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Science/Technology / Re: Only 110 Humans Would Be Needed To Start A New Civilisation On Mars - Scientist by pmoye(m): 5:04pm On Jun 24, 2020
They are going to Mars to propagate the human species. If your dick no like vagina or your vagina no like dick simply stay put instead of going to embarrass your generation. The picture here is not that of the Earth but of a planet where the sole mission is to ensure the survival of the human race. Now, let me sleep. E se.

Palehair:

And who told you, all straight people want kids?

Then why did you ask the question at first? One's sexuality is no obstacle to having kids, this is the 21st century, I know straight couples who don't want kids and gay people can still have kids the natural way, they jerk off, when they are about to burst in, they burst into the lesbian's vagina.

Crime / Re: Amotekun Arrests 42 Cows Over Alleged Destruction Of Farmlands In Ondo by pmoye(m): 1:20pm On Jun 24, 2020
Now I have to call Amotekun to come to my protection.
grin grin

TripleOh7:


grin grin grin grin

They are coming for you... cheesy
Family / Re: Paternity Fraud In Nigeria: Make testing compulsory at birth by pmoye(m): 1:20pm On Jun 24, 2020
The possibility of birth switch is exactly the error that such testing will eliminate. That said, we cannot speak of birth switch when the child has the mother's DNA but not the father's in which case we can conclude the father was not the impregnator.

Biglittlelois:
Make sure your faithful wife doesnt know that you're conducting a paternity test, if not.......


And always know the possibility of birth switch, it happens.

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Politics / Re: 'Sabiu Yusuf's Fat Bank Accounts: Buhari Is Aware' By Farooq Kperogi by pmoye(m): 12:17pm On Jun 24, 2020
Bubu my man. Bubu the modern Abacha. Corruption federated and incorporated. Una never see nattin!

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Politics / Re: President Buhari Urges Caution On ECOWAS Common Currency by pmoye(m): 12:00pm On Jun 24, 2020
I'm sure Baba no go even understand this release drafted by Adesina.


presidency:
STATE HOUSE PRESS RELEASE

PRESIDENT BUHARI URGES CAUTION ON ECOWAS COMMON CURRENCY

President Muhammadu Buhari on Tuesday cautioned that the ambition for Eco regional currency could be in ‘serious jeopardy,’ unless member states complied with agreed processes of reaching the collective goal.

President Buhari also expressed concern over the decision of francophone countries that form the West African Economic and Monetary Union (UEMOA) to replace the CFA Franc with Eco ahead of the rest of Member States.

The President delivered Nigeria’s position on the new regional currency at a virtual extraordinary meeting of the Authority of Heads of State and Government of the West African Monetary Zone (WAMZ).

The meeting discussed the implementation of the ECOWAS Monetary Cooperation Programme (EMCP) and the ECOWAS Single Currency Agenda.

‘‘Your Excellencies, you all are familiar with the history of the Eco thus far, so I will not bore you with that. We reverted to a single track approach, giving up Eco which is the original idea of the WAMZ so the ECOWAS-wide programme could thrive.

‘‘In this regard, we have made remarkable progress including the adoption of the Exchange Rate regime, the name and model of the common Central Bank and the symbol.

‘‘We have urged our Ministers towards an expeditious path to success. It, therefore, gives me an uneasy feeling that the UEMOA Zone now wishes to take up the Eco in replacement for its CFA Franc ahead of the rest of the Member States.

‘‘This is in addition to deviating from the Community Act on a consistent attainment of convergence in the three years running up to the introduction of the currency, and our subsequent reinforcing directives.

‘‘I am informed that the French Ministers have approved a bill to reform the CFA Franc and most, if not all of the UEMOA Member States, have already passed legislations in their various Parliaments to that effect.

‘‘It is a matter of concern that a people with whom we wish to go into a union are taking these major steps without trusting us for discussion,’’ he said.

President Buhari, who assured ECOWAS leaders of Nigeria’s commitment to the ECOWAS single currency, urged them to critically consider the recommendations made by the Convergence Council and take a common position to safeguard the West African Monetary Zone from the pitfalls of a questionable union.

He affirmed Nigeria’s support for a monetary union with the right fundamentals, which guarantees credibility, sustainability and overall regional prosperity and sovereignty.

According to the President, Nigeria also believes that given the potential contractions and even losses from the global Covid-19 pandemic, member states cannot but be too cautious about ensuring compliance with the set standards.

