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Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by micflo28(m): 10:09am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Promise him that u and ur baby will not depend on him or his salary, till when he is ready, that he should just get you pregnant. When you give birth, take care of your kid with the little you have and think of side hussle until he is ready. Don’t leave ur marriage for anything. If people tell you what they go through in their marriage, you will thank God for urs. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by ogwuche4u(m): 10:09am On Dec 30, 2021 |
HEAVEN4444: Ogbeni which hospital? What nonsense are you talking here? Be careful how you talk. Your dad did not even spend up to 1k during your birth. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Raalsalghul: 10:09am On Dec 30, 2021 |
ogwuche4u: Leave him, let him take his chances. It's better he takes his chances and fail than to bring kids into this world to continue generational poverty. If the wife is not okay with that, she should leave. Simple! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by MrBrownJay1(m): 10:10am On Dec 30, 2021 |
JuanDeDios: one thing is certain....he doesnt want kids now, and that should be the end of this dscussion. There's no evidence they discussed it before marriage - that's your ASSUMPTION. They likely didn't - and that's a common mistake.whether they did discuss it or not, this man doesnt not want children now and that should be the end of this "lets have a baby" discussion. Of course, if he wants kids and she doesn't, going their separate ways is the right thing to do. But the lady seems to think his reluctance is because of money - she said so and it seems you didn't read those parts. That's why she's trying to make him see reasons with her she "thinks" his reluctance is because of money...isnt that also an assumption?! what about asking your husband the simple question: WHY? ... and accept whatever answer he will give you?! sadly, in this day and age, staying married at all cost (to fit with the Joneses) is more imprtant to people than anything else. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Raalsalghul: 10:11am On Dec 30, 2021 |
mechanics: Never have, never will. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Lifewasgood: 10:11am On Dec 30, 2021 |
You don get belle B4 den abort am, if no. No vex but your guy might be impotent, he dey use delay tactics till you hit menopause. Those supporting him that he should get money first Una dey forget say Nigeria life expectancy nor go anywhere and you can die when your first child is 10. Which one worse be alive and support your kids with the little you have or be dead when you children are still kids. The money he dey find he still fit nor get am.... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by ogwuche4u(m): 10:12am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Raalsalghul:Can you just listened to yourself. This is the height of wickedness. At 29 he married her and she has given 3 good years of her life to him. At 29, she had other suitors coming her way. If the man knew childbirth was not in his agenda, why marry the lady or better still, why didn't he discussed it with the lady? Let's not reason like this please. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by AmazonTopaz(f): 10:12am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Romanoff:Women who have kids late sometimes are lucky enough to have multiple pregnancies and I agree with you but that said you should also highlight that men's sperm begins to decrease once they enter 40. This hasn't been focused on much in this part of the world but it is true,some of them even find it difficult to impregnate women and use sex enhancing drugs too,their sperm quality reduces and the number of sperm they produce reduces with age. So even the husband is at risk, men also experience fertility decline too and the husband should be made aware of this he shouldn't think it would be easy for him as we are highlighting that of women we should highlight that of men. And besides I will reiterate again I would not advice anybody interested in having children to have them late this includes men and women because the 60's and above should be for enjoyment not responsibilities of paying fees and raising children NO NO NO 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Kutunban: 10:14am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Thank you for your concern and advise, next year hopefully we intend to bring in the last child in our personal house. Those baby food (Nan, Aptamil, Friso, SMA) and cloths can be overwhelming. AmazonTopaz: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by HEAVEN4444: 10:15am On Dec 30, 2021 |
people need to understand, children are not blessings. they are curses. another demonic entity from past life reincarnated through you for you to take care of till their real soul emerges ( in the teen age years ) and then the real entity from past life is manifested before your face. could be a killer ( seen many cases where the children kill the parents ) , you dont know what demonic spirit the LORD put into your womb. the entity stays in the womb for 9 months, comes out and is needy and cries all the time and is demanding, then gets to teenage years and is moody and then goes into the world to manifest its soul purpose after which trying to even contact you the parent is like hard work for them. like will this old man or woman just die already, i cant be dealing with old parents lol. i mean are people still romanticising having children in 2021 ? this whole matrix was unravelled during the covid thing and proved to be nothing but a matrix. all your programmed desires are just that, programmed desires. you better unprogram yourself from the matrix and start desiring things of higher value now you may be highly favoured of the LORD and he allows a good soul to come through you, but for the most part, most of these souls out here are curses if they come through you
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Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by ogwuche4u(m): 10:15am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Jbiz2008: I have seen family build their own house on salary of 80k. Life is all about planing. This is not an excuse please. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by phill63(m): 10:16am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Was he forced to get married, if he knew he was not ready to father a kid why get married and ruin someone else's life? Y'all be saying bull sh**t I don't trust your husband, he might be diabolic, there is a motive to his decision. Just like someone said up there, children are blessing and who knows if that's where your blessings is hanged on. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Aarenasbaba(m): 10:16am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Raalsalghul:35 years old man |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Weyrehmod: 10:17am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Although i no get clothes and foodstuff for this festive period that is not my major concern I need cash to repair this laptop that someone dash me(battery and keyboard needs to be changed) so i can join the virtual web development training that will commence by January I really wish I'll see help so i can aquire this web development skill.. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by ogwuche4u(m): 10:17am On Dec 30, 2021 |
