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Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by iyke2frankeze: 10:16am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Only one thing here is false. People who married working class girls don't end up better than others. We are three friends who got married the same year. I was the only one among the three to marry a first year student. I have overtaken them since my wife finished school and opened a family business. She has now been employed by Enugu state government for 3 years now. I am not poor. I am blowing hot financially with 3 kids now. Don't go for already made woman, go for a personality that will complement your own personality. It will be good if she has qualities that you lack and vice versa. Don't fall for a woman's money. |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Moneyboyz: 10:16am On Mar 11, 2023 |
I married at 23 with almost nothing. Today we have built an empire together, we have a home of our own and 2 beautiful kids. Make sure you don't marry a materialistic person. |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Regex: 10:17am On Mar 11, 2023 |
udede: What is your gain having kids that looks like siblings? I mean so one should sacrifice dreams to bring kids that knows nothing into this world? Oh please. 3 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Nasige(m): 10:18am On Mar 11, 2023 |
It is good to conceive the idea of getting married at early age, for you to have the maturity to know that you needs a wife by your side as a young man is a big wisdom. The big problem here is finding a a God fearing girl. Marriage is far more than thinking that you have enough to take care of the marriage. Pray for a Good girl and leave the rest to God. 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Goodconcept78: 10:18am On Mar 11, 2023 |
If you have a stable source of Income you are good to go. This days it is very good to marry early. |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Gerrard59(m): 10:18am On Mar 11, 2023 |
I can't believe that Nigerians are discouraging a young man from getting married. |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by flyinnizam(m): 10:19am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Hatrick01:24years old? Probably a yahoo boy 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Gerrard59(m): 10:20am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Regex: I saw the comment and wanted to quote it, but realised that the concept of marriage differs among people. The average Nigerian equates marriage to childbearing, let alone marriage. How many married couples are intentionally child-free in Nigeria? Very few. So, I understand his point. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by lanre316: 10:20am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Hatrick01: Marrying wife is responsibility. Are you ready? Ask yourself if you just need to f44k or you are ready for marriage. If you only need a girl to f44k, just go and f44k and leave marriage for now. Get a girlfriend or at the barest minimum get an ash4wo, if you don't like girlfriend wahala. I wish you well. 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Gratefulheart2(f): 10:21am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Daddyfreeze is that you? 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by mukthar2000(m): 10:21am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Since u have what it takes, guy get urself marry , It make u feel happy when seeing ur kids growing up with u guy. |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by lexy2014: 10:22am On Mar 11, 2023 |
thebosstrevor1: Are you saying you made useless claims? |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Ogatobe: 10:22am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Hatrick01: My brother, I wish I was financially stable when I was your age, I would have married at 24 or even less. By the time you get to my current age, your first child should be close to 15yrs. As long as you can take up the responsibility. DO NOT LET ANYBODY DISCOURAGE YOU. That age is the perfect age to get married as a man. It pays to marry early. Life is too short to be wayward. Find a good girl from a responsible family and wife her biko. No time! |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Alex80s(m): 10:23am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Marriage is like early in the morning pee , when it comes, you can't hold it. Women are generally stubborn, even if you study them for 100 years, they "must " give you headache. If you marry the one u think is suitable for you, she could change. If you have made up your mind, and you have steady source of income, go and marry. Wisdom and maturity are not measured by age, it is by thinking,experience, lineage etc. Marriage is a responsibility which is waiting for Men. The earlier you take up the task the better for u. I married at the age of 35. I feel bad every moment I calculate how old my children esp my son would be when I turn 60... 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by rumenase(m): 10:23am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Invest your money, grow your empire, comot marriage for your head just date for now to gain necessary experience about women. 