‘‘We cannot ridicule ourselves by entering a union to disintegrate, potentially no sooner than we enter into it.

‘‘We need to be clear and unequivocal about our position regarding this process. We must also communicate same to the outside world effectively. We have all staked so much in this project to leave things to mere expediencies and convenience.

‘‘My dear colleagues, Heads of State and Government, It is obvious that we are at a crossroads.

‘‘We must proceed with caution and comply with the agreed process of reaching our collective goal while treating each other with utmost respect. Without these, our ambitions for a strategic Monetary Union as an ECOWAS bloc could very well be in serious jeopardy,’’ he said.

In the light of the caution raised by Nigeria and some other West African countries at the meeting, ECOWAS leaders resolved to convene an enlarged meeting of the regional bloc on the single currency issue.

Femi Adesina
Special Adviser to the President
(Media & Publicity)
June 23, 2020
Politics / Re: Ayodele Akele Is Dead! Ex NLC Lagos Chairman Dies by pmoye(m): 11:55am On Jun 24, 2020
Looks like Ojukwu
Crime / Re: Amotekun Arrests 42 Cows Over Alleged Destruction Of Farmlands In Ondo by pmoye(m): 11:43am On Jun 24, 2020
We can build Amotekun to be very strong, incorporate it and then provide Amotekunic services to the South East. We already have a demand there.
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TripleOh7:
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Yorubas have Amotekun. We are waiting for you to grow some balls and create your own security outfit.

Or are you waiting for Amotekun from the Southwest to come and secure your homeland for you? grin

Is that what you mean by "unite"? angry

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Family / Re: Paternity Fraud In Nigeria: Make testing compulsory at birth by pmoye(m): 11:31am On Jun 24, 2020
You already assumed the woman has cheated even before the test result. The law doesn't make such an assumption in the first place, and that's why knowing for a man is a right and nothing more. But that needs to be balanced by another law in laboratory medicine practice that provides the individual from whom sample is to be taken and test performed to give consent for that. The woman's DNA sample will be needed and there goes her need for consent. Given that consent is her right too.

You have to recognize that it isn't every time that a man alleges infidelity that the child turns out to be another's. Even if we are to assume that there's 30% case of paternity fraud (and that's a big IF), it also means that in 6 out of 10 children tested will biological belong to him. Should we then because of the 30% construct an iron-prerogative for the man to overrule the right of the woman to provide consent? What happens in the 60% cases where the child turns out to be his? Will a simple apology from him suffice?

These are fundamental questions that have to be answered. And in my opinion the best way to avoid all the drama is to make paternity/maternity test a basic part of delivery. By so doing we will simply reduce the whole thing to a set of forms to fill and samples to be taken from both parents at delivery. Making this a basic requirement for delivery immediately sets aside the conflict of rights. And when a woman understands that this indeed will be a part of her delivery care by law, she will not likely commit paternity fraud, and the hospitals are not likely to swap babies.


descartes400:


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When I read that part...I felt angry! The man's right to find out if the child is biologically his must be his prerogative...the cheating woman has no right to negate that.

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Politics / Re: FFK: Aisha Buhari Is The Only Light In Aso Rock; Buhari Under A Spell by pmoye(m): 10:58am On Jun 24, 2020
Buhari is the spell dude. He is not just under spell.

ganisucks:
Femi Fani-Kayode, a chieftain of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), has said the Presidential Villa is shrouded in darkness and President Muhammadu Buhari placed under a spell.

He said this in a tweet on Wednesday.
The former minister of aviation said Aisha Buhari, the First Lady, is the only ray of light in the Villa.


https://mobile.twitter.com/realFFK/status/1275664181103071233
Family / Re: Paternity Fraud In Nigeria: Make testing compulsory at birth by pmoye(m): 10:53am On Jun 24, 2020
Good that we already have one in the presidency. grin

Carchoice:
We need shock absorber before introducing this law. grin
Family / Re: Nigerian Women And Abortion by pmoye(m): 10:52am On Jun 24, 2020
Well, there also contraceptive options for men including

condoms
vasectomy
masturbation
dry-humping
MouthAction
withdrawal (highly ineffective since precum or insertion after ejaculation can still get a lady pregnant)

But vasectomy will scare the shit out of any Nigerian man. We would immediately term it castration grin grin. I learned some drugs are being developed targeting men...

