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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 10:58pm On Sep 03, 2021
GardenOfGod:

He is under the control and bondage of either of the following spirits;

* Ancestral spirit of the land
* Parental/Foundational spirit
* Acquired spirit

He needs deliverance else, his future is in jeopardy.
How did you arrive at these ideas of yours? undecided
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by TheWolfen(m): 10:59pm On Sep 03, 2021
Sorry to hear
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by usagee36: 10:59pm On Sep 03, 2021
You guys run far away from him and don't let him no your location for now.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by OlufunmiWhite: 10:59pm On Sep 03, 2021
Your brother is on drugs.He needs professional help, not prayers.
Simple as ABC
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 11:00pm On Sep 03, 2021
passionguy:

He can't be handled by anyone again I swear.
We have try every best both mom and siblings, he has choose to be useless.
You can't change him. Only pray to God to deliver him and move on with your own lives....tough situations require tough decisions.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 11:00pm On Sep 03, 2021
SeriouslySense:
In this case, it was the appeal of living bad that captivated him, it took something serious such as a close encounter with death to bring him back to his senses.
And that something usually can't be forced. So the best is to let go and let life take over. undecided

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 11:03pm On Sep 03, 2021
Speakright79:

How does your brother treat animals? Is he cruel to them? If he is, then he is what is called a psychopath; there is no cure for such people. They are essentially irredeemable bad seed and must be discarded by society.
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You do dey watch too many movies abeg!
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by linearity: 11:04pm On Sep 03, 2021
passionguy:
but if he is been arrested and jailed won't it affect the family image

I think it is too late been worried that, he will damage the family name, that ship have sailed long time ago based on what you stated above that he has done plus the multiple arrests, jail and bails.

You must be mistaking prison for jail. You are considered ‘jailed’ when your case is still within the police station or before a Judge for adjudication. During this period, you could be housed in a police cell or in a prison. Anybody that has been ‘bailed’ have been jailed. So, he has gone to jail and back multiple times.

Going to Prison on the other hand is when a Judge have finished the adjudication of your case and have sentenced to serve time…so, he has not yet been imprisoned.

I support the other contributor, sometimes when you keep preventing a kid from putting their hands in a burning fire, they don’t learn….very soon, when no one is looking, they will put their hands in the fire and experience the pains and learn their lesson. You and your family are enabling him, stop bailing him, let him learn by experiencing the full consequences of his actions.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by SenecaTheYonger: 11:04pm On Sep 03, 2021
passionguy:
but if he is been arrested and jailed won't it affect the family image

Na stealing and gambling no dey affect family image naa
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by madjune(m): 11:06pm On Sep 03, 2021
There's nothing you can do.

Your brother's actions may be a fallout of some ancestral curse or it could be his destiny.

Save yourself first.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 11:07pm On Sep 03, 2021
Cornerwealth:

I feel for you bro and it's quite sad the advise some are giving here which is really bad and evil. Some people are pure psychopaths on this forum, and i feel ashamed some are telling you to even kill him, harm him, set him up or just forget about him. Shame on you if you advised him to do any of that, you are even worse than his brother.

Have you located him now? The first thing is to find him and take him somewhere far from the vicinity. I can pm you and i'll let someone talk to your Mom, someone who has been in the same shoes before and you'll be surprised how easy it will be for your brother to change his life.

Don't listen to evil people and don't be perturbed by people who say prayers don't work. I'll be here waiting to hear from you.
The man is a wanted criminal, on the run from the authorities and you want his brother to essentially harbor him, a criminal? Are you sure you are OK at all? undecided

If it turns out that this time around he is guilty of murder, are you also going to talk those who are affected out of charging him for his crime? undecided

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by moneyissweet(m): 11:09pm On Sep 03, 2021
Leave him to continue thiefing from your neighbors,Jungle justice will settle the matter Las Las

Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 11:09pm On Sep 03, 2021
madjune:
There's nothing you can do.

Your brother's actions may be a fallout of some ancestral curse or it could be his destiny.

