Aswear you be man...

BluntNigerian:
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Klass99:


Mercychen

True now.

She see who give her Sha.

Mercychen:


With food stuff the man already provided in house?

How much snacks can the children possibly eat in a week? Abi na pitzer she dey buy everyday? Then it doesn't make sense because she should know her husband's financial capability before living on such high standards.

If na buscuits and normal children drinks, highest she can't spend up to 5k a if she buys it in bulk and makes sure they only take one a day to school. Food is there so they can't be snacking all the time.

It's easier to lavish money when you're not the one bringing it. If she's the one bringing it, she'll learn how to manage and teach her children to be content with whatever she gives them.

He said the money is for food and her upkeep

Cardealer2021:

He said the money is for food and her upkeep

The money is for condiments to cook food not food because the man said he buys bag of rice and other food stuff.

But the OP said the wife works... Can't she collect from her own salary and add to balance the equation? My Bible tells me, one shall chase a thousand,two sha chase ten thousands. Abeg the man de try. Let her manage or better still add from her salary.

Mercychen:


The money is for condiments to cook food not food because the man said he buys bag of rice and other food stuff.

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4everyoungpresh:
But the OP said the wife works... Can't she collect from her own salary and add to balance the equation? My Bible tells me, one shall chase a thousand,two sha chase ten thousands. Abeg the man de try. Let her manage or better still add from her salary.

Don't mind her. I just clearly avoided that part ( that she works) because I don't want it to look as if truly 50k is not enough by saying she should add hers. Its enough and if she feels it's not, then hers can be used to augment it.

The thing tire me oh I go give you transportation,month end I go give you upkeep join, you no go gimme from your own salary ??te author=degamonn Ppp=111236175]The other parts are not really my concern here neither do have advice in that respect.
My concern is somebody who is working and she requires 1k every day as transportation cost of which proceeds are not used to the benefit of your immediate family is what baffles me.
You do that for love right? clap for yourself [/quote]

Mercychen:


The money is for condiments to cook food not food because the man said he buys bag of rice and other food stuff.

Okay maybe I didn't read well

BluntNigerian:
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Stop sending her money. Instead of sending her money make all the purchases that is needed for the house and please keep the receipts. Let her use her own money to address her own needs. An ungrateful wife deserves nothing but chastisement.

Cardealer2021:
The truth is that with Nigeria current economy 50k(less than a $100) can't sustain a family of four, make the husband reason am
*She will buy food stuff
*Transport
*Snacks for the kids and miscellaneous on her own side.
Let the man make it like 70k at least.

Even me single guy with no responsibility spend more than that a week sometimes not to talk of family of 4

People like you are the irresponsible husband, 75% sure if we investigate this. #1 he will not drop.Full of mouth.

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Everyday complaints, we no dey there when una marry o. Leave us the fxck alone.

A woman that can't manage limited resources in hard times is completely useless to man. She is a disaster waiting to happen. She is an enemy of state/home.

A nagging leech. Divorce the irritant already.

Me I will tell her to return to her father's house and give me space. Let her go and learn home management skills b4 coming back.

U must cut ur coat according to ur material.

You’re a simp. SIMple

Cardealer2021:
The truth is that with Nigeria current economy 50k(less than a $100) can't sustain a family of four, make the husband reason am
*She will buy food stuff
*Transport
*Snacks for the kids and miscellaneous on her own side.
Let the man make it like 70k at least.

Even me single guy with no responsibility spend more than that a week sometimes not to talk of family of 4

Reason wetin. You for sey make d man go kill himself na. Did you read the post? The man foots all other bills and buy food for the home outside the 50k. That woman is an ingrate and if she is not careful a side chick that has not seen 30k per month will snatch her man easily. She had better snap out of that childish mentality and start being a wife. Wives support their husbands and not constitute a threat to his wellbeing. She is lucky!

BluntNigerian:
Inost African families, the men usually tend to bear the whole burden without communicating with the wife, until he is just about to break down.
Then he would start seeking for help outside the family, even without letting the wife know.

most Nigerian women don't like spending their money.

BluntNigerian:
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Be grateful to God that you discover what will kill you early. Your peace of mind is trampled upon, ur finances is getting crushed. When u go broke finally , she will leave u eventually. Why not save ur self headache. Be intentional about ur health and well being, stop giving her money. Divide the responsibility of the house, let her know her share, stop giving her tfare, let her be responsible too. You wont know how heavy the burden is untill u start paying school fees.

If she wont take any responsi ility. Tell her to leave or tell her to go on break at her fathers house so u can gain ur sanity back....