Women have more options, however, including

condoms
female condoms
pills including progesteron-only pills and combined pills
natural family planning (fertility awareness)
diaphragms
contraceptive injection
contraceptive patch and implants
IUD (intrauterine device or coil)
IUS (intrauterine system or hormonal coil)
vaginal ring

That female condom is horrible though, it's more like putting a sock inside your v-jay and asking his Uncle Tom to jump in. I think the fertility awareness is the safest, followed by condoms (some minority patients have latex reactions but there are non-latex condoms), while IUD has perhaps the highest effectiveness.

PrimadonnaO:


Very pathetic. Emergency contraceptives, too.
Some people have turned those ones to food... Postinor 2, inclusive.
Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 10:35am On Jun 24, 2020
I think I agree with you, I was only trying to pull her legs. There is however still a chance of people meeting for the first time on NL especially the mature ones (you of course know what I mean here), only that the getting-to-know each other must be outside of NL.

Klass99:


I am with Hathor5 on this matter o! A seriously risky business.

Have you not seen nairaland couples who fall out, and come back here to embarrass themselves, sharing details of their lives, posting screen shots of private chat messages.

It's never pleasant to watch. Shame dey catch me sef and no be say na me dey involved o!
Family / Paternity Fraud In Nigeria: Make testing compulsory at birth by pmoye(m): 10:31am On Jun 24, 2020
In the past few months Nigerians have been waking up to read the news about paternity fraud whereby a woman impregnated by a sidecock deliberately transfers the pregnancy to her husband/boyfriend. Most of these cases usually end up in tears and in some cases blood.

While many have been passing across scary statistics about the incidence, said to be 3 in every 10 births, it appears there are no rigorously procured statistics to back this claim. But most Nigerians believe the incidence is on the high and very high side.

And you can depend on any discussion on paternity testing to bring a sharp divide between the genders with several Nigerian women choosing to view it as their men passing a vote of no confidence on them. A woman is likely to say, "That shows he doesn't trust and his request for a paternity testing would mean the end to our relationship." While the men are likely to reply with, "Before nko? Good riddance to bad rubbish. Test or get the fvck out of my life." Both genders often tacitly agree that paternity testing, and not just the fraud, holds the possibility to end the marriage.

But should this issue be this way? Is it true that paternity fraud can be explained by baby swap especially in cases where the child shares the woman's DNA? Does a woman deserve to die just because of paternity fraud especially when men impregnating other women outside of their immediate relationship don't also get murdered? Should a man end his life because of paternity fraud? Should the trajectory of the children's life be so readily tragically re-ordered because of it? And should the country criminalize paternity fraud and treat it as gender violence?

Several open questions remain, many of which will not be answered unless the country and different states evolve laws to manage this grown explosion. Such laws should consider managing the need for the woman's consent with the man's right to find out if the child is biologically his. And these have to be balanced against the interest of the child. A better and more practical way to achieve this balance is to incorporate paternity and maternity testing as a compulsory part of hospital delivery services.

In other words, right at birth samples should be taken from both parents and the child and paternity and maternity testing performed. This has the benefit of drastically reducing the twin evil of child swap and paternity fraud. Secondary benefits include the fact that the sense of loss felt by the husband/boyfriend will be low compared to when he has spent his life getting psychologically attached to and raising another's kid. This should help the society in managing men with latent criminal insanity. With maternity/paternity testing becoming basic part of postnatal care, more women will be forced to reveal in some way the identity of the father even before delivery. In fact, more of them out of the fear of impending shame may voluntarily choose to end the scam of a relationship with their visible partner.

However, the country will need to figure out a way to reduce the associated testing cost, and a good start will be to evolve maternity insurance with mandatory widespread applicability for all expecting mothers.

It is time to evolve and stem the worrisome fall outs of paternity testing.

Lalasticla, Seun, Mynd44, RoyalRoy please help push this discussion. Yours truly.

Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 9:46am On Jun 24, 2020
It can bud online and fruit offline now. wink grin

Hathor5:


I don't do online dating. Odikwa risky. wink
Science/Technology / Re: Only 110 Humans Would Be Needed To Start A New Civilisation On Mars - Scientist by pmoye(m): 9:45am On Jun 24, 2020
Isn't that ... wait, hypocrisy? Las las a gay man still needs a lesbian woman to make babies. Wonderful.

Even then they will need to go to Mars with so many cups and syringes ni yen o.

And thanks, I already know a lot about artificial insemination, perhaps more than you ever will.

