

I'm going crazy right now.

I never felt this much love for any other girl and going against my mom is a mission impossible


Please I need advice.. I'm loosing my mind

What exactly is the reason why Nigerian women are so much in love with abortion? It is so rampant that you get tempted to categorize abortion as another method of contraception. The funny thing is that most of these ladies involved are religious individuals... What exactly is going on?

And they always claim it is a mistake. There is no accident in having sex. You don't walk on the streets and suddenly slip and fall on a ready-to-fire di.ck. There's always a process involved in sex.

Make no mistake, this is 100% about women, in case some start feeling the need to balance the gender here.

If you're a single mother because of this-kind of mistake, then what a shame. Abortion and single-motherhood should never be a replacement for good sense.

Says the Oracle.

Don't mind the guy jare. Countless so-called Christians/Muslims have died just like everyone else, and these deluded religious people still somehow manage to believe that they have the answer to life's questions. Y'all go through all of life's ups and downs, and are as corrupt as everyone else (in fact more hypocritical and more wicked than so-called unbelievers)... and yet they still think they have the moral right to tell people how to live their lives.
I have been treated better by non-religious people than I have been by religious people. Every single time that I suffer wickedness from the hands of people, a Christian or a Muslim is always behind it.

BotherMleeper:
Jesus could've helped him out when he was sick......

Until some of you find out after death that there's no heaven. And that the only heaven was this Earth you already through ignorance and self-righteousness spoiled....

Always resist the urge to throw your faith in other people's faces.

Righteousness89:
My GOD! Dan is Gone!
Great guy!

I just hope He completely surrendered to JESUS CHRIST!

Condolences to His Family..

It never ceases to amaze me why human beings kill and are ready to kill because of some imagined deities, some Allah that most likely doesn't even exist. Christians had done similar things centuries ago.

Racoon:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailypost.ng/2020/06/16/boko-haram-allah-said-we-should-kill-shekaus-faction-invites-bandits-in-nigeria/

A wise woman once said, "Di.ck is life".
Always has been. Always will be.

UDOKABESTLUV:
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2020/6/lady-allegedly-kills-her-lesbian-partner-in-delta-state-because-she-caught-her-sleeping-with-a-man-2.html