Take heed before you BE-GONE

My former boss once told me never to carry a woman who doesn't earn her own money into the house. Even if you give her a billion per month, such lady will never appreciate the value of that amount as she doesn't work for money.

Let the man get another job for his wife on the Island, let her be doing 4 hours traffic movement to and from work every day. At the end of the month, she gets paid like 70k.
If she does that job for 2 months, when next you give her 30k, she will be looking at you like Obi Cubana.

She married you only because she wants a man she can depend on 100%. She go still dey borrow her ex boyfriend 10k weekly. You better divorce her before she ruins you. Ibo men too dey love I swear.

Cardealer2021:
The truth is that with Nigeria current economy 50k(less than a $100) can't sustain a family of four, make the husband reason am
*She will buy food stuff
*Transport
*Snacks for the kids and miscellaneous on her own side.
Let the man make it like 70k at least.

Even me single guy with no responsibility spend more than that a week sometimes not to talk of family of 4

What if 50k is all he could afford for now? Yes you could be spending more than 50k a week now, does that mean you start committing crime if you can only afford 15k a week? You live according to what you have, you prioritize what is most important and find cheap alternatives to your needs.

Mercychen:
Start handling the upkeep yourself. Don't give her a dime again.

Maybe she has friends she's trying to compete with or brag to about how much her mumu gives her for upkeep.

Maybe she's also saving part of it.

If truly the money is only for upkeep, then shes not prudent. Stop giving her altogether.

She might be saving.

... and she works too with a good salary; and she doesn't contribute kobo to family expenses.

It is just I and my sister living together, she has to go to market once every month and she spends an average of 40k/month.

Along the line foodstuff may finish, she may not buy everything we need, so, I supplement by buying every other food or grocery item. Total, the both of us could spend about 70k in a month on feeding.

Your wife has a job and she cannot add to the 50k? Rather she still collects 1k transport. So, what does she use her salary for? To feed the rest of her family that is not living with you guys?

Una dey really marry characters sha, I'm always amazed.

Goldbw122:
Well before you marry her, I know that you it was manageable because the country was easy before but now the country is a more complex situation now, we are at war in a silent way, 50k will not be enough to take care of family a month trust me, she is not doing any job, so how will she cope.. and everything rely on you.. so there is a problem, so you need to fix the problem by telling her to start a job or do something like a trade.. and make something good..

Pls read the write up again before proferring solutions

BluntNigerian:
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He doesn't need advice. As he made his bed let him sleep on it.

It's obvious he spoilt his wife. He saw the entitlement mentality but never delt with it.

MrMcJay:
My former boss once told me never to carry a woman who doesn't earn her own money into the house. Even if you give her a billion per month, such lady will never appreciate the value of that amount as she doesn't work for money.

Let the man get a job for his wife, let her be doing 4 hours traffic movement to and from work every day. At the end of the month, she gets paid like 70k.
If she does that job for 2 months, when next you give her 30k, she will be looking at you like Obi Cubana.

You no read the story complete

The wife has a job, she's just greedy

MrMcJay:
My former boss once told me never to carry a woman who doesn't earn her own money into the house. Even if you give her a billion per month, such lady will never appreciate the value of that amount as she doesn't work for money.

Let the man get a job for his wife, let her be doing 4 hours traffic movement to and from work every day. At the end of the month, she gets paid like 70k.
If she does that job for 2 months, when next you give her 30k, she will be looking at you like Obi Cubana.

You nairalanders only read headlines and rush to contribute.

The wife works and has a good job.

Goldbw122:
Well before you marry her, I know that you it was manageable because the country was easy before but now the country is a more complex situation now, we are at war in a silent way, 50k will not be enough to take care of family a month trust me, she is not doing any job, so how will she cope.. and everything rely on you.. so there is a problem, so you need to fix the problem by telling her to start a job or do something like a trade.. and make something good..

You didn't read the write up

You have done your best Man! Well done. For the fact that she work leaves so much to worry about.

Call a Family meeting. Invite two persons from your end and two from hers. Case closed- the will see the end of the problem.





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I don’t know how people go into relationships with a burden instead of a co-burden bear

Cardealer2021:
The truth is that with Nigeria current economy 50k(less than a $100) can't sustain a family of four, make the husband reason am
*She will buy food stuff
*Transport
*Snacks for the kids and miscellaneous on her own side.
Let the man make it like 70k at least.

Even me single guy with no responsibility spend more than that a week sometimes not to talk of family of 4

u ll understand life when u get married. This topic is obviously not meant for u