Palehair:

Ever heard of surrogacy or artificial insemination?.... Yeah, look it up. Google is free. A gay man don't have to sleep with a lesbian to have a child. He ejaculates into a cup and its injected in the woman, shikena. It's not rocket science and no need of the traditional way
Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 7:43pm On Jun 23, 2020
This is how love buds. ;-)
I'm watching to see who will first shoot the shot between the two of you. grin grin

Hathor5:


Now this is a man I can take serious. cool

Respect, respect, respect!



Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 6:52pm On Jun 23, 2020
You're really very perceptive.
You raised a very crucial point (in bold) about some men being fixated on the financial benefits that go to a woman in marriage. I keep asking some of them, what use do you have for your wealth when you're dead? And would you not rather leave it all for the woman who is to take care of your children, and your legacy for those that have one? Of course, assuming the man dies ahead of the wife.

I find it really hilarious when married men bicker with their wives over who owns what, the wives too returning the favour with 'His money is ours but mine mine'... I thought in marriage the two become one. This I find extremely childish and foolish. Foolish because these men are literally and practically ready to entrust their life unto their wives, but not their money. Which is more valuable, your life or your money?

You marry a woman, sleep in the same room with her (I am always scared to sleep with a woman in the same room grin; what if she wakes up at time and kills me just to get access to whatever she thinks I have?? grin), eat food and drink drinks prepared by her, be vulnerable 24/7 to her without be afraid that she will take your life, yet you do not want to trust her with your money. In this matter, I know there are instances where the woman is to blame, but I have a feeling most times that it is the man who lays down a bad and selfish example. In the end every man ends up having a wife that he deserves, not really the one that he wants. If you show leadership by treating her right, it is not likely that you will not have the best of friend, wife and mother in your wife. It is all about leading by example and selflessness... Even if your wife chop your money, isn't that infinitely better than a stranger does so? Your wife has a 100% stake in your life; no other person has that.



efosky1246:


Yes. but don't mind them with their rich is relative b.s

they understand exactly what you're talking about but will fight you tooth and nail like they have signed a contract with poverty.

and I appreciate your point about the importance of a homemaker wife. the traditional roles of the man and the woman are equally important and the man is not in anyway doing the woman a favour going into the world and bringing home the resources. even at that I believe the woman's role is even more crucial given the times we live in today. the times are dangerous, children, more than ever need a parent to look after them during their formative years. that Job should not be left to nannies and daycare.

its a pity so many men are myopic and only consider the financial benefit a woman can offer.

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Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 6:04pm On Jun 23, 2020
Thanks for your choice of words, financially sufficient to provide ... for his family. It probably would have been a better choice in my original post, but then I needed to paint a graphic picture so I used the word rich. Little did I know that some individuals hate that word... I consider being financially sufficient to provide for one's family as being rich. And such provision will not stop at just food, must be good food, health care, education and a decent status in the society. These things are really basic needs even though many now consider them luxury.


efosky1246:
You guys need to tag me when you create these kinda threads.

Op. You deserve some cold bottle of beer.

Ybaby grin you never disappoint.

Y'all have said everything.

It is morally irresponsible for any man to think about marrying when he is not financially sufficient to provide the kind of life he wants for his family and just sheer foolishness on the part of the woman.

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Science/Technology / Re: Only 110 Humans Would Be Needed To Start A New Civilisation On Mars - Scientist by pmoye(m): 5:59pm On Jun 23, 2020
I want to check something... Would you carry gay and lesbians to Mars? If yes, how will they reproduce? And how will the human species survive?


Macsjebs:
Source: https://www.mirror.co.uk/science/just-110-humans-would-needed-22217805

cc: lalasticlala, mynd44, dominique
Politics / Re: Agboola Ajayi Appoints Sacked Aides As Personal Aides by pmoye(m): 5:14pm On Jun 23, 2020
I think it's a brilliant move given the kind of politics they are both playing. With that move alone he has scored some points in public sympathy. The underdog like him has nothing to lose and almost everything to gain. With that move people are more likely to see the governor as a bully and him as the victim. People generally don't like a bully, especially a powerful one.

Every attack by Akeredolu against this man only makes his deputy more popular. Few days ago not many people knew what the deputy governor looked like, but now Akeredolu's attacks have over the night made him very popular. Popularity is a very good thing in politics, and the more popular he gets the more the public views him as a possible governorship candidate. In Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power, one of the best tactics to popularity is attacking a powerful and public figure...since anything the powerful man does in defense of himself will automatically make people see him as a bully in the public's eye. Better still when the powerful man is the one directly attacking...

