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I Just Need A Family by udede(m): 4:41am On Aug 12, 2022 |
YES i have been married for about 10 years and my wife is in his early 30s. She doesn't want kids but I want them,and we have non. She refuses every medical test and diagnosis with flimsy excuses. I need a second wife as soon as possible, some one that love kids and want to have them, I'm a Christian and an Igbo from Anambra but my denomination dosent oppose polygamy (polygny) 90 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Nobody: 5:01am On Aug 12, 2022 |
Was there an agreement with your wife not to have kids before marriage? I think there’s more to this, your wife is hiding a very important issue about her from you. 305 Likes 20 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Sirqt5(m): 5:09am On Aug 12, 2022 |
Divorce her , then marry another woman 144 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by PlayMaker14: 5:16am On Aug 12, 2022 |
For over 10yrs? Kindly divorce her and get a brand new wife... Don't listen to any “Sit her down and discuss” bullshit. 436 Likes 29 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Zonefree(m): 5:59am On Aug 12, 2022 |
You don't need a second wife yet. You need to divorce that Jezebel first and get yourself another beautiful damsel to console your heart for a decade of living with the devil. 236 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Unzerious: 6:00am On Aug 12, 2022 |
10 Years!! Abandon ship ASAP! Divorce her first, you'll only be bringing Unlimited harm to your new Wife and Unborn Kids If you dont. 98 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by udede(m): 6:17am On Aug 12, 2022 |
Rosrozz:there was no agreement with her not to have kids, i also noticed that she is hiding things from me especially reasons why she couldn't have kids. 120 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by udede(m): 6:24am On Aug 12, 2022 |
Unzerious:in the christian religious denomination i belong, polygamy (polygny) is normal and we know how to practice it peacefuly, she can't harm anyone because everyone has their own spaces. As for divorce, she simply refused to go (actually I'm a husband material with good looks , without being a simp,) in our church you can't divorce any woman without an evidence of adultry or witchcraft. More over she is very harmless and likable, i even have her permission to marry a second wife 46 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Richy4(m): 6:28am On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede:Sorry to ask.. but what were u people discussing during courtship...I believe there are times that u said I will like you to be the mother of my kids.. what do you think we should call our first kids etc.. what was her reactions?..I believe both of you were not on the same page before you tie the knot.. 44 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by udede(m): 6:29am On Aug 12, 2022 |
Zonefree:our church don't grant divorce unless you have evidence of adultry. The church granted me permission to marry a second wife, and she is very ok with it 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by udede(m): 6:30am On Aug 12, 2022 |
Unzerious:devorce with out evidence of adultry or witcraft is impossible in my church |
Re: I Just Need A Family by udede(m): 6:37am On Aug 12, 2022 |
Richy4:thanks for this angle you are coming from. She was a student when I married her and when i raise the issue of having children, her excuss then was that dhe can't combine schooling with having kids, we did not have long courtship actually and i think it contributed to all these, she was able to hide her disdem for kids, and it never crossed my mind that a lady could marry without wanting kids 35 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Zonefree(m): 6:42am On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede:Divorce your Church too. 259 Likes 19 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Zonefree(m): 6:45am On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede:She got no womb as a result of excess abortion while in school. She deceived you. Isn't that enough reason to divorce her? 149 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by BirtherOfKings(f): 6:57am On Aug 12, 2022 |
U don't need a second wife but God's help I. Turning the heart of your wife to say the truth so u both can find a solution together..that's what makes a man great and not going against God's will...I can even adopt in the meantime 9 Likes 5 Shares
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Re: I Just Need A Family by Richy4(m): 6:59am On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede: @ red highlights, It never crossed my mind too until I was exposed to the reality of life... I never even knew that a man might decide not to get married in this world except the Reverend fathers but yeah..it happens... Maybe an open and honest conversation could be the solutions this time around... Put all cards on the table while discussing...At least she should meet you half way.. is she opened to surrogacy,.. is she gonna be ok for you to have a baby Mama, or is she opened for a second wife options... Both of you loved each other... she doesn't want kids, u want kids.. so there should be compromise... meeting each other half way is the deal... 50:50 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by udede(m): 7:56am On Aug 12, 2022 |