2 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by treatise: 10:24am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:This is apt and succinctly expressed. I'd add you should check if the lady has "entitlement" mentality ; she should be self-driven. Good luck! |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by alizma: 10:25am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Hatrick01:Proud of you for your decision but you have to reconsider something, let your desire for marriage be more of a search for a companion than a search for someone who is coming to help you do this or that. Plan for sales girl/boy to help you run your business than focus on your wife to help run the business. Starting a family early is good when you have what it takes and I wish you success 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by incogni2o: 10:25am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Hatrick01: Wanting to get married shows you have some sense of responsibility. I had same dreams while I was 24, and it was out of a sincere intent. But I didn't marry until 28. I'll advice you to Pray as someone earlier adviced. There are some things you may have learnt or known in life that even a 44 old man hasn't learnt. As the saying goes, age is just a number. That's why one on my prayers is that God should bless me with children wiser than thier years. Pursue this goal whilst committing it into God's hands. Chances are if its God's will for you, it'll work out with the Woman you choose, if not, it'll take some time . Funny thing is that even if you begin arrangements now, you may eventually marry 2 or 3 years later. Again Prayer is key. Let God direct your path. 3 Likes |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Teeroyzimma: 10:26am On Mar 11, 2023 |
STENON:you don start with discrimination |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by BigDawsNet: 10:27am On Mar 11, 2023 |
TOPCRUISE: Why will POS take 30,000 ? Is POS some kind of tax shiit? |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by stevups(m): 10:27am On Mar 11, 2023 |
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Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Albertone(m): 10:28am On Mar 11, 2023 |
udede: It has it's downsides too. They will all go and settle down leaving you and your wife alone. By 50, you'll already start to feel lonely like a 75 years old man. You'll be the one doing everything yourself as there'll be no child to send to do it. And there's nothing special in your kids being like your siblings. That's not enough reason to decide to marry early. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by lexy2014: 10:29am On Mar 11, 2023 |
stevups: Is that ur personal experience? |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by sharone21(f): 10:30am On Mar 11, 2023 |
I'm not trying to be tribal BUT some tribes in Naija only like to sleep with woman or marry woman which may be at the expense of a good future. U are still young, find something that will drive your passionto succeed... Even if u are a graduate, there are still a lot u can achieve before marrying( which could automatically mean birthing from first year of marriage which u may not be fully prepared for) Unless you are a woman who is checking her biological clock and even 24 years is not the age to check that... Why are u rushing? 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by jeromestarks: 10:31am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Hatrick01:Shut up for a minute. How old is the woman you wished to marry? Hope she's a virgin? Else you will spend plenty of your remain years in regret. So you don't have any other ambition in your life except marriage? I think you want to marry because your stupid malo friends are married and you want to feel like a man. |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by gfelo(m): 10:31am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Bros go ahead most of the lesson u need u can only learnt it in marriage. |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by abbasajao(m): 10:32am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Young man, you are about take a very decisive decision of your life. I will not lie to you brother, you are making the right decision trust me. A lot of people have regretted not starting family at early stage as you are planning to do as they wasted so many resources and sin against God in the name of exhibiting adulthood. Pls do not listen to all the negative advices up there. My only advice to you is to look for a good girl with good family background and pray seriously about it. I wish you well. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Albertone(m): 10:32am On Mar 11, 2023 |
Padipadi: She's been living in the US for many years. She has the mentality of an average American. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by Juanmike(m): 10:35am On Mar 11, 2023 |
lexy2014:Leave women for now. There's more to marriage than... Acquire wealth, buy Landed properties build houses. Then marry. I don't know how much you think you have. 1 Like |
Re: Advise Needed Pls, I Am Planning To Start A Family by ArewaTech1(m): 10:35am On Mar 11, 2023 |
I don't understand why so many people here are against marriage, maybe it's a cultural thing. Maybe the girls in the south are waaaayyyy different than our girls here. If you can marry a Fulani or a Hausa girl, I am very sure you'll get a submissive educated traditional woman that obeys you. DM me. I'm hoping to get married in Dec23, with 200k monthly income. |
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