Of course when (not even if) he is impeached the aides will go with him, but nothing to fear since these people usually have enough money to go round.


olaric:
Now, this is becoming too childish. Engaging your personal aids immediately after they were sacked to me is irrational. Why not count the cost before trying to show off? Of course you need all the goodwill you can get, but it is more important to consider the financial implications before doing this.

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Health / Re: How To Lighten Your Darken Private Part At Home by pmoye(m): 12:45pm On Jun 23, 2020
'Darken private part'... What does it look like? grin
Politics / Re: Who Are The Public Figures In Nigeria You Still Respect Dead Or Alive? by pmoye(m): 9:27am On Jun 23, 2020
You're the trash and I am binning you pronto.
AllHailBiafra:
Just look at your ibelibelism. Only you ibelibelized and only you used another account to like your ibelibelism.

Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 9:24am On Jun 23, 2020
In the end I think we have different view of marriage. Those attacking me for the original post needn't have gone through the painful stress of insulting me, at least you could say it's all my personal opinion.
Politics / Re: Who Are The Public Figures In Nigeria You Still Respect Dead Or Alive? by pmoye(m): 6:59pm On Jun 22, 2020
Lord Frederick Lugard, our mentor. grin grin grin grin

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Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 6:10pm On Jun 22, 2020
Thanks, you're kind.

Alexaonfleek:
Yes very true.
But I still think this thread is mind opening too
Especially for young ladies and young guys.

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Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 5:59pm On Jun 22, 2020
Opening the minds, hmmm. That's not likely. We can only stimulate debate and then hope to learn from the different contributions.
wink wink

Alexaonfleek:
And thank you op,for opening the minds of Nigerian ladies
Family / Re: Photo Of The Woman Who Gifted Her Husband A Coffin On Fathers' Day In Anambra by pmoye(m): 5:04pm On Jun 22, 2020
This one o gbona gan! E hot die!
Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 5:02pm On Jun 22, 2020
God bless you for your maturity.

Alexaonfleek:
cheesy grin
Na their way be that.
When they have nothing to say,they will bring in the family members that are not on NL.
Since you have decided to bring in family members,lets go on.

Most dads then,were stable at least to marry.
Most importantly,most dads then had a sense of responsibility and knew from birth that they had to provide for the mums and kids.
Even parents would never allow their daughters settle for a man who cannot provide.

So honey,as long as we have good characters,we will surely see financially stable men to marry our broke asses tongue

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Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 3:37pm On Jun 22, 2020
I think that's the most accurate expression (in bold) for the situation...Because if dem never take marriage swear for us in Africa why we too dey rush enter project (marriage) when we no fit. Typical African parents will be asking for grandchildren when you never even get job.

Klass99:


Until people decide by themselves and for themselves, to give up groupthink and herd mentality, they will continue to believe that being single is worse than the havoc Covid-19 has wrecked and continues to wreck.

Personally, I don't think it is so much about the society, it is about poor and limiting mindsets, where people believe that without marriage or kids, they cannot have or live, a full, vibrant, responsible, happy and good life.

Until people change their own limiting mindsets about certain things, they will suffer. I am not against marriage or kids, for people who sincerely desire one or both. I can't help but ask ''Dem use marriage swear for us in Africa? grin'' grin This is one of the most hilarious phrases I have seen on NL and one of my favourties too, because it resonates well with me. Dem no use am swear for me sha!

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Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 3:19pm On Jun 22, 2020
90k monthly may be okay for you as a single person, even then it depends on where you live in Nigeria. But as a married man that is meant to cater for his household it is indeed grossly insufficient. In case you haven't realized it, it is not normal to be used to suffering. I know some of you try to use religious thinking to make you guys happy in poverty, but it is not normal... Start thinking properly. It is actually possible to plan your way into a decent living condition, and no you don't need the fictitious Nollywood-kind 'helper' to bail your ass out of poverty.

If each of you spends just N1,000 a day on food (roughly N335/meal), without having children that is already N60,000 in a month. On 90k monthly it is even impossible to own your own house; if your house rent is a just 300k per year, that is 25k in a month.

Now you have just 5k left, and you haven't even accounted for transportation, or for medical care, health insurance, savings, giving parents token...etc. What of sending children to school that's very likely going to be a private school? You perhaps can get a decent school for about 30k per term (not sure)... Where will that come from? What about clothing? What about family outing from time to time? The list is certainly endless, these are just few of the apparent expenses.