Richy4:if you read my responses you will notice that i have had a heart tp heart talk with her many times , that was when she permitted me to marry a second wife 5 Likes |
Re: I Just Need A Family by frozen70(f): 8:06am On Aug 12, 2022 |
frozen70: udede: You seems to be alone in this Why not involve your family and both families will meet and end this marriage, just tell them that you are no longer interested in the marriage and don't listen to any begging from any one to give another chance, return the bride price and then file for a divorce if necessary But am very sure that she is not in good terms with your family You may remain like this forever if you don't take the above step and advice But If you are a very weak man, then that's another bigger problem 20 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Richy4(m): 8:07am On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede:Oh!!! I did not read that.. Then why did you open this thread since she has granted you the permission buddy?.. you should be at the dating market by now selecting your desired spec.. But...Even though this is happening, don't ever forget to treat her right as you embark on this 'second missionary journey '... Please make sure that the co-wife accords her the respect due to her.. wishing you and your family the best bro.. 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Nobody: 8:11am On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede:Find out the reasons behind her unreasonable decision, don’t ruin your life by someone’s reckless past 18 Likes |
Re: I Just Need A Family by ibechris(m): 10:16am On Aug 12, 2022 |
That woman has a terrible secrets that only her can demystify. I will advice u to see a doctor secretly and invite her for a visit for u to find out before concluding marrying another woman. I kind of agree that your wife has no womb. 44 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Chidi2022: 10:50am On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede:Why are you suffering your self? Your church doesn't forbid you from cheating or having second wife but it forbids you from sending that wicked wife of yours away? Who do you think you are deceiving? Yourself, The church or God? Salvation is a personal race.. Upholding the laws of the church at your own detriment will not guarantee you heaven... Until your old age , then you will know that the fire and pains in a polygamy home is hotter than this one you are facing now.... HD it been your wife has a known medical condition or she is barren, it will be understandable, Adoption or ivf can be tried.....but she refused sex, refused medical help and anything at all to help her home.... Na you wear the shoe.. maybe she is the bread winner, make i no come pour sand for your bread. 24 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by ireneidiva(f): 12:26pm On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede: What denomination in Christianity supports polygamy? 27 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Chidi2022: 12:50pm On Aug 12, 2022 |
ireneidiva:God bless you real Good... Church said you can't divorce but church agrees for you to marry a second wife.. Who is fooling who? The same church that your wife can't confess what her problem is to? Maybe the church should kuku come and help OP to divide his wife's legs like the red sea so he will dive in.... 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Unzerious: 5:25pm On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede: Ok! Happy Poly-Married Life |
Re: I Just Need A Family by TheCongo2: 6:37pm On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede: Evidence of witchcraft Are you serious? How can one even obtain such evidence except from assumption or presumption 14 Likes |
Re: I Just Need A Family by StPete: 6:56pm On Aug 12, 2022 |
udede: You’re just hungry to be fucking two women or possibly have every reason to have legitimate three.some without consequences. I pity any woman who takes up this useless offer 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by anthonyuncle(m): 6:04am On Aug 13, 2022 |
wow! did you wed your wife the day you met her? what were you guys discussing during dating and courtship? why didn't you go for medical checks before marriage? and wakanda church desist from counseling your wife to be sincere about her past & health, forbids divorce, adultery and yet supports polygamy. NB: there's nothing like peaceful polygamy in our society. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Just Need A Family by Spherica177: 7:18am On Aug 13, 2022 |
udede:Which denomination? Please i beg to differ. No church will do such thing. You can go ahead with your second wife plan but i disagree at the bolded 3 Likes |
Re: I Just Need A Family by udede(m): 8:01am On Aug 13, 2022 |
StPete:you are the only useless thing here who must comments on a post you knows nothing about 5 Likes |
Re: I Just Need A Family by udede(m): 8:02am On Aug 13, 2022 |
Spherica177:i belong to a messianic Jewish assembly and polygyny is allowed 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Need A Family by udede(m): 8:04am On Aug 13, 2022 |
anthonyuncle:hmmmm people should comment on what they know 4 Likes 2 Shares |
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