Save yourself first.
Where you folks dey get all these ideas from abeg? undecided
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Victerica(m): 11:10pm On Sep 03, 2021
Kobojunkie:
So, you are suggesting someone sits down with this 24-yr old man and talk him out of stealing, gambling, etc? undecided

Guy, go rest abeg.

Me and you, no get talk
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by overseasnbeyond: 11:11pm On Sep 03, 2021
send him to prison
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 11:12pm On Sep 03, 2021
Victerica:

Guy, go rest abeg.Me and you, no get talk
Na the advice wey you give I ask you of. undecided
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by havigold(f): 11:13pm On Sep 03, 2021
[quote author=iamadonis22 post=105402943]


Mine will be short ....
This is a 4years battle that happen to my younger brother ....
This is really a depressing issue because it disgraces and leads to untimely death on most mothers ..
My younger brother was into selling of household items , to even his certificates as collateral , lying was his nature back then..... He was worked in big firms yet the family didn't have a dime but STORIES THAT TOUCH..
We continued paying debts upon debts ....
Even though I tend to called it "YOUTHFUL PLEASURES" ...
The truth is not far- fetch....
Is either He Gambles 90% ( physically or electronically), 80% Living above his means to entices young Ladies, likely a Cult member who has to redeem some weekly pledges in terms of cash to his superior in order to remain relevance ...
The solution is we call some highly place mentors to speak with him calmly which work for some days and he returned back, we couldn't take it any longer we invited him to some deliverance ministries ,send his name's to various geninue true pastors for prayer meetings which he avoided like a plague until he did the last one that make him so remorseful ....
We continued all sort of prayers each day ,still fed him while working ooo
Still he decided to visit a good deliverance church ,where his sins were revealed and was delivered ..
After he realized that his age group have move up in life
To God glory he will gradually easing out the vices ....
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 11:15pm On Sep 03, 2021
FORWARDEVERLY:



Lol.. your advice is good oo..

But God forbid me to love a wife, child(Ren), brother , sister , mother or father to the point that they would be misbehaving and I would be praying for them.. Never.
Me wey lazy to pray for myself .. e come be another person..
As for op.. make Dem continue dey pamper d boy.. e go end in premium tears.. once had a distant cousin that behaved in similar manner.. and was also bailed.. infact his father became DPOS Dem customer dada ni.. it ended in tears..

As e don pass their power na to pray now.

That's the problem of our parents today. From childhood, they'll pamper a child to spoil. When he's now grown and can no longer be controlled, they begin to cry foul.

That character must have started from when he was small but the " leave am na small pikin" excuse never let them allow people to caution him.

There's one like that now in my area.about the same age. This one grew up in my presence. The mother really spoilt him. As in you can't touch him, she'll come for your head.you can't even correct him.

Now, if the mother talks to him, he'll destroy everything in the house.
He doesn't do anything.
He didn't complete his secondary education. (He dropped out in js1 or 2 after changing school severally for him.)

All he does now is stroll out, stroll in, high on substance everyday.

Some parents are the cause of all these kinda things.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Victerica(m): 11:19pm On Sep 03, 2021
Kobojunkie:
Na the advice wey you give I ask you of. undecided

No worry, rest.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by vicmoore568: 11:21pm On Sep 03, 2021
Product of over pampering. undecided
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 11:21pm On Sep 03, 2021
havigold:

The solution is we call some highly place mentors to speak with him calmly which work for some days and he returned back, we couldn't take it any longer we invited him to some deliverance ministries ,send his name's to various geninue true pastors for prayer meetings which he avoided like a plague until he did the last one that make him so remorseful ....
We continued all sort of prayers each day ,still fed him while working ooo
Still he decided to visit a good deliverance church ,where his sins were revealed and was delivered ..
After he realized that his age group have move up in life
To God glory he will gradually easing out the vices ....
Imagine instead if the family had let him spend those 4 years in prison, to get himself together, while everyone else faced life and other important things, wouldn't this experience have been a less depressing and less draining for everyone affected? undecided