Also, because you're Nigerian, the moment you get married everyone including yourself expects your wife to put to bed within a year. What happens when a baby comes on your 90k monthly salary? The baby will literally take more than what you and your wife consume daily. What of antenatal care, or you will decide to put your pregnant wife on agbo? What if her delivery is complicated and you need to contract a CS? How much do you think a CS is? In a decent hospital you may spend about 150k on that. At that rate and within just 1.5 years of marrying you are already broke and you are likely going to be for a very long time. And if your wife is to be established in her business or trade by you, how much exactly will you be able to save up on a 90k salary? Will you be able to save 100k in 5 years? I doubt that.

This is just an illustration using 90k; in reality many of the men I am targeting earn far below that. Some 30k and yet they want to marry on that. I have different examples of married men earning way below that. I know a couple, the husband earns about 15k and the wife about 18k. They have 4 children. Another couple has 6 children on similar salary... Even if you want to help people like that, where exactly will you begin? What kind of future do you think children sired in such a background will have? These things are supposed to be self-apparent, unfortunately common sense isn't always common after all.

You can go ahead and abuse me, but a decent life is not cheap. And feeding well, having health insurance coverage, and having savings are the basic minimum, it's only being used to poverty and its religious correlate called contentment that makes you believe a family can survive on 90k monthly. We shouldn't be copying poverty examples around us.

As a man simply lead a purposeful life. Do your calculations well. If you need to change jobs, or to have a side hustle please do it so you can have enough and more before you try to get married. It isn't fear on the children we bring to this world whose best skill these days is to drop their account number everywhere cyberbegging.


Acidosis:
Your write-up is useless if you can't define "rich". And since you people always claim that everything is relative, who are you to classify a 90k salary earner as poor? What if the 90k meets his needs in his environment? He's still poor and shouldn't marry because you said so or because every married man must live in Lagos or Abuja?

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Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 3:05pm On Jun 22, 2020
Well said.
There is no amount of feminism that will make me ever think that a man that is not financially (also emotionally) capable should go ahead and get married. I went ahead to reference some income grades in the original post from a very practical point of view. Many Nigerians contract marriage purely based on hope, what you would call the best case scenario. Unfortunately, worst case scenarios seem to be prevalent in our generation, and before you know it the man that sounded so self-sufficient and cocky at the beginning is reduced to nothing more than a sack of ego and anger for inability to take care of their families. These are real situations. What is worse still is the fact that such men, even when the wives are the ones bringing in the larger share of the income, keep demanding for an impossible amount of respect from the woman.

And with respect to sharing finances, as I mentioned in the original post, then such husbands must as a minimum also share respect with the wife. What historically made man the head and lord of the house was because man was literally the source of most things in his house, while women devoted themselves exclusively to take care of the man and the entire household. It baffles me that our generation appears to increasingly trivialize this enormous responsibility that is already on the woman. I could never marry a full house wife and think for a second that I was picking the larger share of responsibilities.

Like you have perfectly captured, roles of men and women at home are being culturally revised. Increasing number of men and women now believe that the woman should join in becoming breadwinner. That is literally sharing the man's burden with women. Unfortunately the historical burden of women in the home is not been as equally shared with men. This is something the society should be ready to discuss otherwise we will end up with lady folks who are extremely bitter, and justifiably so, because of the way the society treats them.

cococandy:
grin Why does the bold sound funny.

True I like men for the confidence they have in demanding what they want even when they do not deserve it. Gold diggers, leeches, broke ass etc are slangs developed for women to broke shame us. Whereas asking a man to be financially independent before settling down makes the woman a bad person for requiring that.

Women are always striving to be “perfect” and it’s never enough because of the endless and confusing list of what makes a good woman. Must not be a gold digger, must not be dependent, must also always be available when the man requires it or she’s to blame for the maid taking over her home. It’s tiring.

Personally I believe in sharing finances because it’s rare to see a man that’s a 100% provider. But only if that sharing of finances translates to sharing other aspects of what’s required in running the home. I require it.
Otherwise the woman is contributing way more than the man.


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Family / Re: Nigerian Ladies Stop Marrying Men That Are Not Already Rich by pmoye(m): 12:34pm On Jun 22, 2020
Belafonte:


She doesn’t even have to have a dime. I’m not concerned about how much she makes. There are other things that matter to me in a wife

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