HEAVEN4444: I guess you are a curse to your family. Just imagine this nonsense here. Where are you having this thoughts from? I see you a SADISTIC human being 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by jornwhite: 10:18am On Dec 30, 2021 |
duduade: Is life suppose to be a single lane or you just prefer one way ... how does having kids stop her endeavours to improve herself careerwise, if watching your seeds grow n giving you sense of responsibility is not a better life then what your definition? eating chicken? wearing gucci? driving rolls royce? winning all career awards ? when you have all that without a family have you for a minute imagine what your next of kin will do with all you gathered. How about there is time for everything, sometimes we should be considerate, OP reasoning is very normal, naa man need do normal |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Raalsalghul: 10:18am On Dec 30, 2021 |
ogwuche4u: What do you mean by "she gave three years of her life to him"? Relationships/Marriages are just like any business venture. You can give it your all and the shit doesn't bring the expected result. So doesn't it make sense to check out? If she is tired, she should leave and leave the young man to forge his path. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by AmazonTopaz(f): 10:18am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kutunban:I understand,and the both of you were smart enough to have one,that is what I will advice the OP to do for now until things get better but she shouldn't wait and have nothing. Hopefully things get better for you and your wife and what you are planning on doing and working on will materialise. I pray it gets better for your family and your children are blessings to you and your wife.Amen All the best. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by jayice(m): 10:18am On Dec 30, 2021 |
The same man will definitely leave u to av offsprings when menopause hits and u can't bear children or technology fails...if u are on pills go off it,if u are off sex,start getting it,try n get pregnant and keep it no matter d pressure,birth atleast a child and you guys can wait till you are ready...make we no hear stories that touch later...u both are capable of raising a kid |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by dotedote: 10:19am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Your comment lacks bias from the beginning but you start to tilt towards the lady's defence. "Like he wants to wait, he should have found a woman willing to wait with him" what about telling the lady to have found a partner who needed a kid immediately. They both ought to have really communicated this crucial subject before coming together as one. cococandy: |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by HEAVEN4444: 10:20am On Dec 30, 2021 |
ogwuche4u:its reality. the matrix is unravelling. children are not blessings. they are curses and punishment. you shall toil the earth in sweat and pain and tears to feed this entity that i put in your charge |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Nobody: 10:21am On Dec 30, 2021 |
cococandy:U see this girls, when u are dating them, anything u say to them they will agree immediately u mention marriage. The man might have convened the message to her during courtship, but because she was eager to wear wedding gown, she will not think it deep. Anything u agree with a woman please document it and have her sign it. Their brain nor dey accommodate things |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by HEAVEN4444: 10:21am On Dec 30, 2021 |
ogwuche4u:maybe hospitals in the villages are cheaper lol. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by mastermaestro(m): 10:21am On Dec 30, 2021 |
duduade: You are typing without sense. The selfish, perhaps impotent guy should have stayed unmarried instead of dragging an innocent woman along in his deceptive scheme. 2 Likes
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Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Nobody: 10:21am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Now that's what I'm talking about Your husband is a strong Red piller, that's a man who understands reality and isn't move by your so called emotions. Red pillers are highly successful men, so your husband is aiming right towards in that direction of success. If you're looking for a man to control and manipulate, you could have just married a simp naah Abeg let your husband be, He'll produce kids when he is ready! Respect to your husband, he's a strong alpha male and a red piller 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by ogwuche4u(m): 10:22am On Dec 30, 2021 |
HEAVEN4444: Hahahahaha... not maybe. They are cheaper. |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by OvertheTop(m): 10:22am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130: For Me, This Man Shouldn't have gotten Married Yet. 100k is Damn too Small for Child bath and Raising....without Acute Struggle and Suffering. childbirth by CS..... is About 250k if Not More. Then You will start thinking of Daily Things for Up keep. and then House Rent, Transport etc are still there... let me stop there.... The Best he can do Right Now is to Upskill to like 200k/month.....it might take 2 Years to Achieve.... But I hope You(Wife) will be Able to Wait it Out.... Your Husband's Priority is to Upskill. But Your Priority is to Give Birth Sharp Sharp....(it not your Fault o) Since you guys are already Married Try to Bear with him during this Upskill period so you all can Enjoy Later. Family without Money is Frustration o..... if He doesn't Upskill before Bearing Children...…Na Suffer for Everyone be That o In fact 2 of You should Upskill to Make the Wait Shorter! that the best way to Go... THAT ASIDE: for MEN: it almost suicidal to go into Marriage without Good monthly, steady income (like 200k) and it still not a guarantee for a Happy Marriage This is the REASON women go for man that are Ready to Start Bearing Children. I don't Blame them for this.....This is the Right way to Go |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by dettolgel: 10:23am On Dec 30, 2021 |
amnesty7: Like the blessed cultism running our streets or the blessed children that have turned yahoo plus or the blessed children smuggling drugs or harvesting heads for money rituals, which of the blessings are you referring to? 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Nobody: 10:23am On Dec 30, 2021 |
Kolawole2130: Now that's what I'm talking about Your husband is a strong Red piller, that's a man who understands reality and isn't move by your so called emotions. Red pillers are highly successful men, so your husband is aiming right towards in that direction of success. If you're looking for a man to control and manipulate, you could have just married a simp nah Abeg let your husband be, He'll produce kids when he is ready! Respect to your husband, he's a strong alpha male and a red piller 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by Daughterboard(m): 10:24am On Dec 30, 2021 |
@OP your husband is focus because he has something to hide with his focus |
Re: My Husband Is Frustrating Me. by RedEnergy: 10:26am On Dec 30, 2021 |
No need for all this story. When next you're having sex, tell him you want it raw. And then make sure you do missionary style with him. When you see that he is about to ejaculate, just pin him down with your legs like scissors, till he releases inside you. Raise your legs up, let his sperm go deep inside. Problem solved. Refuse to do abortion or take post pills. Congratulations on your coming baby 1 Like |
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