Rozcol:
Yes I had to end my friendship with my once very good friend because she saw nothing wrong in dating someone who used to be so interested in me, that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him

There are so many other guys she can date and it shows the guy does not genuinely love her else he wouldn't have come for me in the first place.

I don't think it's cool for a close friend to go ahead and date someone who was once interested in her friend, its betrayal and also a sign that she doesn't know and respect boundaries and that's dangerous to me, such friends are not to be trusted. She can stab you at the back when you least expect.

Now she's telling people that I'm selfish and petty for having issues with her decision to date the so called guy. What do you think?

I hear you brah. Werey dey disguise. You're a man.

Rozcol:
Yes I had to end my friendship with my once very good friend because she saw nothing wrong in dating someone who used to be so interested in me, that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him

There are so many other guys she can date and it shows the guy does not genuinely love her else he wouldn't have come for me in the first place.

I don't think it's cool for a close friend to go ahead and date someone who was once interested in her friend, its betrayal and also a sign that she doesn't know and respect boundaries and that's dangerous to me, such friends are not to be trusted. She can stab you at the back when you least expect.

Now she's telling people that I'm selfish and petty for having issues with her decision to date the so called guy. What do you think?

McOluOmo:

Baba this kind thing happened between me and my friend last week oo' bros dey tost the girl, the babe no gree,(the babe don chop the guy money plenty oo) so he carry the babe number give me sey make i try her..

I called the girl pretending not to know my friend... So the girl asked me how i got her number but i lied to her that it was a coincidence and all that....

We started chatting on WhatsApp and i always give my guy updates on how I dey run the mata., fast forward to last week when i don lash the babe back and front...
I don't know who told him that the babe was at my place that Sunday afternoon,he came and started to para for me and talking nonsense, telling the girl that he was the one that gave me her number to test her bla bla, come dey call the girl a bitch. but the babe don already fall in love oo'
I do wrong??

qtguru:


OP said nothing about her friend bad mouthing the guy Besides I think OP is highly immature and a brat too with that mindset. Guys can recommend babes they don't find interesting to friends who might be a fit cuz we are logical and not emotional, why would I care someone is dating someone I don't find interest in. Unless OP was playing hard to get and had interest in the guy.

Rozcol:
Yes I had to end my friendship with my once very good friend because she saw nothing wrong in dating someone who used to be so interested in me, that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him

There are so many other guys she can date and it shows the guy does not genuinely love her else he wouldn't have come for me in the first place.

I don't think it's cool for a close friend to go ahead and date someone who was once interested in her friend, its betrayal and also a sign that she doesn't know and respect boundaries and that's dangerous to me, such friends are not to be trusted. She can stab you at the back when you least expect.

Now she's telling people that I'm selfish and petty for having issues with her decision to date the so called guy. What do you think?

lexy2014:


She will still reject u. U should have asked for her friend

Rozcol:
Yes I had to end my friendship with my once very good friend because she saw nothing wrong in dating someone who used to be so interested in me, that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him

There are so many other guys she can date and it shows the guy does not genuinely love her else he wouldn't have come for me in the first place.


You are not only selfish, you are stewpid too. Contrary to what you think, the world doesn't revolve around your prima Donna behind
I don't think it's cool for a close friend to go ahead and date someone who was once interested in her friend, its betrayal and also a sign that she doesn't know and respect boundaries and that's dangerous to me, such friends are not to be trusted. She can stab you at the back when you least expect.

Now she's telling people that I'm selfish and petty for having issues with her decision to date the so called guy. What do you think?

LadyRosa:


The fishes are not scarce AT ALL. I don't believe this tales from men who still wants to feel important in this biting hardship OR women who thinks being an evening newspaper is a curse when their mates are lying cold in unmarked Graves and mortuaries.

Plut01:

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At the bolded. Check her replies on the first page, you will see it there where she said the friend never talked anything good about him.

And yes, We men are not emotional like these ladies but I see a pattern here and it is hypocritical of Nairalnders to castigate her for feeling bad about it. My reason being a thread on Nairaland last month, where a guy was badly wounded for having and affair with his friend girlfriend. The point of discussion on that thread wasn't about sleeping with the lady but rather the act of betrayal (even if the case here is not up to that) between them. I do not know if I can still get the thread. That being said, many people would feel offended by that.

The OP immature? Yes, she is obviously. I'm not talking about her reaction here. I'm concern about her action turning down a man she secretly wish to have.

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Rozcol:
Yes I had to end my friendship with my once very good friend because she saw nothing wrong in dating someone who used to be so interested in me, that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him

There are so many other guys she can date and it shows the guy does not genuinely love her else he wouldn't have come for me in the first place. Why do you reject the guy at first, another girl poison is some one's delicious dinner,.