According to you , none of your so-called solutions panned out - as it wasn't until he realized on his own that his Mayes had moved on - that he decided to change his life for the better. If you had all instead waited patiently for that moment to come around, this without trying to force it or control it, would the 4 years have been so bad? undecided
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by manshoro: 11:21pm On Sep 03, 2021
edoman2016. You spoke well. May be you should find a way and engage him with something, at least to keep him busy and earn a living.
By this, he will change gradually. I am a gambler myself who has suffered a lot of mistrust as a result and it made me lie sometimes but I don't steal.
Mine is getting better everyday. Also, pray for God to help him change and sometimes call him to encourage by way of advice. Let him feel you are ready to help him get better. God will bring peace to your home in Jesus name. Amen
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Robisky001(m): 11:21pm On Sep 03, 2021
St. Monica and St. Augustine of hippo come to mind. There is nothing prayers can't kindly commit to God in prayers.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by SeriouslySense(m): 11:22pm On Sep 03, 2021
Sometimes the good seeds that are planted, take time to take effect, and bad things in Life may even trigger that good seed, so as often its encouraged to plant it, although not forcefully, but naturally.


Kobojunkie:
And that sometime usually can't be forced. So the best is to let go and let life take over. undecided
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by ButterBerry: 11:22pm On Sep 03, 2021
Am a professional psychotherapist.

He need psychotherapeutical intervention.
WhatsApp me on 07061733735.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by DONFASZY(m): 11:23pm On Sep 03, 2021
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.
spiritual deliverance or long term jail term will reset him useless brain
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Kobojunkie: 11:26pm On Sep 03, 2021
SeriouslySense:
Sometimes the good seeds that are planted, take time to take effect, and bad things in Life may even trigger that good seed, so as often its encouraged to plant it, although not forcefully, but naturally.
grin
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by waploger(m): 11:26pm On Sep 03, 2021
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.


Send him to another location far away from where your mum and you are staying. This helped my brother to be responsible but he still fights and gamble.
Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by tommy589(m): 11:27pm On Sep 03, 2021
passionguy:

Pls what did u think I can do now because his on watch now and on the run.

If your brother were to be my mother's son he would have changed or dead by now. Because my mum indulge no child,she would have called police even before outsiders start sending police after him.

I bet you always let his matter end in police station,and yet to stay some period in prison. He will ruin the family if you don't close your eyes and let him have is day in court.

He has turned all of you to maga

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by Nobody: 11:28pm On Sep 03, 2021
passionguy:
My brother is 24 years old. His entire life has been spent fucking up. The thing is he lies, cheats, gamble and steals. He has succeeded in selling almost everything in the house be it fridge, stab, pressing iron, electronic and manymore
Now he has extended it by going out to steal from neighbors and people.
He as been arrested so many times and been bailed. Now everyone in the family is tired of him mostly my mum she can't eat good food because of him because his becoming worse.
Pls Advice me on what to do.

Perhaps he was spoilt as a kid but at 24 he is a full grown man and needs to start getting his life in order.

This type of rebellious behavior can be tolerated in a teenager but not a man of his age.

You guys need Start making him feel some harsh consequences of his actions. If he steals, take him to the police, if he gambles, cut his allowance, if he lies or otherwise misbehaves, throw him out on the streets.

It may come across like you guys no longer love him initially but eventually he will learn his lesson and understand that it’s for his own good. If he doesn’t then he is a lost cause and you should forget him totally.

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by erubati: 11:29pm On Sep 03, 2021
Instead make una organise soldiers wey go abduct am go barracks go beat the spirit comot for im body,una dey pamper am like small pikin.
Make Dem help am reset im brain back to factory setting

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Re: My Brothers life Is Becoming Messed: Becoming a Theif. Pls I need advice by MarrisManah(m): 11:31pm On Sep 03, 2021
Funny enough I know someone like this... His own was a case of over pampering by the parents. Now he's almost mad and even chased his father publicly with Cutlass.
When I was much younger and my dad was still around, he said something to me one day that I messed up... "Its better you die or I'll kill you myself and mourn you once than mourning you over and over".
I say same to you, find a way to hand him over to SARS. If they kill him, perfect! Everyone move on, else, one day, he'll cause the death of someone in your family.
All those telling you prayer this, fasting that... When he succeeds in killing any member of your family, you ask them for more prayers.

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