I don't think it's cool for a close friend to go ahead and date someone who was once interested in her friend, its betrayal and also a sign that she doesn't know and respect boundaries and that's dangerous to me, such friends are not to be trusted. She can stab you at the back when you least expect.

Now she's telling people that I'm selfish and petty for having issues with her decision to date the so called guy. What do you think?

solofresh:
I know where your problem lies
Firstly, you are annoyed because she talks bad about him and she behaved as if she is not interested in him just like you.So, she later started dating him without your awareness, isn't?
If that's the case then you both are hypocrites because, she started dating him without gusting you and as for you
You actually love the guy but you want him to keep chasing you don't want to appear cheap before you finally accept him.
You are pained because your tight friend have him now instead of you.
You shot yourself in the foot because those moments you are condemning the guy, she is definitely laughing at your back.
This should serve as a lesson to you.Stop pretending when you love a guy.Reduce your pride

Rozcol:
There's no game here I'm talking about the snakelike attitude and betrayal, this is someone she never said anything good about.

Munzy14:


No betrayal..you are being petty.

In the analogue times we chase women till they accept..

But now, Even the moment we are not seeing green light we move...Green light comes before approach.

The guy realized wat he was looking for in sokoto, deh for shokotor...

Your friend as well became attracted seeing the good guy in him...I wish them success and pray they move to next phase and become very successful beyond your Imaginations...

Some lessons are better served chilled, chilled like mortuary standard..

Some girls think the whole world revolve around their azuka or on top their nke iruka....Well...As usual women age like milk, men age like wine.

Gbeng30:
You better go and pray very well, it's seems your village people are still pursuing you..

Don't be selfish if you don't want him let the person who want him have him....

That stupid mentality of my friends should not date my ex or my toaster should be erase...

Rozcol:
Yes I had to end my friendship with my once very good friend because she saw nothing wrong in dating someone who used to be so interested in me, that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him

There are so many other guys she can date and it shows the guy does not genuinely love her else he wouldn't have come for me in the first place.

I don't think it's cool for a close friend to go ahead and date someone who was once interested in her friend, its betrayal and also a sign that she doesn't know and respect boundaries and that's dangerous to me, such friends are not to be trusted. She can stab you at the back when you least expect.

Now she's telling people that I'm selfish and petty for having issues with her decision to date the so called guy. What do you think?

qtguru:



Because the Friend bad-mouthed him doesn't mean the guy couldn't have changed her mindset about him,


There's nothing Hypocritical about that, I will equally cut off a friend sleeping with my GF than a chic I had no interest in in the first place. I don't see any Betrayal here, maybe If i were a lady I'd get what the OP's gripe is.

doyinisaac:
How do you people reason like this??your own case is totally different entirely...you dated the person...in her own case she did not date the guy and she said she was not interested in him...is a different case entirely..

Rozcol:
Yes I had to end my friendship with my once very good friend because she saw nothing wrong in dating someone who used to be so interested in me, that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him

There are so many other guys she can date and it shows the guy does not genuinely love her else he wouldn't have come for me in the first place.

I don't think it's cool for a close friend to go ahead and date someone who was once interested in her friend, its betrayal and also a sign that she doesn't know and respect boundaries and that's dangerous to me, such friends are not to be trusted. She can stab you at the back when you least expect.

Now she's telling people that I'm selfish and petty for having issues with her decision to date the so called guy. What do you think?

LadyRosa:



Wow! MY Bad.
Since she didn't say anything positive about him then I advice you stay away from her. But, you're not supposed to confront her, I think that's childish. Again, you should have a mind of your own in decision making as not all advice must be taken into consideration.

When a friend tells you a guy is bad, the onus is on you to do a background check to see if truly the person is bad. I have come to understand that sometimes extraordinary folks are painted black and that is the more reason I hardly go with the flow. I'm always interested in people, many people rejected because I would want to unrevel the mystery surrounding them to see what others claim they saw. In several of my findings, I understand it's just human error and envy. It's Normal to throw stones on trees with ripe fruits. And Envy and backbiting has its headquarters in Nigeria.

Don't be too close to her, but let it slide. MOST importantly Do not reveal your paroles to her.

BarrElChapo:
Boring, my very close friend once asked a girl out she just like you she was interested but then her very sweet friend was waiting in the wings to be loved. he sought my opinion and i told him to go for it but he should tell the new girl of what happened, today they are in a happy relationship.

what you should bear in mind is you might not be as important to that friend as you seem in your head. people will come and go as you have done but life will continue